Optimal Parenting Daily

Do you ever feel resentment toward your significant other?

No matter the reason or how big or small, resentment is a very significant thing that can pop up in relationships. And when not addressed, has serious long term effects.

So today I’m talking about the ways I’ve experienced and witness resentment in mine and other relationships. Then some ideas on what we can do or reflect on to shift those feelings. And finally I share some tips on things you can talk about with our partner to work on it together.

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Do you feel like there are things you can’t say, do, be or have now because you’re a mom?

Whether it’s wear a certain outfit, have time to yourself, curse or enjoy sex...sometimes we use the excuse or we let others make the excuse for us that we’re excluded from parts of life now that we’ve become a mother.

Today’s Momtra is an affirmation to remind you that you are limitless. And nothing about being a mother needs to stop you or hold you back from anything you want.

So instead of “but I’m a mom!” it can be, “yeah, so I am a mom...AND…” You fill in the blank! You get to decide!

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How do you (did you) feel about turning 30?

There’s a lot of conversation around this age milestone. So I dive into some of what I used to think about it. Imagine crying and mourning the loss of youth, looking down the hill that is life ending as we know it.

And then I talk about how I feel about it now that I’m 6 months away from this graduation into a new decade. So whatever side of 30 that you’re on, this gives you a chance to look at your present and get the fullness of the experience of the age you’re in and to look forward to what’s around the corner.

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What does it mean to cultivate intimacy within yourself?

Do you love yourself? Do you like yourself?

Today I’m sharing some thoughts on what it looks like to invest in the most important relationship you have in your life - the one you have with yourself.

Think of it this way: intimacy - IN TO ME I SEE.

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What can something like breastfeeding teach you about life?

Well, that’s what I’m talking about in today’s episode. I’ve been breastfeeding my daughter Maya for 21 months now. And I’ve certainly gained some life lessons in the process. So even if you haven’t breastfed or don’t plan to, these are things you can appreciate outside of an act like nursing.

So I share the main takeaways for me, as well as some of the real, raw no-filter kinda stuff. And it’s a really fitting time to talk about it because I’m also in the process of weaning. So it’s been teaching me about transition, being aware of how I’m relating to choices in my life and what I can do to influence myself powerfully within them.

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Do you have any relationships in your life that you wish were different?

Do you have people that you wish you could change?

Today’s Monday Momtra throws out an idea for dealing with some of this - enjoy people where they’re at. Stop trying to put expectations and things on a relationship that aren’t necessarily in alignment with the type of energy and frequency you’re seeking.

It’s natural to want things for people - to see their potential and hold space for that. But what if we could put judgement aside, and just enjoy what we can get out of how we’re able to receive someone at any particular point in life. I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT SETTLING FOR CRAPPY RELATIONSHIPS. I’m saying that if someone is in your life, and you continue to keep them there - appreciate the variety in the different types of connections you can create and have. It’s about reading the situation and being able to show up to it in a way that works for you, brings value and you also get something out of the exchange.

They can be themselves. You can be yourself. And you can grow from there.

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How many honest and mature conversations have you heard about anal sex?

“Woah, wait...what? Anal sex? Is that really what I just read - on a show called Balance and Motherhood??”

Yes indeed!

If you’ve listened to the show before, you’ve probably gathered that I’m not afraid to be transparent and vulnerable. Welp - here we go! A continuation from a brief discussion in one of the previous sex series episodes.

If you’re like me, no one talked to you in real way about anal sex, other than judgements and jokes. So that’s what I’m doing today. Just having a casual conversation on some of my experience and take on the whole thing.

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Ever have to make a compromise in your life? Of course you have, you’re human! It’s basically part of the experience, so long as you’re choosing to interact with any other humans. It’d be impossible to count the number of decisions we make in a day. From the big to the small. Some of them are bound to be more towards the bottom of our list of preference. So how do you deal with those choices. Do you accept them and move on, or tend to linger a bit longer in the resistance and frustration around doing something that you don’t really wanna do? For me, in my past I held resentment around things I chose...but begrudgingly. I expected something in return from the people involved - emotional penance. I wanted people to feel bad or beholden to me for settling for them. So I’d piss and moan and huff and puff. And the person it was hurting the most was ME. This Momtra is all about owning your decisions - all of them. And being in a peaceful space about it. For your own wellbeing and benefit!

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Ever have a pivotal moment in your life that you feel like it could go either way?

Meaning it could lead to total breakdown or total breakthrough.

I’m opening up today and getting real, raw, vulnerable and transparent with you about some events that built upon each other and brought me to a space of feeling cracked, or better yet - shattered completely into a million pieces.

I went into the doldrums of the mind and spirit and basically questioned everything about my existence. I walk you through the process - from sexual intimacy and healing to rejecting feedback and advice to releasing toxic energy and the need to please everyone. I believe everyone can relate to at least one aspect of this experience.

It’s fascinating what shows up and what possibilities unfold when you feel like you’re in your darkest hour. This is one of those stories. This episode is sponsored by The Bloomi, an online community for women to find organic and non-toxic intimate care products. Go to www.thebloomi.com and sign up for their newsletter to learn more and receive a 25% discount code.

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What does it look like to be in your power?

I can’t answer that question for you. It’s up to you. The thing is that we’re not always encouraged to believe that it is actually up to us. We get to determine and proclaim how we want to feel and who we want to be.

We don’t have to buy the ideas or the orders of what others want to pass on to us - whether it’s parents, spouses, friends or culture.

This Momtra is about putting yourself in that space of full tilt. Uncensored. Pure. What do you experience in those moments when you’re fully connected, plugged in and turned on for your life? How do you feel physically, mentally, emotionally? What are you doing and saying and thinking and experiencing?

Let’s get a clear picture of what that looks like. So we can then take that and use it as an inspiration and driver for being that woman as often as possible. To let our average state be that of joy.

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