In this episode, married queers Alix & Kayla debate one of the most polarizing topics in LGBTQ+ culture—from gay bars and lesbian parties to allies, baby gays, and the future of community spaces. It’s thoughtful, funny, deeply personal… and ends with the messiest Who’s the Problem yet (yes, it involves towels).

This conversation explores queer history, safety, allyship, feminism, chosen family, and why context matters more than hard rules.

00:00 – Intro: married, queer & back for the new year
02:10 – “Everyone’s a little bi?” identity & labels
04:30 – The real question: straight people in queer spaces
07:45 – Coming out in 2009 & first gay bar experiences
12:05 – Why queer spaces feel intimidating (and necessary)
15:10 – Straight friends, allies & knowing the culture
18:45 – Lesbian spaces vs gay male spaces
22:10 – When inclusion goes too far (and when it doesn’t)
25:45 – Queer Camp: who it’s for and why it changed everything
31:30 – Bars vs retreats: sex, safety & intention
36:30 – Can you even “police” queerness?
41:45 – WHO’S THE PROBLEM: The Towel Incident 🫠
49:50 – Final thoughts & listener call-in

#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerSpaces #Allyship #LesbianPodcast #StraightInGaySpaces #QueerCommunity #ChosenFamily #Feminism #WivesNotSisters #WhoIsTheProblem

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Why does it feel like every WLW couple is breaking up right now?
In this episode, Alix and Kayla unpack the recent wave of WLW breakups—from emotional burnout and attachment styles to visibility pressure, queer dating dynamics, and why sapphic relationships can feel so intense. They discuss common breakup patterns, listener perspectives, and how queer relationships navigate communication, community overlap, and healing after a split.

00:00 – Intro & why WLW breakups feel different
03:10 – Emotional enmeshment in queer relationships
07:40 – Why “let’s stay friends” often backfires
12:50 – Identity loss after a WLW breakup
18:30 – Attachment styles & emotional mirroring
24:40 – Boundaries, no-contact & healing
30:20 – Grief, longing & nervous system repair
35:10 – What actually helps you move on
40:00 – Closing reflections

#WLW #QueerPodcast #LesbianBreakups #Sapphic #QueerRelationships #WLWDating #QueerCulture #LesbianPodcast

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Is it cheating… or just crossing a line?

Alix and Kayla kick off the new year from Nicaragua by playing "Cheating or No?" —breaking down gray-area relationship scenarios like shared playlists, DMs, flirting, emotional affairs, and “we weren’t official” loopholes. They read listener-submitted cheating stories that include coworker crushes, wedding-night confessions, secret double lives, and queer awakenings sparked by one kiss. Honest, funny, and unfiltered conversations about boundaries, emotional intimacy, and why cheating isn’t always about sex.

00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + lost episode recap
02:50 Game: Cheating or No? (playlists, DMs, flirting, nudes)
07:09 Listener cheating stories begin
08:00 Emotional affair with a coworker
13:45 Best friend confesses love before the wedding
22:18 “It wasn’t cheating because it was a girl”
28:20 Secret double life & poly vs monogamy
35:10 “We weren’t official” situationship disaster
40:20 Who’s the problem? Personal cheating story
46:00 Is staying with a cheater worse than cheating?

#CheatingOrNo #QueerPodcast #WLW #LesbianPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalCheating #Situationships #QueerStories #DatingBoundaries

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Are homoerotic friendships a canon queer experience? 🌈
Recording from their new studio in Nicaragua, Alix and Kayla dive into homoerotic WLW friendships—the kind that blur the line between “best friend” and “something more.” From red/green flag dating games to listener submissions about twin-bed cuddling, forehead kisses, shared Google Docs, and lifelong “what ifs,” this episode unpacks queer longing, closeted intimacy, and the friendships that change us forever. Plus: a late-addition deep dive into Wicked as the ultimate WLW-coded friendship.

00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + new studio setup
01:20 Listener submissions & why this episode exists
02:40 Red Flag / Green Flag / Beige Flag (WLW edition)
06:10 Common outcomes of homoerotic friendships
08:45 Listener Story #1: “The book I never got to finish”
15:30 Personal college story & grief, queerness, and longing
19:40 More submissions: roommates, Google Docs, future fantasies
28:55 Shooting your shot vs. staying silent
38:30 High school crushes & delayed coming out
46:20 Who’s the problem? (Spoiler: society)
49:10 Wicked, Glinda & Elphaba, and WLW-coded friendships

#QueerPodcast #WLW #HomoeroticFriendships #LesbianPodcast #QueerStories #Situationships #ComingOut #QueerCulture #WickedMovie #Sapphic

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Family, queerness, religion, and the holidays—this episode goes deep. Alix and Kayla open up about navigating strained family relationships, missed weddings, religious rejection, reconciliation, and what it really takes to protect your peace as a queer couple during the holidays.

