Parenting Our Future

Nobody is good when you are operating on little sleep. Not you OR your kids! So often we get frustrated when our kids resist sleep, come out of their bed multiple times, won’t sleep unless they are with you or have frequent night waking.

Our biggest mistake is the expectation that our littles can sleep like adults do. They can’t so we need to help them. My guest Lara Rabb is a sleep expert and talks about how our children have both physical and emotional needs that can wake them from a restful sleep. Physical needs like hunger, or being too hot or cold. Emotional needs like a bad dream, or fears. As adults we can meet these needs for ourselves but our little ones can’t. Lara takes a holistic approach to looking at your child’s needs and what they are getting during their awake times that might be interfering with their sleep. Listen in as she talks about what your baby and toddler are needing to help them sleep better and answers your most common sleep frustrations from frequent waking to bedtime refusal. About Lara Rabb : Lara Rabb is the founder of Heavy Eyes Happy Hearts Sleep Consulting. She is passionate about helping tired families make attachment-focused sleep decisions that ultimately lead to more rest. On the blog she shares helpful hints, tried and true techniques, and peaceful parenting advice for those difficult moments. Lara lives in the greater Vancouver area with her partner and two young children. She is currently pursuing a master’s degree in counselling psychology to better serve her community. Website - www.heavyeyeshappyhearts.com Blog posts - https://heavyeyeshappyhearts.com/blog/ Find Lara on Facebook or Instagram @heavyeyeshappyhearts email - [email protected] From the Podcast Thanks for listening! It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism. We have too much of that! I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be. My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave a review I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value-adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!

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This is an episode that EVERY parent needs to listen to.  Pornography is simply, picture poison and is a health crisis we can’t ignore.  Any child with a device has access to porn.  By the age of 12, it’s extremely rare for a child not to have seen a pornographic image according to my guest and author, Kristen Jenson.  There are SO MANY reasons why you NEED to teach your children to reject porn.

 

Did you know that Porn has a special grip on us because we are naturally wired to be interested and curious?  It's a biological reality and when young children see it, it sexualizes our children pre-maturely. 

 

Ignoring this issue or thinking your child won’t be affected, doesn't prevent your child from seeing it.  If you haven’t had a conversation with your kids, when they see it, they’ll be caught off guard and don't know what to do!  Open up a dialogue with your kids before now or before they see it.

 

The benefits of good porn refusal techniques can keep you kids safe from sexual predators because they use pornography to groom children and desensitize/normalize it so it’s easier to abuse the child. 

 

Listen in as Kristen talks about how we need to give kids a definition for what pornography is, then we give them a warning and a plan of action.    Listen to Kristen’s plan for young kids with "Turn, Run Tell" and older kids “Can DO”.

 

About Kristen Jenson:

Kristen A. Jenson is the author of the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of read-aloud books. With over 150,000 copies sold worldwide in 5 languages, her books are a valuable resource to help children develop an internal filter against inappropriate content. She is the founder of Protect Young Minds, an organization dedicated to helping parents empower their kids with tools to resist and reject pornography including the new Brain Defense™ Digital Safety curriculum for elementary students.

 

Kristen is an active member in the Safeguard Alliance of the National Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation and has testified before the Washington State Senate Law and Justice Committee on the public health crisis of pornography.

 

She is a popular guest on radio broadcasts as well as podcasts and webinars and continues to be a strong voice for protecting children from all forms of sexual exploitation. Kristen earned a B.A. in English Literature and an M.A. in Organizational Communication.

 

Kristen is the mother of three children and her latest honor is becoming a grandma! She lives with her husband in the beautiful state of Washington.

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ProtectYM/ Instagram: @protectyoungminds Twitter: @ProtectYM        

Email: [email protected] 

Website/books:  https://protectyoungminds.org/books/     

 

From the Podcast

Pornography Definition:  pictures, cartoons or videos with people with no clothes on, focusing on the private parts of the body.

