Matt Droguett is a Life Consultant and Self-Sabotage expert who is passionate about encouraging men in living whole and healthy lives, and who firmly believes in the importance of doing his own inner work.

Hailing from the Hawaiian islands, he brings his experience, expertise, and attention to men caught in patterns of sabotaging their marriage, particularly through use of pornography. His dream is to see emotionally healthy people go viral.

As is our custom, we talk about recovery - Matt’s passion is not about helping men quit using porn; what he wants is for them to be able to live whole and healthy lives! Porn just happens to often be one of the biggest obstacles.

We further discuss the challenge of the Spiritual Bypass and why you can’t just pray away your addiction problems. We explore at some length the difference between a thriving spiritual practice that builds a strong connection with God and doing all the same religious behaviors as a way of avoiding yourself.

Along the way, we talk about men and leadership, and the balance of “owning and leading your ship,” with humility.

Drawing on his coaching background, and me reflecting on running men’s recovery groups, we talk about a very practical issue - how much should a person in recovery tell their partner about slips, lapses, relapses, wayward thoughts, or other means of acting out? There’s a balance to strike between overshare and deception, and we aim to articulate what that is. The important thing to remember if you have lied to and betrayed your partner is that your partner’s biggest need is for safety.

Finally, we talk about the necessity for community, for spiritual practices, and for regularly doing spiritual practices in community.

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Matt Droguett can be found on Instagram at @mattdroguett and “The Matt Droguett Show,” on every podcast platform and on Youtube. He is further developing the ap “Uplift,” which is meant to encourage men by reminding them of what they already know about how to live well.

Contains explicit content - language, brief descriptions of war

Sobriety is challenging, even in the best of times for well-resourced civilians. Some folks struggle more, among them, our armed forces.

Soldiers in all branches of the military face a kind of stress that can only truly be understood by another soldier. Returning veterans carry unique burdens that can seem frightening and mysterious to those observing. Imagine what they are like for the people carrying them!

We can observe that addiction, particularly compulsive sexual behavior, is common among the armed forces and veteran population. One can wonder why this is. We know that war changes people. But how much? Does war cause a person to be more likely to develop an addiction? Or is it that people more pre-disposed to addiction are also more likely to join the military? How do traumatic brain injuried(TBIs) factor into the problem?

Most of all, how do we help our soldiers come home and heal?

Conrad Lipic is a veteran, an individual in recovery, and a recovery counselor and coach with specialization in treating compulsive sexual behaviors. He offers insights from his experiences, and invites us to consider hard and necessary questions. Finally, he provides suggestions and considerations for those helpers who want to support our armed forces as they learn to heal, connect, and thrive.

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Conrad Lipic can be reached at www.mindaligned.com and is currently accepting new clients.

Please do reach out! We’d love to hear from you!

#military #soldier #war #veteran #civilian #sobriety #recovery #addiction #compulsivesexualbehavior #sexaddiction #trauma #traumaticbraininjury #tbi #armylife #conradlipic #mindaligned #rhyspasimio #newpatterncounseling #csat #counseling #mentalhealth #therapy

Christian Gonzalez and Rhys Pasimio bring together clinical expertise, a shared love of Internal Family Systems, and the traditions of the Orthodox Church into one conversation about how to cultivate a healthy inner life.

Our center is on the person of Jesus Christ, but we talk about the difference between an intellectual understanding that may or may not make sense, and a tangible daily lived experience. 

Orthodoxy offers a “Beautiful healing way to live, versus just a right way of thinking. When we consider Orthodox spiritual practice, combined with the best of reflection skills from the psychotherapy world, we discover a way to experience healing, transformation, and the goodness of God here and now, in the body!

We again compare and contrast the language of “Parts” language Internal Family Systems and how Orthodoxy talks about the Passions. We reflect on our own experiences of learning to be gentle with, even praying for our wounded parts, and in this way finding more freedom than by endlessly criticizing ourselves.

