Overcoming Should

The idea of having it all is that we NEED all these other things to be fulfilled, complete, and seen as valid by others. But then you no longer get ID’ed, start getting heartburn, and have to start making big decisions about what “it all” really is.

In this episode, you’ll get to peek behind the curtain and hear what it’s really like to be one of those people you’d see at a meeting, at a fundraiser, or on your social feed and say “oh, she’s got it all”. You’ll also hear from a licensed clinical social worker on what to do when having it all isn’t quite working out.

🔗 SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-10

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Whether at a party, out with friends, or enjoying dinner, having a drink or two is usually the norm. It goes together like eggs and bacon, Jim and Pam, or wine and cheese.

But sometimes we feel guilt for that last drink. and think... am I drinking too much? too often? too early? do I need to have another?

In this episode, I speak with a pharmacist who curbed her habit for over drinking on her own and now helps other women do the same. You’ll also hear from a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist on why we feel pressure to have that next drink.

🔗 SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-9/

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The need to be grateful implies that no matter what we're struggling with or what we've been through, we need to focus on what's going right and be thankful. And yes, in principle that sounds great, but sometimes the desire to be grateful brings on other feelings of guilt, loneliness, isolation, and resent.How can we find gratitude for the good, while not rushing past the pain?

In this episode, I speak with a young professional who has struggled with gratitude throughout her career and while pursuing a master's degree while working. You’ll also hear from a therapist and coach on the best way to feel grateful.

🔗 SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-8

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We want to think that we're smart enough, wise enough, savvy enough, and prepared enough to prevent harm from happening to us. We want to think that we can take all the right steps and do all the right things to avoid the bad stuff. But it just doesn't work that way. 

In this episode, I speak with someone whose world was turned upside down several decades ago when her husband was murdered and the secrets he'd kept came to light. You’ll also hear from a  practicing psychologist on the big-picture view of healing from trauma related to crimes, combat, and disaster. 

🔗 SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-7

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I'm not a big fan of the word strong. To me, it implies that no matter what happens, we present a picture of togetherness and braveness. But what about those things that happen that knock us off our feet and we never see coming. What about when we lose those people that hold us up.

In this episode, I interviewed a long-time friend of mine who lost his dad to a rare disease a few years ago. He shares what it was like in the time leading up to his dad's death and what the healing process has been like since. You’ll also hear from a psychologist on her own personal story of loss and how we support ourselves and others through extreme grief.

🔗 SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-6

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Is it possible for us to know every next step from age 16 to age 65? The pressure to know what we want to do with our lives starts at a young age and it never stops.

In this episode, we'll talk with someone who went from a BioChem major with medical school dreams, to corporate America, and every job rabbit hole she's been down since. You’ll also hear from a former therapist on how to embrace being multi-passionate and be open to what's ahead, instead of feeling the pressure to laser-focus on a career from day 1.

🔗 SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-5

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The idea here is that we can just skip to the end. Move on. Get back to the good part. No one wants to deal with pain or be uncomfortable, so let's just make it all better. But that's not how life happens. Life can be painful. Life can be uncomfortable. Life doesn't always consult us first.

In this episode, I interview a young woman who was diagnosed with life-changing cancer in her early 30's. As a warning, her story is incredibly candid and covers fertility, female reproductive health, and of course, cancer. You’ll also hear from a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist on how to handle infertility, grief, and being sensitive to others.

🔗 SHOW NOTES:  https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-4/

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The need to be perfect is all wrapped up in wanting to be successful, to be a good team player, and to be recognized. It rears its ugly head through guilt, shame, and insecurity.

In this episode, you'll hear from someone who's worked through their relationship with perfectionsim as an adult and how it formed through their abusive childhood. You’ll also hear from a licensed therapist on some tips for those dealing with a need to be perfect.

🔗SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-3/

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How do things like passion and purpose play a role in the ladder climb? What happens when you want something else beyond money and to be higher up in the food chain? How do those things define our ability to make a living?

In this episode, you'll hear from someone who grew up in a highly conventional setting, but decided to eventually step off the ladder to pursue something different. You’ll also hear from a certified coach and former therapist on how to combat pressure to be more and do more in your career--when that's not what you want to do.

🔗SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-2/

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The idea of sticking it out is that it will get better, get easier, or the right decision will get clearer. But a lot of times it just prolongs the inevitable.

In this episode, you’ll hear from someone who struggled with whether or not to leave a job they loved, because they kept getting reassured they’d be promoted. You’ll also hear from a licensed clinical social worker on how to cope with stick-it-out situations.

🔗SHOW NOTES: https://felterunfiltered.com/episode-1/

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