Orgasmic Birth

Words are powerful - we hear this phrase often. Did you know that this is also applied at birth? In this episode, Debra welcomes Donna Tabas as they discuss how birthing can be a beautiful experience despite the challenges. Listen closely as Donna focuses on the terminologies during birth on what to be mindful of. Often, violent and hurtful words are used in the process, and these are not helpful in facilitating birth. The key is to use nutritive, gentle, and honored words; birth should be treated with utmost regard and respect.

Donna Tabas, CNM, MS, is a Columbia University-trained Certified Nurse Midwife who has been working with birthing families for 39 years, initially as a NICU nurse, then as an RN at a freestanding birth center with midwives, and finally, for the last 18 years as a midwife. Deeply affected by her own first birth experience that ended in a C/S, she went on to birth her second child with a VBAC, and her midwifery passion was born to help other women birth normally with strength and joy. She is committed to evidence-based care but is also aware that birth is deeply affected by issues of the head and heart as well. She is known as the "Science and Soul" midwife. She is now retired, enjoying her 3 grandchildren, completing her book on birthing and spirituality, and continuing to counsel women in their birthing journeys.

In this episode:

• Donna Tabas shares her experience of witnessing the childbirth of a dear friend on the seventh day of Passover, which was a miraculous birth due to her focus on thanking God during her surges.
• Despite many sorrows and challenges, women can still feel the pleasures and joy in life and birthing.
• Birth workers should work to help birthing parents understand that big, powerful sensations are normal and that they are not to be feared.
• There is importance to the different connotations used to describe childbirth. Using words that promote a positive image can help to reduce fear and tension during labor.
• People often use violent and hurtful words when talking about childbirth, which can be harmful to birthing women.
• Using nutritive and gentle terms is the way to help make the birthing process respected and honored.
• Having the baby "delivered" is said so many times in labor in hospitals - as if the mother was a container.

Key Takeaways:

• It is essential to address and release fear, especially in the moments before birth
• Learn the ideologies behind fear to address it
• Sensations are powerful in birth - listen to your body
• The words people use during childbirth can impact the experience
• Be wary of violent or hurtful words - use nurturing words instead

Tweetable Quotes:

"Fear interrupts birth and interrupts the natural flow of birth… If there is fear in the room, help the woman address them… transform fear into strength and power." - Donna Tabas

"It's our job as birth workers to help a woman understand that these really big, powerful sensations are normal… We are strong women, we can do really big and powerful things, and that it's not to be feared." - Donna Tabas

"Pre-labor has its own beautiful function, and there's nothing false about it. And that needs to be honored. It's a real thing. " - Donna Tabas

Connect with Donna Tabas!

Email: [email protected]

Connect with Debra!

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing, and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives, and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.

What is a doula, and why is it essential to have one? In this episode, Debra shares her insights on the role of doulas in childbirth. When we look back historically, it is apparent that female companions during birth, now known as "doulas" were a significant part of the calm, connection and safety for birthing people. Doulas supported others prenatally, and during labor, birth and postpartum. . Research shows that a doula plays an active role in helping to shorten labor, decrease cesarean births and makes birth easier and more satisfying for both mother and baby. Doulas have many benefits for a woman during labor and postpartum, but there are not enough of them in the birthing space. Listen in as Debra discusses how doulas are the missing link in maternity care, and how they can help amplify the voice of the birthing people facilitating informed decision making.

In this episode:

• Doulas offer emotional and physical support during labor and postpartum. Continuous support during labor is beneficial for both mother and baby.
• Doulas are a valuable resource for pregnant women and new parents. They offer support, information and companionship to birthing people.
• There are many benefits to having a doula during childbirth and postpartum, but not enough doulas are available in the space.
• Although the medical model can provide benefits, without careful planning, birth often becomes more of a "medical emergency" or "procedure" instead of the honoring of the emotional, physical and spiritual process that birth holds.
• Listen to episode 4 with Dr. Sarah Buckley to learn about childbirth hormones!
• Doulas add to the privacy and comfort of childbirth. They make a difference in the outcomes for the birthing woman and her partner.
• Visit https://www.dona.org/ for a guide on understanding the roles of a doula and how to find one.
• Doulas are a missing link in maternity care, and as states and employers see the benefits for MotherBaby-Family, they are beginning to include these services in their benefits. Doulas are recommended as a part of global initiatives to provide Safe and Respectful Care such as the www.icichildbirth.org
• Have you had a doula at birth? Tell us about your journey @orgasmicbirth!
• Interested in becoming a doula? Visit our website at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/dona-birth-doula-training/ and download our free guide to becoming a doula at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/become-a-doula/