Overall, we emphasize that Christianity is a way of life, one that is practiced daily. As counselors, we have access to even more tools to help us sustain the life giving practices. And all of this becomes possible in compassionate relationships with each other, and with a clear focus on Christ.

In discussing Lenten practices, we examine how asceticism factors into a spiritual practice, and caution against “The fourth taco.” 

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Christian Gonzalez can be found at [email protected], or with the Orthodox Youth and Young Adult Ministries on social media and at www.theoym.org .

#lent #greatlent #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #easternorthodoxy #christianity #monasticism #sobriety #spirituality #spiritualdisciplines #spiritualstruggle #Addiction #reflection #meditation #family #marriage #parenting #counseling #psychology #internalfamilysystems #ifs #parts #allpartswelcome #nobadparts #mentalhealth #therapy #newpatterncounseling #oym #orthodoxyouthandyoungadultministries #christiangonzalez #rhyspasimio

Kevin Roberts is a husband, father, business owner, and a sub-deacon in the Orthodox Church. 

In today’s conversation, Rhys and Kevin discuss the meaning of commitment in the spiritual life. We reflect on how a person is shaped by the commitments the make, the relationships they maintain, and the life-long vocations they undertake. We reflect on being drawn to monasticism, but learning to know the presence of God in the midst of hectic family life. We talk about how submitting to authority, and allowing our most important relationships to impact and shape us is life-giving and centering. 

Our conversation happens in the midst of Great Lent - a season of fasting and extra spiritual rigors. In light of this, we reflect on seasons of desert and struggle and feeling lost in the spiritual life, the sobriety life, family life, and life in general. We reflect on how being in a desert does not mean you have failed…it’s just part of how you grow.

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Kevin Roberts can be found at [email protected], or reading the Epistle at the Divine Liturgy.

#lent #greatlent #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #easternorthodoxy #christianity #monasticism #sobriety #spirituality #spiritualdisciplines #spiritualstruggle #Addiction #reflection #meditation #family #marriage #parenting #laity #readers #tonsure  #blessedsacramentleague #outercircleinnerstillness #newpatterncounseling 

If Bible College was the crucible, then monasticism is daily crucifixion…and we’re glad to be here.

Sister Lisa’s journey has taken her from Protestant Bible College, to Roman Catholicism, to becoming a nun, to founding a new monastic order in the wilds of Arizona. 

Here, she and Rhys discuss the spiritual life, the sobriety life, and what we can learn from the monastic traditions. We explore how silence, the inner life, mindfulness, the nous, and daily entering a silent pause are all concepts that offer us clues about how to anchor our lives to something healing and meaningful, even in the midst of a very strenuous vocation. We talk about daily sacrifices, and why we need clear goals in order to continue making them. We talk about the importance of consistency, and of community, in developing the spiritual life. We talk about how a daily pause begins to reorient our whole lives. 

When embarking on a long spiritual journey, we need anchors, to be grounded and to remember why we make the sacrifices we do. We find that the anchor is the pause - the daily slowing down, entering the silence, and listening.

We are driven by our loves, and our loves are shown by the things we actually do every day.

In all things, we remember that no matter how we struggle, we are not alone.

Sister Lisa offers the sobriety tip - “When we say no something, we automatically say yes to something else.” Therefore, we must be very intentional about directing our “Yes” to something good.

Listen along, and let us know what you think!

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Sister Lisa can be found on Tik Tok(until the government shuts it down) at @SisterLisaH, or through her work with The League of the Blessed Sacrament at www.sacramentleague.com

#lent #greatlent #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #easternorthodoxy #catholicism #catholicspirituallife  #catholicmonasticism #romancatholic #christianity #monasticism #monasticwisdom #nun #sobriety #spirituality #spiritualdisciplines #spiritualstruggle #monasticism #Addiction #reflection #meditation #blessedsacramentleague #outercircleinnerstillness #newpatterncounseling 

How should “Creatures of the senses” manage their appetites? Here I talk with Abbot Tryphon about sobriety. We talk about the relationship between a person and their drug, the dangers of too much free time, the influence of our family systems upon us, and why running is good for sobriety. We talk about the importance of beginning the day focused on the faith, why men need bond with each other, hugging redwoods, and the time Abbot Tryphon was mistaken for John Lennon.

