Optimal Parenting Daily

Have you experienced postpartum anger?

I think it’s important that we’re bringing more awareness to the cocktail of emotions that mothers can experience at any particular stage of the journey. Today, I want to talk about anger, or what I am classifying as “hot boiling mom rage.” Yep, that’s my scientific term for what I’ve realized I’ve experienced off and on for about a year now.

It took loving and supportive friends around me to dissect it and get to the root of where it was coming from. Come to find that it goes back decades. And that I’ve actually always had the anger hanging out there, but I just wasn’t managing it in a healthy or effective way. I was in denial about the fact that I had been angry and had suppressed it. So now, as my anger sat so clearly in front of me, it had me asking the question, “What the hell do I do with it?”

From conversations with little me to seeing my daughter Maya as one of my greatest teachers in this lesson, I get real and raw with you in this episode. So see where you might relate to any of it and how you could learn from some of my experience to heal your own anger.

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Are you taking time to celebrate yourself this week?

Well, I encourage you to do so because it’s a celebration over here on the Balance and Motherhood podcast. It’s episode 100! Woooo!

So I have 3 ways to celebrate yourself - from how to talk about yourself to the fears you’re holding onto to keeping an abundance of love and energy that you use for yourself and share with others.

Listen, you’re awesome. Grade-A badass. So celebrate that! Join me in to 100-episode celebration and love on yourself!

Links:

Balanced Mama Moments Album - https://www.sarahbivens.com/balanced-mama-moments

BAM Tribe Group Coaching - https://www.sarahbivens.com/bamtribe

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How are your experiences in the bedroom mirroring the rest of your life?

Chances are that a lot of our beliefs around sex overlap into other areas of our lives. So how can you use the space of sexual intimacy to cultivate healing and tap into your power?

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a conversation that I had with my husband Matthew on his podcast, “Having It ALL.” We planned on talking about other things, but what do you know - we ended up on the topic of sex and it totally shifted the direction of the episode.

We talk about we have both been proactive in our sexual healing recently, after recognizing that we were holding on to fears and limitations that were preventing us from experiencing ourselves at our full expression. From reprogramming fears around certain positions to premature ejaculation, this is a fully transparent and mature conversation. Listen in to hear why we attribute so much of our personal growth and transformation to our connection with our sexual energy.

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How many of us rely on things outside of ourselves to validate our worth and legitimize our abilities?

In today's Monday Momtra I'm sharing a list of things that I refuse to allow to give me approval and sense of satisfaction.

The time to affirm, inspire and motivate yourself is now! You don't need the titles, the people, the experiences to be true to who you are.

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Why is it so easy to blame our parents for all of our problems?

The thing is, most of us will be faced with exploring and dealing with how we feel about our parents at one point or another. Regardless of the depth of our relationships, there’s a connection and an influence that those bonds have on us.

In today’s episode I’m walking through why and how we blame our parents for our “stuff.” Then I offer a few perspectives to try out for yourself when it comes to releasing that blame and judgement and finding some peace with the situation.

Maybe your parents were too hard on you. Maybe they didn’t push you enough. Maybe you fixate on what they did or didn’t do and because of that, you are the way you are. My question is: how does this empower you and bring you closer to healing? And how does it support you in motherhood?

You have the incredible opportunity right now to recognize and acknowledge what you can change moving forward, to create a new experience and paradigm for your children.

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Ever feel like losing your sh**?

In today’s Monday Momtra, I’m giving all of us permission to fall apart when we need to. Sometimes we hold onto this superhuman status that means we’re not allowed to let our emotions out, cleanse and detox the stuff that’s not serving us when it’s tucked away.

I’m sharing some personal experience of stressful and emotional times for our family and how I took on extra responsibility, emotional stress and energy. The awareness that I had of my choice to let go if and when I needed to helped me move through it.

So this week I encourage you to give yourself the space and the allowance to unravel, let the pieces fall and then pick up only the ones you need to carry you onto the next phase.

Links:

My website: https://www.sarahbivens.com/

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Have you heard of ASMR?

ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response, according to Wikipedia is “is an experience characterized by a static-like or tingling sensation on the skin that typically begins on the scalp and moves down the back of the neck and upper spine.”

I hadn’t heard of it until a couple of weeks ago and when I first explored it I thought it was a little strange. But then I revisited with an open mind and realized that I’ve absolutely experienced this multiple times throughout my life, but just didn’t give it much attention or allow it to benefit me in ways that I now understand it can.

So I share some of my findings from diving into the world of ASMR and why I think we should carve out a niche in it just for mamas.

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What happens when you don’t put fuel in your tank?

Whether it’s your car, your cell phone or your self - stuff doesn’t work when you don’t power it up properly.

In today’s Monday Momtra, I’m going rogue from my usual note taking and outline and just spitting what comes to my mind in the moment around the topic of getting angry when things don’t work (when we didn’t take the time to care for them).

So my advice this week is to figure out what you can plug into, what you can use as fuel to support you and take massive action to make sure you take care of you!

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What does transformation look like?

Today is a super powerful episode that I’m so excited to bring to you. I’m sharing an excerpt from one of my coaching calls with a client, and in it we’re reflecting on her experience and the shifts in her life.

This conversation is nothing short of inspirational, as it’s a true testament to the power of believing in yourself, committing to your greatness, trusting the process and utilizing the support of people around you. This is the realness the transparency and the magic that comes from learning how to truly love yourself, creating breakthroughs in your challenges and the things that hold you back and owning your worth.

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How do you balance motherhood and entrepreneurship?

It’s an awesome question that has lots of flaky, delicious layers to it. Because there isn’t one direct answer or way of going about it. Everyone navigates it differently. But it’s time I addressed it on the show. And I’m doing it in a fun and different way.

I’m sharing a segment from a podcast episode that I did with my husband Matthew on the show we host together (Doing It At Home). We addressed a question on how we balance our schedules, working from home, parenting and childcare. I love this conversation because you get both parents’ perspectives. We get specific on the details of our calendar, how our weeks flow and then how we constantly check in with ourselves and remember why we’ve chosen this lifestyle.

Then I give some solo feedback at the end of the episode. This is relevant for any parent regardless of the work and lifestyle. Because these topic impact all of us as we raise our kids and also grow as individuals.

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