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional support equals physical wellbeing
• There is no risk in hiring a doula - it should be highly considered
• Having a doula can help reduce fear, provide comfort and increases satisfaction in childbirth
• Fear in labor will slow or stop labor
• Doulas add to the privacy and the connection with your partner
• Having a doula amplifies your voice to ensure you are heard and respected
• Collaboration for birth is best for all - doulas add care

Tweetable Quotes:

"With the transition to a medical model and hospitals, there have been benefits, but also much has been lost, including the roles, skills, and wisdom of support and companionship in birth and postpartum." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

"Fear in labor is designed to slow or stop labor, so it will be longer and harder if the laboring woman does not feel private, safe, and unobserved." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

"Consider having a doula with the knowledge of comfort measures to help you make informed decisions by facilitating communication between you, your doctor, midwife, nurse, and care team. They'll help you to amplify your voice to ensure you're heard and respected and can benefit you, your partner, and your birth." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births and check out Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.

How do we manifest a blissful, orgasmic birth? It involves targetting your limiting beliefs and looking more deeply into our minds and bodies. Today's episode features Gina Ojeda, who will be sharing her powerful personal experience of a blissful birth. Listen in and explore the topic of pleasure, as it is one of the most important factors for a joyful and peaceful experience during and after birth.

Gina Ojeda is a mother, spouse, home keeper, crafter, and lover of nature. She is a Certified Birth Doula through Small Wonders Childbirth, a Certified Lactation Counselor through the Healthy Children Project, and a Postpartum Care Provider through Innate Traditions. Gina has a passion for supporting women in their journey of creating and birthing life. She is also a Licensed Massage Therapist of 7 years, specializing in pregnancy and postpartum massage, and a Certified Yoga Teacher of 8 years, specializing in prenatal yoga and yoga for youth with a mission to educate, inspire & empower women in their childbearing years

In this episode:

• Gina shares her childhood experiences of alcoholism, physical abuse, and trauma that led to her seeking spirituality and healing.
• She chose to have her daughter in a hospital and experienced pain during labor due to her body's natural instinct to bear down but was instructed to lie down instead.
• Gina discusses her journey to becoming interested in childbirth and traditional postpartum care and meeting a mentor who introduced her to postpartum care.
• She begins studying traditional childbirth practices, including hypnosis and visualization, in preparation for her home birth.
• Being surrounded with so much support and care induces the flow of oxytocin - the 'feel good' hormone.
• Home births allow freedom of one's body in contrast to hospital birth, where the doctors and nurses must constantly monitor the mother.
• Watching the documentary "Orgasmic Birth" allows viewers to see a larger community of women experiencing similar natural and empowering births.
• It is important to honor our own birthing experiences and realize the power of self-care and self-love to help us heal from past trauma.
• Gina shares her story of how she overcame fears around childbirth and became more orgasmic during and after pregnancy
• Our mindset and brain rewiring approach to pleasure in birth matters in the experience of childbirth - realize the power of manifestation.

Key Takeaways:

• Focusing on our physiology and spirituality can help us with healing trauma
• Much preparation and education are required for holistic childbirth
• Connecting with your sexual energy allows you for new experiences
• Feeling blissful during labor is possible with the presence of oxytocin
• Manifesting an orgasmic birth is empowering and allows for peace of mind
• Rewiring one's brain may be done through meditation and practicing affirmations
• Realize the power of the brain and manifest a blissful birthing experience

Tweetable Quotes:

"The point of having a home birth is to be at home, go into labor at home, and feel safe and secure." - Gina Ojeda

"Our mind is so powerful, and we literally are the creators of our reality… Reprogramming of the brain is so essential because we are taught that birth is painful and that there's so much to fear… It's just embedded in the collective consciousness… Know [that] it's possible to have an orgasmic, blissful, and ecstatic birth." - Gina Ojeda

Connect with Gina Ojeda!

Website: https://www.gaia-alchemy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gina.ojeda/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gina.ojeda.587

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable

births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the

world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing, and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives, and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.