 

Parents, get yourself educated- quick start guide for parents https://www.protectyoungminds.org/quick-start-free/

 

FREE Smart Plan Guide https://www.protectyoungminds.org/smart-plan-free/

 

To help you start the conversation - use the books and articles found on www.protectyoungminds.org

 

For Young kids:

TURN away from the bad pictures

RUN and find a trusted adult or parent

TELL them what you saw

 

For older kids use the CAN DO Plan:

Close my eyes immediately

Always tell a trusted...

We know that getting a child to talk is difficult, but getting them to share can be so hard!    Raising kids with strong emotional intelligence (EQ)  is like equipping them with a super power!  This can be hard to teach this to our kids if we don’t have strong emotional intelligence ourselves (being able to name our feelings and those of others).  Let’s face it, most of us weren’t raised with parents who were emotionally intelligent themselves, so many of us never learned how to be.  Don’t worry!  It’s something we can grow at any time (unlike our IQ). 

When I met with Kristen and Kaaveh from Witz and Marbles, I was so excited to share what they do because their interactive activity kids help bridge that gap for kids and parents!! 

They (like I do!) believe that the conversation should be ongoing, families need a safe space to share and children need to feel secure enough to do so.  Witz & Marbles have curated emotional wellness themed interactive activity kits filled with engaging games, thought provoking story books, sensory toys, activities and more.  

Listen in as we talk about what feelings kids are having during the time of so much unrest and insecurity.

About Kristen and Kaaveh from Witz and Marbles in Their Own Words

I (Kristin) struggled with anxiety for most of my life.  In my first year as an elementary school teacher, there was a day I couldn’t take it anymore because of all the fights, bickering and tears.  Therefore, I stopped teaching the lesson that day.  They looked at me like I was crazy.  I began to share my stories as a child and I asked them to share theirs. The flood gates opened! Divorce, deportation, moving, anxiety, bullying (at home and at school), and lack of self confidence!  No wonder these kids couldn’t focus. I opened up the conversation, gave them a safe place to speak and they took it.

I (Kaaveh) grew up struggling to deal with my mom's diagnosis of schizophrenia.  I didn’t tell my friends. I didn’t tell my teachers.  I didn’t know what I was coming home to. It totally consumed me.  I had to grow up fast and deal with things that kids shouldn't have to. Now as a dad, I know how important it is to talk about mental health, especially with my son, Jaxson.  I have to make sure I keep an open and honest relationship with him.

 

For a FREE KIT, email [email protected] and include your name, mailing address, and the age of your child(ren) and we’ll enter you into the draw for one of two kits from Witz And Marbles!!  Draw ends, Monday, July 20th at Midnight PST. One entry per person.

 

https://www.witzandmarbles.com/pages/about-us 

@witzandmarbles

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/witzandmarbles/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/witzandmarbles/ 

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

 

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to

inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

 

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Uugh, here we go with another person telling us to meditate!  Right? I know, I know but my guest, Josephine Atluri, is here to help us simplify the practice of meditation so we’ll WANT to do it!

The truth is, we set the tone for our family with our energy and everyone feeds off whatever you’re bringing!  That means if you are stressed, your kids will be stressed.  If you are anxious, your kids will be anxious.

Aren’t so many of us feeling more anxious lately? Do you know that simply taking a few moments to connect to your breath throughout the day can really help you!  We need to learn to ride the wave of anxiety and not let it suck us under.  Meditation can do that for us. 

Listen in for tips on how you can get started, for you AND your kids, and visit this episode’s website to access free meditations from Josephine.

