We often have such an activated nervous system in relationships where we don’t feel safe.  We interpret that activated nervous system from abusive or neglectful relationships as excitement.  Your draw to that person is a draw to excitement because excitement makes you feel alive.  

In this episdoe of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about the dynamics behind our draw to the narcissist, sociopath or abuser in our lives, trauma bonds, the Stockholm Syndrome, and how we can truly heal and move forward into a healthy relationship with ourselves.

Karma is the Universal Law of Cause and Effect.  But how does that show up in our lives?  Do we really reap what we sow? Do people really get away with cruelty and dirty deeds towards others?  

In this episode of Pandora's Box Kaleah talks about karma from the perspective of emotional life and death.  She talks about Karma in relationship to living in a narcissistic society, dealing with narcissistic people and facing our own inner narcissism.  

Join Kaleah to learn more about how you can walk the "Good Karma Path" and reap what you sow in a way that brings you more of what you truly seek in life.

Relationships can be challenging for anyone and if we don't have the skills to work through relationship challenges we will never have strong relationships with others.  In this Episode of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about how relationships come into our lives to show us what is hidden within ourselves.  We get to know ourselves on deeper and deeper levels through the mirrors of our personal relationships.  We can learn to work with our shadow side and bring what is hidden to light.  We can learn how to be transparent and have greater levels of intimacy.  

Kaleah also talks about narcissistic personality disorder and how the complex defense structure in a narcissist prevents him/her from having a true, intimate relationship with another.  

Tune in and expand your inner world!

In part nine of "Self Loathing to Self Loving"Kaleah delves into the topic of "Self Image" and how your beliefs effect how you feel about yourself.  More powerful tools for those recovering from narcissistic abuse and also those who are simply recovering the SELF.  

In this episode Kaleah talks about how a relationship with a narcissist affects one's Self Image and how you can take charge of how you perceive yourself in order to feel better not only on the inside but also feel better about the reflection you see in the mirror.

Perfectionism is the curse of dysfunctional society.  As humans we are far from this thing we call perfection.  We may bake the perfect cake, write the perfect letter, make perfect grades in school, achieve perfection in some kind of performance, but as human beings we are flawed and imperfect.  We are by design creatures who learn by making mistakes. 

In this episode of Pandora's Box, Kaleah talks about how to confront your own need to be seen as perfect and accept yourself as you are.

We often equate feeling bad with feeling we are bad.  When we are angry, sad, depressed, confused, and dealing with a lot of intense emotions it is easy to feel there is something seriously wrong with us.  Especially when everything feels wrong.

In this episode of Pandora’s Box, Kaleahexplores the world of “feelings” and how to embrace and love yourself in all your complex emotional states.  Learn to embrace your “feeling” Self in a powerful way.

In my work with victims of narcissistic abuse I notice how difficult it can be for those who have been devalued and discarded by a narcissistic personality to pull themselves back up and find love again.

People who are very loving, compassionate and empathetic are often targets for the projection of the shadow from unconscious people. Those who carry a lot of light are also the target for those lost in darkness. When one is targeted by unconscious people it can be difficult to stay strong in oneself. Even Jesus was challenged by the constant persecution that came with walking in the light and speaking his truth.

How do we stay firmly rooted in the light of love? How do we stay true to ourselves when that truth is constantly being distorted by others? How do we love ourselves when we are hated by others?

In this episode of Pandora’s Box Kaleah joins with seasoned Psychologist Ernie Vecchio in a heartfelt conversation about staying anchored in love regardless of what is going on around you.

Why Do I Keep Picking People Who Treat Me Badly?  This is the most common question I am asked in my counseling practice.  Although the majority of my clients come to me to heal from a damaging relationship I am fortunate to be working with so many people who are seeking to understand the deeper patterning that keeps them continuing to choose those toxic, dysfunctional and abusive relationships.  

In Episode 6 of "From Self Loathing to Self Loving" we are going to talk about relationship patterns, what causes us to unconsciously choose what we choose and how we can change those patterns.

Part 5 in the Series “From Self Loathing to Self Loving.”

Loneliness can be one of the most painful conditions in our society. With our world becoming more and more a virtual reality we experience even greater disconnection from each other. The hunger and longing for connection to Self, Source and each other can lead us to the depth of our own being where we confront our greatest loneliness and emptiness.

In this episode of Pandora’s Box we will be delving deeply into the experience of loneliness to bring about greater understanding and healing.

We have been talking about the different aspects of our personality and how to get them working together for our highest and best good.  One part that always gets in the way is the inner judge.  This is the part of us that finds us guilty, often without a fair trial.  How do we work with this aspect of Self? 

Join us for Part 4 in our Series “From Self Loathing to Self Loving” and love yourself more!