How significant is the role of oxytocin in our bodies during labor and after birth? Dr. Sarah Buckley joined us in Episode 4 to talk about the hormones of Love, Sex and Childbirth. Today, Dr. Buckley is back to get in-depth on the roles of hormones when interventions are needed and on how to fill the hormonal gap in labor and after birth. Today is essential information to help you make informed decisions about induction and understand the differences between natural and synthetic oxytocin.

Dr. Sarah Buckley is trained as a GP (family physician) with qualifications in GP obstetrics. She has been writing and lecturing to childbirth professionals and parents since 1997 and is the author of the internationally best-selling book Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering. Sarah has a special interest in the hormones of physiological labor and birth and the impacts of interventions. In 2015 she completed an extensive report on this topic, Hormonal Physiology of Childbearing, published with Childbirth Connection (US). She is currently a Ph.D. candidate at the University of Queensland, researching oxytocin in labor and birth and the impacts of maternity-care interventions. She has co-authored several papers on oxytocin in labor, birth, and breastfeeding. Sarah is also the mother of four children, all born at home and now in their teenage years and beyond. She lives on the semi-rural outskirts of Brisbane.

In this episode:

• Hormones of labor and birth include oxytocin, which is responsible for contractions, pain relief, stress reduction, and reward and pleasure activation.
• Oxytocin is released in the brain during labor and breastfeeding, and it helps reduce stress, and switch on dopamine receptors.
• Interventions in childbirth can create hormonal gaps that impact sexual arousal, orgasm, and breastfeeding.
• Having a birth companion, such as a midwife or doula, can help birthing moms feel safer and more secure.
• Low doses of oxytocin infusions do not increase the mother's oxytocin levels much above what she would naturally produce in labor.
• When doses get high, synthetic oxytocin could counteract the calming and natural pain relief, causing stress for the mother.
• Hypoxia (low oxygen levels for the baby) is inevitable during labor and babies have evolved mechanisms to protect themselves.
• Synthetic oxytocin can cause strong contractions to be closer together and compromise the baby's ability to cope.
• The physiological onset of labor is a complex process that is influenced by many different factors, including hormones.
• If labor is induced, the mother's readiness is not as high and she may need to use more stimulating methods to induce labor.
• Epidurals can interfere with the hormones that are necessary for the onset of labor, leading to a slower or even stop in the process.
• Skin-to-skin contact and breastfeeding are important ways to fill in the gap.

Key Takeaways:

• Oxytocin, the well-known hormone of labor and birth, is susceptible to hormonal gaps
• A private and safe space is needed to release oxytocin
• Being in an unfamiliar place can make labor slow down
• Labor is designed to overall be a positive experience
• Be wary of synthetic oxytocin as it may disrupt hormonal balance
• When the mother is not ready to induce labor, stimulating methods are needed
• The hormonal gap needs to be filled after birth to help the mother and baby reconnect

Tweetable Quotes:

"Labor is designed to overall be a positive experience." - Dr. Sarah Buckley

"Both skin-to-skin contact and suckling is the magic ingredient for the hour after birth, it's going to help both mother and baby to release oxytocin and reconnect." - Dr. Sarah Buckley

There are signals that pass between mother and baby that they are ready for labor, they are coordinated. Preparation for labor includes a dramatic increase in oxytocin receptors in the uterus. The mother's uterus becomes very sensitive to oxytocin in the lead up to labor so in her natural physiologic onset she doesn't need to produce much oxytocin to trigger contractions

but when being induced it's a different scenario you don't have that peak readiness

Connect with Dr. Sarah Buckley!

Website: https://sarahbuckley.com/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable

births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the

world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing, and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives, and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.

Did you know that sexual health is just like any other aspect of health? As sexual beings, it's important we understand and honor that sexuality is part of being human, and that there should be no shame is discussing, addressing, and caring for it. Pregnancy and postpartum introduces it's own pleasures, challenges, and differences, so let's take a look at how to maintain pleasurable sexual health throughout these stages.

In this episode, Dr. Rachel Rubin discusses the importance of good sexual health and how pleasure is essential for a healthy relationship. She also stresses the importance of communicating with your partner about your sexual needs in order to maintain a strong bond.

As children grow, Dr. Rubin recommends that parents discuss sexual health with them and provideinformation on how sex works biologically and psychologically. By understanding these matters, families can create a foundation for healthy sexuality, openness and safety.