About Josephine Atluri

Josephine Atluri is an expert in meditation and in overcoming adversity to find joy.  Through a unique and trying fertility journey, Atluri navigated the intense uncertainties and stress of pregnancy loss, IVF, international adoption and surrogacy, ultimately becoming a mother of five. Channeling the power of perseverance, calm and courage, she now helps others navigate life’s many curveballs, through group and individual online meditation training, and her podcast “Responding to Life.” Atluri’s path to her true profession was far from conventional. After graduating from the University of Chicago with a B.A. in Public Policy, she became a management consultant with Ernst & Young. But after a few years, she decided to take a hiatus from the business world and pursue her love for cooking. 

She earned an Associate’s degree from New York’s prestigious Culinary Institute of America, and then worked in a Boston catering company. Eventually, she would combine her management and catering skills to co-found an event planning business which she ran for more than five years. Perhaps the most defining period of Atluri’s life has been her 13-year journey to motherhood, one that made her a warrior and advocate for all women seeking to overcome infertility. To create their own family, Atluri and her husband endured a heartbreaking miscarriage and then pursued a combination of non-traditional methods, adopting their eldest son from Kazakhstan, carrying twins via IVF and adding yet another set of twins via surrogacy.

Through it all, Atluri developed a personal perspective on these different paths to family creation, and came to understand all too well the impact of infertility on one’s body, psyche and relationships. It was this struggle that led her to seek out meditation, at first as a personal coping mechanism. Realizing she could use it to help others, she became certified at Unplug in Santa Monica, CA, under the renowned Guri Davidji, former COO of the Deepak

Chopra Center. Today, she teaches weekly classes there. She also conducts group meditation sessions for companies, having even taught staffs of such prestigious entities as Cedars-Sinai Medical Centerin Los Angeles. Her group and individual sessions teach simple and practical coping techniques for stress, anxiety and loss, and help improve balance of mind, body and spirit, especially during challenging times. Atluri’s podcast, “Responding to Life,” not only highlights her fertility journey, but features noteworthy guests who have used positivity to overcome a variety of obstacles.  Her forthcoming book will also chronicle her personal story and provide inspiration, guidance and meditations for anyone struggling with stress, uncertainty or loss.

During the coronavirus pandemic, Atluri is offering free weekly online meditation sessions. For further information, please visit www.jatluri.com

 

Instagram: @josephineratluri, 

Are our children born with bias or is this something we teach them?   We can look at the way a baby's brain develops to clue us in.  At 3 months, we can see that babies prefer to look at faces of their own race, by 9 months they are able to recognize faces from their own race better than from another race and this is when the brain starts to organize people into "groups" as a way of organizing them and processing information. 

That leads us to the concept of in-groups (people like me) who I think are 'better' and out-groups (people not like me) that are not as 'good'. 

What's the point? It's never too early to talk about racism or different races.  If you are like me, a well-meaning white woman, who wants to bring her kids up without prejudice, you might not have spoken about it because you thought by not talking about the different colour of other people's skin, will somehow mean that your kids won’t see colour and will therefore love and accept everyone the same….

BUT, what my guest, Jen Lumanlan, taught me is that choosing not to talk about it, is a privilege I have because I'm white.  What I now know is that people of every other race and minority HAS NO CHOICE but to have this conversation with their children because they are the victims of prejudice, racism, and intolerance on a daily basis and they have to prepare their children for the inevitable discrimination they’ll face sooner or later.

This conversation was a huge eye opening moment for me.  I was someone who didn't even want to say "white" or "black".  In this episode, my intention is to have a vulnerable conversation about my own (and commonplace) ignorance about racism and learn what we can all do better to be more tolerant, educated to end systemic racism. 