From engagement fallout and parents not showing up, to rebuilding trust, setting boundaries, and creating chosen family traditions in Nicaragua—this is an honest, emotional, and deeply relatable conversation for anyone who’s ever felt unseen by their family.

00:00 – Intro: married, not related, definitely codependent
02:30 – Highs, lows & weirds of the week
05:20 – Dreaming up a queer camp & chosen family
07:00 – Family estrangement, phone anxiety & emotional triggers
11:15 – Holidays, big families & complicated dynamics
13:30 – Engagement fallout & family refusing to attend the wedding
18:30 – Feeling invisible as a queer couple
23:00 – Acceptance vs. avoidance in family systems
29:00 – Therapy, boundaries & rebuilding relationships
32:45 – Healing moments, unexpected growth & hope
38:30 – Redefining holidays & creating new traditions
43:00 – Religion, queerness & family rupture
51:00 – Confrontation, truth, grief & clarity
01:02:30 – Choosing peace, boundaries & moving forward

#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #ChosenFamily #QueerMarriage #HolidayBoundaries #ReligiousTrauma #FamilyEstrangement #LesbianPodcast #HealingJourneys #QueerStories #WivesNotSisters

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In this juicy, long-form episode, Alix and Kayla go deep into Caitlyn Jenner’s childhood, gender dysphoria, Olympic fame, marriages, parenting issues, transition timeline, political contradictions, and why the public remains so divided. Honest, funny, compassionate, and unfiltered.

00:00 – Intro, reviews & coming-out stories
01:20 – Why listeners say the show helped them come out
04:40 – Caitlyn Jenner: pronouns & how she refers to her past
06:30 – Childhood, dyslexia & early gender dysphoria
08:20 – Athletics, college injury & the decathlon path
11:50 – Olympic fame & America’s “golden couple” narrative
13:10 – Marriages, kids & early controversies
18:25 – Gender dysphoria during marriage & first transition attempt
22:30 – Meeting Kris Jenner & the rise of the Kardashian empire
34:20 – Parenting patterns & strained family relationships
48:00 – Transition timeline, Diane Sawyer interview & media frenzy
56:40 – Missteps, public criticism & political contradictions
01:02:50 – Why the queer community is divided on Caitlyn Jenner

#Podcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerStories #CaitlynJenner #TransHistory #PopCultureDeepDive #Kardashians #LGBTQCommunity #QueerMarriage #IdentityJourney

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This week on Wives Not Sisters, Alix & Kayla dive into your juiciest queer write-in questions—identity shifts, relationship changes, generational LGBTQ+ tensions, age-gap love, and what really counts as “queer representation.” It’s honest, hilarious, vulnerable, and very, very gay. 🌈

We also play Underrated or Overrated (spoiler: baths don’t stand a chance), confront who’s the problem this week, and unpack the Sydney Sweeney “good jeans” chaos.

00:00 – Intro: Married, codependent, and chaotic
00:50 – Write-ins & why reviews matter
02:00 – Naming the listeners: “Sister Wives”?
02:33 – Underrated/Overrated (baths, therapy, matcha, astrology memes + more)
06:21 – Queer Rants: Anonymous #1 – Identity shifts in a transitioning relationship
10:15 – Lesbian identity vs. partner transition
20:05 – Opening the relationship? Boundaries & self-trust
25:56 – Queer Rant #2 – Older gays, younger gays & language policing
30:25 – LGBTQ+ history, AIDS crisis & generational tension
36:37 – Queer Rant #3 – Should only queer actors play queer roles?
41:35 – Queer Rant #4 – Age-gap relationships & community judgment
47:09 – Who’s the Problem? Hair-washing edition
50:28 – Sydney Sweeney “good genes/jeans” debate
54:50 – Outro & call to action

#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #WivesNotSisters #QueerStories #LesbianPodcast #TransSupport #QueerCommunity #LGBTQHistory #AgeGapRelationship #QueerRepresentation #RelationshipAdvice #PodcastersOfYouTube #BuzzsproutPodcasts

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Alix and Kayla dive deep into the wild, chaotic, endlessly fascinating lore of Caroline Calloway — from Instagram fame and ghostwritten captions to book-deal drama, retreat controversies, and the blurred lines between “scam,” self-mythology, and survival. The wives break down the friendship between Caroline and Natalie Beach, the homoerotic tension, the internet cancellation, the workshops, the snake-oil era, and why queer audiences are obsessed with this story.