Dr. Rachel Rubin is a board-certified urologist and sexual medicine specialist. She is an assistant clinical professor of Urology at Georgetown University and works in a private practice in the Washington DC region. She is one of only a handful of physicians fellowship trained in male and female sexual medicine. Dr. Rubin is a clinician, researcher, and vocal educator in the field of sexual medicine. She completed her medical and undergraduate training at Tufts University, her urology training at Georgetown University, and her fellowship training under Dr. Irwin Goldstein in San Diego. In addition to being education chair for the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH), she also serves as an Associate Editor for the Journal Sexual Medicine Reviews.

In this episode:

• Dr. Rachel talks about the importance of understanding our bodies as much as possible.
• Sexual health is important throughout the life cycle, but it's particularly left off the table during pregnancy and early parenting.
• Sexual health is like any other health - it should not be disregarded and should be treated with significance.
• Understanding how hormones work empowers individuals to further understand their responses and biological reasons.
• Dealing with sexual problems involves desire, arousal, orgasm, and pain and entails varying treatments.
• Sometimes a vaginal estrogen prescription will help postpartum for better and faster tissue healing. Physical therapy can also help with muscle healing postpartum.
• The secret to remaining sexually active with a sexual partner is having both individuals gain joy and pleasure - it is never one-sided.
• The genitals are capable of bringing so much joy and life forms through them. Therefore, it should not be seen as shameful or disgusting.
• Focusing on your quality of life may mean varying aspects of health to focus on such as sexual health, mental health, etc.
• Check out https://www.isswsh.org/ to find a provider to help you address quality of life issues.

Key Takeaways:

• Pleasure and joy are important parts of our lives
• Pregnancy, birth, and postpartum issues are a wildfire of hormone changes
• When experiencing discomfort, make that extra visit and put yourself a priority
• Take care of yourself to be able to take care of everybody else
• Search for ways to show intimacy and connection with your partner
• After birth, our bodies will look different and that's okay
• Understand what happens to your body parts to appreciate their function
• Knowledge about the body should start young with no shame
• Sexual organs are body parts - they can experience problems too

Tweetable Quotes:

"Sexual health is just health. It is a part of health. It is a part of how you feel about your own body, about your own pleasure in your own skin. Pleasure is so important. Joy is so important." - Dr. Rachel Rubin

"If you are having pain or discomfort or problems, you have to check back in with your doctor, you have to make that extra visit and put yourself a priority. Remember, you have to put your oxygen mask on first, if you're going to show up to be a good partner, to be a good mother, you have to take care of yourself. And too often women put themselves last. " - Dr. Rachel Rubin

"Understand what the biology is right now, find the ways to have pleasure, find the ways to enjoy each other to show intimacy and connection." - Dr. Rachel Rubin

"Love your body. Love yourself because that's magic, right? What happens there is absolute magic." - Dr. Rachel Rubin

"Don't feel selfish about wanting to maintain your orgasm. Don't feel selfish for wanting sex… It is important, it is valued." - Dr. Rachel Rubin

Connect with Dr. Rachel S. Rubin!

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drrachelrubin?lang=en

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drrachelrubin/?hl=en

Website: https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable

births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the

world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing, and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives, and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.

Are you ready to prioritize your happiness and pleasure? In this episode, Debra shares the acronym P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E.S. and how these steps can deepen your connection to your body and sexuality. After birth, it is common for women to feel less sexy and desirable to themselves and others. Our birth story dramatically impacts how we think about ourselves, our self-esteem, our bodies, and our sexuality, so it becomes necessary to unpack and reflect on it. From there, we can take action, understand where we need healing, and embrace the new, sexy you!

In this episode:

• Have a moment to pause, breathe, and turn your frown upside down to invite the feel-good hormones.
• Debra discusses her book, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Baby, tackling how to navigate through relationships and sexuality.
• Talking about sex and pleasure with friends can help to build support networks.
• People feel less sexy after having a baby, which can impact their relationships and parenting.
• Many factors can contribute to this decrease in sexual desire, including a lack of education about healthy sexuality.
• To find balance in parenting, think about what words describe how you feel about being a parent.
• Daily rituals can help reduce stress and create happiness. One example is brushing your hair for an extra minute.

