Parenting Through The Hard

Today's Parenting Teens Through the Hard episode is a heartfelt throwback from last year.

We're diving into the challenges we all face during the holiday season while caring for a teen in crisis. Your experiences and emotions are valid, and we're here to explore them with compassion and understanding. Join us as we discuss the many conflicting emotions we experience and offer a few suggestions on how to approach setting boundaries, avoiding problematic gifts, planning how to handle difficult conversations, and creating new traditions to bring joy. Despite the hardships we are experiencing, this holiday season is still an opportunity to find moments of peace, reflect on what's important, and remember that your efforts in being there for your child are remarkable and truly make a difference.

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

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• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

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Friend, today, we're going to delve into a topic that might tug at the heartstrings a bit – the profound importance of vulnerability in parenting, particularly during these challenging teenage years.

Together, we'll dive a little deeper into this concept I like to call "heart talk." A gentle, intimate dialogue rooted in trust and authenticity, a space where we can really connect with our teens. Because, you see, parenting during these years can be quite a tender journey.

You and I are going to explore those areas where our teens find it tough to open up to us. It's a reminder for us, as parents, to acknowledge our own imperfections, set expectations that are filled with compassion, and, most importantly, honor the boundaries our teens set.

Our teens are navigating a maze of changes and challenges, and we have the opportunity to be a comforting presence – a lighthouse guiding them through the waves. It's a call for us to understand that vulnerability isn't a weakness; it's a strength that fosters profound connections.

Let's embrace the reality that parenting teenagers is no easy feat. Through the mist of discomfort, we are learning to be there for our teens with open hearts and arms.

So, mama, let's gently step into the realm of vulnerability. Let's open up those channels of communication, even if it feels heavy. Because in those quiet, somber conversations lies the potential for healing and understanding.
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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

In episode 48, we're diving into a topic that's pretty important on this parenting journey through the hard: talking openly and genuinely with our teenagers.

You know, as parents, it's crucial to get a handle on our own emotions and fears before we embark on those deep heart-to-heart chats. Think of it like learning a new dance – it takes time, understanding, and a solid connection.

In this episode, I've got some down-to-earth strategies to share to help you get closer to having deeper conversations with your teens. We're also gonna chat about the whole influence-versus-control deal – trust me, it's a game-changer.

And because some of us may need a little more help, I've got a cool resource for you. Listen to find out how you can snag a free PDF loaded with journal prompts designed to get you ready for those heart-to-heart talks. Plus, stay tuned for an upcoming workshop where we'll tackle those fears head-on while learning from each other's stories and experiences.

⚡Sign up for our FREE Workshop 4 Principles for Fighting Fear on November 9th here!

💙 For your free Heart Talk Prompts, email me at [email protected]

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

In Episode 47, I give you an inside glimpse of the content for Day 1 of our recent workshop on The Four Principles for Fighting Fear, specifically in the context of parenting teenagers. As a parent, I understand how fear can sometimes hinder our ability to parent our teens effectively. That's why I want to share a personal "cheat code" for managing fear and becoming a more confident parent.

You see, parental fear is often rooted in love. We want the best for our teenagers, and we worry about their well-being. But sometimes, this fear can hold us back from making the right decisions or giving our teens the freedom they need to grow.

Learn to identify and understand your own fear triggers - the situations or thoughts that make you feel the most fearful as a parent. By recognizing these triggers, we can start to address them head-on.

Join me as we explore ways to fight fear and become more effective parents to our teenagers. Together, we can create a nurturing and supportive environment while giving us the peace of mind we deserve.

⚡Sign up for Day 2 of our FREE Workshop 4 Principles for Fighting Fear on November 9th here!
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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

In this episode of our podcast "Parenting Teens Through the Hard," we are talking about the importance of understanding the changing dynamics of communication with our teens and how crucial it is for us to adapt.

We all know that our teens are heavily influenced by their peers, technology, and social media. However, it's essential for us to remember that our voices still hold immense value in their lives. We need to find ways to connect and communicate effectively with them.

A key aspect we focus on is modeling healthy communication and empathy. Empathy acts as the anchor line that connects us in our communication with our teens. By understanding their perspective and showing empathy, we can build a stronger bond with them.

Today's teens face numerous challenges and pressures, and it's our responsibility as parents to provide understanding and empathy. We need to create an environment where they feel safe to open up and share their thoughts and feelings.

Building trust and open communication is vital.  So, let's embark on this journey together, exploring the world of communication with our teens. By adapting to the changing dynamics, understanding the generation gap, and practicing empathy, we can strengthen our relationships and guide our teens through the hard times.

Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HERE

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

"What will you pursue in the middle of this mess that might somehow justify all your suffering?"

