Given the busy days Michelle and Suzanne have ahead of them, and to give their livers a break as well, it’s a champagne optional day today. Recent events in both their lives have brought the topic of criticism to the forefront, and form the basis for today’s episode. Drawing upon their own experiences, they have a lot to say about so many aspects of this topic, many of which will be very familiar, some that may just surprise you, and all of which will definitely get you thinking.
Michelle starts things off by sharing some of her wedding ‘crunch time’ items, and then she provides both a definition of criticism and the categories that she applies within it. She and Suzanne go on to look at the various forms that criticism takes, the problems with it, some of their own experiences with it and how they accept it. They finish up by exploring who has the right to criticize, shadow work, and self-criticism. Filled with insights that only experience can provide, our hosts engage in an enlightening examination of this universal topic of criticism, and offer some valuable food for thought for all listeners here today.
Wedding ‘crunch time’ itemsThe definition of criticismMichelle’s categories of criticismConstructive criticism and feedbackProblems with criticismCyber bullyingHow Michelle and Suzanne accept criticismSome of their experiences with criticismGetting blindsided by criticismTaking criticism as an assetWho has the right to criticize you?Shadow workSelf-criticism
“We have to have a police officer present for that time of the reception.”
“I feel like a bitch on wheels this week.”
“It could be an upgrade from Texas wine to, I don't know, box wine.”
“To say that it's constructive criticism is somehow justifying your right to criticize, and I don't necessarily agree with that.”
“Sweat pants, alcohol, and kids always tell the truth.”
“Never send a drunk or an angry email.”
“That was such bullshit criticism, right?”
“It's a dangerous approach to use anger as our vehicle to improve things.”
“To sit back behind a computer screen, not wanting to be part of the action, but criticizing what everybody does, you're not helping the problem. You're just inciting more discontent.”
“I am now 50 years older than that, and I still remember that it's the first thing of criticism that I remember.”
“Take criticism as an asset instead of an insult.”
“Let it go, Suzanne, let it go.”
“I am probably the queen of criticism. I probably criticize people more than anyone else.”
“What good purpose does that serve?”
“I do have a critic in my life, and she's a nasty little bitch.”
“Too much criticism from a good friend turns into ‘I don't want to be around that person anymore.’ ”
“I think that's an incredibly challenging thing to have to do is go to that employer and say, ‘Here's what I think you're doing wrong’ or ‘Here's my opinion of you.’ ”
“Don't be so hard on yourself, accept who you are and what you do as good.”
“I kind of blissfully go through life thinking everything I do is the right thing to do.”
“I have very few regrets in my life… I really feel pretty good about myself.”
“I can be such a bitch, I'm just saying.”
“God, why did I do that? I'm such an idiot!”
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