Outer Circle Inner Stillness

We often talk about the “parts” of our individual systems, and today we talk about the “body part,” in particular. I caught up with Jenny Hayo, a practitioner and teacher in the wisdom traditions. She is certified in Hakomi, Internal Family Ssytems, and Yoga, and centers an ongoing, dynamic, and gentle awareness of the physical body at the core of any emotional and psychological work.

In this conversation, we start with our mutual love and appreciation for the IFS model of understanding a person, then I ask Jenny about why the body matters, what it means to remember your body, and how to go about cultivating a greater awareness of the body.

“The more awareness you have, the more knowledge you gain, and the more knowledge you gain, the more choice you have,” says Jenny, on why we should listen to our bodies. 

We reflected on the body’s crisis response system, and remark that we have lots of choices we can make throughout the day before we ever get to “The Crisis Choice,” which can often be associated with acting out. 

When we talk about practicing body awareness, and developing new daily habits, Jenny refers back to the Old Yoga Wisdom to say, “Start where you are,” and “Start small.” She recommends being gentle and noticing a few ordinary sensations. Describe aloud the sensations you feel. Don’t try to be fancy about it. 

She further recommends the book, Meditating with the Body, by Reginald Ray

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Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Jenny Hayo can be found at www.jennyhayo.com. 

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When you notice that you tend to end up as the Pharisee in one of the Gospel parables…what do you do about that?

Welcome to our most ecumenical episode ever!

Mary-Kate grew up Catholic, then married a Baptist, and now is being interviewed by Moses-Rhys who is Orthodox.

We start off talking about Orthodox Christian weddings, and go from there to reflect on our spiritual heritages, our journeys towards greater closeness with God, what do we do with the Bible, and finally - the difference between healthy spirituality, and spiritualizer parts.

As counselors, we talk about the relationship between spirituality and psychology, where they work together, and where they see things differently. We also look at how healing seems to happen, or rather - how it sometimes doesn’t seem to happen. Sometimes it seems like “praying more” doesn’t actually fix our problems.

Moses-Rhys brings in reflections on the Gospel story of Jesus and the Woman Caught in Adultery.

Mary Kate brings insight from the parable of the Good Samaritan.

We talk about the “Spiritualizer Parts” which we describe as those efforts we make to be righteous, and make sure everyone else is righteous too…but without a total compassion. We ponder this daring idea of getting to know why we sin or act out, rather than jumping straight to punishing ourselves.

Moses-Rhys shares about how his own struggles with “Sinful” sexual behaviors and thoughts have morphed from hating himself into being able to show love to a high-school aged part of himself that, back then, never felt seen.

Mary Kate reflects on her “Pious Part,” who can be internally viscous, and causes anxiety in church, and who is in conflict with a more joyful and exuberant part of her. This leads her to reflect on the writings of St. Paul about the Body being made of many members. This is typically understood as referring to the Church as a whole, but Mary Kate supposes that it also describes the inner life of an individual as well.

This leads to discussions about Passion, the nous, and pursuing the Inner Stillness.

Mary Kate also reflects on the hazards of following Parts and thinking it’s the Holy Spirit, while offering the more reliable approach of discerning the voice of God in the compassionate calm.

Bible Passages referenced

John 8(The Woman)

Luke 10(The Good Samaritan)

I Corinthians 12(The Many Parts)

Also referenced, the book, Altogether You, by Jenna Riemersma.

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Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Mary Kate Sowell can be found at Abundant Life Counseling Services, abundantlifecounseling.com in Austin, Texas.

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In this episode, I share personal reflections on my Lenten Rigor for this year(Going to Matins every morning that I can, which is something like going to a meeting every day). I reflect on the intrusiveness of a sobriety built on adding something into my life as the inverse of focusing on subtracting something. In week one, I was excited. By week two, I'm tired, and questioning the worth of it. 

But I suspect that, with both the sober life and the spiritual life, the points of early fatigue are just when I need to push forward. This is what it feels like to have my life shaped by something. This is what it means to identify a value, and live by it, even at great cost.

If this sort of conversation is helpful for you, please consider supporting the work of this podcast through dollar support at patreon.com/outercircle, and through rating, reviewing, and sharing the show on Apple, Itunes, Spotify, Youtube, and more. Follow me on instagram at @newpatterncounseling for even more updates.

As always, I love your comments and feedback. Thanks for listening!

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What's the most important component of good, healthy, long-term sobriety?

Hint - it's not abstinence.

It's also not self-care, boundaries, or good communication.

It has something to do with self-reflection, self-awareness, and community.

In this episode, I say that forgiveness and confession are the most vital components of sobriety.

This tends to be true of the spiritual life as well.

