If you’ve ever felt like you have to shrink your needs to support everyone else, this episode is for you. Dr. Reuben Faloughi joins me to explore how people-pleasing shows up in your life—and how unlearning it can open the door to a deeper, more honest relationship with yourself. This conversation is a reminder that your healing matters. Not just for you—but for all of us.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• About some of the twists and turns of my previous year
• How your people-pleasing may have started as a survival strategy, not a flaw
• Why it’s time to reframe the word selfish as something sacred and necessary
• What it looks like to let go of programming that taught you to put yourself last
• How your values can become a powerful GPS for your healing, choices, and leadership
• What might change when you stop learning on others and start learning from within
• Why tending to your inner world can create powerful ripple effects in your relationships, work, and communities
• What it means to come home to yourself—and why that’s not just personal, it’s political and spiritual too
• How to notice which patterns and beliefs you’ve outgrown—and what to do with that awareness
• The connection between personal healing and collective liberation
• A powerful reorientation: You are not responsible for your early programming. You are responsible for what you choose now.
• Your reflection question: What’s one belief or pattern that you inherited but might be ready to lovingly let go of?

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Visit Dr. Reuben’s website.
• Watch Dr. Reuben’s Ted Talk “The Disease to Please: An Invitation to Selfishness”
• Connect with Dr. Reuben on Instagram and on LinkedIn.

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Visit my website.

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Have you felt the excitement (and terror!) that comes along with pursuing your passion? If you have, you’ll love this episode featuring Bryan Pangilinan, composer, artist, singer, producer, CEO, husband and bird dad. In this episode, Bryan shares his journey of outgrowing the grind and pursuing his passion for music, leading to the creation of the musical Larry the Musical: An American Journey about Filipino American labor leader Larry Itliong.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• About a pivotal, permission-giving conversation Bryan and I had in a pool in Las Vegas five years ago.
• How different parts of Bryan’s identity as a gay, cisgender, Filipino American male from an immigrant family inform his life and work.
• Different steps along Bryan’s career journey - from moving to San Francisco in the late 90s to serve the Filipino American community during the HIV and AIDS epidemic to his 25+ years of experience as a professional fundraiser. 
• How performing in a play highlighted the dissonance between how things looked on the outside and how they felt on the inside for Bryan.
• How overcoming shame and guilt is often a large part of outgrowing the grind.
• What composing and producing a full-length musical with a 100% Filipino American creative time, cast, and crew that reached 8,000+ people in 23 sold out shows has been like for Bryan and his team.
• The vivid challenge of the Larry the Musical creative team choosing to continue to pursue their passion amidst steep upfront payroll and production costs and uncertainty.
• How this experience has taught Bryan and his creative team the importance of dreaming big and how “a dream is not impossible.”
• How Bryan continues to give himself permission on a regular basis.
• A little bit about the musical that Bryan’s creating now.
• The “intoxicating, calming, and joyful” national flower of the Philippines that brings Bryan back to growing up in San Diego.
• Your reflection questions: 1) What percentage of your life (your time, energy, and attention) goes towards what matters most to you? 2) How can you infuse more of what matters most into your life?

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Visit Bryan’s website.
• Connect with Bryan on Instagram here (@composerbryan or @larrythemusical).
• Learn more about Larry the Musical here and donate to keep the story going here.

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Today’s episode features Kellita Maloof, a trauma-informed, award-winning Performing and Teaching Artist and Conscious Burlesque Mentor, lovingly known as the Showgirl Shaman. Join us on this journey of joy, embodiment, creative expression and community!

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Kellita’s perspective on “the grind” and its systemic nature.

• How the grind had its grips on her even as a little kid with a worry list.

• How change requires feeling, which requires more time and space.

• How our feelings are our most current data and information in our lives.

• What sensations Kellita notices in her body when she’s excited about something.

• The offering Kellita allowed herself to change her mind about.

• Kellita’s journey towards dance and her shift in focus from her weaknesses to her joy.

• How joy and pleasure is a practice and can be easier to practice when in community with others.

• Kellita’s “gateway drug” that led her to a career in creative and healing arts.

• Why Kellita believes in prioritizing relationality over instrumentality like production and output leads to a more fulfilling and sustainable creative practice.

• Stacy shares her experience of dancing in San Francisco’s Carnaval parade last year and how the joy and connection far outweighed her initial fears and doubts.

• What orchids and highly sensitive people have in common.

• Your reflection questions: 1) Where do you notice feeling joyful? 2) What does it feel like in your body? 3) How can you infuse more of that into your life?

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Visit Kellita’s website here.

• Learn more about dancing in this year's San Francisco Carnaval Parade with Kellita and the Hot Pink Feathers dance troupe.

• Find out what your Showgirl Archetype is by taking this quiz.

• Join Kellita’s watch party intro events on Thursday, March 21st: register for her “From the Inside Out” documentary watch party or her TEDx watch party (or both!)

• Connect with Kellita on Instagram here (@kellitatheshowgirlshaman).

• Watch Kellita’s TEDx or her short documentary.

