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Have you ever heard someone complain about their woes, concerns, or challenges and they blame others?  Yeah, me too...

We become very talented at identifying external villains.

Yet there’s a quiet truth that most people don’t like to hear:

Other people can create the situation...but they cannot control your reaction unless you give them permission.

Join Dave for a tight-rope walking topic about:

• 10 Things No One Can Do Without Your Permission
• 5 Signs You’re Giving Permission (Even If You Think You Aren’t)
• 5 Glorious Ways to Take Control Back

 Life will always contain difficult people, unfair situations, and unexpected setbacks. That part of the story never changes.

But the most powerful decision a person can make is this: Stop handing out permission slips for your happiness.

You don’t need approval to protect your peace. You don’t need agreement to move forward. You don’t need permission to improve your life.

"You can't control how people treat you, but you can control how they continue to treat you..."

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever heard someone complain about something that really hit you as "if that is all you have to complain about, you've got it pretty good?"  Yeah, me too...

Americans complain. A lot.

We complain about traffic, Wi-Fi, waiting in line at a coffee shop that has 40 drink options and three types of oat milk.

And while we’re complaining, most of us are doing it with a smartphone in our pocket, food in our refrigerator, clean water in our house, and air conditioning running in the background.

Join Dave for some perspective on:

• The Top 10 Things Americans Complain About
• Why Do We Complain So Much?
• Five Negative Impacts of Complaining About First-World Problems
• Five Ways to Notice When You’re Complaining About a First-World Problem
• Five Steps to Embrace Gratitude Instead

The United States isn’t perfect, but historically speaking, it remains one of the most free, innovative, and opportunity-filled environments ever created.

So the next time the Wi-Fi slows down...Pause...Take a breath...Look around...

You’re living in a time where food is abundant, information is instant, travel spans continents, and opportunity exists in ways previous generations never imagined.

You have far more reasons to be grateful than you do to complain.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever found yourself disturbed by someone's behavior when it is absolutely predictable and expected?  Yeah, me too...

There’s a strange little trap we fall into as human beings. We get frustrated, angry, jealous, hurt, disappointed, or even depressed by the behavior of people who are completely predictable.

They do the same thing. They say the same things. They react the same way. Over and over again. And yet somehow, we are shocked every single time.

Join Dave for some PREDICTABLE talk about:

• Why Some People Trigger Us and Others Don’t
• People Most Susceptible to the “Barking Duck” Trap
• People Who Weaponize Predictable Behavior
• Why We Put Up With It
• The Barking Duck Realization
• Five steps to start today

Life becomes a lot lighter when we stop expecting impossible things.

Dogs bark. Ducks quack. Some people behave exactly the same way every time.

Peace doesn’t come from changing the duck. Peace comes from changing your expectations and your response.

Once you understand that, you stop waiting for barking.

And suddenly the pond gets a whole lot quieter.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever known someone who has made it through a BATTLE and WON, but talks about the tough times more than the VICTORY?  Yeah, me too...

Why do so many people fight like hell to win…and then live like they lost?

If you’re going to focus more on the struggle than the win...why win at all?

Join Dave for some VICTORIOUS talk about:

• The Psychology of the Struggle
• Five Reasons We Focus on the Struggle More Than the Win
• Five Dangers of Living in the Struggle After the Win
• Rumination: The Mental Replay
• Five Things to Focus on While You’re Still in the Struggle
• Five Reasons You Must Allow Yourself to Enjoy the Win

You don’t just win the victory. You must accept it. You must live in it.

You must breathe in it. You must allow yourself to feel it.

Or the struggle still owns you.

Giddyup!!!  

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Have you ever just had the feeling like something good is about to happen?  Yeah, me too...

Have you ever said that to yourself? Not because anything specific happened.

Not because you got the call, the deal, the opportunity, or the breakthrough.

Just a quiet thought…I just feel like something good is about to happen.

Join Dave for some positive thoughts about:

• 5 ways to pull positive memories to fuel a better mood 
• 5 Things That Happen When You Dwell on the Negative
• 5 Reasons to Seek Positive Memories Today 
• 5 Ways to Start and Keep Your Day on Track

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude.”

Somewhere today…Something good is about to happen.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever noticed that what we FOCUS on IMPROVES?  Yeah, me too...

Not because the universe is magical. Because the human brain is obedient.

Join Dave for some FOCUS on:

• Why focus works - Human nature and focus
• Real-life focus blindness
• Why specificity matters
• The Olympic-Level Purple Car
• The Science Behind FOCUS
• Results of focusing on the wrong things
• Benefits of focusing on key priorities

Focus isn’t about intensity. It’s about direction.

The mind will obey. The results will follow. The only question is whether you’ve told your brain the truth about what matters.

Choose carefully. What you focus on improves.

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever felt like EVENTS are controlling you instead of the other way around?  Yeah, me too...

Stress isn’t just about what happens to you.  It’s about who’s in charge when it happens.

Join Dave for some STRESS RELIEVING jargon about:

• Stress is a measurement, not a mystery
• Freedom, Control, Resolve: the stress filter
• Even strong people give up control. Here’s how.
• 5 ways strong individuals let events control them
• How this loss of control evolved quietly over time
• 5 negative results of boundary breakdown
• How to decide and maintain boundaries that actually work
• 5 ways to set and maintain them
• 5 results of solid decision-making and boundaries

 Every day, you are either: Choosing your life, or letting it be chosen for you

Stress is not a sign that you’re weak. It’s a signal that something needs to come back under your control.

Freedom begins with a decision. Control is exercised in the moment.  Resolve is proven when it costs you something.

Don’t wait for burnout to force boundaries on you. Don’t wait for exhaustion to teach you discipline.

Decide now. Because the longer you let events drive, the harder it is to take the wheel back. And the clock doesn’t slow down while you’re thinking about it.

Giddyup!!!

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Do you believe that whether you think you CAN or CAN'T, you're right?  Yeah, me too...

You can have the plan. You can have the skills. You can execute cleanly. And still fall short.

Join Dave for some MINDFUL talk about:

• The five essentials of success at home, work, and play
• Why mindset outweighs everything else
• How mindset could’ve changed “almost-success” stories
• Why people don’t establish or maintain the right mindset
• The societal barriers nobody warns you about
• Five ways to build the right mindset
• Five rewards you may not even imagine

Strategy gets you started. Planning gives direction. Preparation builds capacity. Execution produces results. But mindset determines the life you build while doing all of it.

So don’t just work harder. Think higher!!!

Giddyup!!!

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking or doing something that you know is gonna piss you off?  Yeah, me to...

Your mood is not just a feeling. It’s a feedback system.

When you repeatedly feed it junk inputs, you don’t get “more informed” or “more prepared.”  You get more reactive. More tired. More convinced something is wrong with your life.

Join Dave for some self provocation around:

• 10 daily things we do that are voluntary, repetitive, and likely to hijack our mood
• 5 reasons we keep choosing mood-ruining habits
• 5 ways to beat the temptation without turning into a monk
• 5 benefits of stopping the practice
• Action items you can start today

There’s a line often attributed to Viktor Frankl: Between stimulus and response, there is a space.  That space is your freedom.

You just stopped picking fights with your own brain.

Giddyup!!!

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Do you ever feel like the world is hammering you with taxes, college funds, 401Ks, retirement, demand after demand and your like, "Come on man, I'm just trying to get through TODAY!!!"

Join Dave to walk through ways to Plan, Prepare, and Protect your days from SWDs.
Learn ways to get the most out of your day and the most out of yourself, without losing focus on the most important things in your life.  

You'll be surprised at what you can accomplish in a day and how much you can enjoy the journey.

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