Ever feel like you’re losing touch with what you truly think, feel, and need? In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with your authentic self, even in the chaos of daily life. We’ll talk about the small, intentional moments that can bring you back to center—like noticing your feelings, identifying what truly matters, and practicing gratitude. By slowing down and tuning in, you can start to break free from patterns of disconnection and rediscover what makes you you.

We’ll also dive into why it’s so easy to lose this connection in the first place, especially if you grew up in environments where your feelings weren’t validated or learned to focus on others to survive. You’ll learn how those survival skills can linger into adulthood, keeping you task-focused and outwardly driven, but disconnected from your inner truth. Most importantly, this episode will show you practical ways to start shifting that narrative, one small, powerful moment at a time.

3 Key Takeaways

1.    Small acts of awareness, like naming your feelings or pausing to reflect, can create profound changes in how you connect with yourself over time.

2.    Practicing gratitude not only shifts your perspective during tough times but also rewires your brain to focus on positivity and possibility.

3.    Understanding how childhood patterns of disconnecting from your emotions show up in adulthood can help you reclaim your authentic self and start honoring your needs.

Every small moment

 of awareness

is a step toward showing up

 for yourself and building

 trust in who you are.

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In this episode, we’ll explore why these moments hit so hard and the impact they can have on our confidence and self-worth. Whether it’s the sting of rejection or the echo of old insecurities, these experiences often shape our inner dialogue, influencing how we show up in the world.

But setbacks don’t have to define us. Together, we’ll unpack how to shift the narrative, rebuild self-confidence, and find strength in adversity. Through actionable insights and relatable stories, this episode offers guidance for those ready to take their first steps toward reclaiming their sense of worth and moving forward with resilience.

Key Takeaways

Why setbacks feel so personal: Understand the deeper reasons why rejection or loss affects our self-image and how it connects to unresolved insecurities.

The power of inner dialogue: Learn how to identify and challenge the critical thoughts that arise after a setback to avoid distorted self-beliefs.

Small steps to rebuild confidence: Discover practical ways to move forward, reconnect with your worth, and grow stronger through challenges.

When life knocks you down,

acknowledging the pain

 isn’t giving up—it’s how you

stand back up stronger.

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If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

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Have you ever wondered how your life might change if you truly believed you were worthy of love, success, and respect? In this episode, we explore the transformative power of embracing your self-worth. We’ll discuss how feelings of not deserving shape your relationships, career, and even your ability to prioritize your own well-being. This episode paints a vivid picture of what life can look like when you break free from these limiting beliefs.

By examining the impact of self-worth on everyday decisions, this episode offers hope and inspiration for anyone who feels stuck in patterns of self-doubt. You’ll hear examples of how shifts in mindset can open the door to healthier relationships, greater opportunities, and personal empowerment. If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding yourself back, this conversation is your invitation to imagine something better.

Three Key Takeaways:

1.     Signs of Self-Doubt: Learn subtle ways feelings of unworthiness show up in your daily life, from avoiding opportunities to overcompensating in relationships.

2.     The Ripple Effect of Self-Worth: Understand how valuing yourself impacts everything—from the people you attract to the choices you make for your future.

3.     Steps Toward Change: Discover the first steps to shifting your mindset and unlocking a more fulfilling, empowered life.

The first step

 to breaking free

is believing you

deserve more.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments:

A 3 Step Process to Break the Habit

In this episode, we dive into how to recognize and manage “people-pleasing moments” so you can start living more authentically and confidently. Through a simple, three-step process, we’ll explore how to identify people-pleasing behaviors, uncover the fears behind them, and practice healthier responses. We’ll also discuss the importance of support systems, like coaching or a group, to help you break free from these patterns and sustain your progress.

Key Takeaways:

1.   Identify People-Pleasing Behaviors: Recognizing your own people-pleasing actions—like avoiding disagreement or overcommitting—is the first step. These behaviors often stem from a desire to avoid conflict or rejection.

2.   Understand the Fear Driving People-Pleasing: Often, people-pleasing is driven by underlying fears, such as a fear of conflict, rejection, or judgment. Acknowledging these fears helps you understand why you might struggle to assert yourself.

3.   Practice Alternative Responses and Seek Support: To overcome people-pleasing habits, practice simple, kind responses that honor your boundaries. Consider seeking coaching or joining a group for accountability, encouragement, and feedback on this journey.

People-pleasing hides in plain sight—

pay attention to when you’re saying yes

just to avoid discomfort,

not because you truly want to.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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In this episode, we’re tackling a form of anxiety that many of us experience but often don’t recognize: invisible anxiety. It’s that subtle, lingering feeling of stress that you can’t quite explain, but it’s always there. We’ll discuss how this form of anxiety might be connected to subtle behaviors from the people around you, behaviors that can quietly undermine your peace without you even realizing it.

Through thoughtful exploration, we’ll look at how this anxiety shows up, especially during big transitions or important moments in life. You’ll learn why it’s so important to listen to this inner tension and how identifying these subtle cues can lead to clearer decision-making and healthier boundaries.

Key Takeaways:

1.    Invisible anxiety can be a signal that subtle boundary-crossing behaviors are at play.

2.    This anxiety can have a ripple effect, impacting your ability to make clear decisions and stay grounded.

3.    Tuning into these subtle stressors can help you regain control, set boundaries, and restore peace of mind.

Invisible anxiety can make you

feel crazy on the inside,

 but it’s a sign that

the behaviors around you

aren’t as innocent

as they seem.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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In this episode, we explore the complex emotion of guilt and how it can interfere with our ability to maintain healthy boundaries and practice self-care. We dive into the crucial difference between earned and unearned guilt—understanding when guilt is a natural response to our actions and when it is misplaced, often stemming from external pressures or unrealistic expectations. 