• Read my blog about getting ready to dance with Kellita in the San Francisco Carnaval parade last year!

• Read my blog about how dancing in the parade honored my value of delight.

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In today’s episode, you’ll meet Amber Dugger, the Founder of Profit for Keeps. Amber helps entrepreneurs outgrow the grind of financial confusion, disempowerment, and isolation and grow towards more clarity, empowerment and community. If you’re an entrepreneur who’s been longing for a more simple, creative, and joyful approach to cash flow, then this episode is for you.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How a cold piece of pizza at Amber’s cubicle desk was a moment of clarity.

• About how a  life-altering bike accident completely shifted Amber’s perspective on gratitude.

• What twists and turns Amber’s career took before she started leading the Profit for Joy movement.

• How Amber went from floundering after leaving her corporate finance job to being part of a community of entrepreneurs in Bali.

• Amber’s unique approach to money that doesn’t ignore our behaviors or emotions [that we all wish would’ve been taught in school!]

• The inspirational phrase that was written on a card Amber carried with her everywhere the first five years of her business.

• What I learned from Amber’s Profit for Keeps approach and how it’s positively impacted both my life and business.

• Amber’s approach to giving and service that also includes you as the owner of the business, not just your clients and the causes you care about.

• How to create financial goals that incorporate you, your business, and your big dreams.

• How profit for joy is about fulfilling our own desires AND putting money in the places where we want to see impact.

• How becoming more empowered around your finances can be creative and joyful!

• How being a 7th generation New Mexican influences which trees and flowers Amber most loves.

• Your reflection question: What would be possible if you proceeded as if success was inevitable? 

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Join Amber’s upcoming live [and free!] Masterclass “5 Key Strategies to Permanent Profitability” here on September 12th, 14th or 16th. In this masterclass, you’ll lay the roadmap to a profitable and sustainable business while uncovering how to start healing your relationship with money.

• Connect with Amber on Facebook.

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Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/outgrowthegrind/

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I'm so excited to introduce you to Seema Sodha, Canadian Indian leadership and executive coach, heart centered facilitator, women's circle holder, and writer. In this conversation, Seema shares about how easily creative endeavors can turn into the grind, especially when we’re looking for answers outside of ourselves.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The story of how I first met Seema and what an honor and delight it is to co-create with her.

• What household object the texture of “the grind” reminds Seema of.

• How Seema’s rigid writing regimen got her more words on the page but missed the heart and soul. 

• The messages we receive about productivity and action that can get especially loud when we create something new.

• How Seema shifted her approach to bring more of herself and her unique taste into her writing.

• The beautiful way Seema engages her senses and self-trust when she writes.

• How trusting ourselves is an important part of taking our power back, and how it’s a nonlinear process.

• What external forces make it easy for us to hand our power over to someone else and not trust ourselves.

• How Seema sees the moments we realize we’re in the grind as an invitation.

• How sharing your truth and connecting with others is an antidote to the sneakiness of the grind that wears us down.

• About our upcoming women’s circle where we’ll help you explore and befriend your inner good girl / people pleaser.

• The two herbs from Seema’s garden that transform her week.

• Reflection question: Bring to your heart or mind the thing that you're creating right now. How can you bring more of you [and your own unique flavor] into it?

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Reach out to Seema here. You can also find her on Instagram, Substack, or LinkedIn.

• Learn about and join our women’s circle (co-led by Seema and me!) on September 10th: Befriend You Inner Girl.

• Learn more about our Justice Equity Diversity and Inclusion (JEDI) Leadership programs at The Roundtable Institute. Does your company need this too? Email me.

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Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/outgrowthegrind/

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What if feeling like a “failure” is just a natural part of growth? 

It’s been more than six months since the last episode of Outgrow the Grind! In this courageous and honest episode, I share with you where I’ve been, what I’ve learned, and where I’m going.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

The three things I’ve learned about growth in the last six months: 1) You can’t rush growth; 2) Growth is both seen and unseen; and 3) Everything that grows has different growing conditions and a different pace of growth

What I was making “lack of growth” in 2022 mean for me personally and professionally

Why I took a 6+ month long “holiday break” from this podcast

How creativity calls forward our courage and invites us to break some rules

The impact that unshaming has had on me + my life  + my work

About my co-creative collaboration with Seema Sodha and what we’re planting and tending to that we’ll share with you!

My realization about how much I love and missed in person connection

How I went for exactly what I wanted to celebrate my 40th birthday

An update about my current Outgrow the Grind Women’s Circle

What I’ve been dreaming of offering you is finally going to happen this Fall! And spoiler alert, it’s in person!!

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

Kris Zarnoch is my amazing podcast producer, editor and creative director

Join my mailing list

Galway Kinnell’s poem, Saint Francis and the Sow

More about UnShaming with David Bedrick

Meet Seema Sodha, Priestess, Writer, Heart Centered and Inclusive Leadership Coach and JEDI Facilitator

Learn more about our Justice Equity Diversity and Inclusion Leadership programs at The Roundtable Institute

Danielle LaPorte’s Heart Centered Leadership Program

Join my Ease + Enchantment Retreat interest list

Are you feeling more burned out than lit up? Join my “Venture into Your Values” workshop on Sunday, June 11th and it’s $37. You’ll get 20% off if you bring a friend with the discount code BRINGABUDDY.

