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Episode 46 of A Gentle Reminder Podcast — a space for soft hearts, deep thinkers, and those learning to love without losing themselves.

In this episode: How to Communicate Your Needs

This is for the ones who give too much, feel too deeply, and forget that they deserve the same energy they put out. You are not too much. You are just around people who give too little.

Episode 46 of A Gentle Reminder Podcast — a space for soft hearts, deep thinkers, and those learning to love without losing themselves. In this episode: How to Communicate Your Needs This is for the ones who give too much, feel too deeply, and forget that they deserve the same energy they put out. You are not too much. You are just around people who give too little. One of the hardest skills in any relationship is learning how to communicate your needs without making the other person feel attacked. It is a delicate balance that many of us struggle with for years. You want to be honest about what you need, but you do not want them to feel like they are not doing... TIMESTAMPS: [00:00] Introduction [01:30] Main Topic [08:00] Deep Dive [12:00] Reflections [14:00] Closing Thoughts A Gentle Reminder Podcast — because sometimes you need to hear what you already know. HustleStudios | New episodes every day....

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Episode 45 of A Gentle Reminder Podcast — a space for soft hearts, deep thinkers, and those learning to love without losing themselves.

In this episode: The Myth That Love Means Always Putting Their Needs First

This is for the ones who give too much, feel too deeply, and forget that they deserve the same energy they put out. You are not too much. You are just around people who give too little.

Episode 45 of A Gentle Reminder Podcast — a space for soft hearts, deep thinkers, and those learning to love without losing themselves. In this episode: The Myth That Love Means Always Putting Their Needs First This is for the ones who give too much, feel too deeply, and forget that they deserve the same energy they put out. You are not too much. You are just around people who give too little. There is a belief that has quietly infiltrated the way so many of us love. It is the belief that putting your partner's needs first is what love means. That sacrifice is the measure of your devotion. That if you are not giving up something for the person you love, you are not loving them hard enough... TIMESTAMPS: [00:00] Introduction [01:30] Main Topic [08:00] Deep Dive [12:00] Reflections [14:00] Closing Thoughts A Gentle Reminder Podcast — because sometimes you need to hear what you already know. HustleStudios | New episodes every day....

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Episode 44 of A Gentle Reminder Podcast — a space for soft hearts, deep thinkers, and those learning to love without losing themselves.

In this episode: People Who Want You Make It Obvious

This is for the ones who give too much, feel too deeply, and forget that they deserve the same energy they put out. You are not too much. You are just around people who give too little.

Episode 44 of A Gentle Reminder Podcast — a space for soft hearts, deep thinkers, and those learning to love without losing themselves. In this episode: People Who Want You Make It Obvious This is for the ones who give too much, feel too deeply, and forget that they deserve the same energy they put out. You are not too much. You are just around people who give too little. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you were constantly wondering where you stood with someone? Where you analyzed their texts, replayed their words, looked for hidden meanings in their silences? If you have, you know how exhausting that is. And you also know that when someone truly wa... TIMESTAMPS: [00:00] Introduction [01:30] Main Topic [08:00] Deep Dive [12:00] Reflections [14:00] Closing Thoughts A Gentle Reminder Podcast — because sometimes you need to hear what you already know. HustleStudios | New episodes every day....

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The difference between being too much and having too little capacity. When someone tells you that you are too much, they are actually telling you that their capacity is too small. It is not a fact about you. It is a fact about them. Your depth is not the problem. Their inability to hold it is.



Imagine you are holding a cup of water and someone tells you that you have too much water. The truth is not that you have too much water. The truth is that their cup is too small to hold what you are offering. That is the difference between being too much and having too little capacity. When someone tells you that you are too much, they are not stating a fact about you. They are revealing a limitation in themselves. Your depth, your intensity, your big feelings are not flaws. They are just too much for people with small containers. And that is not your problem to solve. Keep looking for people with cups big enough to hold all of who you are.



There is a concept in relationships called the container. It is the capacity that each person has to hold the feelings and experiences of their partner. Some people have large containers. They can hold joy and sorrow, celebration and grief, excitement and anxiety. They can be with you in your hardest moments without trying to fix you or pull away. Other people have small containers. They can only hold what is comfortable. When things get difficult, they shut down, withdraw, or make you feel like you are too much. The size of someone's container is not your fault. It is not something you can change by being smaller. You cannot shrink yourself to fit into someone else's small container. You need to find someone whose container is big enough to hold all of you.