If I can forgive, and move on from bitterness, and let go of resentments, then I am free from how others burden me.

If I can take ownership of my actions and their impact on others, and confess my sins, and disclose my secrets, and declare in the open how I have harmed others, then I am free from the paralysis of having to stay shamefully hidden, and I am empowered to repair what I broke, reconnect with people, and move on toward thriving.

In this episode, I also muse on the concept of Self-Forgiveness. At this point in my life and career, I don't believe "Self-Forgiveness" is a viable concept, at least not in the Orthodox Christian Church. There is forgiveness of others, and there is confession of one's own sin, which then invites the forgiveness of others. In this, forgiveness assumes a community, and cannot be effectively done by a individual.

If this sort of discussion is helpful for you, please join the community at patreon.com/outercircle. You can also follow me on instagram at @newpatterncounseling.com. I'd love to hear from you!

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Rhys and Beth won the lottery...to an Internal Family Systems Level one training! From there they became friends and colleagues that talk about the Self, the Soul, and the Nature of Healing.

In today's conversation, Beth shares part of her story of being healthy, then becoming sick, then learning to find an inner spiritual health that leads to outer healing. She and Rhys(also known as Moses) reflect on how their spiritual practices and the IFS framework have revolutionized their approaches to healing and to recovery.

As part of our discussion, we offer a more in depth description of how the IFS framework conceives of a person. Each individual is a system of Parts(Manager Protectors, Firefighter Protectors, and Exiles) that is governed and nurtured best by the person's core Self.

As we talk about this "Self," and what it is, we ponder over how the IFS concept of Self mirrors how some spiritual traditions conceive of the soul. 

At the end of it, we highly recommend getting to know your system and your parts. And not just getting to know, but getting to love every single part of you.

This podcast relies on the partnership of listeners - especially with dollars! Please visit www.patreon.com/outercircle to learn how to partner with the vision of this show!

Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions!

Beth Piazza-Bonin can be found at her practice website https://www.pathofthehummingbird.org/. You can also follow her podcast at www.100percenthealing.com

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Always be a learner.

Always be a beginner.

Go back to Basics.

Blessed are the Poor in Spirit.

Be like the Publican, not the Pharisee.

All these ideas are variations on the theme of remaining humble and bravely acknowledging what you don't know and where you fall short. If you can do this, you can always learn, always grow, and always work towards repairing damage you may have caused.

Today's reflection is drawn from the parable of the Publican and the Pharisee, commemorated in the Orthodox Christian Church just three weeks prior to the beginning of Great Lent. This ancient parable is not just a cornerstone of the spiritual life, but has a wealth of insight for the sober life as well.

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I'm releasing this about a week late, but this is a reflection inspired by Zacchaeus Sunday, commemorated this year on January 29. In preparation for Great Lent, we talk a lot about repentance, and Zacchaeus certainly is a brilliant example of radical and healing life change.

The story of Zacchaeus also offers some metaphors and other insights useful to both spiritual growth and the sober way of life. In this little story, we can consider how we cope with insecurity, facing up to harm we've caused others, healing and welcoming back our exiled parts, forgiveness, amends, and finding community.

Let me know your thoughts on this discussion! Please join the podcast community at patreon.com/outercircle, follow on youtube, and on instagram at @newpatterncounseling. Thanks for your support!

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As we approach Great Lent, Rhys reflects on seasons of sobriety and the spiritual life. He contemplates the daily, weekly, annual, and crisis rhythms of heightened clarity and profound struggle, especially as outlined in the liturgical year of the Orthodox Christian Church. When we know that at point in the future we will struggle or encounter crisis, how should we best prepare for these times? What is the best use of the insights gained in the peaceful times?

Rhys talks about the impermanence of struggle...and of prosperity, and how in order to navigate periods of crisis, struggle, and suffering, we need to have already been practicing good spiritual and sobriety disciplines ahead of time.

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On the surface, James Cameron's film Avatar: The Way of Water is about blue people guarding their planet from humans, told in a spectacular way.

Embedded in the spectacle, though, are some very powerful depictions of themes very relevant to healing, sobriety, family, and identity. In this story, we get to explore how to relate to outcasts/exiles, how to integrate outsiders, how to rely on gentle strength, how to find identity, and how to make families.

All that to say, my friend and colleague Aaron Kelsay and I are both counselors and we both enjoyed the movie. In this episode, we share our thoughts and reflections. We hope this story may provide thought material that is useful to your growth process.

For more information about Rhys Pasimio, visit www.newpatterncounseling.com, support the podcast at patreon.com/outercircle, or follow on instagram at @newpatterncounseling.

For more information about Aaron Kelsay, visit www.progresscounselingllc.com.

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