Parenting Our Future

Words matter and we often aren’t aware that we’re labeling our child’s behavior in a negative way.  We justify it by seeing it as, “calling it like it is” or “just pointing it out” to our child.  If your child is shy…well, they’re shy….right? 

As parents we have to remember the huge impact our words have on our children.  When they display “undesirable” behavior that we then assign a negative label that label can become part of their self-identity and their inner voice.   

What I’m teaching you to do through this episode is to “Reframe” the way your see your child and their behavior.  Why?  Because when we see our child differently…we see a DIFFERENT child. 

Can you imagine what life would be like without that negative voice or your hurtful self-talk?  That would be freeing!  This is the gift you can give your kids RIGHT NOW!

Scroll to the bottom for your FREE Guide to Reframing Behavior!

 

About Robbin McManne

 Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting.

Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.

It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive. 

Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent-child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!

In October of 2018 Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com

Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.

www.yellingcurebook.com

[email protected]

www.parentingforconnection.com

www.facebook.com/parenting4connection

www.instagram.com/robbinmcmanne_parentcoach

 

**If you are looking for more support with the Coronavirus for your family, Please click below for a proven parenting tool and a masterclass on surviving lockdowns and quarantine: https://go.robbinmcmanne.com/the-parent-pass-a37159229

 

From the Podcast:

Behavior is often temporary, but labels can be wired into your child’s subconscious for a lifetime.                

We reframe behavior for our child’s benefit AND for the benefit of the parent as well because the way we see our child influences our thoughts perspectives and attitudes about our child.

We can reframe our child’s behavior in a positive way that empowers them and isn’t rooted in SHAME and DISAPPROVAL.

For a FREE guide to reframing your child’s behavior, use this link to download the guide:  https://www.dropbox.com/s/o3mjgd5sj608k26/Guide%20to%20Reframing%20Behavior.pdf?dl=0

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

 

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

 

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I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value-adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!

Most of us, whether we admit it or not, would love it if our kids came out as a “mini me.”  Wouldn’t it be so much easier if they did?  Do you have a child that is the EXACT OPPOSITE of you and it drives you crazy?  Does it make it hard for you to connect with them?  Is it hard for you to like them?   What words do you use to describe your child?

When we have a child that is so different from us, we usually pick out their differences and call them weaknesses.  In this episode, my guest, author and parenting specialist, Wendy Gossett, shows how we can turn our child’s differences traits that we can celebrate!  

Our child’s temperament is something we can’t change (same without temperament) so intentionally choosing how we look at our child will change the way we see our kids!

About Wendy Gossett

Wendy Gossett is a best-selling author, speaker and parenting specialist who helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over twenty years of experience in education, working in the classroom and corporate sector.

However, all her educational experience didn’t help when parenting her daughter. Because they were opposites, she struggled to connect. Since the User Manual for parenting her daughter didn’t exist, she set out to create one.

She was seen by people all over the world in a viral video where she was embarrassing her seventeen-year old son in a Colorado blizzard while stranded on the Interstate. She never dreamed that this family video would be seen all over the world and talked about by Hoda Kotb, Debra Norville, the BackStreet Boys, and even Princess Kate!

Because she has struggled as a helicopter parent, an explosive parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle…a little bit less!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Wendy-Gossett-Temperament-Coaching-593839784430220/?modal=admin_todo_tour 

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?hl=en

Twitter: https://twitter.com/wendygossettmom 

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-gossett-ma-2245a97a/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ 

Online Assessment Link: https://www.wendygossett.com/services/  

Watch Wendy embarrass her kids and get National attention for it!  https://youtu.be/As02AviVbmY

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that! 

I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

 

Subscribe to the podcast

If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device.

 

Leave a review

I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of us, whether we admit it or not, would love it if our kids came out as a “mini me.”  Wouldn’t it be so much easier if they did?  Do you have a child that is the EXACT OPPOSITE of you and it drives you crazy?  Does it make it hard for you to connect with them?  Is it hard for you to like them?   What words do you use to describe your child?

When we have a child that is so different from us, we usually pick out their differences and call them weaknesses.  In this episode, my guest, author and parenting specialist, Wendy Gossett, shows how we can turn our child’s differences traits that we can celebrate!  

Our child’s temperament is something we can’t change (same without temperament) so intentionally choosing how we look at our child will change the way we see our kids!