If you have been told your whole life that you are too much, I want you to consider a reframe. What if you are not too much? What if you are exactly the right amount, and you have just been in the wrong containers? Think about a plant that needs a lot of sunlight. If you put i

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Why the right people are never overwhelmed by your depth. The right people are not intimidated by how much you feel. They are drawn to it. They see your depth as a gift, not a burden. If someone is overwhelmed by you, it is not because you are too much. It is because they are not enough for you.



One of the most freeing realizations you can have is that the right people are never overwhelmed by your depth. They are not scared away by how much you feel. They are not intimidated by the size of your heart. They see your intensity and they are drawn to it because they recognize it as a sign of someone who is fully alive. The people who are overwhelmed by you are not the people who are meant for you. They are signposts telling you that you are on the wrong path. Do not change your path to accommodate people who cannot walk it with you. Keep walking. The right people will catch up.



The people who are meant for you will not be overwhelmed by your depth. They will be drawn to it. They will see your intensity and recognize it as a sign of someone who is fully alive, someone who has not numbed themselves to the world, someone who loves without holding back. These people exist. They are rare, but they exist. And when you find them, you will wonder why you ever tried to be smaller for people who could not handle you. Do not waste your depth on shallow people. Save it for the ones who can meet you there.



Do not change who you are to make people comfortable. Your depth is not something to be hidden. It is something to be shared with the people who are capable of receiving it. There are people in this world who are hungry for genuine connection, who are tired of surface-level relationships, who are looking for someone who feels as deeply as they do. Those are your people. Keep being yourself, and you will attract them. Do not settle for people who make you feel like you need to be less.



Think about the people in your life who have made you feel the most seen. The ones w

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How childhood conditioning taught you to shrink yourself. As a child, you learned what was safe to express and what was not. If your emotions were met with dismissal, you learned to suppress them. If your needs were treated as burdens, you learned to stop having them. Shrinking became survival. But you are no longer a child who needs to survive. You are an adult who can heal.



Childhood conditioning is powerful because it happens before we have the awareness to question it. When you are a child, you do not know that your parents are limited human beings who are also carrying their own wounds. You just know that when you cry, they get frustrated. When you need comfort, they pull away. When you express your feelings, they dismiss you. And your young brain makes a logical but incorrect conclusion. You conclude that there must be something wrong with you. That your feelings are the problem. That you need to be smaller to be loved. But that conclusion was wrong then, and it is wrong now. The problem was never you. The problem was the people who did not know how to hold you. And now, as an adult, you have the power to reparent yourself and give yourself the love you always needed.



Reparenting yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do. It means giving yourself the love, validation, and safety that you did not receive as a child. It means telling yourself that your feelings matter, that your needs are valid, that you are allowed to take up space. It means being the parent to yourself that you always needed. This work is not easy, but it is deeply healing. Every time you choose to honor your needs instead of suppressing them, you are reparenting yourself. Every time you speak your truth instead of staying silent, you are reparenting yourself. Every time you let yourself feel your feelings instead of numbing them, you are reparenting yourself. And with each small act of self-love, you are undoing years of conditioning that taught you to be small.



One of t

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#1 - Where the belief that you are too much comes from. It starts in childhood, learning that your feelings were a burden. You learned to hide the parts of yourself that were not welcome. As you grew older, that conditioning followed you into relationships. But the belief was never about you. It was about people who did not have the capacity to hold you.



Think back to the earliest memory you have of feeling like you were too much. What happened? Who was there? What did they say or do that made you feel like your presence was overwhelming? The answer to that question holds the key to understanding where your belief came from. It was not born in a vacuum. It was born in a specific moment, with a specific person, who was unable or unwilling to meet you where you were. That moment became a story that you have been carrying ever since. But here is the truth. That moment does not define you. It defines them. Their inability to hold you says everything about their capacity and nothing about your worth.



Let me tell you something important about that memory you just recalled. The moment when you first felt like you were too much was not a moment of truth about you. It was a moment of limitation in someone else. They could not hold your feelings, so they made you feel bad for having them. They could not meet your needs, so they made you feel selfish for having them. That is what happens when people with small capacity encounter someone with a big heart. They do not rise to meet you. They make you feel wrong for being who you are. But you are not wrong. You never were. You were just in the hands of someone who did not know how to hold you. And now, as an adult, you get to decide who gets access to your heart. You get to choose people who have the capacity to hold all of who you are, not just the parts that are convenient for them.



