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- All About Peace Project with Andrea and Casandra
In this episode, Maryellen chats with Andrea and Casandra from Peace Project. A mental health counseling group founded during the COVID-19 pandemic. Peace Project aims to support its local community by offering a person-centered approach to mental health.
Connect with Peace Project:
www.peaceproject.life
IG: @peaceproject_lmhcSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
33 min - Why it's Important to Rest
Welcome back! Today, Maryellen talks about rest and why it's so important to take breaks and cut some slack for your mind, body, and heart.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
18 min - Goodbye For Now!
In the season one finale, Maryellen recaps her greatest hits and says farewell for now ahead of a month long break.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
15 min - Our Wildest Therapy Stories with Erin Pytlak, LMHC
Today, Maryellen interviews Erin Pytlak, LMHC. Erin works alongside Maryellen at her private practice, Pittsford Therapy. They go deep on their wildest therapist stories, from clients who overstep boundaries to their own embarrassing moments .
IG: @pittsfordtherapy
pittsfordtherapy.com
IG: @maryellendance
maryellendance.com
daydreamernetwork.com/okay-ish-2
okayishpodcast.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
33 min - Doing Coping Skills the RIGHT Way
Maryellen talks copings skills--what they are, what they're for, and how to make sure you're coping in healthy ways.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
20 min - The Key to Confidence
Maryellen dives into the world of confidence and how we can boost our confidence through the work of famous psychologist Albert Bandura. As we teach our kids they’re capable of doing anything in the world, we build their perception of what they're capable of doing. Confidence isn’t a fixed attribute and can change over time. There are those who are overconfident and come off as cocky, the secret is they’re insecure--confidence isn’t about boasting about ourselves and abilities.
1. Mastery Experiences: To be confident, we have to look at our previous success to move forward and build off of.
2. Vicarious Learning: It’s as simple as if she/he/they can do it, then I can do it too. (And no this is not comparing ourselves to others abilities)
3. Modeling: Modeling a behavior that we see hope and potential in to get us results.
4. Social Persuasion: By receiving positive reinforcement we can build our confidence, even if we aren’t perfect.
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Related episodes
Episode 42 - Toxic Positivity: Mary Ellen shares what toxic positivity is and how it’ll not only damage our emotions but can be seen as a new form of gaslighting, and gives us 5 tips on how to handle toxic positivity in person and social media.
Episode 28 -Self Esteem Pt. 4: Following Mary Ellen’s episodes on Self Esteem, she goes into how self esteem affects relationships with positive and negative examples and gives us 3 takeaways on self esteem in relationships.
Episode 46 - Women’s Brains VS Men’s Brains: Chemistry or Socialization?: Mary Ellen gives us the 4 myths of the differences between men and women ranging from sex talk to opposites attract, and the use of our brains. Hint: all brains function and look the same.
Episode 47 -Love: Are We Doing it Right?: Mary Ellen shares the 2 major types of love along with 2 major predictors of who we will fall in love with, and to top it off enlightens us with how we can build our relationships based off the 5 love languages.
Follow or Find us at:
The show:
https://daydreamernetwork.com/okay-ish-2/
https://okayishpodcast.com/The network:
@daydreamernetwork
https://daydreamernetwork.com
The host:
https://maryellendance.com/
@maryellendance
About the HOST
Maryellen Dance is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based out of upstate New York. She focuses on providing skills using cognitive behavioral therapy, often using mindfulness techniques that are vital to personal growth. With a passion for psychology and propensity to ask questions, Maryellen entered this field to educate, learn and share what it means to be “Okay-ish.”
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
20 min - The Importance of Communication
From learning that men and women come from the same planet and how understanding each other’s love languages can grow a relationship, in today’s continuation on the journey of love Mary Ellen dives into the importance of communication. In communication, there are key components to look at other than what comes out of our mouth and what we hear through our ears, such as what we say nonverbally through our facial expressions. As our facial muscles send messages to our brains when an emotion is being expressed, we normally show these expressions first nonverbally than verbally. Along with other key components of communication, the 3 best tips on communication are 1. Don’t assume what others are thinking, 2. Try to not lead off with “you” when expressing feelings, and 3. State your needs.
Hear more about the science behind our emotions and some personal stories of Mary Ellen going through the ups and downs of discovering how to communicate not only as a therapist but as an Okay-ish person.
Like what you hear? Leave a review and give us a follow on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, or any of your other favorite platforms!
