In this Monday Mindset Episode, first I am celebrating the 100th episode of this podcast! I am so ridiculously grateful for each of you supporting this podcast, and I am proud of airing 100 episodes. Are there things I would do differently? Yes of course. We live and learn when we stay in action and we can shift and grow as life continues to change. This podcast has gone through a few changes since it started ~ 2 years ago. As a special thank you I am offering a gift of one free ticket for The Power of Owning Your Choices Live Event on April 4th, 2020.

Go to iTunes to post a review. Take a screenshot and share it to social media and tag me @marshavanw on Instagram or Marsha Vanwynsberghe on FB, and your name will be entered into a draw for one free ticket. Promo starts, December 30th, 2019 – January 3rd, 2020

Today I am diving into a topic that answers the question about how to be more resilient in our lives. When I posted this question on social media of what topic to cover on my 100th episode, resiliency was one of the top questions I was asked.

I truly believe that ownership is the key to resiliency.

In this episode, I dive into my thoughts on ownership, what it means, how it helps us build resiliency, and what do I personally do when I hit the wall with a challenge.

1. Resiliency is like courage, it is a verb. It is not something we have or don't have. It is something we build by our choices every single day.

2. Learning how to take radical ownership, simply massive responsibility for our choices, thoughts, actions, reactions, and decisions is the way to create change in our life which helps in building resiliency.

3. We must not live in or blame others for our life. Blame is the complete opposite of ownership and blame will never allow us to build resiliency.

4. I share what I do when I hit the wall with challenges, and when this happens, I let myself experience the emotions, I evaluate my role in the situation, I let go of my ego and ask for help and stay open to receiving the support, and then I move. I get into action, make a choice, do something to create movement.

5. We can all build resiliency when we choose to put in the daily work to build this muscle.

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

Book your interview for the Leverage Your Story Mastermind

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/leverage-your-story-6-month-mastermind-program

About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of "When She Stopped Asking Why". She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to "Own Your Choices" in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#100: "Ownership is the Key to Resiliency”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, first I am celebrating the 100th episode of this podcast! I am so ridiculously grateful for each of you supporting this podcast, and I am proud of airing 100 episodes. Are there things I would do differently? Yes of course. We live and learn when we stay in action and we can shift and grow as life continues to change. This podcast has gone through a few changes since it started ~ 2 years ago. As a special thank you I am offering a gift of one free ticket for The Power of Owning Your Choices Live Event on April 4th, 2020.

Go to iTunes to post a review. Take a screenshot and share it to social media and tag me @marshavanw on Instagram or Marsha Vanwynsberghe on FB, and your name will be entered into a draw for one free ticket. Promo starts, December 30th, 2019 – January 3rd, 2020

Today I am diving into a topic that answers the question about how to be more resilient in our lives. When I posted this question on social media of what topic to cover on my 100th episode, resiliency was one of the top questions I was asked.

I truly believe that ownership is the key to resiliency.

In this episode, I dive into my thoughts on ownership, what it means, how it helps us build resiliency, and what do I personally do when I hit the wall with a challenge.

1. Resiliency is like courage, it is a verb. It is not something we have or don’t have. It is something we build by our choices every single day.

2. Learning how to take radical ownership, simply massive responsibility for our choices, thoughts, actions, reactions, and decisions is the way to create change in our life which helps in building resiliency.

3. We must not live in or blame others for our life. Blame is the complete opposite of ownership and blame will never allow us to build resiliency.

4. I share what I do when I hit the wall with challenges, and when this happens, I let myself experience the emotions, I evaluate my role in the situation, I let go of my ego and ask for help and stay open to receiving the support, and then I move. I get into action, make a choice, do something to create movement.

5. We can all build resiliency when we choose to put in the daily work to build this muscle.

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

Book your interview for the Leverage Your Story Mastermind

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/leverage-your-story-6-month-mastermind-program

About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#99: "Boundaries – Your Highest Form of Self-Respect”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, I am sharing my thoughts on one of my favourite topics, Boundaries”.  “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.  ~ Brene Brown.

