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So many people think that they have to join in the conversation and even one-up what’s just been said that they miss the opportunity to truly connect.

“I can’t wait to get to Hawaii”

“Oh, me either! This pandemic is something! I just love the sand on Waikiki and the sun. Oh, and you can’t beat the food.” And on and on and on, leaving the other person out of the conversation.

Beware of hijacking the conversation in an effort to join in. When you make it about yourself, you’ve missed a HUGE opportunity to actually connect.

Take a listen and let me know what you think!

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

We’re all leaders! If you’re being watched, you’re a leader - at home, at work, in the community. You’re a leader. 

This episode doesn’t talk about the traits of good leaders. There are tons of books and articles on that. Each is, in my opinion, simply opinion. The best trait of a leader is someone who knows what he/she/they value and can live into that authentically.

And there are five steps to grow into that:

Expand your MINDSET

Hold yourself and others ACCOUNTABLE. 

Be someone who is gracious and generous and lives in GRATITUDE.

Have visions for your future. Demand that of yourself. Let those visions serve to INSPIRE yourself and others.

And be clear. Get great CLARITY around who you are, what your values are, what your vision for your future is. Being clear and specific is the best way to grow that for yourself and others.

That’s magic!

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

Having grown up in a household influenced by healthcare and business, Wendy Ryan shared multiple insights about Human Resources and Organization Development. She runs an interdisciplinary team of organizational change experts at her company, Kadabra. 

Highlights of our interview include:

• Any future vision for changes in organizational culture requires time
• People get saturated with change! 
• Leaders need to stay curious
• Leaders need to assess, “am I bringing people with me?”
• Assess all internal processes - look for inclusion starting from hiring and onboarding
• Now that most workforces are hybrid, we need to rely on two key traits:
• • Curiosity
  • Kindness
• A growth mindset is predicated on the belief that we can grow!
• For each employee/team-member, identity matters. And that means that for some leaders and long-term employees, there might be some unlearning to do.
• Consider three buckets: 
• • Mindset - How do you think?
  • Skillset -  What do you know?
  • Behavior - How are you showing up to others?
• Remember that Human Systems are biological and therefore organic. It’s time to let go of mechanistic, non-human, models for managing any business.  

Wendy’s new book is called Learn, Lead, Lift. Worksheets and other free resources are available at www.LearnLeadLift.com 

Wendy can also be reached at www.WeAreKadabra.com

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

We expect things to be as we left them. This is good news for us when we park a car or lay down our sunglasses. It’s not so great when we’re talking about relationships and noticing the growth in other people.

Whether in your team members, your family members, or your friends, allow for a shift in worldview. What has changed about them since you last saw them?

Most important, start with yourself: reflect on what’s changed in, for, or about you in the last few months, weeks, days, or even moments.

You’re not the same person you were.

It’s important to acknowledge that those we engage with, even daily, aren’t who they were either.

“Hey! What’s changed since I last saw you?”

Stay curious and have fun with that!!!

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

You have a choice about how much “strength” you give the things that are bothering you. There are, in fact, only three types of trouble

You can choose to let go of - and learn from - each of them! 

Troubles of the past - 

Did you do the best you could with the knowledge and resources you had? Then stop cringing every time that memory comes up. You’re the only one who is remembering it that way. No one else is carrying the memory the same way. Make amends if you need to and most important, learn from what happened. You’re a different person now!

Troubles of the present - 

If you recognize that today is just a snapshot on a timeline continuum, then you can acknowledge that the “today” of two years ago doesn’t really linger. Today’s troubles, two years down the road won’t feel quite as severe. So, do what needs to be done, learn, get the resources you need, and keep moving forward.

Troubles of the Future - 

What a beautiful waste of great imagination… we catastrophize, thinking about the outcome being the worst possible scenario when we could be thinking about what it might be like if everything not only worked out okay, but worked out amazingly well!

Whatever trouble you’re carrying, you’re the only person carrying it. It’s your perspective that colors the situation as such. What if… what if you chose a different perspective and knew that things were going to be better than just okay?