About Jen Lumanlan

Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed., and hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researchers and the principles of respectful parenting.  In each issue she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children.  She lives in California with her husband and daughter. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YourParentingMojo/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/yourparentingmojo/

website yourparentingmojo.com

Podcast: yourparentingmojo.com

From the Episode:

57 privileges of white parents blog post, along with lots of other facts about maternal health outcomes etc.: https://yourparentingmojo.com/57-privileges-of-white-parents/

Tre Johnson's article about white people joining book clubs https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/white-antiracist-allyship-book-clubs/2020/06/11/9edcc766-abf5-11ea-94d2-d7bc43b26bf9_story.html?fbclid=IwAR1j_POu-A2eZ1xrB1yEi68bcrnZ2L44i8zdaLWcaVDfGCjN7TDp7ByRXrg

Teaching Tool:  graphic that summarizes children's awareness of issues related to race at different ages: https://www.sfbayplaytherapy.com/teaching-kids-about-racism.html

Jen Lumanlan’s  FREE downloadable resources related to race are collected here: https://yourparentingmojo.com/race/ 

 On this page you will find, The...

We are celebrating this episode with JOY because it’s the 50th episode!   Who better to celebrate this milestone with than THE Rebels for Joy, Bonnie Kelly and Jillian Bolanz!  In this episode, we talk about what we really want now that we’re parents!  We want JOY right!? What happens if you feel you might not deserve it?  If you don’t know how to get it?

But first, we dive into a great discussion about how we often have unspoken expectations on ourselves and our children and how that takes us further and further away from joy.

We round out our discussion talking about forgiveness.  What it means to forgive ourselves and others, and how that creates a space in your life for…MORE JOY!

Listen in carefully for the worlds worst ‘dad joke’ as well! 😉 FREE Gift in the Show notes!

About The Rebels for Joy, Bonnie Kelly and Jillian Bolanz

 Bonnie Kelly and Jillian Bolanz are the founders of Rebels For Joy, a movement on a mission to help women radically transform the way they think and feel. Through their dynamic teachings, they have equipped thousands of women with the necessary tools to re-align their purpose, passion and power all fueled by authentic joy. If you are ready to remove the mask, end the cycle of self-sabotage and let your truest light shine, then it's time to answer the call of greatness and become a Rebel for Joy.

IG @rebelsforjoy

FB Group: Rebels For Joy

website: https://rebelsforjoy.com  

 

From the Episode:

FREE Forgiveness letter: https://rebelsforjoy.com/forgive 

On Children by Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are set forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and he bends you with his might that his arrows may go swift and far.

Let your fending in the archer’s hand be for gladness; for even as he loves the arrow that flies, so he loves also the bow that is stable.

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

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*Recorded before the Global Pandemic*

You may be the smartest person in your circle but if you are emotionally unstable, it doesn’t matter. As parents, we often focus on academics and how well our kids are doing in school, but we need to also focus on our kids’ emotional intelligence. 

My guest, Author and Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Lisa Schab, talks about why and how teaching your kids emotional intelligence is SO IMPORTANT but it’s something we can’t do unless we are nurturing our own emotional health. When we are emotionally healthy, we have greater self-esteem and confidence.  (for more on caring for yourself, see episodes, 26 and 29 of Parenting Our Future)

We are seeing so much anxiety in our kids.  In fact, the suicide rate is higher today than it’s been in 20 years.  Our kids are struggling with anxiety and self-esteem because they have more pressures to succeed, we live in a scarier society in a world that seems more unstable and the pressures on our kids to succeed is more than ever.  Add to that, their access to social media where they are comparing themselves to others and can be bullied on multiple platforms around the clock. 

Learn how to teach your child coping skills to help empower them and help them THRIVE!

 

About Lisa Schab

Lisa received a Bachelor of Science degree in interpersonal communications from Northwestern University and a master’s degree in clinical social work with honors from Loyola University of Chicago.  She has 30 years of experience as a practicing psychotherapist and 40 years of experience as a freelance writer. Lisa has authored 18 self-help books for children, teens, and adults, including the international best-sellers, The Anxiety Workbook for Teens and The Self-Esteem Workbook for Teens. 

She has been interviewed as an expert for articles appearing in The New York Times, Scholastic Choices Magazine, Teen Vogue, Psych Central, Today’s Parent, Parent Circle, and The Mother Company, among others.  She has also written professional training courses available for continuing education credit through Professional Development Resources (www.pdresources.com,) and has authored regular columns on Tweens & Teens for Chicago Parent Magazine and Healthy Families for Sun Newspapers.

