Oh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.

In today’s episode, I sit down with my friend Matthew for an unfiltered conversation about dating, relationships, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it all. It's always nice to hear a guy's perspective on this stuff, am I right, ladies?

We get into the struggle of attachment, the power of detachment, and why so many people find themselves stuck in cycles of chasing emotionally unavailable partners.

We also talk about modern dating culture—why it feels impossible to find “the one,” how dating apps have shifted the landscape, and the surprising reason some people keep getting caught in on-again, off-again relationships.

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything “right” but still not getting the love you want, this episode is for you.

Key Topics We Cover:

• The real reason so many people attract emotionally unavailable partners

• How to stop chasing and start attracting the right relationships

• Why detachment is your secret weapon in manifesting love
• The dating app dilemma—are they helping or hurting connection?
• Why self-awareness and personal growth are key to lasting love

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This week’s episode is deeply personal—I’m opening up about the recent passing of my dad and the emotional complexities that have come with it. If you’ve ever had a rocky or estranged relationship with a parent, you know how confusing and layered the grieving process can be.

I talk about the guilt, the grief, and the moments of clarity that come when navigating the loss of someone you loved but also struggled with. My dad and I had a complicated relationship—one filled with emotional wounds, estrangement, and attempts at reconciliation. I share how his passing has brought unexpected lessons in forgiveness, self-reflection, and the power of letting go.

This episode isn’t just about loss—it’s about rewriting your story, leaning into healing, and finding peace on your own terms. With a few laughable tid-bits, as well 😉

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Whether you’re dealing with loss, family estrangement, or are simply trying to process complicated emotions, this episode offers insights and encouragement to help you along your journey.

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In today’s episode, I sit down with Coach Theory, to talk about relationships, dating, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with navigating love and connection. We dive into the complexities of attachment, why we sometimes run from red flags in others (or ourselves), and how to shift from fear-based decisions to building true connection.

Theory opens up about her journey, from heartbreak and toxic patterns to reclaiming her power and transforming her love life. We get real about the challenges of modern dating, the myths around no contact, and why healthy relationships require more than just walking away at the first sign of trouble.

If you’ve ever struggled with attachment, wrestled with no-contact rules, or wondered why the same patterns keep repeating in your relationships, this episode is for you.

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This episode is all about how we react to red flags—both in ourselves and in others. I challenge the idea of walking away at the first sign of trouble in relationships and instead encourage deeper self-reflection. We talk about why it’s so important to trust yourself, what red flags truly mean, and how to align with the version of yourself that’s not ruled by fear or outside validation.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying too much armor and letting fear run your decisions, this one’s for you. I share my personal experiences and insights on how to navigate the world of red flags with compassion and self-awareness.

Key Topics:

• ​Why I admit that sometimes I am the red flag
• ​The importance of trusting yourself over external opinions
• ​Red flags: why they’re subjective and personal
• ​How to move past fear-based decisions in relationships
• ​Releasing the need for validation and standing in your own power

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I’m sharing my story about how life’s biggest challenges have become my greatest gifts. I dive deep into how I learned to navigate through the mess and why I believe the chaos, or what I like to call the “dumpster fire” moments, are exactly what help us grow. If you’re in the manifestation space, you know the phrase “circumstances don’t matter”—but how do you actually live by that when your world feels like it’s falling apart?

I’ll talk about my own spiritual awakening, the financial hardships I’ve faced, and how everything I thought was falling apart was actually setting me up for something bigger. I’ll explain why you need to detach from the external world, trust yourself through the tough times, and lean into the discomfort. So, if you’re feeling like your life is a mess right now, let me help you see why that’s exactly where you need to be.

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Let's dive into the importance of trusting yourself when it comes to manifesting your desires. I truly believe that everything you want starts with the relationship you have with yourself.

I dive into how a lack of self-trust used to cause me so much anxiety, especially when others questioned my choices. I’m getting real about how I moved from doubting myself to fully believing in what I want.

I explore how other people's opinions can trigger self-doubt and why these triggers are really just a reflection of your relationship with yourself. I share how I used to let these triggers control me and how I’ve learned to flip the script.