Boundaries are the lines that dictate our actions and lead to clarity in our lives.  Creating and implementing boundaries are not about anyone else…they are the highest form of self-respect.

In this episode I share my thoughts on boundaries:

1.  The higher our personal demands, the more important it is to have personal boundaries.  Especially in the month of December, when our demands and expectations are incredibly high, we absolutely must have boundaries in place.

2.  Boundaries aren’t for other people.  They are about us and what we need to be the best version of ourselves.

3.  Look at where you have holes, gaps or anxiety in your life, because that is where you are lacking boundaries in your life.

4.  Take ownership.  Where are you the one contributing to the problem of your lack of boundaries? If you can find the gaps where you are contributing to the problems that you can also create the solutions too. Whatever we own we can change.

5.  Say no to the things you want to say no to and yes to the things that feed your energy and truly feed your soul.

6.  Your self-care game must increase in the same trajectory as your personal goals in business, life, health etc.  The reason we don’t follow through with our self-care goals is because we are missing setting and implementing personal boundaries.

7.  You are the only one who can set and follow through on your boundaries.  This one step may truly be the change you need to take yourself to the next level.

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

Book your interview for the Leverage Your Story Mastermind

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/leverage-your-story-6-month-mastermind-program

Check out my website -

https://www.marshavanw.com/

Join the Own Your Choices Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Ownyourchoicesplatform/

Connect on Facebook --

https://www.facebook.com.marshavanwynsberghe

Connect on Instagram --

https://www.instagram.com/marshavanw/

About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#98: "The Path to Building My Courage”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, I am answering one of the questions I received on how I found my courage to speak up and share my story.  I reference the quote by Brene Brown that truly sums up my journey of building my courage and how I decided to continue to follow this path.  “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.  Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.”

~ Brene Brown

In this episode I share the top tips of building my courage:

1.  Changing or shifting my mindset to allow more positive thoughts, and less toxic thoughts in is where it changed.  I was also committed to removing the negative thoughts, language, mindset and lack of self-worth that was consuming me.

2.  I looked back to where I showed courage in my life before to provide evidence to myself that I did have the tools and the ability to move forward one more step. Providing contrary evidence truly shifts our thoughts, beliefs and mindset.

3.  I recognized that I had a deep trust of myself for what feels right, what the right decision was and what the best decision was for me. This is from years of learning to listen to that inner voice.

4.  The only way I could find the feeling of belonging was to improve my level of self-acceptance.  I had to find a way to love, forgive, honour and trust myself again.

5.  I accepted that I wasn’t being authentic with anyone including myself.  There was no way I could build relationships with anyone because I didn’t allow anyone to see the real me and how much I was truly suffering.

6.  From the point I collapsed on the floor, I let go, fully surrendered and I made a choice that my life would look different moving forward and I agreed to pay it back in some way shape or form. Learning how to surrender truly saved my life.

7.  The more I practiced vulnerability by sharing my story, it brought other people into my life who needed to hear that they weren’t alone and that continued to feed me and fuel me that I was on the right path.  It was a cycle I chose to continue to repeat. It led to my freedom.

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

Book your interview for the Leverage Your Story Mastermind

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/leverage-your-story-6-month-mastermind-program

Check out my website -

https://www.marshavanw.com/

Join the Own Your Choices Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Ownyourchoicesplatform/

Connect on Facebook --

https://www.facebook.com.marshavanwynsberghe

Connect on Instagram --

https://www.instagram.com/marshavanw/

About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#97: "What Chapter Are You Stuck On?”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, I am touching on the topic of living in comparison and how we use that concept of comparing our journey, or our chapter to someone else.  I am sure you have heard the saying, “don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 10. Whenever we live in comparison, we take our eyes off our own journey, we forget our gifts, our personal power, our strengths and our abilities.  It also is important to remember that we truly don’t know the journey someone else has been on.  We think we do because of social media, but we must remember that it is only showcasing their highlight reel.  We truly have no idea the personal work, the years that someone else has dedicated to their journey.