Earlier in her career she spent six years as an early childhood teacher and one year as a school social worker.  Lisa is a member of the National Association of Social Workers (NASW.)

Check out all of Lisa’s amazing books at www.lisamschabooks.com

Instagram @lisamschabooks

 Lisa’s 4 step process for processing emotions:

1. Label it/name it
2. Accept it
3. How do I release/express it (yell, cry/punch a pillow)
4. What do I need to do for myself? (watch a funny show, ask for a hug, have a bath)

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

 

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

 

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I fully believe that in all things, awareness equals empathy! The Sensory System is something we don’t really understand but it’s something we can learn a little about and it can make a huge difference in your understanding of your child’s behavior.

I have never heard of the other senses called Vestibular and proprioceptive, but they are a really big deal!! These senses are responsible for the feeling we have inside our body and the feeling we have in space (the space around them). 

Our kids don’t know they have these other senses, but they know when something for them is off, so they go in search of meeting their needs to stimulate these senses through their behavior.    This can show up as behavior that’s sluggish, seeking stimulus or over stimulated.

Sensory seeking behavior can be confused as ADHD and “behaving badly.  These are the kids that can’t sit still.  Over stimulation is when you see shutdown – some kids, when overstimulated, will be angry and some will be more shut down and avoid situations and certain places (like a movie theatre).

What do we do about it? Look at a sensory checklist – Cindy’s link is below

Learn what a sensory lifestyle is, and how it can help your child.  You can use the clues from how they behave to help create opportunities in everyday life for them to get these needs met.  Cindy provides solutions on how to understand and integrate them in your life so you have more harmony and so your kids can learn self-regulation. 

Learn what your child really needs and is seeking when they don’t like their socks, clothes, hates having their hair brushed and chews on their t-shirt collar and other items. 

Learn tips to help your child at school and lastly, learn what you can do in the heat of the moment to diffuse a sensory meltdown or outburst.

 

About Cindy Utzinger

Cindy Utzinger OTR/L is a licensed Occupational Therapist specializing in pediatrics and sensory integration with over 20 years of experience. During her career she has developed outpatient pediatric programs working both one-on-one and with groups of children and their parents. She also enjoys spending time in schools sharing classroom strategies with teachers to create an environment to enhance learning.

Cindy’s passions are teaching and keynote speaking at schools and parenting events empowering parents with tools to both understand and help their children succeed. Cindy maintains a blog at www.cindyutzinger.com

 Cindy lives in North Carolina with her husband and two children.

 

**Cindy’s Blog:  https://cindyutzinger.com/blog/

**Sensory Checklist  https://cindyutzinger.com/sensory-checklist/

 

Cindy’s CONTACT INFO

[email protected] and www.cindyutzinger.com

 

Cindy’s SOCIAL MEDIA AND WEBSITE

Web: https://cindyutzinger.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whyismykiddoingthat/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/whyismykiddoingthat/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/UtzingerCindy

YouTube- https://bit.ly/2ycOBrM

 

 

From the Episode:

In the moment of a meltdown:

• Hugs – deep hugs make your child feel loved and connected but it also gives them deep pressure input like we would get from a weighted blanket
• Deep breathing – many kids don’t know how to deep belly breathe. Tell them to “Fill the balloon in your belly”. There is a...

You will parent the way you were parented. Full stop. So when you’re parenting with your spouse and they parent in a way you dislike, this is actually your invitation to look at them with compassion instead of judgement.

What do you know about their experiences as a child? How does that influence how they show up as a parent?

Find out why encouraging them to attend parenting workshops or inviting them to read parenting books never seems to work!

Dr. Vanessa shares the #1 thing you can do to turn things around! (hint: it starts with “L” and ends with “isten”) This episode is a must listen if you are together with your spouse or if you are parenting separately.

