Parenting Our Future

All parents hate it when they are ignored!  We can’t stand repeating requests that fall on deaf ears!  Being ignored and unheard leads to frustration, resentment, anger and yelling! 

There is a way to stop repeating and start getting cooperation and I share that in this episode.

I also talk about the power of listening to your kids and how it’s a GAME CHANGER in your relationships with your kids and all the other people in your life!

Are you thinking of giving your kids a new gaming system for the Holidays?  Are you worried they play too much on the system you already have?  Is it hard to get them to disconnect from gaming? Do you worry they might be, or might become, addicted?

In this episode, I speak with “Digital Life Skills for Youth” author, Angela Crocker about the subject of gaming addiction.  Learn the signs and the solutions on this important topic.

 

About Angela Crocker

Angela Crocker has been called the Ann Landers of digital living, making sense of online life for thousands of digital citizens. Her expertise includes education technology, digital parenting, online communities, digital decluttering, content planning, and more. Angela works as an author, speaker and educator to help individuals, schools, and businesses navigate the digital life. She is the author of six books including Digital Life Skills for Youth, Declutter Your Data and The Content Planner. To learn more about the book featured on this episode, go to: https://angelacrocker.com/digital_life_skills_for_youth/

Web: https://angelacrocker.com/digital_life_skills_for_youth/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AngelaCrockerAuthor/

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Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/angelacrocker/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/AngelaCrocker

Email: [email protected]

 

From the Podcast:

If you are worried your child is addicted to gaming, look for the following signs.  Alone, these changes may not indicate a problem but in combination, this might suggest your child is having a problem:

Changes in personal hygiene – stop bathing, brushing teeth or caring about body odor and appearance

Sleep patterns – trouble falling asleep or staying asleep

Self-care – stop journaling, team sports, or other relaxing and recharging activities they used to enjoy

Socialization – withdrawing from their social circle

Change in personality – from cheerful to moody, angry or aggressive (for example)

High-risk behaviors – smoking, vaping, drugs, and/or sex

Abrupt mood changes – and abrupt change from calm to rage over a seemingly insignificant or unrelated thing – like a social media post

Overplanning – indicates your child might be trying to regain some control by over planning simple, straightforward tasks

Avoidance – of certain tasks, people, activities and/or places

Where to reach out for help:

United States: Text HOME to 741741 www.crisistextline.org

United Kingdom: Text SHOUT to 85258 www.giveusashout.org

Canada (English): Text CONNECT to 686868 kidshelpphone.ca/text

Canada (French): Text PARELEZ to 686868 jeunessejecoute.ca/texto

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with me, head on over to www.facebook.com/parenting4connection  With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honour each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who...

Are you thinking of giving your kids a new gaming system for the Holidays?  Are you worried they play too much on the system you already have?  Is it hard to get them to disconnect from gaming? Do you worry they might be, or might become, addicted?

In this episode, I speak with “Digital Life Skills for Youth” author, Angela Crocker about the subject of gaming addiction.  Learn the signs and the solutions on this important topic.

We all want the holidays to be full of magic and joy but so often they aren’t. We are stressed, have a million things on our plate, so many more events on the calendar. Schedule are off, kids aren’t in school, sweets are aplenty, and there are so many opportunities for all of us to feel overwhelmed.

It can be a joy killer to have your kids overstimulated, hyper, asking constantly for things, and misbehaving. So what can you do to make the holidays run more smoothly? Listen for the tips you need to survive the holidays!!

Join Becci Ray, from The Big Life Journal’s Facebook page, Raising Kids With a Growth Mindset, and I as we talk about all the survival skills you’ll need! (this podcast was originally recorded as a Facebook Live event on the Raising Kids With A Growth Mindset” Page.

