Parenting Through The Hard

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

Unyielding  Episode 20

The #1 Reason You Feel Exhausted

Raising teenagers can be EXHAUSTING; in this episode, we discuss the #1 reason for it. 

Join the conversation as I talk about the “Backpack Principle.” 

This new way principle brings awareness and clarity to what it looks like to begin the process of loving detachment. I’ve been practicing it for a couple of weeks now, and it has been a GAME CHANGER in our family.

We’ll also discuss why detaching is so uncomfortable.

• Two questions to ask yourself before you jump in to instruct, solve or protect your teen.
• Switching roles from Director to Advisor
• And more..

Episode Take Aways....

Grow in your awareness of backpack moments this week. When confronted with them, ask yourself...

1.  Have they been given what I believe is wisdom on this matter, or in other words, have we covered this before?

2.  Am I willing to allow this to be theirs?

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• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

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Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

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Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothers

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For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

When Does the Healing Begin?

Parents who have been stretched thin are questioning their ability to continue holding and often ask when does the healing begin?

In this episode, we explore what healing really looks like on this journey with our child.

We also discuss some of our obstacles in getting to a place of healing, how our hope is found in the whispers, whether our patterns in parenting are still serving us in the best possible way, and more.

Special announcement regarding the next session of our online support group. 

You can register and get more information by emailing “I’m in!” to [email protected]

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

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Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothers

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

Finding Meaning in the Mess

How do I do this, and how do I do it right? That’s the question nestled deep in the heart of every parent I meet.

In this episode, we talk about the two truths found in every action we take, and we also discuss the one thing that changed everything about my journey, as well as each parent I’ve coached or mentored that has been able to implement it.

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

____________________________________________________________________________

Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothers

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

The Secret to Reestablishing Trust 

For this final episode in Season 2, we are talking about trust. Upon reading that word, some of you are already thinking to yourself… I can’t trust my child right now. They’ve made so many choices that have me questioning their thinking. 

Well, today isn’t about trusting them. Today, we are talking about trusting ourselves. See, somewhere along the way, we lost that ability, and it’s time we got it back.

As promised, here are the links we discussed in the show:

230 Personal Core Values

Brene Brown’s Whole Hearted Parenting Manifesto

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

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Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing or at risk of facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothers

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

Down Grief Mountain with Mary Cranston 

In part two of my interview with Mary Cranston, we begin looking ahead to the journey down the other side of Grief Mountain.  

What can we expect to encounter as we continue to navigate this journey?

Understanding the grieving process gives us permission to accept where we are, to see more clearly the work we are meant to do in this season, and to wait expectantly, knowing that this too shall pass.

4:27  Depression

6:30  Re-Entry

7:45  What Holds Us Back From Getting Support

12:17 New Relationships

15:30 New Strengths

19:20 Overlooking the Physical Side of Grief

21:40 Hope/Affirmation

23:50 The Push and Pull of Moving On

26:00 Helping Others

Mary is a life coach, a counselor, a motivational speaker, and a published author who recently wrote the book Grief Mountain ( A practical guide in recovering from grief and loss). You can find the book here on Amazon.

If you are interested in hearing more from Mary or connecting with what she's doing, check out:

Her website https://www.coachmcranston.com/

Her Instagram, Facebook and YouTube

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

____________________________________________________________________________

Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

Sometimes we are so consumed with trying to keep our heads above water with court dates, challenging behaviors, and worrying about the future that it's easy to dismiss the fact that there is real grief under the surface. When thinking about the challenges of grief, one person came to mind that I knew would be an incredible blessing to you. Her name is Mary Cranston and she is a life coach, a counselor, a motivational speaker, and a published author who recently wrote the book Grief Mountain ( A Practical Guide in Recovering from Grief and Loss). Join us as we explore the grief journey.

Find Grief Mountain here on Amazon.

