In this episode, I'm coming at you without the permission of my editing team. :) After two weeks of leading my clients and learning from my own mentor

- Entrepreneurship has no map but you can create your own guidebook

- Success patterns help you answer the question, "How do I know my success is inevitable?"

- Leveraging success patterns in times of distress and times of growth

- What data points make up success patterns? (Thoughts, feelings, actions, decisions and defaults/habits)

- How to start your own guidebook of success patterns, start backwards! Ask yourself, "how do I know I'm already the next version of me from a year ago?"

-Defining success data points (counter-intuitive, lead indicators, trade short-term relief for long-term inevitably, cultivated, regenerative and exponential.

I’m joined by friend and fellow mastermind participant, Emilia Makówka, to talk about their entrepreneurial journey as a queer neurodivergent money and life coach in Poland. With recent appearances in Newsweek and in a collaboration with Ikea, Emilia shares their experience embracing visibility with their own needs in mind, decentralizing their professional life from their personal life, and previewing their brand new mastermind for queer and neurodivergent humans they plan to launch within the next year.

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In this episode, Emilia and I cover…

• [03:57] Getting creative with financial resourcing the make investments in yourself and your business
• [11:58] Acclimating to bigger visibility and coping with visibility anxiety as Emilia worked with Ikea and was featured in Newsweek
• [21:05] Working through their first launch and understanding how to measure their goals for them, including taking currency into account
• [29:59] Doubling down on creating a safe money and life design space where queer and neurodivergent humans can thrive
• [33:43] Prioritizing personal growth and thriving in their social and love life and decentering their business from their life
• [39:40] Emilia’s One Year From Now vision for herself and her company, especially when it comes to their upcoming mastermind

This week, I define the concept of visibility anxiety after having 3 separate clients bring up this feeling. While anxiety is often a normal part of our lives, visibility anxiety comes from a heightened awareness of new eyes on us in a new way, whether it’s quantity of eyes or the quality of someone’s view. From high profile interviews to probing questions from friends, avoiding the cyclone of visibility anxiety will help you live a successful entrepreneurial life without unnecessary stress and fatigue. 

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In this episode, I cover

• [01:46] Defining visible anxiety and identifying the situations where it will most likely arise for entrepreneurs
• [06:09] Resisting the emotions of visible anxiety and the cyclone that continuously makes anxiety worse 
• [08:41] Anxious reactions of fleeing or fighting in an anxious situation and how it can take away from the growth of increased visibility
• [11:18] Acknowledging the visible anxiety, naming it, and identifying what’s happening underneath that’s causing that anxiety
• [17:32] Explaining where my personal moments of visibility anxiety have come up and giving you the tools to embrace mindset exercises like this in The Residency

I invited a friend of mine, Abe Lopez-Bowen, to the podcast this week to talk about his journey into entrepreneurship. As an artist, photographer, and managing partner at Lightward, Abe can showcase a huge variety of skills that have undoubtedly led him to success, but his perspective on business and his synchronicity with his business and romantic partner, Isaac, shows an incredible maturity and a desire to build something sustainable at their own professional pace.

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• [07:15] Learning the skill of resourcefulness at a young age
• [13:04] Understanding where Lightward began for Abe and Isaac
• [19:18] Knowing how to ask, “What do I want?”
• [28:57] Staying connected to important values as Lightward grows 
• [39:05] Becoming a leader and forging a different entrepreneurial path

What is the highest quality decision you can make in this situation? After posing this question to a client in The Residency, I realized a large majority of my work revolves around helping my clients, whether in one-on-one coaching or in The Residency, learn how to make high quality decisions. Using this specific client as an example, I spend this episode breaking down why her decision was the highest quality for her and how to prioritize what’s most important during your next big decision.

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In this episode, I cover…

• [00:48] Introducing the question: What is the highest quality decision you can make in this situation?
• [02:28] Prioritizing rest days to prevent creative fatigue
• [04:04] Realizing when something isn’t “on fire” in terms of urgency
• [05:34] Deciding to learn and expand your skills, even through rest
• [07:27] Seeing The Residency as a tool to build high quality decision-making skills 

What if you could be the future you right now? This week is all about forming that connection to your future self and asking that question of your current self. On One Year From Now and in numerous coaching environments I participate in, we talk about our future self a lot, but I want to help you bring your future self closer and closer to present day you with thoughtful practice. 