About Wendy Gossett

Wendy Gossett is a best-selling author, speaker and parenting specialist who helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over twenty years of experience in education, working in the classroom and corporate sector.

However, all her educational experience didn’t help when parenting her daughter. Because they were opposites, she struggled to connect. Since the User Manual for parenting her daughter didn’t exist, she set out to create one.

She was seen by people all over the world in a viral video where she was embarrassing her seventeen-year old son in a Colorado blizzard while stranded on the Interstate. She never dreamed that this family video would be seen all over the world and talked about by Hoda Kotb, Debra Norville, the BackStreet Boys, and even Princess Kate!

Because she has struggled as a helicopter parent, an explosive parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle…a little bit less!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Wendy-Gossett-Temperament-Coaching-593839784430220/?modal=admin_todo_tour 

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/wendy.gossett/?hl=en

Twitter: https://twitter.com/wendygossettmom 

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-gossett-ma-2245a97a/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaaOCjoDyOk4_gS1KCncLvQ 

Online Assessment Link: https://www.wendygossett.com/services/  

Watch Wendy embarrass her kids and get National attention for it!  https://youtu.be/As02AviVbmY

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that! 

I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

 

Subscribe to the podcast

If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device.

 

Leave a review

I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!

Covid-19 isn’t the only thing that is highly contagious.  So is our stress, anxiety and feeling of insecurity.  During this uncertain time, it helps to have some tools to manage the information your kids get and your own mindset.

In this episode, I’ll cover how to set your days in lockdown up for success, how to talk to your kids about the virus, how to work from home successfully and how not to lose it while you have a full house, 24/7!

**If you are looking for more support with the Coronavirus for your family, Please click below for a proven parenting tool and a masterclass on surviving lockdowns and quarantine: https://go.robbinmcmanne.com/the-parent-pass-a37159229

 

About Robbin McManne

Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting.

Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.

It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive. 

Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!

In October of 2018 Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com

Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.

 

www.yellingcurebook.com

[email protected]

www.parentingforconnection.com

www.facebook.com/parenting4connection

www.instagram.com/robbinmcmanne_parentcoach

 

**If you are looking for more support with the Coronavirus for your family, Please click below for a proven parenting tool and a masterclass on surviving lockdowns and quarantine: https://go.robbinmcmanne.com/the-parent-pass-a37159229

Mindset Practice - To tilt your mindset to the positive, do the following:

Notice the little gems that are naturally a part of your day. These can be small and ordinary experiences and are easy to overlook.  These are the things that are also true in life and these gems are all around us so why not pick them up? 

Don’t dismiss enjoyable experiences as lightweight or trivial and don’t think that grinding and wearying stressful experiences are somehow the foundation of a good life.  No, it’s the opposite,  positive...

Covid-19 isn’t the only thing that is highly contagious.  So is our stress, anxiety and feeling of insecurity.  During this uncertain time, it helps to have some tools to manage the information your kids get and your own mindset.

In this episode, I’ll cover how to set your days in lockdown up for success, how to talk to your kids about the virus, how to work from home successfully and how not to lose it while you have a full house, 24/7!

**If you are looking for more support with the Coronavirus for your family, Please click below for a proven parenting tool and a masterclass on surviving lockdowns and quarantine: https://go.robbinmcmanne.com/the-parent-pass-a37159229

 

About Robbin McManne

Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting.

Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.

It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive. 

Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!

In October of 2018 Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com

Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.

 

www.yellingcurebook.com

[email protected]

www.parentingforconnection.com

www.facebook.com/parenting4connection

www.instagram.com/robbinmcmanne_parentcoach

 

**If you are looking for more support with the Coronavirus for your family, Please click below for a proven parenting tool and a masterclass on surviving lockdowns and quarantine: https://go.robbinmcmanne.com/the-parent-pass-a37159229

Mindset Practice - To tilt your mindset to the positive, do the following:

Notice the little gems that are naturally a part of your day. These can be small and ordinary experiences and are easy to overlook.  These are the things that are also true in life and these gems are all around us so why not pick them up? 

Don’t dismiss enjoyable experiences as lightweight or trivial and don’t think that grinding and wearying stressful experiences are somehow the foundation of a good life.  No, it’s the opposite,  positive experiences fill us up and negative ones wear us down.