In this episode I share the top tips of how to move forward another chapter in your life:

1.  Own where you are at, start where you are.  If you haven’t even bought the book, or opened it, then start there.  If you are on chapter 1, that is where you are.  Chapter 1 is a great starting place.

2.  When someone has achieved something you want to achieve, celebrate their success because it is what is possible for you too.  There is no lack or scarcity, only abundance, possibility and opportunities.  This is a mindset shift that takes time to adopt, yet it is worth learning HOW to shift this thinking!

3.  Commit to doing the work.  If it takes 1 year, 10 years or a lifetime, commit to doing the work on a daily basis.  Habits, rituals, mindset work, all of it is work, but it is how we can create the changes we are desperately praying for.

4.  Find someone who has what you want and choose to learn from them.  Make sure it is someone who is authentically sharing their journey, how they got to where they are and learn from them.  Whether it is through their books, podcasts, blogs, posts, programs or mentorship, commit to learning from someone who has walked the path you want to walk.

5.  Play the long game.  It takes time to go from chapter 1 – chapter 10.  You don’t get to jump 10 chapters.  It is always only one chapter at a time.  It takes time, commitment and persistence to create lasting change in our lives.

6.  Decide where you can move the needle first.  What do you need to STOP doing and START doing in order to create change?  Is it ownership, letting go of blame, anger, judgement, taking responsibility for your choices, self-care, or finding your courage?  Decide where to start, what to let go of and what to start doing.

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

#96: "Lessons From My Book" - 2 Years Later”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, I am sharing my thoughts on the lessons I have learned from my book – 2 Years Later.  It is hard to believe that it has been 2 years since I released my book, “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  November is such a month of reflection for me as I remember the emotions and the experience of releasing something so vulnerable to the world! One of the things I am the most grateful for is that this podcast wouldn’t be a reality if I didn’t step into the space and the energy of writing the book first!

In this episode I share the top lessons I learned from my book:

1. Fear is real – the fear of judgement, uncertainty, self-worth, the opinions of others – it is all real!  Denying or resisting it does not change it.  Accepting that it is a real emotion and learning how to move through it, is where the magic lies!  We decide how much value we give it or how much control it has in our lives.

2. Action trumps everything.  All the thinking, planning, to-do lists in the world will not create change in your life!

3. Our stories matter.  There is so much value in the lessons we have lived and learned, it gives hope to others, reminds them that they are not alone and it allows us to step in and create the impact we were meant to create. It gives purpose to our pain.

4. Nothing will change until we are ready to receive.  Receiving can be such a tough thing for women/people in general to learn as we tend to not create space and opportunity for receiving to happen.  Staying strong, pushing, perfectionism, are all traits that are blocking us from receiving!

5. Owning our choices and taking radical responsibility in our lives is the path to true freedom!

6. The WHAT is all that matters! Stop asking why and victim questions. No change will come from that. Focus on the what and that will get you into action to create change!

7. Be open to the unexpected. Some of the most incredible opportunities will come from the most unexpected places in our lives.  Stay open to what is possible!

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

Book your interview for the Leverage Your Story Mastermind

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/leverage-your-story-6-month-mastermind-program

Check out my website -

https://www.marshavanw.com/

Join the Own Your Choices Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Ownyourchoicesplatform/

Connect on Facebook --

https://www.facebook.com.marshavanwynsberghe

Connect on Instagram --

https://www.instagram.com/marshavanw/

About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#95: “The Path to Navigating Change” with Samantha Kris

Today we chat with Change Agent, Success Coach and Best-Selling Author and Speaker, Samantha Kris.

Samantha Kris is an international success coach, author and TEDx speaker. She has been recognized as one of the Top Women CEO’s and can regularly be seen on Breakfast Television. Impassioned by elevating others, Samantha founded the Bossing Up movement, which empowers people to step into their potential and create opportunities for success in their lives and businesses. Samantha's diverse education, change management expertise and business acumen has helped grow individuals and organizations alike. A true change agent, Samantha guides people and projects through obstacles and uncertainties to achieve breakthrough success.

