Own Your Revival

We all carry the quiet pressure to get it right — in our faith, in our relationships, in the way we show up every day. And when we fall short, it can feel like failure is permanent, like we're defined by our mistakes. But what if holiness isn't about perfection at all? In this episode, we explore a new way of living faithful and free — one where grace meets us in the mess, mistakes become opportunities for repair, and small, humble acts of presence transform our lives. If you've ever felt weighed down by the need to be perfect, this conversation is an invitation to discover a different path: one where faithfulness, not flawlessness, is enough.

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Sometimes life places us in seasons we never chose—when a marriage ends, the kids grow up, or the future we imagined feels uncertain. It's easy to get caught up in wondering what comes next or how to fix it. But what if the real invitation is to notice what's here right now—to pay attention to your own heart, your longings, and the ways God is shaping you in the present? In this episode, we reflect on why this matters and how to think about your thinking, exploring how purpose can be found and lived even in the in-between, preparing you for the next chapter in ways you might not yet see.

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Are your days packed to the brim, yet you still feel like you're falling short in your relationships? In this episode, we uncover the hidden pattern that keeps many of us overcommitted, exhausted, and emotionally unavailable.

We explore why saying yes all the time can silently sabotage connection, and how a simple shift in perspective can create space for love to truly flourish. If you've ever felt drained by your calendar, this episode is for you.

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After a summer sabbatical, I'm back in pod-land and so excited to be talking with you about recalibrating for healthy relationship. In this episode, we'll chat about the difference between good stress and bad stress, and why both are really just signs that your relational muscles are getting a workout. I share a personal story from the gym that surprisingly mirrors what happens in our hearts and relationships, walk through the same principles I use with my private coaching clients, and invite you to think about how you can use recalibration to grow love, trust, and peace in your own life.

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In this final episode of Season 2, I'm sharing why I've decided to pause the podcast for the summer....even though I was sure we'd keep going.

Inside, you'll hear:

🌿 What finally convinced me to step back for a season, even after feeling certain I'd found a sustainable rhythm

🌿 How this decision brought back memories of something that happened right after my youngest daughter was born — if you've been listening a while, you might remember this story, but today I'm seeing it in a whole new light

🌿 Why honoring the season you're actually in matters more than sticking to the plan you made

🌿 What the Church teaches us about rhythms of rest, reflection, and renewal

Plus, I'm offering a few simple reflection questions to help you discern whether it's time for your own pause, pivot, or deeper trust.

Mentioned in This Episode:

• The Family Day Retreat at the Waverly Retreat House (Lincoln area) on July 13 — come say hi if you're local (or want to be for a day. 😉)

• Season 3 of the podcast returns on August 25 🎉🎙️

• Subscribe to the Soulful Sundays email for weekly-ish reflections over the summer

Reflection Questions: 1️⃣ What am I hearing in my spirit right now? If God were whispering clarity to me, what might He say? 2️⃣ What does my body feel when I imagine stepping into this choice? Do I sense peace or tension? 3️⃣ What story am I telling about why I can't change my mind? Is that story true, helpful, or necessary? 4️⃣ When I picture this season, what image comes to mind? What would it look like to honor what's unfolding rather than resist it?

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Feeling like you're parenting a grown man with a beard and a Costco membership? If you're the one managing the calendar, fixing problems, and carrying the emotional load in your marriage, this episode is for you.

In "You're Not His Mother: How to Stop Parenting Your Husband and Lighten Your Load," we dive into the common—but often unspoken—parent-child dynamic that can quietly take over marriages. You'll learn how to:

• Recognize when you're overfunctioning and mothering your spouse

• Start breaking the cycle by stepping back with courage and grace

• Reclaim your energy and make room for real partnership

Plus, get access to a 14-minute audio reflection, "Lighten the Load," to help you notice where you're carrying too much and begin handing some of that weight back.

Ready to stop carrying more than your share and invite freedom into your marriage? Press play and let's get started.

Resources mentioned: 🔗 Lighten the Load – 14-minute audio reflection

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I'll never tell you whether to stay or leave a relationship—that's a deeply personal decision, and safety always comes first. What I will say is that sometimes, when one person starts to shift—by speaking up, setting boundaries, and reconnecting with who they are—the dynamic can begin to change. In this episode, I share a moment at the gym that unexpectedly mirrored what real strength looks like in hard relationships. It's not always in the dramatic decisions. Sometimes the flex is in the small reps—done with intention, clarity, and truth.

👉 If this conversation hits close to home and you're ready for 1:1 support, let's talk. Click here to book a free Discovery Call. I'll help you process what's really going on, find clarity, and take the next right step—whatever that looks like for you.

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In today's episode, I'm joined by Ashley Montag, MS, LIMHP, LMFT—a Catholic therapist and founder of Restoration Psychotherapy—for a rich and grace-filled conversation about what true healing looks like: mind, body, and soul.

We talk about the difference between trauma and unforgiveness, and why the feelings that surface when we see someone from our past don't necessarily mean we're doing something wrong. Ashley shares powerful, compassionate insights about being fully seen by God and learning to live from your true identity, even when old wounds resurface.

If you've ever asked yourself, "Why does it still hurt if I've already forgiven?" — this episode is for you.

Connect with Ashley and her team: 🌐 Restoration Psychotherapy

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When you're in—or recovering from—a destructive relationship, especially while trying to co-parent, it's tempting to focus solely on the other person's behavior. But what if one of the most powerful paths to healing is found in taking an honest look at your part?

In this episode, we dive into a deeper examen of how we may unknowingly contribute to the relational patterns we desperately want to break. This isn't about blame—it's about awareness, growth, and the freedom that comes from doing things differently moving forward.

This conversation is raw, real, and rooted in hope—especially for women who feel stuck in fear, shame, or self-doubt. You'll leave with clarity, compassion for yourself, and maybe even the language you've been missing to name what's really going on inside you.

Whether you're still in it, out of it, or somewhere in between—this one's for you.

Related Episodes from Own Your Revival:

• Ep. 16 – Tori Harris Gray on Marriage, Motherhood & Moving with the Holy Spirit

• Ep. 67 – When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work

• Ep. 71 – 3 Ways to Find Peace When Big Moments Don't Go as Planned

Resources:

• I Want to Trust You But I Don't by Lysa TerKeurst

• Al-Anon Family Groups (for families and friends of those affected by another's drinking)

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✨ I can't wait to connect with you and support you on your journey!

In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the emotional complexities that arise when significant life events don't unfold as envisioned. Whether it's a milestone celebration, a family gathering, or any pivotal moment, unmet expectations can leave us feeling disappointed and emotionally drained. You're not alone in this experience. Join us as we explore three comforting truths that can help you navigate these feelings, embrace the beauty in imperfection, and find peace amidst the chaos. Let's shift the focus from perfection to presence and discover the profound impact of showing up authentically.​

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