Remember what you are noticing is not made up, these are experiences that are real and you aren’t making them up and just ‘thinking positive’. 

Set an Intentions for your day

Intentions are powerful because when you set your intentions, your thoughts follow, as do your actions

• listen more and talk less
• I will pause before I react
• I will not take anything personally
• I will look to find the fun and joy in the day

Or Implementation intentions – when X happens I will do Y

Self Compassion - Ask yourself:

• Am I being kind and understanding to myself?
• Do I acknowledge shortcomings and failure as experiences shared by everyone?
• Am I keeping my negative feelings in perspective?
• Write a letter to yourself

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

Subscribe to the podcast

If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. 

Leave a review

I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value-adding part of your day.

Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!

Guess what?  You don’t have to complete your to-do list!  YUP!! Just because there is a long list, doesn’t mean you have to spread yourself so thin and feel like you have to get them done in the same timeframe.  This causes stress and overwhelm.  Instead, use my guest Ann Gomez’s 3 simple strategies: Scale back, Streamline, and Seek help.   These are game-changing strategies to help you kick overwhelm to the curb ONCE AND FOR ALL!!

Ann has taken the productivity secrets from the world’s most successful people to help us be less stressed and more organized.  In this episode, Ann teaches us that we can get excited about our lists and if we have things on the list that we do not want to do, then take them off.  What if you HAVE TO do them?  Then create a shift in your mindset from “I have to” to “I get to”.  Feel the change in this simple shift.  How can you look at the task and see what you can love about it?  Learn all about your list and how to streamline reoccurring tasks and how to get the/ask for the help you need!

About Ann Gomez

As the founding president of Clear Concept Inc., Ann is committed to helping people thrive at work. She leads engaging training programs around productivity, high-performance teams and a thrive mindset. She is also the best-selling author of The Email Warrior: how to clear your inbox and keep it that way.

Ann works with clients across various industries, including law, finance, healthcare, and consumer goods. Ann holds an MBA and brings years of experience as a management consultant to all of her work.

When not working, Ann can be found running around with her family, which includes 4 … yes, you heard correctly, 4 active children. On that note, there isn’t a doubt in my mind that she knows a thing or two about productivity and teams!

Look for Ann’s book, Email Warrior here: https://www.clearconceptinc.ca/book

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/clearconceptinc/  

Twitter: https://twitter.com/clearconceptinc

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/anngomez/  

Email: [email protected]

Web: www.clearconceptinc.ca 

 

From the Podcast:

Ann has some amazing gifts for listeners!  Click the link below to access:

MAP - Master Action Plan

Organization principles

Own your time Checklist

Grocery list template

https://www.dropbox.com/sh/ucinu2gxq7gn6tj/AADl0KVlzgd58Ql2Dl4o_KaNa?dl=0

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

 

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

 

Subscribe to the podcast

If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device.

 

Leave a review

I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value adding part of your day.

Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guess what?  You don’t have to complete your to-do list!  YUP!! Just because there is a long list, doesn’t mean you have to spread yourself so thin and feel like you have to get them done in the same timeframe.  This causes stress and overwhelm.  Instead, use my guest Ann Gomez’s 3 simple strategies: Scale back, Streamline, and Seek help.   These are game-changing strategies to help you kick overwhelm to the curb ONCE AND FOR ALL!!

Ann has taken the productivity secrets from the world’s most successful people to help us be less stressed and more organized.  In this episode, Ann teaches us that we can get excited about our lists and if we have things on the list that we do not want to do, then take them off.  What if you HAVE TO do them?  Then create a shift in your mindset from “I have to” to “I get to”.  Feel the change in this simple shift.  How can you look at the task and see what you can love about it?  Learn all about your list and how to streamline reoccurring tasks and how to get the/ask for the help you need!

About Ann Gomez

As the founding president of Clear Concept Inc., Ann is committed to helping people thrive at work. She leads engaging training programs around productivity, high-performance teams and a thrive mindset. She is also the best-selling author of The Email Warrior: how to clear your inbox and keep it that way.

Ann works with clients across various industries, including law, finance, healthcare, and consumer goods. Ann holds an MBA and brings years of experience as a management consultant to all of her work.

When not working, Ann can be found running around with her family, which includes 4 … yes, you heard correctly, 4 active children. On that note, there isn’t a doubt in my mind that she knows a thing or two about productivity and teams!