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In this episode, I cover:

• [1:12] Making the connection with who you want to be
• [2:53] Building the bridge or sewing the thread between current and future
• [3:58] Seeing my personal future self in my present life
• [7:47] Understanding that you’re the same person, no matter the timeline
• [8:48] Practicing for future goals with current actions

This week, I expose my beef with the phrase “some day,” and fight against the concept that time passing gets you closer to your goals. With my own trip to Key West becoming a reality, I invite you on my journey from “some day” lies and bucket list wishes to real commitments about creativity and action for myself and my business. 

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In this episode, I cover:

• [01:36] Understanding that time doesn’t change you, action does
• [02:30] Showing my trip through the lens of ready, willing, and resourced
• [06:55] Hoping vs planning with bucket lists and “some day”s
• [08:26] Treating your “some day” experiences as too precious
• [11:37] Looking ahead to your future investments with commitment

In this short episode, I explain the real pathway to successful business and personal ventures through prioritizing intention and cultivating self-trust. Instead of enforcing harsher restrictions on yourself and playing into a toxic “hustle” mindset, I challenge you to seek creative problem solving opportunities and practice taking risks. 

In this episode, I cover:

• [2:04] Personal failures with rigidity and harshness
• [3:27] Enforcing harsh rules for the sake of professional success
• [4:54] Nourishing yourself and incorporating self-compassion
• [6:33] Taking risks, being curious, and practicing play
• [8:04] Seeing how neutral tools can be used in negative ways

This week, I’m joined by Damaly Shepherd, an NYC-based photographer and entrepreneur headed for $500K in revenue this year. From a background similar to my own as an HR recruiter, she has built a successful portrait and branding photography business with an emphasis on next-level experiences for her clients. As a black, female first-generation entrepreneur, Damaly shares with me how her clients, team, and business are centered around BIPOC experiences and gives me a sneak peek at her One Year from Now vision.  Timecoded Guide:

In this episode, Damaly and I discuss:

• [4:19] Creating a business model based on a trusted roster of contractors
• [7:40] Building self-trust to pursue a different business model than industry peers
• [14:20] Learning how her thoughts about herself, her business, and her team are creating her $500k year 
• [18:07] Asking questions that create high-value results for her business
• [29:26] Discovering her One Year from Now vision

A quick, time sensitive note - May is my birthday month and I'm hosting a birthday tour for One Year from Now that includes live drinks (5/20, virtual) and dinner (5/27, Richmond!!!).⁠ ⁠ You're super invited.⁠ ⁠ But!⁠ ⁠ If you want to join us for drinks on 5/20, I need to know by Friday!⁠ ⁠ (We've got to mail you the kick-ass, party box with all of your ingredients and equipment and need the shipping time!)⁠ ⁠ So here's what you need to know:⁠ ⁠ Meet me for drinks (virtual)⁠ ⁠ 🥭 Friday, May 20th, 3p-5p ct⁠ 🥭 Black-Owned Margaritas + general mayhem⁠ 🥭 REGISTER BY: Friday, 5/6/22⁠ ⁠ I'm mailing you all the fixings + equipment to make 2 very special margaritas made with Black-owned ingredients. We'll sip drinks and ask ourselves the question, "What would be completely unreasonable, delusional, wait-can-I-do-that!? wins for you, one year from now?"⁠ ⁠ Meet me for dinner (Richmond, VA)⁠ ⁠ 🌮 Friday, May 27th, 6-9pm et⁠ 🌮 Apps, dinner + shenanigans somewhere in Richmond⁠ 🌮 REGISTER BY: Friday, 5/13/22⁠ ⁠ I'm coming to Richmond! And I want you to meet me for food and laughs and audacious, delusional, ridiculous visioning. Exact location restaurant location TBA. Proof of vaccination will be required.⁠ ⁠ The link to buy your tix is in my bio! ⁠ ⁠ Or go to calendly.com/haileythomas/oyfnbirthdaytour⁠ ⁠ Oh, and if you've got friends who love talking business-induced pleasure and dreams and money making and fun? Tell 'em to pull up. They're invited, too.⁠ ⁠ Can't wait to see you.⁠