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Are you a high-achieving people-pleaser who wants to weed out the energy-draining bullshit and cultivate your courage?

Book a complimentary, no-strings-attached chemistry session with me here.

Visit my website: https://www.stacyrayekellogg.com/

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/outgrowthegrind/

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This time of year can sometimes feel heavy and exhausting. In this episode, I share some ideas about what may help you reconnect with your wellness and your wisdom.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What inanimate object I felt “jealous” of because of its carefree lightness
• What’s recently contributed to this feeling of heaviness for me  
• What Amelia and Emily Nagoski call ‘The Human Giver Syndrome’ in their book Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
• How the holidays can add extra pressure on top of what we’re feeling
• What can help us take better care of ourselves during the winter holiday season.
• The seven different types of rest from Dr. Saundra Dalton Smith’s Ted Talk (The real reason why we are tired and what to do about it).
• All about Lighten to Liberate, our upcoming women’s circles, where we’ll talk about how to shift from exhausted to energized by practicing the art of self-compassion
• A beautiful poem by Mary Oliver called The Journey

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Join the waitlist for the upcoming Lighten to Liberate women’s circles I’m co-facilitating with Leadership Coach and Heart Centered Facilitator Seema Sodha on November 27 and December 1, 2022.

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We’re joined by my previous client (and longtime hometown friend!) Chelsea Krueger in this episode. Chelsea shares her journey of outgrowing the grind in her relationship with her body.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• About the pressure Chelsea felt around what she ate and how she exercised when she was in the grind.
• How looking to external sources for “the rules” created more stress and burnout.
• What the grind felt like.
• A reminder that outgrowing the grind is a journey and not a destination.
• How Chelsea is outgrowing the Body and Wellness grind by tuning in and trusting herself more. 
• How permission won’t come from someone else (as much as we wish it would!)
• Chelsea’s many sources of support along the journey - and what her trainer, dance class, and coaching with me has helped her realize.
• The role that compassion plays in giving ourselves permission.
• A serendipitous story about a tropical photoshoot and Chelsea’s decision to choose permission over pressure in a way that honors her body exactly as it is.
• Chelsea’s advice for women in the Body and Wellness grind.
• Your reflection question: how can you honor your body right now, exactly as it is? 

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Curious about how coaching can support you and your growth? Book a complimentary, no-strings-attached chemistry session with me here.
• Are you craving more permission than pressure in your holiday season this year? DM me on Instagram.

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In this episode, we’ll dig into outgrowing the grind in relation to our body and wellness.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• A handful of inspiring quotes about nurturing your body and wellness needs
• How your body lets you know that you’re in the grind (and how it shows up for me!)
• The link between giving yourself permission and caring for yourself
• The recurring theme that came up during Permission Palooza (it might surprise you!)
• Some examples of what women gave themselves permission to do or not do
• What Permission Palooza participants learned from our 5-day experiment together
• Some ideas for how to give yourself permission to honor your body and wellness needs

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Craving a To Do List that honors your needs? Check out this workshop.
• Could you benefit from a free [and anonymous, if you wish!] coaching session to be featured on this podcast? DM me on Instagram (@outgrowthegrind).

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In this episode, you’ll get to be a fly on the wall for a coaching session with a volunteer client, Kate. Our session digs into the topic of self-love, what’s enough vs. extra, how to slow down your mind and body, and what permission to rest looks like.

🌱 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• A beautiful poem by Benedictine monk, author, and lecturer Brother David Steindl-Rast
• Kate’s realization about enough vs. extra
• The confidence that Kate has built by focusing less on external validation and more on her internal experience
• How years and years of being a “Doer” has made it hard for Kate to relax
• How to slow down and access calm within your body
• “Perfect” relaxation vs. good enough relaxation
• About identifying the ingredients of what you want and how to dial that up and down depending on what situation you’re in
• What Kate’s cats remind her of when it comes to receiving and rest
• An exercise that helps Kate get back into her body and relax
• What Kate agreed to try in the next week after coaching
• More about my permission-filled last weekend and what I realized from it
• What “Permission Palooza” is and how you can join us in a fun experiment that helps you and a community of women grant yourselves permission to honor your needs and wants.

🌱 Seeds planted in this episode:

• Do you find it challenging to give yourself permission? Join a free, 5-day experiment (Permission Palooza!) for women who are tired of waiting for someone else’s permission. It’s happening October 10th-14th, and you can join us here.
• Download a free grounding guide with 10 exercises to ground and calm you in less than five minutes, including the 5-4-3-2-1 senses exercise that Kate mentions in our coaching session.
• If you’ve been wanting to tend to your own needs and dreams in a small circle of women, check out my Outgrow the Grind women’s circle! All the juicy details here: https://bit.ly/tradethegrindforgrowth 
• Could you benefit from a free [and anonymous, if you wish!] coaching session to be featured on this podcast? DM me on Instagram.

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