Look for Ann’s book, Email Warrior here: https://www.clearconceptinc.ca/book

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/clearconceptinc/  

Twitter: https://twitter.com/clearconceptinc

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/anngomez/  

Email: [email protected]

Web: www.clearconceptinc.ca 

 

From the Podcast:

Ann has some amazing gifts for listeners!  Click the link below to access:

MAP - Master Action Plan

Organization principles

Own your time Checklist

Grocery list template

https://www.dropbox.com/sh/ucinu2gxq7gn6tj/AADl0KVlzgd58Ql2Dl4o_KaNa?dl=0

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com

 

With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!

 

Subscribe to the podcast

If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device.

 

Leave a review

I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value adding part of your day.

Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!

You can be a peaceful parent and still be in charge.  In fact, our kids NEED us to be IN CHARGE.  They are always looking to us to show them the way and if we are unsure and inconsistent it causes stress and anxiety in our kids which leads to behavior we don’t like. 

Dr. Vanessa and I talk about how important it is to show up with swagger so our kids know in all situations that we’ve got this!  If we don’t, our kids think they need to be in charge and that’s when things get really hard and challenging!  Learn how to solve some of the hardest parenting struggles just by showing up as an “In Charge Parent!”

 About Dr. Vanessa Lapointe

Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is an author, parenting expert, and registered psychologist (British Columbia #1856) who has been supporting families and children for more than fifteen years. Author of Discipline without Damage: How to get your kids to behave without messing them up and Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, regularly invited media guest and contributor, educator and speaker, a Huffington Post Parent blogger, and a consultant to research projects and various organizations promoting emotional health and development,

Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. She presently works in private practice and has previous experience in a variety of settings, including the British Columbia Ministry of Children and Family Development and the school system.

Dr. Vanessa’s passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. As a mother to 2 growing children, Dr. Vanessa strives not only professionally, but also personally, to view the world through the child’s eyes.

If you are interested in pre-ordering Dr. Vanessa’s book, Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, you can order HERE

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.vanessalapointe/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drvlapointe

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvanessalapointe

Email: [email protected]

Web: drvanessalapointe.com

From the Podcast:

Your struggles in parenting are not happening to you, they are happening for you to help you grow yourself up.

How do you know if your child is the one in the lead?  They are precocious, bossy, demanding, unwilling to take your lead and defiant.  We usually want to shut these kids down but in fact what they are saying is that I don’t feel seen, heard or understood, so we need to get even bigger to get them to see we are their best bet so they can relax.

How to bring swagger.  Your child, if they are in the position of being in charge, will be two steps ahead of you so that means you need to jump forward and anticipate the needs your child.  This means you have to do some work to plan what your child’s needs are going to be.  Not easy but worth it! 

Being “Large and In charge” means you show up with kindness, empathy, wisdom and firmness (holding firm boundaries).  You are constantly looking for cues from your child to say, I see you, I hear you, and I get you. 

 

Child: “I wanted to go for ice cream!!!”

...

You can be a peaceful parent and still be in charge.  In fact, our kids NEED us to be IN CHARGE.  They are always looking to us to show them the way and if we are unsure and inconsistent it causes stress and anxiety in our kids which leads to behavior we don’t like. 

Dr. Vanessa and I talk about how important it is to show up with swagger so our kids know in all situations that we’ve got this!  If we don’t, our kids think they need to be in charge and that’s when things get really hard and challenging!  Learn how to solve some of the hardest parenting struggles just by showing up as an “In Charge Parent!”

 About Dr. Vanessa Lapointe

Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is an author, parenting expert, and registered psychologist (British Columbia #1856) who has been supporting families and children for more than fifteen years. Author of Discipline without Damage: How to get your kids to behave without messing them up and Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, regularly invited media guest and contributor, educator and speaker, a Huffington Post Parent blogger, and a consultant to research projects and various organizations promoting emotional health and development,

Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. She presently works in private practice and has previous experience in a variety of settings, including the British Columbia Ministry of Children and Family Development and the school system.

Dr. Vanessa’s passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. As a mother to 2 growing children, Dr. Vanessa strives not only professionally, but also personally, to view the world through the child’s eyes.

If you are interested in pre-ordering Dr. Vanessa’s book, Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, you can order HERE

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.vanessalapointe/
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From the Podcast:

Your struggles in parenting are not happening to you, they are happening for you to help you grow yourself up.