Related episodes
Episode 47 -Love: Are We Doing it Right?: Maryellen shares the 2 major types of love along with 2 major predictors of who we will fall in love with, and to top it off enlightens us with how we can build our relationships based off the 5 love languages.
Episode 42 - Toxic Positivity: Maryellen shares what toxic positivity is and how it’ll not only damage our emotions but can be seen as a new form of gaslighting, and gives us 5 tips on how to handle toxic positivity in person and social media.
Episode 45 - How Attachment Styles Affects Your Relationships : In this episode, Mary Ellen shows us the 3 types of attachment styles: anxious, secure, and avoidant, and how they grow on us as kids through adulthood.
Episode 46 - Women’s Brains VS Men’s Brains: Chemistry or Socialization?: Maryellen gives us the 4 myths of the differences between men and women ranging from sex talk to opposites attract, and the use of our brains. Hint: all brains function and look the same.
Follow or Find us at:
The show:
https://daydreamernetwork.com/okay-ish-2/
https://okayishpodcast.com/The network:
@daydreamernetwork
https://daydreamernetwork.com
Host’s Contact Info
https://maryellendance.com/
@maryellendance
About the HOST
Maryellen Dance is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based out of upstate New York. She focuses on providing skills using cognitive behavioral therapy, often using mindfulness techniques that are vital to personal growth. With a passion for psychology and propensity to ask questions, Maryellen entered this field to educate, learn and share what it means to be “Okay-ish.”
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
20 min - Love: Are We Doing It Right?
On today’s episode, Mary Ellen indulges us with more on the topic of love and relationships by sharing the 2 major types of love, 2 major predictors of who you will love, and brushes over the 5 love languages.
To start off, the 2 types of love people have are companionate and passionate. A companionate love shows two people who trust each other and share affection whereas passionate love shows a couple who are caught up in the honeymoon stage showing passion and short term love. Bringing back the attachment styles, our brains recognize love when we attach to someone that’ll send off the hug hormone, oxytocin, but this can send the hormone off consistently or inconsistently depending on a secure or insecure attachment.
Following the 2 types of loves, Mary Ellen shares the 2 major predictors of who we love. First being we fall in love with people who are close to us, distance and relationship wise. And second is we fall in love with people who are similar to us where in this case, following Mary Ellen’s most recent episode, opposites don’t attract.
To top everything off, Mary Ellen gives us the 5 love languages which are: acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, and gifts. To help us build our relationships and grow is understanding our partners love language to maintain a balanced connection. Don’t miss the chance to hear more about the online dating world and what psychologists have to say!
Like what you hear? Leave a review and give us a follow on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, or any of your other favorite platforms!
Related episodes
Episode 45 - How Attachment Styles Affects Your Relationships : In this episode, Mary Ellen shows us the 3 types of attachment styles: anxious, secure, and avoidant, and how they grow on us as kids through adulthood.
Episode 46 - Women’s Brains VS Men’s Brains: Chemistry or Socialization?: Stripping away the phrase “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus”, Mary Ellen gives us the 4 myths of the differences between men and women ranging from sex talk to opposites attract, and the use of our brains. Hint: all brains function and look the same.
Follow or Find us at:
The show:
https://daydreamernetwork.com/okay-ish-2/
https://okayishpodcast.com/The network:
@daydreamernetwork
https://daydreamernetwork.com
Host’s Contact Info
https://maryellendance.com/
@maryellendance
About the HOST
Maryellen Dance is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based out of upstate New York. She focuses on providing skills using cognitive behavioral therapy, often using mindfulness techniques that are vital to personal growth. With a passion for psychology and propensity to ask questions, Maryellen entered this field to educate, learn and share what it means to be “Okay-ish.”
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
19 min - Women's Brains VS Men's Brains: Chemistry or Socialization?
Continuing the theme of relationships and looking at how couples interact with one another, Mary Ellen strips away 4 myths of the differences between men and women while showing us the biggest advice when helping with couples.
- Starting off with myth #1: Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Putting it into simple terms, mens and women’s brains are constructed differently. According to scientific studies, both mens and women’s brains are built and look similar. While some men are taught to not express their emotions and be more confident, this has no correlation to the brain's activity but is all due to socialization.
- Myth #2: Women want relationships and men want sex: Relating to myth #1, it’s all due to socialization. Coming from Mary Ellen’s experience with couples, women also want sex too. Key point is to look at each other's love language and not fall into the stereotype of thinking what men and women want.
- Myth #3: Opposites attract: By looking more closely at each other's deep values and core beliefs, you’ll notice how opposites don’t get along with each other rather than noticing different hobbies they enjoy or different foods they like.