So then, what can we learn about sobriety from a monk? Healing and growth center on a full-life transformation. Sobriety, just like faith, is a life-long journey, that’s meant to be undertaken in close fellowship with others. Our bodies matter, therefore we should get outside, exercise, eat well, and not waste away on a screen. Above all, we should never lose hope, never give up, and always keep our focus on the Heavenly Kingdom and the One who heals our souls.

Listen along, and let us know what you think!

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Abbot Tryphon can be found at abbottryphon.com. There you’ll find links to his Facebook, Youtube, Telegram, and other platforms. And if you can, try to visit him in person at the monastery! - https://vashonmonks.com/

#abbottryphon #monk #monks #monastic #monastery #orthodox #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #christianity #easternorthodoxy #vashonisland #spirituality #religion #sobriety #community #relationships #healing #psychology #technology #church #family #sobriety #reading #spiritual wisdom #recovery #sobriety #addiction #addictionrecovery #drugsandalcohol #pornography #mentalhealth #innerlife

More monastic wisdom, more stories, more Abbot Tryphon! In the 2nd of 3 interviews, I continue asking Abbot Tryphon about the Orthodox faith, the inner life, and what people in recovery can learn from people in monasteries. We talk about continual learning and why we need mentors, sponsors, and spiritual fathers. We talk about why we need to read and permeate our lives in spiritual wisdom. We talk about icon, but also by “being pushy” is the worst thing we can do as Orthodox Christians. Above all, we talk about how Christianity, like sobriety, cannot be an “add-on” to life - it can’t be done part-time; it has to be the central focus. 

Listen along, and let us know what you think!

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Abbot Tryphon can be found at abbottryphon.com. There you’ll find links to his Facebook, Youtube, Telegram, and other platforms. And if you can, try to visit him in person at the monastery! - https://vashonmonks.com/

#abbottryphon #monk #monks #monastic #monastery #orthodox #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #christianity #easternorthodoxy #vashonisland #spirituality #religion #sobriety #community #relationships #healing #psychology #mentalhealth #innerlife #technology #church #family #sobriety #reading #spiritual wisdom

What can we learn about the inner life from Orthodox Christian Monasticism? I wanted to find out, so one beautiful day in November, I made my way up to All Merciful Savior Monastery on Vashon Island, Washington, there to speak with Abbot Tryphon.

From the Lutheran tradition, to secular universities, to the field of psychology, to chaplaincy, to Orthodox Christanity, and from Portland, Oregon to San Francisco to Southern Oregon to the Puget Sound, Abbot Tryphon has seen many things, learned many more, and has a story for all of them. In our series of interviews, he tells of his life growing up, his education, the power of love, the power of the home life, major challenges facing today’s youth, what he’s learned through physical fitness, through psychology, what ultimately brought him to the Orthodox Faith, why reading about the faith isn’t enough, and why we need community. Some of his ideas are extreme(which is normal from the monastic world) but his bearing is gentle. Sit with him a while and you see that he deeply cares about people and wants to see them growing and thriving in the faith.

Listen along, and let us know what you think!

The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle. 

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Abbot Tryphon can be found at abbottryphon.com. There you’ll find links to his Facebook, Youtube, Telegram, and other platforms. And if you can, try to visit him in person at the monastery! - https://vashonmonks.com/

#abbottryphon #monk #monks #monastic #monastery #orthodox #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #christianity #easternorthodoxy #vashonisland #spirituality #religion #sobriety #community #relationships #healing #psychology #technology #church

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