In this episode, we are opening our eyes to one of the biggest struggles we experience as parents of teenagers or young adults in crisis. Whether we are dealing with teen behavior issues, addiction, failing grades in high school, manipulation, or isolation, there is a heaviness that creeps in around us with no intention of leaving anytime soon. 

Join us as we discuss how we go from hurt parents to healed parents and learn about a unique opportunity coming to you in October 2023!

Timestamps:
The challenges of parenting teens in crisis [00:00:02]
Discussion on the difficulties parents face when their teens are in crisis and the importance of a supportive community.

The role of fear in parenting [00:01:26]
Exploration of how fear can dictate our actions as parents and lead to constant stress and anxiety.

The pressure to fix everything and fear of failure [00:02:53]
Discussion on the pressure parents feel to find solutions to their child's problems and the fear of failure that comes with it.

The need for a supportive community [00:15:20]
Emphasizes the importance of having a supportive community to help navigate challenges and overcome fear in parenting.

The upcoming four-week online workshop [00:17:02]
Introducing an upcoming workshop focused on four foundation principles to help parents operate from a place of calm and healing.

Shifting away from control and finding purpose in suffering [00:19:33]
Encouraging listeners to shift their mindset away from control and view their experiences as opportunities for growth and purpose in their lives and the lives of their children.

Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HERE

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

Hey Sis! Ever think about parenting teens like you're tending a garden? Well, that's what we're getting into in this episode – 'cause, let's face it, our kids are a bit like flowers. They bloom when they're ready, in their own sweet time.

We're just here to play the gardener, you know? Nurturing, observing, and maybe doing a bit of waiting.

This summer, as I strolled around my yard, checking out how each plant was doing, it hit me how much parenting teens can feel like tending a garden. And guess what? I had to spill the beans (or should I say seeds?) with you.

Come hang out with us as we chat about:

• Your child’s zone: Respecting their own growth timeline.
• Starting at ground level: Embracing those foundational moments.
• How to soften the seed: Creating the right conditions for growth.
• The DANGERS of overwatering: Yep, finding that sweet balance.
• Getting to the roots: Digging into what really matters for your teens.

I'm keeping it laid-back and sharing insights to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenting teens. So, grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and let's chat about growing up together, one seed at a time.

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

"As we heal the parts of us that, even in the midst of chaos, need to grieve over the loss of the family we dreamed would be ours, we get better at parenting. We learn to be ok with holding the reins a little looser because holding them tight never seems to bring our child closer.  And through this beautiful process of losing and finding, we stumble upon our sweet spot."

In today’s episode, we discuss the 4th and final stage of learning.  At this stage, our skills are developing and becoming ingrained in us through repetition. They begin to line up with what feels right to us. Our actions and reactions, even if they don’t always yield the results we hope for, are more incongruent with what’s important to us, and it starts to feel more natural and effortless.

Join us to learn more about….

• Stage 4: Unconscious Competence.
• Parenting and Shepherding - what they have in common.
• The growth required of us.

Links from today's show:

Dr. Russell Barkley: 30 Essential Ideas Every Parent Needs to Know (Parents of ADHD Children)

Skills of a Shepherd by Kim Gooding

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
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• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

“Parenting is not your purpose. It’s preparing you for your purpose.”

We often make the learning process more complicated than necessary because of the negative feelings we experience when as parents, we make mistakes.  Ironically, not doing it right and making mistakes are actually vital steps in the learning process.

In today’s episode, we are moving on to explore conscious competence parenting, which is stage 3 of any learning process.

Join us to learn more about….

• Stage 3: Conscious Competence.
• How to tell when you’ve reached stage 3.
• Two benefits you’ll experience.
• A few tips on what to practice at this level.

Links from today's show:

Gary Thomas’ book Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our Souls

Dr. Becky Bailey

Dr. Becky Bailey YouTube

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]

Show-notes Episode 41

Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 2 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis

Today’s episode is another bite sized episode, perfect for a quick walk around the neighborhood. The second of our mini series on the four stages we go through as we learn to parent a teen in crisis. These stages take us through the learning curve we face as we develop the skills needed in order to feel more confident in our parenting abilities.

In this episode, we explore conscious incompetence parenting, which is stage 2 of the learning process and I’ll give you a few tips on how to become more effective during this stage of parenting.

Join us to learn more about….

• Stage 2: Conscious Incompetence
• How to tell when you’ve reached stage 2
• The beautiful element added to our journey once we reach this stage
• Tips to help you move through this stage effectively and more

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About Through The Hard:
"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.

Explore Additional Support:

• Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)
• Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources
• Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog
• Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ

Connect with Us:

• Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook
• Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram
• For personalized support, reach out via email: [email protected]