- Finally myth #4: Some people are right brained and some are left: According to research, the brain functions best when both sides work together. Similar to myth #1 where the issue is socialization not brain chemistry, if one person is more emotionally open than the other that’s not because they're using one side of the brain than the other, it’s again due to how we socially interact with others and are raised.
Overall, with heterosexual couples the best way to think about differences is to understand one another’s experiences and see what the person has been through.
Like what you hear? Leave a review and give us a follow on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, or any of your other favorite platforms!
Related episodes
Episode 45 - How Attachment Styles Affects Your Relationships : Maryellen shows us the 3 types of attachment styles: anxious, secure, and avoidant, and how they grow on us as kids through adulthood.
Episode 28 -Self Esteem Pt. 4: Following Maryellen’s episodes on Self Esteem, she goes into how self esteem affects relationships with positive and negative examples and gives us 3 takeaways on self esteem in relationships.
Follow or Find us at:
The show:
https://daydreamernetwork.com/okay-ish-2/
https://okayishpodcast.com/The network:
@daydreamernetwork
https://daydreamernetwork.com
Host’s Contact Info
https://maryellendance.com/
@maryellendance
About the HOST
Maryellen Dance is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based out of upstate New York. She focuses on providing skills using cognitive behavioral therapy, often using mindfulness techniques that are vital to personal growth. With a passion for psychology and propensity to ask questions, Maryellen entered this field to educate, learn and share what it means to be “Okay-ish.”
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
17 min - How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationships
Ever wonder why babies have different reactions to their moms leaving the room, whether it’s crying and being hysterical or acting calm and collected, or isolating themselves and avoiding everyone? Mary Ellen explains how these 3 examples are all considered the 3 attachment styles: anxious, secure, and avoidant. By going through each scenario in more depth and looking at the relationships of babies and mothers, we grow these attachment styles from birth and latch onto them throughout our lives. By being controlled with these unconscious stories that build up in our minds as infants, Mary Ellen explains how baby’s attachment styles are similar to adults in that they portray a defense mechanism and explains some clients she’s worked with that represent avoidant and anxious. With all this talk about babies and relationships, can we ever change these habits of having anxious and avoidant attachment styles? The answer is: yes! Hear all about what it’s like to experience an anxious, secure, and avoidant attachment style and how people can overcome anxious and avoidant styles to become secure by Mary Ellen’s tips and questions to ask.
Like what you hear? Leave a review and give us a follow on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, or any of your other favorite platforms!
Related episodes
Episode 40 - Defense Mechanisms: In this episode, Mary Ellen dives into 6 defensive mechanisms and how each one is a form of coping and hiding our emotions through denial, repression, projection, displacement, regression, and rationalization.
Episode 43 - What You Don’t Know About Anxiety: As we all battle a nasty liar in our brain, Mary Ellen shows us the 5 types of anxiety disorder and how we can become a rationalized person as well as bring light to cognitive behavioral therapy.
Episode 39: All About Trauma: (TW) In this episode, Mary Ellen tells the truth about trauma and its relation to eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy (not it’s not hypnotism) while also guiding you through the symptoms and different types of traumas there are and give you advice on processing it.
Follow or Find us at:
The show:
https://daydreamernetwork.com/okay-ish-2/
https://okayishpodcast.com/
The network:
@daydreamernetwork
https://daydreamernetwork.com
Host’s Contact Info
https://maryellendance.com/
@maryellendance
About the HOST
Maryellen Dance is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based out of upstate New York. She focuses on providing skills using cognitive behavioral therapy, often using mindfulness techniques that are vital to personal growth. With a passion for psychology and propensity to ask questions, Maryellen entered this field to educate, learn and share what it means to be “Okay-ish.”
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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About OKAY-ISH
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Sometimes, we're not thriving and girl-bossing our way through life... we are just trying to make it through the day as best as we can. OKAY-ISH is all about getting honest when it comes…
to mental health, therapy, and the shit show we call life. Host and mental health counselor Maryellen Dance is on a mission, not to help you be perfect, but to get you feeling okay-ish. You're in for honest, raw, and emotional insights from a licensed specialist, as she covers topics ranging from co-dependancy and narcissism, to anxiety, sex, media, and more. Plus, she gets real about being a therapist, dating as a therapist, and "turning the therapist off" when it's time to unwind. Join us every Monday! You're not going to want to miss it... those cancellation fees are no joke.