I offer practical advice on how to stop letting outside influences dictate your self-worth. I’ll show you how to shift from “they don’t want me” to “of course, they want me,” and why this mindset shift is crucial for manifesting your desires.

I share some personal stories about how trusting myself has led to quick and powerful changes in my life. These are the kinds of shifts that can happen for you, too, once you start believing in yourself.

I provide some simple, actionable steps you can take to start building that trust in yourself today. Whether it’s using affirmations or just getting clear on what you really want, I’ve got you covered. Plus, I’ve got a free affirmations bundle that you can download to help you get started

I encourage you to fully claim your desires and trust that the universe has your back. Remember, everything you want starts with believing in yourself.

If you’re ready to start trusting yourself and manifesting your dream life, download my free affirmations bundle here.

And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @thekristenaut for daily inspiration.

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Erika and I dive into the world of online dating. While I've heard many complaints about online dating, Erika and I both agree … if you change your perspective on it, you'll change the outcome (as with anything in life).

A few highlights of our discussion:

- Sinking into dating online with curiosity, intention, & vulnerability. The way you perceive things matters

- Dating templates and how to use them

- Becoming more conscious of the information we're putting out there in our profiles

- Investing in dating apps (both energetically & financially).

We also touched on navigating the balance in the coaching world. "Doing too much" vs. providing value … where's the sweet spot and why it can be tough for us, as coaches, to find.

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Where to find us:

Erika:

Instagram: @alittlenudge

Website: A Little Nudge

Kristen:

Instagram: @thekristenaut

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Website: Think Above You

Today I talk with one of my former coaching clients who has gone from feeling stuck in an anxious attachment style to fully stepping into her Inner Badass.

Together, we unpack the journey of letting go of resistance, breaking free from toxic relationship patterns, and embracing the power of self-worth and self-love.

TeAirra and I explore the importance of self-reflection and how understanding and healing our past wounds can liberate us from clinging to unhealthy relationships. She shares the pivotal moments that helped her shift her mindset, like when she stopped needing validation from others and began to trust and love herself unconditionally.

If you're tired of chasing love and ready to stand in your own power, this episode is for you.

Key Topics Covered:

• My insights on overcoming anxious attachment and breaking free from toxic relationships.

• How I guide clients through inner child work to heal past wounds and reclaim their power.

• The importance of self-love and self-validation in building healthy relationships.

• Why embracing your inner badass is the ultimate form of self-care.

Practical strategies I’ve used to help clients transition from heartbreak to self-empowerment.

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Where to find Kristen:

Instagram: @thekristenaut

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"What am I doing to attract this into my life?"

This week's episode was inspired by a comment by one of my followers on Instagram …

We dive into the complexities of magnetism ... and try to make them a bit less complex ...

I combine insights from some of the more recent previous discussions, shedding light on why we attract certain people and how to shift our point of attraction for healthier relationships.

A few of our talking points:

• Addressing the common struggle of overthinking, especially after being ghosted

• Explaining how our energy can attract a wide range of people, from those with negative traits to those with positive ones.

• The importance of recognizing our point of attraction and how it influences the type of people we attract.

• Learn how to identify and break the cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable partners.

• Understand the importance of self-reflection and self-worth in dating.

Be sure to head over to Instagram and let me know what your sticky point of attraction is! Let's see where I can help you!

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Instagram ⁠⁠@thekristenaut⁠⁠

Tik Tok: ⁠⁠@thekristenaut⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠thinkaboveyou.podia.com⁠

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I'm challenging this 'F*ck the Spark' movement. I think there are a lot of misconceptions about initial chemistry and "the spark" in dating.

There are so many complexities to attraction and what "healthy" really means when it comes to this whole genre of life. And, my take? It's all subjective.

I'm offering a balanced perspective on the excitement of new relationships versus the need for emotional stability. It's a paradox and definitely one which you need to find your balance on. But I'm here to help! :)

I share my personal experiences, highlighting how attachment styles impact our perceptions of chemistry, and provide practical advice for navigating dating with self-awareness.

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Website: ⁠thinkaboveyou.podia.com⁠