Let me also tell you this. The people who made you feel like you were too much were not bad people. They were just limited people. They wer

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Your self-worth is not up for debate. It is not something you have to prove or earn. It is not something that increases when someone validates you and decreases when they do not. It is something you already have, whether you feel it or not. The work is not in acquiring self-worth. It is in remembering that you already have it. Every time you choose to honor yourself, you are remembering. Every time you set a boundary, you are remembering. Every time you speak your truth, you are remembering. And every time you let someone treat you in a way that diminishes you, you are forgetting.

The problem is that many of us have been forgetting for so long that we no longer know what it feels like to live from a place of intrinsic worth. We have become so accustomed to seeking validation from others that we have lost touch with the steady knowing that we are enough exactly as we are. We look to our partners, our friends, our jobs, our achievements to tell us that we matter. And when those external sources are not providing the validation we crave, we feel empty, lost, worthless.

But your worth does not come from outside you. It comes from within. It is not something you find. It is something you uncover. Imagine that your worth is like a diamond buried under layers of doubt, fear, and conditioning. The work of self-worth is not about creating the diamond. It is about digging through the layers that have been hiding it. It is about removing the beliefs that told you that you were not enough, that you had to earn love, that your value depended on what you could do for others.

One of the most powerful shifts you can make is moving from seeking validation to knowing your own worth. When you seek validation, your sense of value depends on how others treat you. When someone is kind, you feel worthy. When someone is distant, you feel worthless. That is an exhausting way to live. Your emotions become a roller coaster that is controlled by other people's behavior. But when you know yo

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There comes a point in every unbalanced relationship where you have to ask yourself a difficult question. How long are you going to keep fighting for someone who is not fighting for you? Not just in words, but in action. Not just occasionally, but consistently. Not just when it is easy, but when it matters most. This question is uncomfortable because it forces you to look at the gap between what you are giving and what you are receiving. And that gap is often wider than you have been willing to admit.

Fighting for someone who does not fight for you is exhausting. It drains your energy, your confidence, and your sense of self-worth. It keeps you in a state of hope that is not supported by reality. You keep telling yourself that if you just hold on a little longer, they will finally see your worth. You keep believing that your love will eventually break through their walls. But the truth is, you cannot love someone into choosing you. You cannot fight hard enough to make them want to fight for you. That desire has to come from within them.

The hardest part of stopping the fight is that it feels like giving up. It feels like you are abandoning someone who needs you. It feels like you are proving that you did not love them enough to keep trying. But let me tell you what is really happening when you stop fighting. You are not giving up on them. You are finally choosing yourself. You are recognizing that you have been carrying a relationship that was meant to be carried by two people. And you are deciding that you are done carrying it alone.

There is a difference between fighting for love and fighting for someone's attention. Fighting for love means working through challenges together, communicating honestly, and growing as a team. Fighting for someone's attention means constantly trying to prove that you are worth their time, their effort, their commitment. One is partnership. The other is a performance. And you have been performing for far too long.

What does it mean

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One of the hardest truths in love is accepting that someone you care about may never be able to give you what you need. Not because they do not want to. Not because you are asking for too much. But because they simply do not have the capacity. Their emotional availability, their healing journey, their level of self-awareness. These are not things you can change through love. You cannot love someone into having more capacity. You cannot care enough to heal their wounds for them. That work is theirs to do, and if they are not doing it, no amount of your love will make up for the difference.

This truth is painful because it forces you to confront a reality you have been avoiding. You have been hoping that if you just give them enough time, enough patience, enough understanding, they will eventually become who you need them to be. But hoping for someone to change is not a strategy. It is a coping mechanism. It allows you to stay in a relationship that is not meeting your needs while telling yourself that it will get better. And sometimes, it does get better. But more often, it does not. More often, you wake up years later realizing that you have been waiting for someone to become someone they were never trying to become.

The question then becomes, what do you do with this truth? Do you leave? Do you stay and accept that they cannot give you what you need? There is no easy answer. But there is an honest one. You have to decide whether you can accept the relationship exactly as it is, without hoping for change, without waiting for them to become someone they are not. If you can accept it as it is and find peace in that acceptance, then staying is a valid choice. But if you are staying because you are hoping for change, you are not accepting the relationship. You are negotiating with reality. And reality does not negotiate.

There is a difference between accepting someone's limitations and settling for less than you deserve. Acceptance is acknowledging that they are who

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