If you are interested in hearing more from Mary or connecting with what she's doing, check out:

Her website https://www.coachmcranston.com/

Her Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube

Resources: 

• Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)
• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

____________________________________________________________________________

Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

When The Challenge Changes You - Part 2

In Episode 14, A quick part two of our interview with Blake, he continues his candid conversation about what life was like as a teen in the juvenile justice system. Listen as he examines if there was anything that anyone could've done that may have changed the path he was on, discusses life after detention, his advice for parents, what his life is like today, and sends a personal message to his mama.

A few highlights from this episode:

2:02   Life after detention

3:48   Was there anything anyone could've done that would've changed the path

5:56   Blake's advice for parents

7:37   Life now  

9:08   Blake's message to his mom ❤️

If you would like to send a message to Blake letting him know how his interview helped you, OR if you are interested in sharing your own experiences on the show, email [email protected].

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

____________________________________________________________________________

Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

When The Challenge Changes You - Blake’s Story

In this episode, I have the honor of interviewing Blake, who offers us the gift of his perspective on what it was like to be a child who experienced the juvenile justice system. 

In part one of this two-part interview, Blake openly shares his story of what life was like during his teen years. His experiences, the factors he believes influenced his decisions, his relationship with his mom and siblings, and what he credits as the difference-maker in him changing his course.

A few highlights from this episode:

5:35    First encounter with law enforcement.

9:18    Decision influencers

15:00  Promises to change

15:30  The difference-maker  

17:00   Looking Back: what Blake credits his mom for doing well.

23:43  The greatest challenge of detention

28:00  Blakes’s relationship with his mom and the role it played

30:34  Sibling Relationships

If you would like to send a message to Blake letting him know how his interview helped you, OR if you are interested in sharing your own experiences on the show, email [email protected].

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• 
  Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

____________________________________________________________________________

Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

In this episode, I have the honor of interviewing Pete Feliciano. Pete graduated college with a degree in Law and Justice and a Master's degree in counseling. He recently retired from an extensive career working with hundreds of families in Thurston County Juvenile Court as a probation counselor for the last 32 years. Throughout those years, he has been a strong voice advocating for children and families in our community, and I am so grateful that he is on the show to provide us with some insight into the world of probation. 

Highlights from this episode:

5:00    The biggest misconception about probation and probation counselors.

13:32  The Us versus Them mentality and the damage created by it.

15:51   What is probation, and what purpose does it serve?

18:44  What you can do today that will help your child's probation process. 

22:47  One thing resilient families do that keeps them moving forward.

33:50  The one thing Petehope'ssyou'lll take away from this episode.

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

____________________________________________________________________________

Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]

Note: This episode was originally published under our former podcast title. While the name has changed to “Parenting Through the Hard,” the heart of this conversation remains the same. Thanks for being part of the journey.

In part two of my podcast interview with Pastor Jim Ladd, we discuss the difference between protecting and equipping our child and learn what could be at risk if we don't get this right.

We also discuss the message our children receive when we constantly operate in protection mode and the question you should ask yourself if you find yourself helping a little too much.

If you have a child in crisis, we sincerely hope that you find comfort and clarity while listening to his message on the importance of bringing ourselves back to baseline and beginning to examine the bigger picture and opportunity available to us during this time.

A few highlights from this episode:

7:40    The message our kids may be receiving when we are constantly in protection mode

8:21    The difference between protecting and equipping

11:45   Everyone can carry some of the load

14:50   The question you should ask before rescuing

If you are interested in hearing more from Jim Ladd or connecting with what he's doing, check out the Jim and Jon website to access blogs, books, and the Upstream podcast he co-hosted with his son Jon (It's fantastic). You can also find him on the Evergreen Christian Community Website and Instagram.

Resources: 

Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!)

• Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ 
• Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ 
• FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ 

____________________________________________________________________________

Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations.

Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ 

Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork 

Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/about

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

For support, email: [email protected]