They are, you know. Choice is power!

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

No team member in any organization should ever feel like someone is out to get them. Yet so many leaders make a simple, yet monumental, mistake: they assume that because they’re clear about their expectations that they’ve made their expectations clear.  

Explore the world of leadership and management here (and let’s scare off that imagined boogeyman).

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

Do I need to do this?

It’s a great question to keep your focus. 

In this episode we’ll explore how a shift in emphasis gives new meaning to a simple question.

Have some fun and listen in.

As your focus broadens and you ask questions differently, your world expands!

Enjoy!

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

Author, podcaster, tv host, and life coach - Jocelyn talks about the journey of what it takes to Break Down To Wake Up (also the name of her book).

She had a “normal” life and was doing well.

She and her husband decided to make a big life upheaval and move across the county. She got the blessing from her job and off they went, as a family of three.

Something still nagged at her and she began a journey of true self-discovery.

She notes: THE DETOURS IN OUR LIFE LEAD US TO EXACTLY WHERE WE NEED TO BE.

Jocelyn found herself through outside coaching and took the path to become a coach, herself. 

In this episode, we talk about her recognizing that she felt trapped in her old life and that she couldn’t breathe. 

Here, I note that:

the sense of not being able to breathe isn’t about getting enough air, it’s about being able to exhale enough to express yourself fully. 

And Jocelyn adds that we have seemingly grown up with the rules “If I can act in a certain way, I’ll receive love from this other person.” 

Spring boarding on this thought, I note that this then, makes the relationship transactional and essentially not safe. 

Jocelyn tells us to 

• Get curious with ourselves
• Love ourselves
• Engage in Radical Responsibility (self-accountability)
• Take a big LEAP (the name of her program)
• Choose yourself first and use your voice - it’s why you have one!

www.JocelynBellows.com  

Life Coaching and Writing Coaching

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

PR professional, champion for girls and women in the entrepreneurial space, TEDx speaker, and so much more – Bobbie Carlton shares with us her journey into entrepreneurship and some of the surprises on her journey.

We talk about business and the championing of the heard, unheard, and underserved voices.

Our conversation took us to her early roots and what she learned while growing up how to be – and not be – an entrepreneur.

Bobbie shares lessons for those starting on the path.

•     Find a partner who can support you – whether a life partner or a business partner or even an assistant, you need someone who can see the big picture with you and remind you of the details. Bobbie laughs, “Marry well.”
  
  
•     Get trusted supporters around you, from a V.A., to your accounting team, you need people that you’ll allow deep inside of your business.
  
  
•     Communicate – the more communication, and enjoyment, with your team members, the better!
  
  
•     Get a PLAN!!!
  
  
•     Know that you will exit and build that in. Who can take over for you in a few years or decades?
  
  
•     Invest in and grow your team.
  
  

Key quotes from this episode:

-       We need to make sure that everyone has the opportunity to bring innovations to market.

-       There’s someone out there with the answers without access to the right community. 

-       We have to make sure that, in order to survive, we democratize entrepreneurship so that the best ideas have their ideas in the marketplace.

Bobbie invites you to Google her: Bobbie Carlton

Key Links:

Carlton PR & Marketing, Innovation Nights and Innovation Women

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog 

Influenced by his entrepreneurial Marine father and his wife, and loving mother, Alan Kaye learned that relationships - helping others get what they want - was the key to success.

He ended up in insurance, which for most of us doesn’t sound so great. His story, his connections, and his life lessons along the way are phenomenal.

Alan Kaye was an animator, he did marketing for the NY Yankees, his world went into a tailspin with his daughter’s illness (and that led to massive charity work on his part), and then he landed in a space of protecting people. He and his partner Brian built eight offices with a large team where the company culture is like family.

The basics:

• Don’t lie, cheat, or steal
• Come with solutions, not excuses
• Build Trust (and do everything to keep it)

The bigger lessons:

• Be authentic
• Don’t burn a bridge; you never know
• Be solution-focused
• Empower others
• Learn from failure, that’s part of life

[email protected]

www.Virtual5Oclock.com

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog