Parenting Paused

I learned when my daughter was young, I realized I had to be willing to see through her eyes.

When I began to do this, things looked very, very different.

My daughter is more of a present-moment child. She doesn't focus on the future.

Dropping into this practice has given me a life full of inspiration- tune into this episode to learn how you might be able to do the same!

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Have you ever considered the intense pressure your child feels to meet your needs? If not, let's take a little time to explore.

"You need to eat your food, you need to put on your shoes, you need to do your homework, You need to get off the computer, You need to do your chores, You need to hurry up, You need to listen to me….."

And yet, what if you actually owned that these are your needs?

Join me in this episode and we can look into what it might be like to own your needs!

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I never thought of myself as an arrogant person. Honestly, I had quite the judgment about folks I perceived as arrogant. Then I became a parent! YIKES. Arrogance showed up quickly and furiously when my daughter didn't behave in ways that supported my idea of being a "good" mother. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about my journey to discover more about what was under all of that! www.purejoyparenting.com

Do you ever think your child didn't come with an instruction manual? Well, what if they did and yet you aren't interested in reading it? Why would this be?

In my experience, my parenting manual (conscious loving mother) often gave contradictory instructions to her innate knowing and instructions.

Determined to follow mine I often felt like I was trying to put a round peg in a square hole. It was painful for both.

Tune into this episode to deepen in how you can start reading your child's instruction manual.

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Do you ever think your child didn’t come with an instruction manual? Well, what if they did and yet you aren’t interested in reading it? Why would this be? 

In my experience, my parenting manual (conscious loving mother) often gave contradictory instructions to her innate knowing and instructions.

Determined to follow mine I often felt like I was trying to put a round peg in a square hole.

Tune into this episode to deepen in how you can start reading your child's instruction manual.

When your child doesn't listen, won't get in the car seat when you ask nicely, or won't get ready to leave the house what happens inside you? Does it feel like an emotional threat? Do you feel anger? Most parents express how frustrated they are especially since their children should KNOW what to do. Tune into this week's episode and let's dive a little deeper! www.purejoyparenting.com

I have a saying that goes, "It's never about what you think it is about". What I mean by this is it's never about the computer use, or the food, or even the homework. I know, I know. It sure seems like it is about those things, yes? Tune into this episode to hear more about this saying and how it can support you to be more present with your child. www.purejoyparenting.com

Underneath the wall of rage, we walked through last week, are early, early feelings of abandonment, rejection, powerless, and helplessness. These are the precious feeling jewels you stored away as a young child believing they were somehow dangerous since when expressing them through your behavior you were punished or shamed. In this week's episode, I'll be sharing with you what it's like to embrace those tender feelings you find beyond your rage. www.purejoyparenting.com

RAGE is a terrifying emotion to turn towards with kindness. RAGE, in my family, was explosive and volatile and often expressed in destructive ways. Having experienced the destructive behavior of a raging mom I organized my life to never feel this powerful emotion out of an imagined fear that I would behave like her. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how I learned to walk with rage, and what that supported in my relationship with my daughter. www.purejoyparenting.com

Do you ever get frustrated with your kids when they refuse to do chores?

Most parents I meet have a belief that chores are important skill sets for kids to learn.

And yet, they often push, pull, threaten, shame or force their children to do them.

Sound familiar?

Tune into this episode to learn a secret I've discovered to turn this around!

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