Key Takeaways:

• Always listen to your body and prioritize your safety and comfort
• Birth shouldn't strip away your dignity and sense of self
• Don't let anyone take your peace and pleasure away
• Parenting can be difficult, but there are resources available to help
• There is a lot to unpack when reflecting on your birth story
• Pregnancy is a time when healing is needed
• Talking about sexual abuse during pregnancy can be helpful
• Look in the mirror and see your beauty and appreciate your new body
• Write down what gives you pleasure

Tweetable Quotes:

"All birthing bodies take time to heal after birth. And everyone heals and is ready for intimacy and sex at different times and in different waves. So always listen to your body, prioritize your safety and comfort." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

"Don't let those old beliefs or lack of knowledge take your pleasure away… Don't let anyone take your peace and pleasure away." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

"Birth is going to impact how we feel about ourselves, our bodies, our self-esteem. And so it's not just another day, I say it holds the secrets to how you feel about yourself, your body, and your sexuality." - Debra Pascali Bonaro

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the world!

Birth is a powerful experience that can help to heal barriers and open the door to more love and intimacy in life. It's time to reclaim the narrative of childbirth.

In this episode, we welcome Piper Lovemore to discuss the transformative power of childbirth. As a woman of color, she had to navigate a broken system that, inherently, treated her differently. Piper has moved from pain to power with purpose. From a troublesome history of racism in childbirth, to ensuring she and her family have the most vested interest in their health. Piper shares why and how she created the births she desired and a family full of connection, communication and love. Piper has been birthing her own children at home using empowered and intuitive free birth for the past six years. She has observed that each child brings a seed of wisdom that helps guide their journey into adulthood.

Piper Lovemore is an original Orgasmic Birth alum. Since birthing her first child in our documentary, she has gone on to welcome 6 more children, at home, via empowered, sovereign, and intuitive free births. Inspired by the concept of birth as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation, she has pursued a passion-driven career in the birth arts and supported hundreds of families as a birth educator, doula, and midwife.

In this episode:

• Piper Lovemore shares how each childbirth requires a type of mother need, teaching us different lessons about ourselves and the process of birthing.
• The journey into motherhood is transformative for Piper, helping her grow in faith and trust in her body and abilities.
• Piper shares her transformative power as a midwife, doula and educator and how she empowers others.
• The experience of transmuting pain from a troublesome history into power is empowering.
• Postpartum is a great opportunity to breathe life into the conversation and access healing.
• Decide to center both your and your partner's truth together and uplift your beliefs.
• Postpartum couples are more likely to encounter adjacent issues, such as hunger and fatigue.
• Keeping an open line of communication and checking in on each other are important ways to show care and support.

Key Takeaways:

• Giving birth can be the most transformative and empowering aspect of life
• Birthing should not be full of disempowerment and shame
• Having a partner who is present and supportive is important
• Do not assume to know - communicate openly with your partner
• Self-care is more than bubble baths and candles - it can be simple and non-luxurious
• Orgasmic Birth is definitely a gateway drug
• Establish a channel of communication allows for authenticity and presence

Tweetable Quotes:

"Black women were subject to a very troublesome history which helped me transmute pain into the type of power that would see me through my process . I felt empowered by the notion that despite having lived in squalid conditions and the open disregard for the well-being of the mother and the baby, my ancestors were able to care for themselves and one another effectively enough for me to be here right now. This told me that 1) birth works and 2) that I and my family have the most vested interest in my own health and my child. ." - Piper Lovemore

"Having established that channel of [open] communication early allowed us [partners] to be authentic and present even in the spaces that are a little bit more challenging to navigate, and we can hold space for one another." - Piper Lovemore

"Create and protect a space to honor the intuition that they bring (baby) . So much of the conversation centers on adult anxiety and medical management . These little beings come with a clear directive, observe their seeds of wisdom that present in such a tiny package.:

"Birth is not something to fear - but can be an empowering journey.:

"Birth as a celebration and ceremony. We have continued to embrace our births in our family as a ceremony and celebration and very low on material trappings, although that is often what we are fed is the appropriate way to prepare. I wanted to reach in and share some of my joy and lend that space to those experiencing stress who are not seeing birth positively reflected around them. Orgasmic Birth is definitely a gateway drug!

Connect with Piper Lovemore:

Website: http://www.lovemoreparadigm.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grandmultipiper/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable

births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the

world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing, and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives, and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.

Sexuality is often seen as a commodity in today's society, which removes its sacredness. The disconnect has led to generations of people not enjoying their birth experience.