If you love scammers, internet culture, WLW lore, or messy influencer history, this episode is for you.

00:00 – Intro: Reviews, comments & community love
01:30 – Who is Caroline Calloway?
01:50 – Scam or Stan game (NFTs, Erewhon smoothies, retreats, astrology apps)
04:50 – Breakup brands, viral masterclasses & influencer culture
10:00 – Why Caroline’s story is “entertaining, not dangerous”
11:00 – The WLW lore + homoerotic friendship dynamic
18:00 – How Caroline built her Cambridge-era Instagram persona
21:00 – Natalie ghostwrites captions & the early partnership
28:20 – The $500K book deal & $100K advance
30:30 – Addiction, missed deadlines & the fallout
34:20 – Whose side are you on?
35:20 – The infamous “workshops”
37:00 – Is it a scam if people willingly pay?
38:20 – The cancellations & venue chaos
42:30 – Snake oil, villain era & Caroline’s pivot
43:40 – “I Was Caroline Calloway” & Natalie’s takedown essay
48:40 – Natalie’s book deal + riding coattails
49:55 – Caroline’s tragic family news amid cancellation
53:45 – Obsession, shamelessness & survival mode
54:40 – New York era, OnlyFans, and rising again

#CarolineCalloway #ScamOrStan #InfluencerCulture #NatalieBeach #InternetDrama #Podcast #QueerPodcast #WLWLore #MessyInfluencers #BookDealDrama #CarlowayLore #OnlineScams #InternetHistory #WomenWhoWrite #CouplePodcast #AlixAndKayla

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If you’ve ever argued about groceries, avoided showing your partner your skincare receipts, or wondered how to merge finances without losing your mind, this one’s for you! From $300 facials to $3,000 handbags, Venmo-requesting girlfriends, U-Haul financial disasters, queer throuple budgeting, and how not to commit tax fraud as a married couple — this episode has answers to the questions YOU submitted about managing money.

01:35 – Splurge or Save: Dyson dryers, facials & quiet luxury
05:26 – $3,000 handbags & the lost purse saga
08:30 – Gear talk, e-bikes & used surfboards
10:23 – Listener Q&A: Power dynamics & “my treat” vacations
16:55 – Merging finances without losing your identity
23:04 – Allowances, budgets & guilt-free spending
31:16 – Queer throuple money management
36:12 – Financial secrets & student loan surprises
41:46 – Investing, retirement, & balancing present vs future
45:01 – Gift giving gone wrong: The $1200 suit
49:03 – U-Hauling & the IKEA spending spiral
51:31 – Eloping, wedding budgets & cake regrets
57:54 – Who’s the problem? (Hint: taxes.)
01:01:00 – Closing & community love

#LGBTQPodcast #QueerCouples #LesbianPodcast #MoneyTalks #RelationshipAdvice #WivesNotSisters #BudgetingTips #CouplesFinance #QueerLove #PodcastEpisode

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In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into the internet discourse that blew up:
Are lesbians allowed to have dating preferences—specifically around bi women or trans women—without being labeled discriminatory or TERFs? Check out the post that started the comments war HERE!

This conversation isn’t about exclusion—it's about autonomy, nuance, and consent in queer dating.

🎙️ Whether you agree or disagree, you’ll want to be in the comments for this one.

02:00 – Why real conversations matter
02:32 – Gay This or That (gay brunch vs. gay rave, U-Haul vs. slow burn, etc.)
06:10 – Episode topic reveal: The TERF Talk
07:40 – The viral reel that started everything
10:39 – When “preferences” go viral
12:15 – What TERF actually means
16:44 – “Are we TERFs?”
22:28 – Sexual preference vs. discrimination
30:02 – Should we question our preferences?
38:30 – “Why say it out loud?”
43:26 – Preferences in queer culture (femme for femme, masc, etc.)
51:06 – Why gay men don’t get this backlash
56:21 – My body, my choice—also applies to dating
01:02:17 – Who’s the problem? (Queer Ultimatum being cancelled)

#LGBTQ #LesbianPodcast #QueerDating #TERFConversation #DatingPreferences #QueerRepresentation #PodcastClips #WLW #LGBTQPodcast #BuzzsproutPodcast #QueerCommunity #BiWomen #TransWomenAreWomen #MyBodyMyChoice #Sapphic

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