In this episode we talk about:

1.  Good can be the enemy of great. Don’t settle if you know you are meant for more. If we feel the calling to do more, to make an impact and a difference in the lives of others, we must follow that calling!

2.  “Don’t half-cup your life”….”Life is too short to not be spent making an impact to help others”.  Remember you are not a tree, and if you don’t love where you are at in your life, you can move to do what makes you happy!

3.  Samantha talks about, “Outside-insight”, being able to take the outside view of where someone is at and help them to uncover or see their own insight.

4.  We are our own worst enemy. We must be kind and compassionate with ourselves and allow ourselves to grow as step into each new experience.

5.  There are times in our lives when we will be “in the mud”, and it may be very important to allow ourselves time to be in the mud.  What is it teaching us? What are we hear to learn? It is ok to be in the mud as opposed to avoiding, hiding or resisting the mud.

6. Owning your story is actually the key that connects us to the people we are meant to impact. 

7.  Samantha has a beautiful vision of creating an impact by helping people to navigate change.  Changing habits, rituals, decisions truly can create massive change in our lives.  Change can be scary, and it can also be the most beautiful opportunity.

Connect with Samantha Kris:

Facebook Group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/BossingUp/

Website:

https://www.samanthakris.com

On Twitter

https://twitter.com/samanthakris

On LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/samantha-kris-9b388428/

On Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/samanthakris3

On Facebook:

https://facebook.com/SamanthaKris

Connect with Marsha:

Book your Impact Call:

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

Join the Own Your Choices Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/2484404824955092/

About me –

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

#94: “10 Signs of Inner Strength”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, I am sharing my thoughts on the 10 Signs of Inner Strength.  There is far more than 10, and these aren’t the only 10.  These are the 10 that resonate with me.  I regularly receive messages asking, “how do I stay strong”, and “how do I stay motivated” etc. No one ever stays strong or stays motivated. It is a regular daily practice made up from our daily habits, rituals and practices.  There are so many more things I could have added to this list, these were the ones that stood out to me today.

In this episode we talk about the 10 signs of inner strength:

1. Accepting that we don’t have to know it all.  In fact this is impossible to do, and this is from pressure we are putting on ourselves that is completely unattainable.

2. Follow and listen to the energy.  When our internal energy is off, it is telling us that we are not doing enough to fill our own cups, and we are relying solely on ourselves to find the solution.

3. When we recognize that we don’t have all the answers, our next step is asking for help.  Whether it is in business, our personal lives, etc., we must accept that asking for help is not weakness it is a sign of strength.  When we surround ourselves with the right people we have a better chance of asking for help and not feeling that it is a sign of weakness.

4. Saying NO.  Practice it, and say it with no guilt or stress. Honouring what we need, listening and following through is an incredibly important practice to build our inner strength.

5. When we say no to something else, we give ourselves a chance to say yes to ourselves.  We must make ourselves a priority in our lives if we are to give ourselves a fighting chance to handle all of the different responsibilities we have on our plates.

6. Stop living in comparisonitis.  Constantly comparing our journey to others, is never accurate, we truly don’t know someone else’s story, and it causes us to forget what we are truly capable of and how powerful we are!

7. Accepting and practicing radical ownership of ourselves, our actions, choices, and decisions reminds us that we are in the drivers seat in our lives.

8. Be kind toward others, especially when life is challenging. Kindness and gratitude put us into a higher vibration, lifting our energy and reminding us that someone else is struggling more than we are.  This can help to change our perspective away from ourselves.

9. Ask where can we shift our perspective from being a victim to asking what is this trying to teach me, and how can we use these lessons to help impact, serve and support others.

10. Recognize what we do have, what we are capable of, what we have overcome, what lessons have we learned and truly how freaking badass we all truly are!

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call

#93: “Don’t Let Your Light Frighten You” with Jessica DeCastro

Today we chat with Author Jessica DeCastro.

