Conflict is inevitable in every relationship, especially in marriage. In Song of Solomon 5, we see that even the most passionate love stories encounter moments of hurt and misunderstanding. The honeymoon phase fades, and real-life challenges arise. The bride’s initial rejection of Solomon’s romantic invitation creates a moment of offense and separation, a reminder that the ones we love most have the greatest power to wound us.

What happens next is key, Solomon chooses forgiveness over offense. Instead of allowing hurt to build a fence between them, he tears it down with grace and love. This teaches us that the success of our marriages depends not on avoiding conflict, but on how we resolve it.

Key Takeaways:

1). Conflict is inevitable: Every relationship will face moments of misunderstanding and hurt.

2). Offense builds fences: Unforgiveness creates barriers that separate people from each other.

3). Forgiveness tears down fences: Choosing to forgive restores intimacy and connection.

4). Thankfulness heals hearts: Reflecting on the good in others rekindles love and friendship.

The way you tear down a fence is through forgiveness and thankfulness. Ephesians 4:32, “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”

This message isn’t just for married couples. Whether single, dating, or building friendships, these principles apply to every relationship. Forgiveness and thankfulness are keys to healing, restoring trust, and experiencing deeper connection.

Join Pastor Phil Hopper as he shares lessons from the Song of Solomon on forgiveness and thankfulness in marriage.