Check it out here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/growthmindsetforkids/

Find out more about The Big Life Journal here and sign up to get a free weekly printable: http://biglifejournal.com?aff=976

Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker. She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting. Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach. In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family. It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive. Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent-child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence. She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process! In October of 2018, Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How to stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband. You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys. Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families. www.yellingcurebook.com [email protected] www.parentingforconnection.com www.facebook.com/parenting4connection www.instagram.com/robbinmcmanne_parentcoach From the Podcast: 8 core needs of a child: Unconditional Love Connection Attention Appreciation Affection Empathy Independence Growth Steps to get your kids to listen: 1. Go to them (don’t yell from another room) 2. Connect to them (touch him/her on the shoulder for example) 3. Make your request 4. take them (“c’mon let's go together”) 5. Help them if they need it (be as supportive as you can this isn’t a time for criticizing them for what they can or can’t do) Active Compassionate listening: Listen without judgement, interrupting, with your full attention (put your phone down!) Listen to understand and seek understanding Listen without comparing THEN…repeat back what you heard them say! Thanks for listening! It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com With this podcast, my intention is...

We all want the holidays to be full of magic and joy but so often they aren’t. We are stressed, have a million things on our plate, so many more events on the calendar.

It can be a joy killer to have your kids overstimulated, hyper, asking constantly for things, and misbehaving. So what can you do to make the holidays run more smoothly? Listen for the tips you need to survive the holidays!!

It’s the holiday season and it’s at this time of the year we are often faced with gatherings of friends and family we don’t see often and maybe we don’t even like…We all have difficult people in our lives.  Does your Mother-in-Law drive you crazy?  Does your co-worker? Are you feeling really triggered by your kids?  Are you tired of feeling put down, powerless and unheard?  Listen for the solutions to healing yourself THROUGH these difficult relationships! It’s possible and it’s LIBERATING!

 

About Andrea Ferguson

Founder of The F.I.T. LIFE Method | F.I.T. Mindset Mentor and Coach.  Andrea spent more than a decade working with thousands of women in the health and fitness arena as a Fitness Instructor, Personal Trainer, Nutritionist, Fitness Studio Owner, Life Coach and Mentor.

She created, built and sold a fitness studio and fitness business. She has designed, created and run many programs, workshops, multi-day events and retreats. She has also developed an entire method and an accompanying 2-year curriculum plus mastery program, to facilitate her current work as a F.I.T. Mindset Mentor and Coach.

While she knows self-discipline, determination, perseverance, commitment and how to act in spite of fear, she also learned through burnout, exhaustion and the fallout that followed, the essential art of surrender. She discovered the joy in simplicity and in having time in her life to simply just be. As a result, she learned how to keep her achiever hustle in check and how to live Fully In Tune with all the beautiful synchronicities and miracles guiding her life, that only became evident when she slowed down enough to notice.  

 

Andrea is now here to support individuals who are ready to ditch the hustle and live Fully In Tune too!

Web: www.thefitlifemethod.com  www.fitandrea.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFITLIFEMethod/

Instagram: @thefitlifemethod  

 

From the Podcast:

TOOL: Choosing to Show Up for the difficult relationships in your life.  Use this tool when the SAME relationship challenges keep showing up and you want to get the learning, do the healing and move on.

Your difficult relationships, with your kids, friends and/or family are assignments are happening FOR you, not to you. They are here to help you heal a pattern or stuck emotion so you can move forward and make progress.

Step 1: What's the situation that keeps happening or that you keep attracting that's triggering you?

Recognize that these situations/people/circumstances are here to help you heal. Decide to show up for the assignment by affirming you are ready.

 Step 2: Give yourself permission to feel the feelings below the triggers. What are you feeling?

 

Step 3: Say a prayer for guidance and then open up to receive what comes to you:

Example prayer: "Thank you, Universe, for presenting me with this divine assignment for spiritual growth and healing. I am ready and willing to show up for this assignment with love. I welcome your support. Show me where to go, what to do and what to say. I trust I’m being guided." - Gabriel Bernstein

Gabby Bernstein's blog that shares this tool: https://gabbybernstein.com/how-not-to-wind-up-in-the-same-situation-again-and-again/

 TOOL: Relationship Perspective Shifter.  Use to interpret your circumstances, life events and interactions with people to understand what you are being called to learn so you can evolve and expand into your calling.

