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Dr. Gottfredson is a leadership professor at California State University, Fullerton. He earned his doctorate in Organizational Behavior and Human Resources.  

He notes that most people think in terms of what leaders need to DO. And that we need to be more focused on what leaders need to BE.  

Key Points:

• Horizontal Development is broadening skills vs. Vertical Development is gaining altitude and perspective (which may or may not come through maturity)
• Our neural connections help us
• • Filter Information
  • Interpret Information
  • Activate a Behavioral Response based on the information that we’ve interpreted
• Failure can be interpreted in two different ways
• • From a fixed mindset, it’s personal and we’ll want to avoid similar challenges
  • From a growth mindset, it’s external and seen as an opportunity to approach related challenges
• Mindset Types:
• • Fixed vs. Growth
  • Closed vs. Open (to suggestions of others)
  • Prevention vs. Promotion = the difference between Not Losing vs. Winning
  • Inward vs. Outward which is about comparing yourself to others vs. lifting others

RyanGottfredson.com for a free Success Mindsets assessment.

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In a time where everyone seems to be drawing back and we might feel like we’re living in “lack” which is only fear-based, it’s still important to have redundancy.

Redundancy, especially in communication, is exceptionally important. In the IT world, having systems that duplicate is important in case one goes down.

What about at work. Do you need people that do the same things? No, but you need people who know about and know how to do the same things.

Like the understudy at a play, you have a backup.

And, in your communications, make sure you’re delivering your message in more than one way.

For more tips on that last part, check out this free 7-tip guide www.RelationshipRecharge.com

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Is it possible to be happy and dissatisfied at the same time? 

Pause your life and look around. There’s a lot of bad stuff happening, and still, you have a lot for which you can be grateful. 

If you think about it, your life is okay right now. You are doing okay. You can say that right now, at this moment, you’re happy with your life. AND WE DON’T PAUSE - We know we can Do More, Have More, and Be More! And because we know we can serve more greatly, we feel dissatisfied.

You can live a life of gratitude and still ache to do, have, and be more. Yes, that’s the magic of living Happily Dissatisfied.

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Do you have any idea how many people you actually encounter on any given day? It may be zero or it could be hundreds. Are you doing video calls? Did you go to a grocery store? Are you even noticing the people you live with?

I ran a company with 120 team members and my goal was to give just six compliments a day because I had seen people doing things that mattered.

I used six pennies as my tally check, and at the end of the day, the goal was to have moved six pennies from one pocket to the other. Having 120 people that I could potentially encounter, what I found was that I stopped focusing on finding the good.

Leading is about keeping the big picture in front of yourself and those on your team. Focus on the things that matter. Let your team members know they matter by acknowledging them - notice what they’ve done and how they’ve contributed. Keep your focus on what matters - your people and the delivery of service.

The challenge: give six compliments today to people at home, at work, or in the community. It sounds so easy… it takes a lot of practice!

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Stephanie Thoma focuses on helping others make connections; she helps introverts feel confident and she redefines networking.  

Overcoming social anxiety, she fought broad limiting beliefs and brings her broad transformational journey to her work.  

• We’re all a mix of introversion and extroversion
• Activate based on what you love
• The “solitude sandwich” is how some of us refuel (go out and give, withdraw to regain focus, go out and give)
• The “Big Light Secret” is the opposite of the downward spiraling big dark secret. As confidence builds, people shine.
• Networking should never be fake. 
• • Stay away from openers like the weather and traffic. Those can set a potentially negative tone for the conversation. Instead, ask about lighter things while acknowledging the situation: “What’s your favorite thing about Shelter In Place?”
• Networking has expanded because we’re virtual. You can easily be at an event with people from all over the world!
• Stephanie believes in connection: Connection - Confidence - Consciousness
• Then she said something else akin to something I say all the time, “Stay Curious!” and she asks us to pay attention to how the external is affecting the internal.  

Go to StephanieThoma.com/freebie for a free download of her Working Remotely Worksheet

Here to grab a copy of her book!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089ZZ6T58?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420&fbclid=IwAR33ff1ygDJQdE5HNyy2brb1RCZYeWRiF-T361X3KjrfO2i3-YN0SgOnguQ

Final words? “Trust Yourself,” she says.

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We all have voices in our heads, those not ours, that still follow us.

We’ve been told what to do, wear, eat, and how to be.

I was told that I wasn’t living into my potential and I was laughed at by a teacher in high school who called me ridiculous for thinking I’d ever earn a PhD.

I was told that there are two types of audiences: those that want to see you make a mistake and those who hope you fail.

How horrible that those voices got in and stuck with me. Despite the influencers’ voices, I went on. I made it. I knew there was more for me.

And you know there’s more for you, too. The trick is that you have to start paying attention to the voices that are guiding you. Are They Yours?