Jessica is a newly published author, with her first publication - Heroin's Child - in The Great Canadian Woman anthology. She was born and raised in Toronto, Ontario, but has lived 20 minutes away in the suburb of Mississauga for the past 7 years. She is the biggest fan of the city of Toronto, embracing the beautiful diversity, endless opportunities and eccentric characteristics that make the city so special. Her current interests range from people and business development, to environmentalism and sustainability. It is important to her that she creates a positive impact on the future of her community and empowers others to do the same. She also loves the performing arts, travelling, and spending time with her family.

Growing up with a mother who was an addict, prostitute, and criminal, Jessica choose to be different. Instead of allowing her mother’s choices to be hers, she consciously separated herself from the expectations of others. She was determined to show them what she was capable of and that she could be her own person and create her own life aside from what was set up for her.

In this episode we talk about:

1.  Regardless of your life circumstances, it is important to learn to let go of the victim mentality as this will only keep you stuck.

2. Don’t let your darkness, or your story direct your life. It is your light that can guide you in your life. The Marianne Williamson quote has been a guiding quote in Jessica’s life. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

3.  Guilt is an incredibly heavy emotion and it can stop your growth in all areas of your life.  Learning what is your responsibility to carry can help put guilt into perspective.  It is worth doing the work to learn to release it.

4.  Addiction impacts families, not just the person affected by the addictions, it is truly a family disease.

5.  What we don’t process, or work to heal, will stay with us in our lives and impact us in potentially non-productive ways.

6.  All change is possible when we commit to doing the work, own our stories and own our choices.

Connect with Jessica DeCastro:

Website:

Here is the link to the Great Canadian Woman Co-Authored book:

SOFT COVER:

http://bit.ly/GCWSOFTCOVER

KINDLE:

http://bit.ly/GCWKINDLE

On Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/_jessicadecastro

On Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/Jessikeana

#92: “Where is Your Emotional Home?”

In this Monday Mindset Episode, I am sharing my experience from attending The Power of Success Event in Toronto where I had the pleasure of hearing Tony Robbins, Rachel Hollis, John Gray, Gary John Bishop, Molly Bloom and many other speakers.

One message in particular from Tony Robbins hit home for me. He spoke about acknowledging where our “emotional home” is.  This is the place that we continuously go back to, most times without even thinking about it.  It is so subconscious that we our thoughts, mindset, energy and beliefs drift back to our old patterns and our old ways.  If we are going to make a change in our lives, we must recognize our patterns, our normal ways of sabotaging ourselves and come face to face with our emotional home. Attending events in personal development, hiring the coaches and committing to bettering ourselves is great.  The intentions won’t be long lived or successful if we don’t address some of these issues. The quality of our life is determined by where we live emotionally.

In this episode we talk about:

1. Acknowledging what our emotional home is.  Is it stress, worry, anxiety, fear, paralysis, inaction, judgement etc.?  We cannot change anything if we do not acknowledge and accept what our old patterns are. This is where all change starts.

2. We can have the best intentions for creating change in our lives, if we don’t understand our methods for self-sabotage and come up with some alternatives, the law of familiarity will kick in and bring us back to where we started.

3. We all have potential to create any change we want to create in our lives.  If we don’t take action steps, potential means nothing.  We must get into action to give us results, positive or negative. Either way it is simply feedback for us to learn which direction we want to go next, and this in turn builds our certainty and belief in ourselves. This helps us to build the confidence and courage to use our potential again.

4. The first choice we all have to make is what do we focus on?!  What we focus on we feel.  That means if it is all negative, scarcity, comparison, doubt and fear, then that is all that we will see.  That only drops our energy, drains us of our potential and keeps us stuck in our original space and mindset.  Hence, no change happens.

5. If you don’t decide what you want to focus on the world will decide for you, and this will not create change either.

6. What are your action steps, your strategic plans for when self-sabotage kicks in?  Call it out, see what your normal patterns are and when it happens, and it will, change the pattern instantly in the moment.  Change can happen that quickly when we shift that every and change that pattern to one that takes us closer to where we want to go in our lives.

7. You can change your emotional home at any time by following these action steps, and that is when lasting change occurs in your life!

Connect with Marsha:

Book your FREE IMPACT call

https://calendly.com/mvanwyn761/impact-call