The purpose of the lessons that come in the form of life circumstances, life events and people is to likely help you to learn any one of these powerful life...

It’s the holiday season and it’s at this time of the year we are often faced with gatherings of friends and family we don’t see often and maybe we don’t even like…We all have difficult people in our lives. 

Does your Mother-in-Law drive you crazy?  Does your co-worker? Are you feeling really triggered by your kids?  Are you tired of feeling put down, powerless and unheard?  Listen for the solutions to healing yourself THROUGH these difficult relationships! It’s possible and it’s LIBERA

Whether we like it or not, it’s COMPLETELY NORMAL for kids to lie, starting around age 2 all the way up to age 12 and the lies can escalate as they get older.

Many parents get really worried and angry when they are faced with their kids telling them lies.  In this episode I breakdown the stages of lying, different types of lies kids tell and how to stop them!

 

About Robbin McManne

 Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting.

Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.

It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive. 

Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent-child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!

In October of 2018, Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How to stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com

 

Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.

 

www.yellingcurebook.com

[email protected]

www.parentingforconnection.com

www.facebook.com/parenting4connection

www.instagram.com/robbinmcmanne_parentcoach 

From the Podcast:

Researchers

In a study done by researchers Victoria Talwar and Kang Lee from McGill University describe three stages of lying:

Stage 1. Children begin to lie around age two or three. These first lies often focus on just denying misbehavior. They may involve wishful thinking more than deliberate efforts to deceive. From the perspective of young children, if they say they didn’t do it, then their parents won’t be mad, and it will somehow magically erase their misbehavior!

Stage 2. Around age four, children begin to be able to imagine how someone else might think. Their lies become more believable because they take into account what the listener does or doesn’t know. They know the difference between truth and lying, and that lying is bad, but they also want to please adults, so they lie to cover up misbehavior.

Stage 3. Around age seven or eight, children not only are capable of deliberately deceiving someone, but they also can manage to stick to a false story and to look and sound sincere while doing so. Kids this age tend to lie because they don’t want to get in trouble and because they don’t want to think of themselves as “bad.”

 

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Whether we like it or not, it’s COMPLETELY NORMAL for kids to lie, starting around age 2 all the way up to age 12 and the lies can escalate as they get older.

Many parents get really worried and angry when they are faced with their kids telling them lies.  In this episode I breakdown the stages of lying, different types of lies kids tell and how to stop them!

Have you ever fantasized about leaving everything behind to live in the cabin in the woods?  Away from work stress, life stress, overwhelm, technology, keeping up with the Jones’, and packed schedules?   

When my guest, author and mother of four, Andrea Hejlskov’s husband, in the midst of their chaotic life, said “what if it’s not us that’s the problem? What if the problem is what’s out there” What he meant is that they always thought they had to DO more to be happier (go to the gym, bake bread from scratch, grow our own vegetables, etc) and this sparked a shift in them that made them want to stop endlessly running and getting nowhere and working so hard but never really having enough money. 

The ups and downs of her experience are fascinating especially bringing four kids along for the ride!

 

About Andrea Hejlskov 

Andrea Hejlskov is a Danish author and journalist living off the grid in the wild woods of Southern Sweden. She has lived with her husband and four children in the forest for more than six years. She is the author of a children’s book and a memoir and holds engaging talks on the impacts of life-changing decisions.

Andrea’s book, Escape from the Wild, is available in Canadian stores and on caitlin-press.com 

 

Web: https://andreahejlskov.com

Email: [email protected]  

Instagram: @andreahejlskov

 

Thanks for listening!

It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with me, head on over to www.facebook.com/parenting4connection  With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism.  We have too much of that!  I honour each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be.  My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

 

If you want to get my book, The Yelling Cure, and other resources I offer, please go to www.yellingcurebook.com

 

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