Now We're Getting Somewhere

I'm back with my husband, Gil, to share some ideas about how to communicate with men.

(This is part 2 of the series we started in Episode 31, where we discussed communicating with women.)

In this episode, Gil and I share our best tips for communicating with men, and pull back the curtain of our marriage a bit, too. You'll hear:

+ Why it never worked when I'd (emotionally) ask Gil to "take my side" - and what I now ask for instead.

+ A time when I got mad at Gil - and why it was actually pretty effective

+ Plus listen till the end for a simple thing that I do that earns me an astonishing amount of goodwill in my marriage :)

As I mentioned last time, I hesitated to make this episode. I don't always love making gender-based generalizations - but I also felt like this was a topic that could help a lot of people.

I hope it's helpful for you.

This episode is for you, if you're a woman who sometimes struggles to communicate with men.

This episode is for you, if you're a man who sometimes struggles to explain to women why their communication isn't working.

(And this episode is for you, if you are a person of any gender who wants to communicate better with anyone - but especially men!)

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​​In coaching my male clients, I realized that there were some common challenges that they encountered, in communicating with their female partners — and that I could often help them communicate far more effectively!

Truthfully, I hesitated to make this episode. I don't always love making gender-based generalizations - but I also felt like this was a topic that could help a lot of people.

So this week, I'm doing it. I'm sharing my best ideas about how to communicate with women, and I'm joined by a very special guest: my husband, Gil!

You'll hear my super-tactical suggestions, Gil's genius theoretical principles (he says things like "embrace the vortex" - and it is *so freaking good*), plus some fun behind-the-scenes about our relationship (there's a moment when I say: "I think the fact that you believe this concept is 90% of why we have a happy marriage.")

This episode is for you, if you're a man who sometimes struggles to communicate with women.

This episode is for you, if you're a woman who sometimes struggles to explain to men why their communication isn't working.

(And this episode is for you, if you are a person of any gender who wants to communicate better with anyone - but especially women!)

And stay tuned for my next episode, when we'll be talking about how to communicate with men!

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On today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview I did with my former client, Julie.

Our coaching work together covered many things – including a deep dive into decision-making + how to get better at it. In our conversation, Julie and I talk about:

+ The list of super-useful thoughts she cultivated about decision-making (which you should absolutely steal).

+ The 4-part decision-making process she developed in our work together (which she now uses to help the people she loves – like her roommate — make big decisions).

+ Her ability to tell the difference between feelings/thoughts that are "swirl" vs. "navigational."

+ And more — including more about what it feels like to get coached!

I found myself grinning throughout this interview – Julie is such an insightful + creative person — and I'm sure you're going to love it, too.

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​​One of the most common questions I hear is some form of: so what actually *happens* on a coaching engagement?

This is a great question. After all, life coaching is a relatively new profession, so many people aren't familiar with it. And different coaches run their coaching engagements in different ways.

Today I answer this question in two ways: from a more high-level arc of the overall engagement, and on the micro level within each coaching session.

I hope this episode gives you more insight on what coaching with me would be like.

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In this episode, I talk about intentional technology.

I share the first two big things I did to get intentional about technology years ago.

These are honestly pretty small + easy, but they also give you a big bang for your buck.

So if you want the feeling of having done something for the new year, without actually doing a lot, I think these could be fun places to start.

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Today I am sharing a very specific observation that has some interesting implications during the holiday season.

This is about people who grow up in generally loving, warm, functional families. Obviously this is a blessing, in so many ways.

And yet, I have also observed that people who come from loving and warm and functional families will sometimes have a very specific set of problems, that I would put under the category of some parts of individuation happening quite late.

So if you are still wanting to individuate, or in the process of individuating, I want to acknowledge you and the pain you might be feeling in this stage.

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As we enter the holiday season, I want to offer you an idea that has been really resonating with me in my life, and with my clients as well.

Here it is: Take the next day off.

If you're trying to make an improvement in your life - do the new practice for one day, and then *take the next day off.* Don't do it for two days in a row.

It might sound a little silly, or a little ineffective, but tune into this episode and I think I'll sell you on why it's the strategy we all need this December (and generally).

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Today I am talking about "what happened" conversations.

A "what happened" conversation is a type of conversation that is incredibly useful when you are in a difficult, resentful, angry, or frustrated situation with someone.

In this episode I explain more about what a "what happened" conversation is, why it's useful, and when to do it. I get specific, sharing some scripts + common mistakes (and how to avoid them).

This episode will help you to more easily resolve challenges with partners, family, friends, and colleagues. Hope you enjoy!

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In this episode, I am talking about the pulling-the-trigger part of decision making. The part when you basically know what you want, but sometimes you hesitate, you feel anxious and indecisive and put off actually making the decision.

I come to this episode as someone who has struggled to make decisions in the past.

I'm sharing five practices or thoughts that have been helpful to me and my clients, in the hopes that they might be helpful to you, too.

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Sometimes what holds people back from getting support is that they don't even realize what kinds of topics coaches can help with.

So in this episode, I share the 10 most common topics that come up in my own life coaching practice. Specificity is so helpful, so as I go through each category, I also share real client examples.

I hope that sharing about these topics (and a peek into some of my clients' stories) helps you imagine what could be possible for you.

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