Robbie wants a relationship but always drops the ball. We  have it from the horse’s mouth, sometimes it really is them!!! Them being scared, passive, socially awkward, or simply not knowing how or if to keep things going. So throw a bone,  hand them back the ball, and assume the best. Everyone gets one more chance. Well, most people, if they’re as nice as Robbie. Listen up!

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"Layla" has always been the backup girl: the one who gets the guy ready for his future gf but is never the gf. We talk about why and how we do this, what love is and what it isn’t, and how, to not fall back into old patterns and sabotage yourself. Fun fact: the guy “Layla” is currently seeing is not her physical type in some very key ways, but that shouldn't matter, right? Let's talk about it.

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Creative coach Brian Patacca (@briansaysthat) is extremely hot AND extremely smart and funny and full of good advice. We talked about recovery from ghosting, having fun for REAL on dates, masculine and feminine energies, and how long to wait before giving up the “kitty” (which doesn’t mean what you think it does). Brian is an amazing golden god of human positivity. Listen up!

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Our anonymous guest got involved with someone at work and from there it got messy. Not so much due to circumstances but because of his not great behavior and her not great putting up with it. We’ve all been there. And the first steps to recovery are forgiving yourself, accepting your lessons as a rite of passage, and doing your best to go cold turkey. On top of that, get angry! Anger is active and can be very useful to the healing process. Know you're amazing; now you have to find someone who knows that as well as you do. Listen up. 

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We talked to a personal trainer about fitness and dating! Turns out working out and making out are very closely related, and not for the reason you think. Get tips on how to build your confidence when dating, make it a regular lifestyle choice, and motivate to get off the couch and do it. Also, diversify your interests and meet someone who brings something new and different to the table rather than the same old same old. Get up, get out there, and get smooching (and squatting if you're into that). Listen up! 

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Writer and storyteller Sian Mason is newly sober and navigating dating without substances. We dig into how to enjoy it, how to make out without it just being a bunch of saliva, and how to accept when someone nice likes you for you, which can be the hardest task of all. Don’t hide your “flaws”, celebrate them and share them from day one and you’ll be doing your date a giant favor. Someone has to take the leap into showing their true human colors. Might as well be you. Listen up!

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We talk with financial coach Dylan Snowden about money and dating, money and love, money and relationships, money and money. It’s not always an easy conversation but it’s as necessary as talking about sex, whether you’re working on being in a couple or simply working on yourself. There’s no denying the importance of money in the love/relationship world, and you don’t have to be rich to comfortable talking about it. Dylan helps us get started. Bonus: Online dating tips to help you stop being judged (or stop judging) on the basis of money! Listen up.

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Jaimie needs to do it a little bit wrong. Pretend you forgot what’s “right” or “wrong” to do in dating (including how to ask someone out, what "appropriate" age differences are, etc.). Say what you’re thinking, ask someone out at Starbucks who is totally unsuspecting, and date who you want. Strip your “knowledge” away because sometimes it’s only keeping you from a really really good time. You’ll thank me later.

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Highly recommend this rant for any time you feel like you can't keep doing it. Apply the same hustle and rigor and positivity and discipline to dating that you do to everything else in your life that you want. Get out there, attack on all fronts, stick with it, let rejection be fuel rather than destruction. If you think your heart can't take it, it CAN. It just needs to get stronger, and that happens from exercise. Stick with it. Listen up!

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Kacie gave up men for Lent and wrote a book about it! And talked about it with us. How long it took her to figure out what she REALLY wanted, the many ups and downs of her journey, and what the heck you do when you’re not obsessively trying to date everyone. Bonus: how to make social media take you OUT of your head rather than in. Listen up!

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