We also discuss practical strategies for distinguishing between what we can control—our own reactions, decisions, and behaviors—and what we cannot control, such as the actions and decisions of others. Through real-life examples, we illustrate the importance of setting clear boundaries and embracing healthy detachment, allowing us to focus on self-responsibility and personal growth.

Three Key Takeaways:

1.    Understand the Difference Between Earned and Unearned Guilt: Learn to recognize when guilt is a result of your actions and when it’s misplaced or coming from external pressures, and how to address each appropriately.

2.    Identify Boundaries and Responsibilities: Understand the importance of distinguishing between what choices are yours to make and what belongs to others, helping to prevent taking on unnecessary guilt and fostering healthier relationships.

3.    Embrace Detachment for Growth and Well-Being: Practice letting go of control over others’ choices, focusing instead on self-responsibility and self-care, which supports both personal growth and healthier, more balanced relationships.

Real self-care means creating

 boundaries that preserve our peace,

rather than exhausting ourselves

to solve others' problems.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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In this episode, we explore the complexities of detachment, especially when it involves letting go of outcomes that feel crucial to our sense of security and well-being. Letting go can feel incredibly challenging, particularly for those with a history of trauma, as it often triggers a deep-seated fear of losing control.

We also delve into the concept of the bargaining stage of grief, where we negotiate mentally and emotionally to escape the discomfort of uncertainty. This bargaining mindset can be a major barrier to healthy detachment, as it prevents us from accepting reality and moving forward.

Three Key Takeaways:

1.  Detachment is Challenging, Especially for Those with Trauma Histories: Fear of losing control is a natural response, particularly for those who have experienced trauma.

2.  The Bargaining Stage of Grief Can Hinder Detachment: When we fear letting go, we often engage in emotional bargaining, trying to negotiate our way out of uncertainty.

3.   Letting Go Means Accepting What We Cannot Control: Healthy detachment involves recognizing the limits of our control and focusing our energy on what we can influence—our own emotions and choices.

Detachment doesn’t

mean we don’t care.

It means we’re wise enough

 to recognize what

 we cannot change.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

In this episode, we explore the crucial role that trust plays in forming and maintaining meaningful relationships. Trust is the bedrock of any healthy connection, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect necessary for a relationship to thrive. We discuss how to identify trustworthy individuals by looking for key signs such as honesty, reliability, and consistency between words and actions. 

We discuss how to recognize subtle red flags that may indicate a person is not trustworthy, as well as the importance of self-awareness in breaking the cycle of choosing untrustworthy partners or friends. By understanding the underlying reasons for these patterns and learning to trust our intuition, we can make more conscious decisions about the people we allow into our lives, ultimately fostering relationships that are built on a solid foundation of trust and mutual respect.

3 Takeaways:

1.     Trust is the foundation of all healthy relationships, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect needed for meaningful connections to flourish.

2.     Consistency between words and actions, along with honesty and reliability, are key indicators of a trustworthy person.

3.     Recognizing and addressing underlying factors can cause us to place our trust in people who cannot be trustworthy.

Trustworthy people

don’t make excuses;

 they make things right.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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In this episode, we delve into the insidious nature of manipulation and its profound impact on self-perception and self-worth. Manipulation, particularly in close relationships, often goes unnoticed as it subtly undermines confidence, distorts reality, and erodes a person’s sense of identity over time. We explore how tactics like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and subtle undermining can make individuals doubt their own experiences, leading them to question their value and place within the relationship. As these manipulative behaviors become patterns, the victim’s self-esteem gradually diminishes, trapping them in a cycle of dependency and emotional confusion.

You will gain insights into how to recognize these patterns of manipulation and the long-term effects they can have on mental health and personal growth. By understanding the deep-seated impact of manipulation, you can take the first steps towards healing and fostering healthier, more authentic relationships.

3 Key Takeaways:

1. Recognizing Patterns: Manipulation often manifests as a pattern of subtle behaviors that erode self-confidence and self-worth over time. Identifying these patterns is crucial to breaking free from their grip.
2. The Impact on Perception: Manipulative tactics like gaslighting and blame-shifting can cause individuals to doubt their own reality and experiences, leading to confusion, dependency, and a loss of self-identity.
3. Reclaiming Self-Worth: Understanding the long-term effects of manipulation is the first step in rebuilding confidence and self-worth. By setting boundaries and seeking support, individuals can begin to reclaim their identity and foster healthier relationships.

Manipulation is a slow poison that erodes

your self-worth and distorts your reality,

 leaving you questioning your own

 mind, feelings, and boundaries.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

In this episode, we explore the crucial role boundaries play in maintaining emotional well-being and reducing stress. We delve into common scenarios where boundaries might be lacking, such as overcommitting to tasks, neglecting self-care, and engaging in people-pleasing behaviors.

By identifying these boundary issues, we can better understand the sources of our frustration, resentment, and anxiety. Through practical advice and real-life examples, this episode provides you with strategies to recognize and address missing boundaries, both in your personal and professional life.

Key Takeaways

1.   Identify the Signs of Missing Boundaries: Recognize when feelings of stress, resentment, or anxiety indicate that boundaries are being overstepped or ignored, either by yourself or others.

2.   Set and Communicate Boundaries Clearly: Learn to assertively communicate your boundaries to others and practice self-discipline to respect your own limits, ensuring you prioritize self-care and personal well-being.

3.   Understand the Role of Self-Boundaries: Realize that setting boundaries isn't just about managing others' behavior but also involves regulating your own actions and reactions to maintain a healthy balance in life.

Self-sabotage is the

 invisible force

that separates you

 from the life

 you envision.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! 

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!