Parenting Successful Teens

I thought I was listening to good parenting advice this morning until I heard this one little phrase.  It was like a dog whistle for triggering mom shame.

Sounds innocuous on the surface, but loud and clear for its intended target.

If you've heard something that made you feel like crawling into a hole, tune in this week to feel way, way better.

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How do you define success for your family?  If you haven't explicitly thought about it, you are most likely following a definition of success set by elite colleges - good grades, lots of extracurriculars, maximum post-college earnings, etc.  Unfortunately, that definition sets most kids up for struggle rather than success. (Even the kids elite colleges accept because they end up defining themselves by those external measures.) So this week, I'll share my unconventional approach to defining success so that you can create your own values-aligned definition and truly set your kids up for success. Got questions?  email me at [email protected]

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Sometimes even "good" advice can trigger us.  We read a book all our friends loved or an inspirational post, and instead of getting great ideas, we feel worse about ourselves as moms.

In this week's episode, I'll deconstruct some "good" advice that triggered me so that you can learn the tools of spotting and rejecting advice that doesn't work for you.  Plus I offer some fun historical examples from top parenting experts that turned out to be terrible advice.   What are you waiting for?  If you've got stuff going on in your family, I want to help.  Click here to schedule a free call to talk about what's going on and what you want to be happening instead.  I'll give you a big picture perspective of what's happening and then we'll talk about ways to shift that.  Moms just like you love these calls even if we don't end up working together!

How do you get your kids to tell you what's going on in their lives?   You love them + you're curious + you want to help.    But if they don't tell you anything, how can you help? Because there is no amount of good parenting that lets your kid's skip "the hard parts", the best way to handle them is to know about them.  And this week we'll break down how to create an atmosphere where kids feel comfortable telling you their "stuff".   Love these podcasts but struggle putting them into practice with your family?   That means you are ready to think about the next step.  Working with me is the best investment you can make towards strengthening your family + not losing your mind during these crazy years. ❤️

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Our human bodies hate change.  They work hard to keep us at a stable temperature, blood pressure, etc. Otherwise, we'd pass out whenever we stood up or went outside on a hot summer day. Similarly, we resist changes in our family relationships.  Adjusting as our kids grow older and more independent is hard work.  And that work isn't made easier by the familiar adage "everyone goes through it." In this week's episode, we'll look at what DOES make changing relationships easier to navigate.

If you could use some help navigating the changes happening in your household, we should talk.  Click here to set up a time to talk about what's going on and explore what having support could look like.   Moms just like you love this time to have a judgment-free set of eyes looking at their situation and offering a fresh prespective.

Parents of difficult children are the luckiest parents.  Difficult kids give us get so many great opportunities to practice mental flexibility, unconditional love, live their values and become judgement proof.  I feel sorry for parents with "easy" kids because they miss out on so much.   You get a front row seat to a creative mind, even if their creativity is not used for the purposes you prefer! Check out this week's episode, it's a love letter to help parents see why difficult kids are so fantastic.  If you'd like to talk about what having personal support could do for your family, click this link to set up a free, no obligation call.  You'll tell me what's going on.  What you wish was happening instead.  And then we'll map out a plan to get you there.  Even if we choose not to work together, you'll still think this was time well spent.

Being a mom is an endless string of decisions.  Both the number of decisions we have to make (5 before breakfast 😂) and the high-stakes nature of decisions at this age can create a lot of pressure to "get it right".   So how do you know which decision is the right one? In this week's episode, I will share the 3 foundational pieces to making decisions you can feel good about.  I call it the Unicorn Decision Making Process. If you'd like a pdf summary you can get one by using this link.  (Don't be thrown...it used to be called something boring like "stop second guessing yourself".) If you'd like to talk about how to get support building this foundation for you and your family, use this link to schedule a free, no obligation call.  Moms like you love them!

So many Moms are worried about how much time their kids spend on screens.  But what they don't understand is all the roles that screens play in a kid's life.  Connection, comfort and much needed time to just zone out or numb out.

This week we are going to talk about the differences between comfort and zoning out as a way to help our kids spend less time on their screens.   And like all of the epsidoes we are going to help our kids by helping ourselves first.  Because truth be told, you can't tell a teen anything that you aren't role modeling yourself.

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Do you want to raise your kids differently than the way you were raised?

In this week's episode, we'll talk about how to keep the good parts and not let avoiding the bad parts become a trap.

Our unconscious mind acts a lot like a crockpot.  Other people's ideas about how we should be get put in there when we are little, and those ideas simmer for decades. Much like ingredients in a crockpot.  In this week's episode learn how situations that trigger us today are based on thoughts that have been simmering in our unconscious minds for decades.  Identifying these links with help you be less triggered by stuff your kids say and do AND take the pressure off your current day self to "get it right".