Optimal Parenting Daily

Ever go through a “dry spell” in your relationship?

Today’s episode is inspired by a listener email/question about reconnecting with your partner after a dry spell and how it can feel awkward

Why do you think it feels awkward? Is there anything we can do to help with that, to prevent dry spells and minimize the impact of them?

I dive into my feelings about what causes dry spells as well as what we can do to stay connected with our partner and cultivate deeper intimacy as our relationships evolve.

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Orgasmic Mama - www.sarahbivens.com/om

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Ever fantasize about running away from everything that’s stressing you out?

Is it just me that occasionally has that daydream of getting in the car and driving until I see the ocean?

As fun as that can be, it’s not a very healthy way to cope with whatever is going on. Because here’s the thing, and the essence of today’s Momtra: you can’t run away from yourself. Wherever you go, there you are. Along with your baggage and whatever you’ve been avoiding and in denial over.

What’s really going to free to you enjoy your life, no matter where you are, is to dig deep and do the internal work. To let go of the sh** and the stuff that doesn’t serve you.

Looking for somewhere to start, to lean into that process? Orgasmic Mama launches in 1 week! Go to www.sarahbivens.com/om to be on the notification list so you can jump in as soon as we’re live!

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Orgasmic Mama - www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

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Do you mind your language and the things that you say?

I’m not talking about censoring yourself -- far from it!

I’m here to encourage you to express yourself fully, and use words and energy behind them that support you in communicating effectively and powerfully.

From the pitfalls that I believe get us off track from using our voice and speaking our truth, to some of the best pieces of communication tools I’ve used in my own life and relationships.

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

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Where are you giving out more energy than you need to?

In today’s Monday Momtra episode, I’m taking some inspiration from one of my clients to bring you a way to look at how you are allocating your precious energy. One way to look at it is - where in your life are you bringing the equivalent of a homemade cake (I’m talking from scratch...a lot of effort and time), when you could just be using the box mix (or dare I say even purchasing a ready-made cake)?

Take a look at your roles and responsibilities and see where you can adjust as necessary, to make sure you’re not burning out or ended up frustrated and resentful for the choices you yourself are making. Because you have choice. You have the opportunity to take back your power and do things on your terms that work best for you.

And don’t forget to get on the list for Orgasmic Mama, launching May 13th!

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Did you realize that you give birth almost everyday?

I’m sorry….what?!

Hang with me for a second. In this episode I’m talking about birth, but not in the way we’re used to talking about it. I’m talking about giving birth to things that are not our human children. Birthing thoughts, ideas, projects, opportunities for love and healing.

Because that’s what we do. We hold intentions in our wombs - our hubs for creative energy, and we bring things to life.

I share some of my personal experience with understanding my birthing powers as well as give you some options and perspectives with which you can look at your abilities to manifest in your life.

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - https://www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

Doing It At Home podcast - https://www.diahpodcast.com/

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What do you normally say when someone asks you, “How are you?”

99.9% of the time we’ll say “good!” and that’s the end of that.

What if this week you tried switching that up? What if you said, “awesome” or “fantastic” instead?!

This Momtra is another challenge to you to try something different next time you’re in a greeting with either a stranger or someone close to you, and see what happens. I guarantee some magic will come out of it.

And tag me on Instagram @sarahmbivens or message me with your experience!

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Would you consider yourself a worrier?

A lot of us identify with worry, and even feel the need to worry. Like worrying more about things shows that you care, you’re more dedicated. Hell, some would even argue that the more you worry, the likelihood that that makes you a better mom.

Well I’m not interested in the experience of worry, and in my own journey as well as the work I’ve done with clients, I found a solid 3-step strategy for reducing worry. So in this episode I’m talking about how we typically look at worry, along with a different way to approach it. Plus the 3 steps for taking back your power, owning your responsibility and increasing your awareness when it comes to the worry that you don’t have to hold onto.

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - https://www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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When is the last time that you spent money on yourself, purely for yourself?

If it took you longer than a few seconds to think about it, then you need to listen to this episode.

In this week’s Momtra, I challenge all of us to drop some dough on ourselves this week. And you don’t have to go buck wild. I’m talking about the practice of our self worth - the understanding and belief that we are worth investing in and spending money on.

Because we won’t hesitate to buy stuff for our kids, our spouse, the home...but when it comes to us? We’re chilling in our leggings from college and bras with warped wires inside (completely random example...lol #guilty).

So buy something for yourself this week. And document it and tag me either in a video or picture (@sarahmbivens on Instagram) and I will send you back a video message, acknowledging your act of self-love.

Links:

Orgasmic Mama list - https://www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

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Does a problem or thing ever pop up in your life and you think, “Didn’t I deal with this already? What the hell?!”

Today’s episode is inspired by a bunch of random different occurrences and themes in my life lately. It’s honestly almost like 4 episodes rolled up into one. So, you’re welcome! (This could either be the best idea or the worst idea lol)

The main theme here is to continue to work on yourself...continue to open yourself up to a space of greater love and understanding for yourself. Because important things need reminding, it’s necessary to revisit things we’ve learned and to keep ourselves in a space of growth. Big magic happens here - we heal past stuff, create room for new possibilities and make a bold, unapologetic stand for who we are. Let’s do this thing!

Links:

Orgasmic Mama - https://www.sarahbivens.com/om

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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What can our kids teach us about faith, wonder and possibility?

That’s what I want to talk about in today’s Monday Momtra episode. Inspired by my recent email to the weekly subscribers (go to my website and drop your email address right there on the home page to start receiving these from me!), I’m expanding upon the conversation of how we can be in a space of greater possibility for ourselves and our children (And if you’re not a mom - this is still super relevant. You can look to any kiddos to see what I’m talking about and still incorporate it into your life).

This is a great opportunity to unpack and evaluate our own sets of ideas and beliefs as we watch young ones experience things for the first time. How are we holding space for them, and how are we healing and growing and learning through the process?

Links:

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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