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What is abundant love?

Here is the middle, the delicious creamy filling, to the Oreo cookie of episodes that I’m bringing you this weekend.

This is a republish of an episode I did back in March of this year. And get this - it is the number 1 downloaded episode of the podcast if you can believe it. So if you haven’t heard it, you need to. And if you have, then it’s a great time to refresh on it so you’ll have some context for the episode that’s coming up tomorrow.

Here’s the original episode description:

What is love to you? What’s the purpose of sex for you?

There are a lot of boxes for different lovestyles: monogamy, non-monogamy, polyamory, polygamy, polyandry, polygyny, open marriage, swingers….any others I’m forgetting?

This is a super personal episode and I’m sharing some big, bold and authentic truths with you about my marriage and identity as an individual.

Here’s how it’s going to flow...I’m going to answer the following questions:

What is Abundant Love?

How did I realize I was an abundant lover?

What lessons have I learned from this process?

How does it make me a better mother?

I’m putting it all on the table. Practicing BEING about what I talk about and encourage on the show. So here it is, folks. Here I am. Enjoy!

Links:

100 Habits for Balance and Self-Love - https://www.sarahbivens.com/100habits

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Are you turned on in your life? What would it look like if you were?

I’m doing something kinda cool and different on the show. I’m bringing you a little series special. Three back-to-back episodes about some deep and vulnerable stuff around relationships, sexuality, love and life.

To kick it off, I’m bringing you an interview I did earlier this year with Saint Day Adeogba on his podcast “Make Everyday YourDay.” Day is a transformation specialist, a connector and a creator. He’s honestly many things, and he’s a very important person in my life. Day interviews me and we talk about some of my healing journey to loving and accepting myself, as well as what it looks like to balance two podcasts, coaching clients, running a business with my husband and navigating motherhood. While taking care of my health, fitness and personal growth through the process. And yes, staying turned on and excited about what I’m creating.

This is a great conversation to start this trilogy of awesomeness that I’m presenting you with this weekend. So settle in and enjoy (but don’t get too comfortable, because sh** is gonna get real!)!

Links:

Make Everyday YourDay podcast - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/make-everyday-yourday/id1386360493?mt=2

100 Habits for Balance and Self-Love - https://www.sarahbivens.com/100habits

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Ever get surprised by the things that show up in your life?

Today’s Momtra is about flipping the script of surprises, and instead looking at circumstances and occurrences as being in direct alignment with what it is we’re putting out there - our thoughts, words and actions.

I believe this perspective empowers us, encourages us to drop any blame stories that we’re running and allows us the space for gratitude and magic. Listen in!

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How do we find balance around the time we spend with our kids and the time we need to tend to ourselves?

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing a truth of mine. And I don’t expect everyone to agree with it. That’s totally fine. Because I’m not trying to tell anyone how to parent. I’m just sharing some recent realizations of mine and how they relate to my experience.

And that big understanding is this: I don’t want to be around my kid all the time. I don’t want to be with her every second of the day.

I found peace with this after two circumstances: Matthew went out of town for the weekend leaving me solo with Maya, and then I went out of town for a weekend by myself leaving him with Maya. Let’s just say both impacted me in a big way.

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What do you do with the things (and people) that hold you back from growing and moving forward?

One idea: let them go.

Today's Monday Momtra episode is about what happens when you start to level up. Things get confronted and what has worked in the past may not work the same anymore. Relationships will change, environments will move. This should be fun!

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What does it mean for you to feel sexy?

In today’s episode I share a quote around sensuality that really inspired me and sparked the conversation for what it is to feel in touch with your sexiness, how to cultivate it and how to be bold in expressing it.

I encourage you and every mom to be juicy. Listen in to find out more!

Links:

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

Erika Lust - https://erikalust.com/

 

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What does it look like to give yourself permission?

This is a question that a client asked me not too long ago. And it opened up the door to some great conversation and realizations around how we honor and value ourselves.

I did an episode not too long ago about giving yourself permission to fall apart, as in breakdown and unravel if that’s what you needed.

Well in today’s Momtra, I’m expanding the permission scope and giving you some tips and takeaways on giving yourself what you need in any given moment.

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What are you grateful for?

I know, I know. Obligatory episode for the week of Thanksgiving. But I promise you, this isn’t your cookie-cutter conversation about gratitude. Because in this week’s Momtra, I’m heavily emphasizing cultivating gratitude within the challenging situations - the ones where it’s easy to forget about gratitude and fixate on the sh**.

So I’m giving you my take on the importance of gratitude, some ideas for habits to build gratitude as well as examples from my life where I can recognize gratitude despite the painful circumstances.

Plus, how gratitude can literally be a superpower!

Links:

7-Day Balance Breakthrough - https://www.sarahbivens.com/breakthrough

 

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How do you deal with other people’s words, actions and energy around your kids?

I don’t normally like talking about parenting itself, because that’s not the focus of the show. But I thought there was some cool crossover here with what it means to use your own voice and truth in challenging situations, regardless of who’s involved. One area to practice is in how we advocate for our children when people might be misaligned with our values, practices, goals, etc for our family and parenting style.

So I dive into the various viewpoints when it comes to other people and some questions to ask ourselves when we’re feeling conflicted on how to handle a situation.

Links:

BAM Tribe enrollment - www.sarahbivens.com/bamtribe

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Why do we choose suffering?

Seriously, I think it’s happening in our lives way more than we realize. We let things stick around and bring a certain level of pain and frustration, and we’ll let it hang out there. We come to tolerate them and go about our days. But what if we stopped and take a moment to identify the group of little things that when compiled together, are actually preventing us from experiencing our lives and ourselves at full volume?

Today’s Momtra was is a brilliant download from one of my clients, Jess. She had this realization that she was allowing certain things to stick around, like small little rocks stuck in your shoe. She’d go throughout the day and neglect to remove these tiny nuisances. And then lightbulb moment - Where am I allowing other “rocks” to stay where they are and how long have I been walking around with them?!

I believe when we hold onto the “rocks in our shoes,” we train ourselves to compromise and accept less for ourselves, expect less of ourselves and invest less in ourselves. So of course, I say f*** that. So what are your rocks and why have you been letting them stay where they are? Just by asking the questions and beginning the awareness, you create the opportunity to let go and release your suffering.

Links:

Unleash Your Humble Badass course - https://www.sarahbivens.com/badasscourse

 

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