Listen in as we talk about how to handle a volatile co-parenting relationship and how to avoid getting your kids entangled and hurt by the conflict.

If you are worried that the person you are co-parenting with is a lost cause, learn how powerful it is that you can be their ONE.

About Dr. Vanessa Lapointe Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is an author, parenting expert, and registered psychologist (British Columbia #1856) who has been supporting families and children for more than fifteen years. Author of Discipline without Damage: How to get your kids to behave without messing them up and Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, regularly invited media guest and contributor, educator and speaker, a Huffington Post Parent blogger, and a consultant to research projects and various organizations promoting emotional health and development, Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. She presently works in private practice and has previous experience in a variety of settings, including the British Columbia Ministry of Children and Family Development and the school system.

Dr. Vanessa’s passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. As a mother to 2 growing children, Dr. Vanessa strives not only professionally, but also personally, to view the world through the child’s eyes.

If you are interested in ordering Dr. Vanessa’s book, Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, you can order HERE • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.vanessalapointe/ • Twitter: https://twitter.com/drvlapointe • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvanessalapointe • Email: [email protected] • Web: www.drvanessalapointe.com

From the Episode:

When you go to your spouse about a problem you want solved, don’t go in ready for a fight, go in ready to listen. Ask them what they are feeling and why. Repeat back to them what they have said (DO NOT attach to what they said just repeat it back). Then, when you are ready to make your request of them use “AND”.

“You’re saying that you want our kids to grow up to be grateful and when you see them being selfish, it makes you really angry because you work so hard for everything we have. I see how that makes you so mad AND hitting them when they are upsetting you is something that cannot happen in the future.”

Never throw your spouse under the bus! Do not try to poison the relationship with your ex and your kids. Always talk to your child about how they must be struggling and that “sometimes it’s hard for grownups” and that you can understand. “I know it makes you upset my love, daddy/mommy is just having a hard time right now and he needs time to work it out.”

*Families are forever so when co-parenting ask yourself how can you be joined WITH your parenting partner?

*Remember, when connection is high, resistance is low. When resistance is high, connection is low. (mic drop!)

Thanks for...

Are you pregnant?  Just given birth?  Have a newborn?  Have you felt like you are getting a raw deal with the pandemic stopping you from having people stop you in the street to see your baby bump, gush over your new baby or not being able to have a baby shower? 

What if you are having your baby in the hospital?  Is it safe?  Will your partner and family be able to visit or will you have to do this on your own? 

Pregnancy and childbirth are hard enough…without having to deal with a global pandemic!   There are so many questions and fears that we don’t yet have all the answers for.  Where can you go for help and support?

My guest Marla Ryan, who is the President of Destination Maternity Corp, has created a safe place for moms to get credible information and share with other new and expecting mamas within her brands, Motherhood Maternity® and A Pea in the Pod ®.  (scroll down for an exclusive discount for listeners)

 

About Marla Ryan

Marla Ryan, President, Destination Maternity Corporation, oversees merchandising, design, inventory, sourcing, marketing, e-commerce and strategic partnerships for the leading maternity apparel retailer in the United States.

She is responsible for successfully developing and executing the overall strategy for the company’s two signature brands, Motherhood Maternity® and A Pea in the Pod®.

Since joining the company in May 2018, Ms. Ryan is devoted to the Company’s overall mission to serve as a trusted resource for expecting women as they navigate through their pregnancy journey.

**Special discount for listeners:  use code PARENTING for $10 your order of $50 or more.  Valid until June 1st **

Website: www.motherhoodmaternity.com

Website: www.apeainthepod.com

 Facebook: 

Motherhoodmaternity

apeainthepod

 IG:

@motherhoodmaternity

@apeainthepodmaternity 

Twitter:

@motherhoodmat

@peamaternity

 

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

 

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

 

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

 

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