Optimal Parenting Daily

What do you do when your child has a tantrum?

I don’t even like that word honestly, but I’m using it here for the purpose of context. Lately, my two-year-old Maya has been testing out her range of emotions, and exploring the responses that exercising those emotions might provoke.

I’m gonna be real with you - it’s been a challenging past day and a half. I got a little bit of a cold, puked, parented from the couch, got screamed and kicked at multiple times...so in the midst of Maya working through her feelings, I came very close to losing my sh**.

So come with me on this little journey. This is just me sharing some tales from the trenches of motherhood, and how I used my resources, the village, to get my power back and do what I do (be a badass goddess mama!).

Links:

Episode 36 that I reference in this conversation - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/036-how-being-an-abundant-lover-makes-me-a-better-mother/id1326237425?i=1000408316810&mt=2

 

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Ready to up your visualization game?

This Monday Momtra is inspired by a quote from Napolean Hill. Let’s just say it f***ed me up. In a great way. It made me think differently about how I’m envisioning and manifesting in my life. So of course I wanted to share it with you!

Here’s the quote:

“The intensity with which you impress your subconscious with a picture of your plan directly affects the speed with which the subconscious will go to work to attract the picture’s physical counterpart by inspiring you to take the right steps.”

Share with me your thoughts on this and where you see it apply in your life!

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Why do we settle for bull***?

But seriously, why? Why will we become a real-life meme representation of “it’s fine, I’m fine!” when it is not in fact fine and we are not fine?!

Today I’m exploring why we might settle for things in our lives, pulling from some of my own examples. Smaller examples of compromising ourselves and settling for less sets a tone and a pattern for how we then see ourselves, conduct ourselves and value ourselves.

I’m proclaiming no more settling, and instead, embracing our choice to experience what we want!

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What’s your word for this year?

Each year I like to pick a word to set an intention and energy around what I want to create and accomplish and experience. So I’m sharing the word of 2019 for me, what it means and how I plan to use it. Let me know if it inspires your intention-setting for the year!

Links:

UYHB Course, code BADASS2018 - https://www.sarahbivens.com/badasscourse

Balancing Motherhood Retreat Website, code RELAXWITHSARAH - https://mailchi.mp/a65e91edc93f/tbhbalancingmotherhood

Balancing Motherhood Retreat Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/events/752569045107263

Tranquility By HeHe - https://www.tranquilitybyhehe.com/

 

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Can motherhood and sexuality work together?

This is a question I was asking myself a couple of weeks ago, and next thing I knew I was knee-deep in articles about motherhood and sexuality and the conversation of their compatibility (or lack thereof). So in today’s episode I’m sharing some of my findings and my thoughts on the themes that come up.

Like why do we seem to ignore sexuality once women become mothers? Why do we deny the multidimensional aspect of mothers and that they can actually enjoy sex?

How can you connect with your sensuality and sexuality and allow that to fuel your role as a mother? Listen in to find out!

Links:

UYHB Course, code BADASS2018 - https://www.sarahbivens.com/badasscourse

Balancing Motherhood Retreat Website  - https://mailchi.mp/a65e91edc93f/tbhbalancingmotherhood

Balancing Motherhood Retreat Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/events/752569045107263

Tranquility By HeHe - https://www.tranquilitybyhehe.com/

DIAH podcast episode 134: https://www.diahpodcast.com/single-post/A-Maternity-Concierge-and-Doula-Shares-How-to-Pamper-Yourself-During-Pregnancy-with-HeHe-Stewart

Articles mentioned in episode:

Can Motherhood and Sexuality Coexist by Rachel Khona - https://www.scarymommy.com/can-motherhood-and-sexuality-coexist/

Igniting Sensuality & Embracing Sexuality in Motherhood by Carley Mendes  - https://www.ohbabynutrition.com/blog/igniting-sensuality-embracing-sexuality-in-motherhood

10 Ways Motherhood Actually Helped Me Embrace My Sexuality Steph Montgomery  - https://www.romper.com/p/10-ways-motherhood-actually-helped-me-embrace-my-sexuality-54708

The Real Reason Motherhood Kills Your Sex Life by Adriana Velez - https://thestir.cafemom.com/love/177923/motherhood_killing_marriage_sex

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It’s that time when we start thinking about a new year...resolutions, intentions, possibilities.

I encourage you to go bold. Commit to yourself and be relentless, unwavering in your pursuit of knowing yourself and loving the process of continuing to uncover who that is.

How do you get to know yourself? My answer: you dive into figuring out what matters most to you, what makes you tick, what you actually want out of life. And then you own that shit!

My online course, Unleash Your Humble Badass is a guided process to your self-discovery. It’s the blueprint I’ve used in my own life and use with all of my clients to get clear on identity, desire, purpose, passion and direction.

And it’s going away -- I’m retiring it after 2018 to work on other projects. So I’m offering it now at 25% discount -- normal cost is $197, that makes it $147. Use the code BADASS2018 when you purchase -- that’s BADASS2018

Because how can you create the life you want, if you don’t know what you want? How do you love yourself if you don’t know yourself. Answers: you can’t!

So take that leap into a new year and get clear with yourself.

Links:

Unleash Your Humble Badass Course - https://www.sarahbivens.com/badasscourse

 

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Why do some of our relationships in our lives suck?

Such a great question to ponder, especially around the holidays when we might be interacting with a lot of different people that have various roles and depths of intimacy in our lives.

So for this week’s Momtra, I’m encouraging you to look at how you’re showing up in your relationships, specifically the space that you are holding for others around you.

Take a look at where you could evolve how you view the people around you and then see what impact that has on how you experience interactions with them.

Links:

Website - www.sarahbivens.com

Instagram - https://instagram.com/sarahmbivens

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Remember that power and strength that you used to bring your child(ren) earthside?

Mmmkay, so why do we forget about it or leave it within the confines of birth?

Today’s episode was inspired by a beautiful aha moment that my husband Matthew had. While driving along in the car one day he said, “No mother should ever question how capable she is!”

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Do you notice the signs from the universe?

Yes, I went there. I believe in signs. I believe in things showing up to test what we’ve said and stood for. I believe in things working in divine time and place. I believe in magic.

In today’s Momtra, I’m sharing some recent examples from my life that reminded me to trust the signs. I also received a lesson in attachment and the opportunity to see where I’m at with my levels of allowing and resistance.

Links:

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

BAM Tribe - https://www.sarahbivens.com/bamtribe

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Can your sex heal? Today is the third and final episode of the latest series I’ve brought you: Sex and Healing. It’s a conversation originally posted on the “Make Everyday YourDay” podcast, similar to Friday’s episode. This one gets turned up to a whole new level. I sat down with Day and got into a real, raw, honest, transparent and loving conversation about Abundant Love. We go over the meaning as well as how it has evolved and played out over the years, particularly in my understanding of myself and my personal healing.

Let’s be clear here: this is some mature-ass content and conversation. We get specific in a (lovingly) unapologetic way. I encourage you to listen at your own risk and with an open mind.

Links:

Make Everyday YourDay podcast - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/make-everyday-yourday/id1386360493?mt=2

100 Habits for Balance and Self-Love - https://www.sarahbivens.com/100habits

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