Sheila Kamara Hay shares how letting the sexual energy flow from our bodies as opposed to resistance allows for magnified pleasure. Tune in to learn about sensual expansion and how we can activate pleasure within the body to support the progression of your labor. Sheila emphasizes the power of tapping into our natural design and how pleasure is an innate part of our process. Sheila is an Ecstatic Birth visionary and advocate, training birth practitioners in transforming the landscape of birth from pain to pleasure. A leader in the pleasurable birth movement, she believes that childbirth has the potential to be one of the most transforming, empowering, and enjoyable experiences in a woman's life. Sheila is the creator of The Ecstatic Birth Training Sessions, a multidisciplinary digital program empowering women to create pleasurable childbirth experiences.

In this episode:

• Sheila Kamara Hay discusses the disconnect between birth and sexuality and how the Ecstatic and Orgasmic Birth movement is working to change that.
• Sexuality is used as a commodity in today's society and it's important to reconnect it to the sacred.
• Debra and Sheila discuss the importance of sexuality and how it is often hidden in the shadows, with a lot of shame attached.
• Reprogram your subconscious beliefs and what we learned about birth through resources such as the film Orgasmic Birth!
• Pleasure is a powerful tool to nourish your body and support you through the process of childbirth.
• Sensual expansion is learning to access pleasure from within your own body. This can be done through practices such as breath, sound, movement, and visualization.
• Our physiology, our anatomy, and our hormonal systems point out that pleasure is an innate part of our process.
• Start to connect with your body more to move through life more effectively.
• Follow your body's wisdom, including mental rational wisdom, primal wisdom, and experiential wisdom.

Key Takeaways:

• Birth is sexual - reclaim the connection between birth and sex
• Look for images of beautiful births and reflect the kind of experience you want
• Reconnect sexuality to your body's sacredness
• Pleasure is not the reward - it is part of the process
• Your own experience with your sexuality is important when preparing for birth
• Pleasure supports both the mother and the child during early postpartum days and throughout parenthood
• Observe the subtlety of sensations and feel the connection
• Understanding your own body and sexuality can empower you in other areas of your life

Tweetable Quotes:

"Birth is the culmination of the sexual act… We conceive with our sexual bodies, and we birth with our sexual bodies." - Sheila Kamara Hay

"There are so many reasons, people aren't enjoying the experience of childbirth. But a big one is a lack of understanding of this connection that we are birthing with our sexual bodies. And we need to honor that aspect of our design, in order to be able to birth in ways that feel better, because just like sex can be really pleasurable, or really painful, like birth is the same thing." - Sheila Kamara Hay

"Learn how to use your sound to access pleasure in your body, to access the sexual energy, to let it flow as opposed to resisting." - Sheila Kamara Hay

"We are biological beings. And if we just look at our physiology, our anatomy, and our hormonal systems, then we can understand that pleasure is an innate part of our process. It's an innate part of our design." - Sheila Kamara Hay

Connect with Sheila Kamara Hay

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EcstaticBirth/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ecstaticbirth/?hl=en

Website: https://ecstaticbirth.pro/about/

Email: [email protected]

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable

births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the

world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Understanding our beautiful, natural design and allowing ourselves to be in alignment leads us to a joyful and empowering childbirth.

Sokhna Heathyre Mabin talks about her journey from her initial challenging childbirth experience to birthing naturally full of pleasure and trust in her own body. Listen in as she breaks down how to honor our bodies and trust the process of natural childbirth.Sokhna Heathyre Mabin is a Mother, Yogini, Herbalist, Doula, Sound Therapist, Perinatal counselor, and Performance Artist. Sokhna is an experienced, full-spectrum doula of 17 years. Her private doula practice is MamaSutra Loving Arts, which also houses her herbal apothecary The Tantric Tavern. Sokhna is a co-creator of the WMed Doula Community Program in Kalamazoo, MI, serving women of color with high-risk pregnancies.

In this episode:

• Sokhna Heathyre Mabin discusses how her first childbirth could have gone differently - how the doctors and nurses disregarded her birth plan and then ended up doing a cesarean.
• From this experience, she decided to be a doula with the aim of creating a better birth experience for women.
• Sokhna shares how her experience with postpartum care at her son's hospital was"atrocious" and she feels that it should be "joyful and colorful and beautiful".
• The journey to becoming a doula - meeting communities creating a web of care and organizing workshops to provide better postpartum care for birthing people of color
• Being scared during labor and delivery is too often part of the process. Learn to Trust the process.
• The natural process and design must not be interrupted, but supported and adjusted to make it happen.
• Orgasmic birth is life-affirming and connecting to all things.

