In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla unpack the “propaganda we’re not falling for”—from self-help catchphrases to fitness influencers and even avocado toast—before diving deep into their three-year fertility journey. They share candidly about choosing a sperm donor, navigating IUIs and IVF, pregnancy loss, and ultimately turning to surrogacy. Honest, funny, and vulnerable, this episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about queer family building, fertility challenges, or simply enjoying heartfelt conversations on love, resilience, and partnership.

⏰ Timestamps:
00:01 – Intro & what we’re not falling for
04:16 – Fitness influencers & unrealistic promises
06:46 – Heterosexuality as “propaganda”
08:35 – Avocado toast and Mercury retrograde
12:38 – Eight-step morning routines & mouth tape
13:11 – Beginning our fertility journey
15:15 – Choosing a sperm donor
23:43 – Painful procedures & women’s health advocacy
33:14 – Costs and realities of IUI
38:34 – Shifting to IVF and mental health challenges
53:10 – Pregnancy loss and moving forward
58:29 – Choosing surrogacy over adoption
01:02:06 – Strengthening marriage through challenges
01:04:57 – “Who’s the problem?” popsicle edition

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