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Welcome to episode Sixteen where we explore the idea of Boundaries in our communication – because how we speak to one another is how we demonstrate healthy boundaries or not.

In this episode I get into one of my favorite topics: Healthy Communication. I think our communication can make a relationship emotionally safe and trusting, or not. Since connection is not possible without open, vulnerable and respectful communication, if we want to have healthier relationships, we must look at this aspect.

So join me as we contrast healthy vs unhealthy, and evaluate our relationships – as well as ourselves!

Key Elements

· Identify unhealthy communication elements and how they impact you.

· Acknowledge origins of unhealthy behaviors

· Grab some easy tools to begin connecting in healthier ways today.

"You. You. You." Unless someone is offering

validation and empathy, "you"

statements should NOT be happening!

Resources

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thanks for Listening!

Welcome to episode Sixteen where we explore the idea of Boundaries in our communication – because how we speak to one another is how we demonstrate healthy boundaries or not.

In this episode I get into one of my favorite topics: Healthy Communication.  I think our communication can make a relationship emotionally safe and trusting, or not.  Since connection is not possible without open, vulnerable and respectful communication, if we want to have healthier relationships, we must look at this aspect.

So join me as we contrast healthy vs unhealthy, and evaluate our relationships – as well as ourselves!

Key Elements

·       Identify unhealthy communication elements and how they impact you.

·       Acknowledge origins of unhealthy behaviors

·       Grab some easy tools to begin connecting in healthier ways today.

“You. You. You.” Unless someone is offering

validation and empathy, “you”

statements should NOT be happening!

Resources

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com.  Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thanks for Listening!

Welcome to episode Fifteen, where we explore the concept of Internal Boundaries – or Self Discipline. We talk about why this is the "Internal Half" of boundary work, and give you some tools to get started.

In this episode I get into the importance of getting out of the Prison of Perfection that immobilizes you, and taking steps to create Good Enough and Better choices for your self-discipline. Internal boundaries are the key to self-confidence. They require that we make friends with reality, and choose the footwork we must do if we want to have what we say we want…to be more fit, to be more financially responsible, and to be more organized and successful!

There are valid reasons why you may struggle to not self-sabotage, why you get caught up in perfectionism and other distorted beliefs. Change is so possible there though. You just have to Press Play and begin somewhere. Change begets change. Growth begets growth. If you begin to commit in one area, you will translate that to other areas. Join me in this in-depth episode to begin your internal transformation!

Key Elements

· Define what internal boundaries really are

· Identify some of the common obstacles to getting started

· Use thought provoking questions to nail it down and get ready

"Discipline is the bridge

between goals

and accomplishments."

-Jim Rohn

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Welcome to episode fourteen where we get into what manipulation and control look like, their destructiveness in relationships, and how they relate to healthy boundary setting.

I believe manipulation is one of the most toxic behaviors in a relationship because you cannot feel emotionally safe or have trust when there is manipulation. It is dishonest and often invisible at first, so it can be so crazy-making and greatly impact your sense of self! It is not safe to be open and vulnerable and usually leads to tons of conflict and often an end to a relationship. We also identify other forms of control that also can thwart connection. If you sense there is manipulation in your relationship, this is a great episode to help you identify it.

Key Elements

· Identify what emotional manipulation is and why it's so toxic

· Look at fear-based control and where it comes from

· Contrast these with detaching and risking setting healthy limits to be more loving

I cannot simultaneously

set a boundary with you

and

take care of your feelings.

- Melody Beattie

Resources

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

The Disease to Please by Harriet Braiker

Emotional Blackmail by Dr. Susan Forward

Thanks for Listening!

Welcome to episode thirteen, where we explore the concept of griefwork when setting boundaries in relationships. Being able to detach and grief is essential to have hope and healing.

This work can be quite challenging at times, especially when the stakes are high, such as a partnership, a marriage or family member. Because setting limits creates healthy separateness, surrendering to the reality of the situation is crucial to regain your sanity, and your footing, especially in difficult situations.

The opposite of healthy boundaries is called enmeshment where the lines are so blurred there is no vulnerable grieving – this eventually creates a toxic environment for all involved. Detaching and grieving can breathe new life into hurting relationships, yet it is not without great risk! Not all outcomes are happy endings, hence the need for grief work. We are grieving the Dream – not the reality. Big dreams, little dreams, but they all matter to us, right?

So if you know life needs to get better, join us for this important episode.

Key Elements

· Identify the stages of grief, and what to expect from each one when setting limits

· Explore why letting go of control and surrendering to what is can be lifechanging

· Name the things you will need for this vulnerable journey. We can't do it alone!

Healing hurts at first.

But it's the only way forward.

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In this episode we focus on what loving detachment is, what it isn't, and how it is so integral to setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. Letting go is not easy, yet it is the only way to find peace in your relationships. If you struggle to not be "so involved" in what others are doing (or not doing!) and it's making you nuts, this is the perfect episode for you.

Key Elements

· Define what loving detachment looks like

· Name some of the consequences of control

· Focusing the wonderful benefits of letting go

"When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice." ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

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