What does it actually mean to be masc or femme… and who decided the rules?

In this episode, Alix & Kayla dive into one of the most unexpectedly heated topics in the Sister Wives community: masc vs. femme beauty standards. After a TikTok clip sparked a wave of strong opinions, they unpack the nuance behind it all—reading real listener comments, challenging their own perspectives, and asking the bigger question: who is actually setting these standards?

From body expectations and androgyny to acne, fashion, and the pressure to “look the part,” the conversation explores how masc and femme identities are perceived both inside the queer community and in the heteronormative world. They also get into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways misogyny can still show up in queer spaces—and how differently masc-presenting women are treated in everyday life.

Of course, it wouldn’t be this podcast without a little chaos—so expect games like “Masc or Straight Man,” tangents about backwards hats, and a surprisingly deep dive into America’s Next Top Model and early 2000s beauty culture.

It’s honest, messy, and full of hot takes… but at the end of the day, it comes back to one thing: confidence, authenticity, and saying f** the rules.

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