Chances are, they’re from some authority that you adopted as your own. And, chances are, those voices really aren’t serving you.

It’s time to let go of realistic and embrace possibility, real possibility.

It’s time to break free from the shoulds and supposed to's and live into a life of being Unreasonable!

Look for Amazon Prime TV’s series SpeakUp! 

I’m a featured speaker in Season Two and my segment is all about The Power of Being Unreasonable!

Want to break from the voices from the past and step into a more powerful future for yourself. Reach out to me to get in on the next Powerful Presence Program - a three-month online group program designed to get you to your next big next!

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Moving from Influence through Success to true Significance is an art.

It’s a magical journey.  

By my definition, an influencer is someone who makes the process about themselves. Whether through Social Media or a person in authority along your path (a parent, a teacher, etc.) you’ve been told things for the sake of fitting in.

I move beyond that to Outfluence™.

An Outfluencer™  is someone who Deliberately, Actively, Positively™ impacts, and uplifts the lives of others.

Success is about getting and having. It’s how you measure your progress. And, it’s not the only measure of progress.

Back to Outfluence™. When you lift others Deliberately, Actively, Positively™, you act in a way that leaves a more lasting legacy. THAT is Significance.

Be Deliberate

Be Active

Be Positive

...in all of your engagement with others.

That’s Significance

And you can get your own copy of the #1 Best Selling Book, The Significance Factor, by going to DynamicLeader.com and downloading it!

Are you lying to yourself about why you’re procrastinating?

Procrastination is the barometer of your commitment.

So how fully are you committed to doing the thing you say you want to do? Think about any challenges you’ve had in the past. The things you’ve followed through on were the ones you had a full commitment to.

Almost doing something isn’t the same as doing it.

Do you see your taxes being filed every year? Yes, because you’re committed to doing them. You don’t always have to like what you’re committed to. You’ll follow through, though.

So what about the things you DO like? 

Are you committed to following your dreams? The process will be hard. You will fail along the way. And as long as you’re learning, you’re going to make it happen… IF your commitment is stronger than the obstacles.

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So many high-level executives are disillusioned with being “at the top.” 

The thing is, if you’re lonely at the top, you’re doing it wrong.

The other thing to remember is that YOU are a leader, no matter where you are in an organization, family, or community. YOU. You’re a model for someone. If you’re around people, you’re being observed.  

So, you owe it to yourself to be your best self.

Key points in this episode:

• Push
• Serve Greatly
• Excel

How? Five key things you need to be valuing. Then, leading (and being in the state of leading = leadership) won’t suck.

1. Value your time. No one else will if you don’t. Be willing to delegate (not abdicate).
2. Value your health, energy, and vitality. Invest in your sleep, what you eat, and how much you smile. Breathe in deeply and exhale fully.
3. Value the people around you. Everyone wants to know that what they’re doing makes a difference and they want to be acknowledged for contributing. Can you make sure that the people around you in your organization AND at home know that?
4. Value your financial resources. Are you obsessing or checking and tracking? Or, do you have your head in the sand instead of checking and tracking? Yeah, it’s that check and track thing. Do that.
5. Value your growth and development. The most elite and highest performing athletes have coaches that help them get better. Not because the coaches are better athletes, but because the coaches can see things that the players can’t. You NEED an outside perspective if you’re going to move to your next level. If you’ve had a coach, you know that’s true. If you’ve never had a coach, it’s time to find one.

If you’d like to know more about getting elite-level coaching to get you to your next step, or to find out what program might be the best fit, schedule a complimentary call with me!

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One Sharp Sword - Cutting Through To What Matters Most with Dr Wayne Pernell is meant to be thought-provoking and inspiring.  

This show offers no advice or counsel related to law, finance, or health (either physical or mental).  You are listening at your own discretion and interpreting what you hear in your own way.  This show is meant for entertainment purposes and no claims of enhancement or enrichment of any sort are indicated or implied.  Nope, this show doesn’t promise to make you better looking.  But hey… look at you now!  Listen in!  Enjoy!

Are you sick of being shut in and fed up with the rules, especially the rules that are changing?

You’re not alone. And even with all of the rules, imagine what would happen if all of a sudden it were announced that we could “go back to normal.” There would be chaos!

Most of us have found things we like in the past six months. Personally, my commute is shorter. My trips to the gas station are infrequent. And I get to have lunch with my wife almost every day. That’s something that didn’t happen last year.

None of this is personal - it’s not being done TO YOU; it’s a pandemic and if you look at some of the newspapers from around the world, you’ll see that it really isn’t political. 

Here are the key things to remember:

1. You are strong
2. You are courageous
3. You are resilient

This is not about what you can’t have. 

This is about what you can do, have, or be with you do have!

Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www.WaynePernell.com/blog