How do you know if your child is the one in the lead?  They are precocious, bossy, demanding, unwilling to take your lead and defiant.  We usually want to shut these kids down but in fact what they are saying is that I don’t feel seen, heard or understood, so we need to get even bigger to get them to see we are their best bet so they can relax.

How to bring swagger.  Your child, if they are in the position of being in charge, will be two steps ahead of you so that means you need to jump forward and anticipate the needs your child.  This means you have to do some work to plan what your child’s needs are going to be.  Not easy but worth it! 

Being “Large and In charge” means you show up with kindness, empathy, wisdom and firmness (holding firm boundaries).  You are constantly looking for cues from your child to say, I see you, I hear you, and I get you. 

 

Child: “I wanted to go for ice cream!!!”

Parent: “I can’t even believe you said that ice cream today it’s actually international take your kid for Ice cream day and I’m actually driving to the ice cream store right now”

 

Child: “you are so mean, I wanted to watch more TV”

Parent: “I knew you were going to say that, which is why I already have another show ready for you”

 

Child: “I don’t want to talk to you!”

Parent: “Now isn’t the time to talk.”

 

Child: “get out of my room!”

Parent: “I’m going to need to go now”

 

Parent: “You sound really frustrated right now”

Child: “I’m not frustrated, I’m angry”

Parent: “yes, you are angry”

 

Child: “I’m not going to school today”

Parent: “Yes, I know today feels like a not going to school day, I get that.  I could tell from the minute you woke up that it would feel like that.” (then it’s up to you to decide if they can stay home or not.  If they have to go and are upset, you give them empathy).

 

I knew you were going to ask for that____ so I got this ready/did this/am going to get you_____

I knew you would want more___  so I did______

 

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It’s hard enough to bring a typical child into this world but what if your baby is born sick?  You are thrust into a world that is completely foreign to you full of medical jargon and often confusing and counter-intuitive information.  You want to use your intuition and protect your child but its so hard to know what you should be worried about and what is just normal for a new baby.  You can be left feeling angry, confused, lonely, ashamed, helpless, overwhelmed, scared, and lost.  What if you have an older child at home?  How do you make sure they don’t get lost in the mix?  What if your marriage is suffering because of this?  What if you need to go back to work?

Through Annette Hines’ experience, she now teaches you how not to be brushed aside and advocate for your child so you are heard, taken seriously and ultimately get the best care for your child.

 

About Annette Hines

Annette, an award-winning powerhouse advocate for the special needs community to share an important with your listeners. According to the CDC, disabilities affect 1 in 7 children. Over the past 2 decades, the number of children with chronic health conditions doubled from 12.8 percent to 26.6 percent. Not only can taking care of a child with a disability seem like an insurmountable task for a parent but making sure their child has a secure future when they are no longer there can seem daunting as well and can cause increased worry, stress and struggle.

She is the author of the best-seller Butterflies and Second Chances: A Mom’s Memoir of Love and Loss, the inspiring true story of a mother’s special needs journey, and her struggle to secure the best possible life for her child in the face of bureaucratic resistance and marital crisis. It is a story of sacrifice, dedication, and the life-altering adjustments a special needs parent has to make when confronted with the unthinkable—the loss of a child. But most of all, it’s about love and an extraordinary mother-daughter relationship that flourished without words in the darkest shadows of adversity.

She has spent the last two decades as a professional advocating for people with special needs through her firm, Special Needs Law Group of Massachusetts, PC and is the host of Parenting Impossible – The Special Needs Survival Podcast

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From the Podcast:

If you are struggling with a special needs child take these into consideration:

• Go easy on yourself – so it’s frozen pizza again tonight! Your kids are getting fed.
• You are the expert when it comes to your child. The expert isn’t somebody else!  You are the one who has the most information about your child from all the different areas and experts.  YOU are in the seat of authority.
• Communication is key. You can’t communicate through emotion, even if you are feeling so many emotions.  Be clear, concise and able to communicate the end goal – both written and orally.  Come to the table with ideas as well – don’t rely on everyone else to have the solutions.
• Know when you are in danger. This might be the time to get some legal support or opinion
• Embrace what you CAN do!

For a full list of advocacy resources, go to: https://specialneeds-law.com/resources/

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