Key Takeaways:

• Pregnancy can be highly sacred and purposeful
• How women of color are treated differently is an awful reality
• Creating a bond right after birth is powerful and meaningful
• Our natural design must not be interrupted
• Understand your birth story
• Learn to trust the process by being open

Tweetable Quotes:

"[In] the hospital, that recovery room is atrocious…There's no reason any person should ever be in a gray and dingy space. When they [mothers] are recovering from birth, that needs to be a joyful, colorful, beautiful, and peaceful oasis." - Sokhna Heathyre Mabin

" I needed to talk about my experience. I needed to share with people that I was hurt for a long time. To not recognize your baby, to not be given a moment to see him or see her… And now we're bonding. Time together is of the essence." - Sokhna Heathyre Mabin

"And that [natural] birth made me connect. I connected to all things, I connected naturally that everybody came from a mother, that this is the process, that life is this process, it's designed. Sometimes, the design may not work, the alignment may not be there and there are methods that will save our lives, but the method, the process is not to be interrupted. It's to be supported and adjusted." - Sokhna Heathyre Mabin

"Trust the process. If all the things are in alignment, if you've done all of your investigating yourself, find those ways because every baby in every birth is different." - Sokhna Heathyre Mabin

Connect with Sokhna Heathyre Mabin

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sokhnaheathyremabin

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sokhnamaha/?hl=en

Website: https://wildwomanfest.com/sokhna-heathyre-mabin-bio/

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable

births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the

world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing, and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives, and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.

What does it take to allow ourselves to go into the realms of pleasure during childbirth in order to have a positive experience? In this episode, Naoli Vinaver tackles midwifery techniques and emphasizes the importance of pleasure during childbirth. Listen closely as she describes the physical and emotional signs that labor is progressing.​Naolí Vinaver is a Mexican midwife who combines traditional Mexican and contemporary home birth practices, with a profound respect for the physiology of natural birth, having attended over 1700 home births in both Mexico and Brazil. Naolí is a passionate speaker and educator, teaching hundreds of workshops and seminars in over 30 countries around the world.

In this episode:

• Naoli Vinaver shares her experience as a traditional and certified midwife, a speaker, and an educator, teaching birth philosophies techniques and their relationship to sexuality.
• When a woman gives birth, she allows herself to go into passionate expression realms. This is a sign that the birth is positive.
• Naoli talks about the healing potential of birth and how it is an opportunity to transmute into empowerment.
• It is important to acknowledge our bad experiences. Acknowledgment can help to dissolve bumps in the road and to see the past more clearly.
• All parts of the body are connected. Including them in the experience of massage, touch, and labor, the birthing process can be more harmonious and natural.

Key Takeaways:

• Birth is a fiery process that is full of heat and luscious exuberance
• Sexuality can be explored and felt in a pure way
• Lack of connection with your body during childbirth poses difficulties
• Transmute negative energy into a positive energy
• It is possible to have a climate of joy and beauty during childbirth
• Find a doula and midwife who will support you to access pleasure

Tweetable Quotes:

"Everyone can have the opportunity to explore and discover our birthright, which is to feel and to enjoy and to feel expanded." - Naoli Vinaver

"We can exercise very pure, very beautiful sexuality that is ever-expanding within its extreme eroticism and its heat and its power such as women when they give birth." - Naoli Vinaver

Connect with Naoli Vinaver Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.naolivinaver.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nvinaver/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwOhOZAM1erMqRuBP07jJFg

Connect with Debra!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.pascalibonaro

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471/

Visit https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/ for more information on how to have fulfilling and enjoyable

births.

Check out the film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, the film creating buzz around the

world!

Orgasmic Birth Podcast: Pleasure in pregnancy, birth, and parenting. I believe pleasure is our birthright - from our sexuality, birth, parenting, and beyond, we can find pleasure when we create space for joy and intimacy in our lives. Join me to have deep conversations about breaking the taboos of Sexuality + Motherhood/Parenthood.

Listen to leading experts in sexuality, healing, and childbirth as well as stories from new parents, doulas, doctors, midwives, and nurses. We will discuss how to positively prepare for childbirth and parenting by expanding love and intimacy in your life.