Optimal Parenting Daily

What happens if someone doesn’t want to move beyond their bull**** and create something different?

Simple answer: nothing. They’ll stay in their bull****. Because the impetus for change in our lives has to come from an internal source.

You could have coaches, friends, loved ones give you all the advice and tell you how awesome and capable you are until they’re blue in the face, but if you don’t want it for yourself - real shift won’t happen.

In this Momtra (a day late, I know!), I’m sharing 3 things that differentiate people who don’t want to make a shift and those who do. And how you can build upon those things to strengthen your desire to make the changes and experience what you want in life.

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What does sex mean for you?

Have you even thought about that and broken that question down for yourself? I’ve been inspired recently by a few things I’ve watched and listened to around female sexuality and it’s brought me to a very clear conclusion: WOMEN ARE SO MORE POWERFUL.

So I go through some of my wow moments around the female’s incredible capacity for sexual energy from multiple orgasms to the magic of the clitoris. And yet, there are billions of women walking around with underutilized and untapped sexual energy.

Then I share some ideas for healing shame and judgement and limiting beliefs around sex which include honest conversations and revisiting past circumstances to release the blockages and start walking more consistently in that divine feminine orgasmic bliss!

Show Notes:

Women’s Sexuality Isn’t “Complicated” TedxTalk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cQqmMVOsriI

Nicole Daedone TedxTalk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9QVq0EM6g4

Netflix show “Explained” - https://www.vox.com/2018/5/23/17378322/vox-netflix-show-explained

BAM Tribe Group Coaching - https://www.sarahbivens.com/bamtribe

 

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Why does it seem like the “harried mother” is the most popular type of mother?

I know noone is perfect, and I’m certainly no exception. However I do grow tired of the idea that if life isn’t constantly a hot mess and I’m not within an inch of losing all of my hair and sanity, that it’s not the real authentic experience of motherhood.

I’m not talking about the moments where it is tough. Those happen. I like to believe though, that in general, I’m doing my best and the universe is working in my favor. I don’t see the use or help in putting myself down for the fear of threatening anyone else or making them feel bad.

Today’s Momtra encourages you to acknowledge that you are doing a great job, and more things are probably in place than you think - it’s about shifting the relationship and perspective to those things. Because then you inspire and uplift others, and we all win!

Links: BAM Tribe Group Coaching - https://www.sarahbivens.com/bamtribe

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Why do we beat ourselves up over things that don’t really matter in the grand scheme?

Today’s Momtra is a reminder for you of just some of the things that your child(ren) doesn’t care about. These are things that when you let them go and release unhealthy fixation on, you’ll find you have more time and energy to be present with your kiddos.

Because it’s natural to get caught up in the things that we think make us more important and valuable and better moms. That’s why we check in every so often and make sure we’re on path with what aligns with who we are and who we want to be.

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What are the fears that are holding you back in your life right now?

In today’s bonus Momtra, we’re talking about fears: facing them vs. not facing them. And spoiler alert: those scenarios don’t create the same result.

I’m also sharing some exciting news in the Balance and Motherhood community and what I’ve learned from dedicating myself to a specific habit for 30 days straight.

Links:

BAM Tribe Group Coaching - https://www.sarahbivens.com/bamtribe

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Ever apologize to someone for how you’re feeling?

I know I have. I used to say sorry all the time for having certain emotions. And I absolutely hated being called an “emotional” person. Like it meant that I didn’t think rationally or apply logic to situations. I judged myself for it and internalized people’s responses and labeled myself a “basket case.”

Fast forward and I see the incredible power of our emotions. For one thing, we have them - there’s no getting around that. And the other thing has to do with how we relate to them and process them. Having emotions is not the issue. Addressing them, allowing them and releasing them when necessary - that is more important.

In this Momtra, I’m encouraging you to quit apologizing for feeling and instead find ways to connect more deeply with yourself and understand your emotions and how to use them.

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How do you trust your intuition?

Enter: your internal GPS. And I’m not talking about the app that you use on your phone to navigate traffic. I’m talking about the Goddess Positioning System: your internal guidance mechanism.

You have an innate sense within you of what aligns and what serves. Lots of times things get in the way and block our connection and we lose our trust in ourselves.

In today’s Momtra I invite you to practice tuning into your GPS.

And guess what - there will be a Momtra everyday this week, to make up for my being out of town last week. So get ready for a daily dose of AIM - affirmation, inspiration and motivation to flood your ear drums and empower you throughout the week!

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Have you taken time to unplug recently?

This is a short, sweet announcement for ya that I will be out of town this upcoming week. So no new episodes until Monday, August 27, 2018.

I’m practicing what I preach and I’m taking time to reset, recenter and practice my own sense of balance. So Matthew, Maya and I will be in Florida - enjoying quality time together.

I encourage you over this next week to unplug in your own ways. Say no to things that push your bandwidth. Take a min-mental vacation for yourself. And you know during my time away that my creative juices will be flowing and I’ll be ready to bring you some more awesome episodes shortly!

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How do you let go of insecurities and hangups around your physical body?

Today’s Monday Momtra is a listener-requested topic around this question.

I searched into some of my own healing and rescripting as it relates to loving my body as well as things I’ve observed in others, and I’m bringing you a list of 5 things you can do right now to start creating a new story and conversation - one that acknowledges how beautiful and magnificent your body is!

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How do you feel about God?

In today’s episode, I’m getting real about my relationship with the man/woman/energy/source upstairs. Preface and disclaimer here that these are my own thoughts, beliefs and opinions and I am in no way making any assumptions or judgements on your own spiritual journey. I’m simply sharing a piece of my story, without any intention of offending or negating anyone else’s.

For me, connection with “God” and spiritual awareness impacts every area of my life - my health, my marriage, my role as a mother and my work. So I dive in and share some past paradigms that I needed to work through and heal in order to create a healthier relationship with elements outside of myself. Plus some things I do to stay spiritually fit.

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