Partnership Aligned

Melanie used to regret marrying her husband and now she hates being away from him. The work she did in between is the answer to overcoming hard times.

Many women have expectations for marriage that simply aren't realistic. You will go through hard times. You will feel disconnected. And if you have kids, you will be sleep deprived!

But don't give up! There is a way to move through hard times that will bring you and your partner together and get you back on the same team.

Hit play to hear Melanie's wisdom and advice - it will blow you away!

Who is Melanie Shenberger?
Melanie is a wife and mother of two little girls. She is also a coach specializing in home decluttering and shifting the mindset around the things in your home. 
Melanie grew up in constant chaos and clutter in her childhood home and it was an exact representation of her mind. When she got married young all that chaos followed her and started taking its toll on her marriage. After a very rocky start, Melanie was able to save her crumbling marriage but it wasn't until years later that she started getting to the root of why so many issues were present, to begin with. 

After experiencing the miscarriage of her second child, she realized that she needed a change. She was tired of the chaos that was her home and mind. She started down a journey of minimalism and began crafting a program to systematically remove not just the things from your home, but resolve the stories and emotions attached to them. After removing approximately 80% of her belongings from their home, she started realizing just how much all the "stuff" had contributed to her early marital issues.

Melanie now coaches women on crafting the home and life that they want so they can enjoy every moment of motherhood, marriage, and themselves.

If you'd like to connect with Melanie you can follow her on Instagram here or join her free Facebook group

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Feelings aren't facts. So how you're feeling about your marriage today doesn't actually dictate the state of your marriage.

But in psychology, we actually do have three measuring sticks for improvement in relationships. Hit play to learn what they are and to factually gage how your marriage is doing!

Mentioned on this episode:
Ep 4 - The Silent Treatment or The Silent Love Killer?

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When you feel sad and hurt, do you allow yourself to feel those feelings? Or do you have all kinds of judgmental opinions about how you SHOULD or SHOULDN'T feel?

The way you talk to yourself about your own thoughts and feelings is the difference between self-abandonment and self-compassion. You are the one who talks to you the most... so learning how to be nice to you is life changing.

If you're feeling disconnected from your partner, there is a good chance you are also feeling disconnected from yourself on some level. Accepting your thoughts and feelings as true and OK allows you to get to know yourself and gives your partner the opportunity to love you for you.

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We all have fears. But certain fears REALLY keep you stuck. Some common ones are fear of rejection, fear of being let down, and fear of conflict.

Having these fears is not the problem. It's when you make decisions based on those fears that you become disconnected from your partner.

Many times, I find that the unhealthy dynamic in a relationship can be traced back to a specific, root fear. By gaining awareness over fear, naming it, and getting coached on it - you finally fix the wound as opposed to slapping on a bandaid.

Mentioned in this episode:
Ep 68 - Stop Hiding From Your Relationship

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Boundaries has become a buzz word. Social media has portrayed boundaries as an aggressive protection tactic. But those of us who are educated and trained on boundaries know that nothing could be further from the truth.

When you start to reframe boundaries as an act of love - both for your partner and for yourself - the relationship becomes healthier.

Join me as I interview Heather Claus, author and coach, who wrote a book about boundaries! She shares the five steps to creating and maintaining healthy boundaries with your partner.

Who is Heather Claus?
Heather has lived an atypical life.

She's hitchhiked across the country, traveled and worked in a carnival for a season, roamed New York City with street people, explored (and taught) alternative lifestyles, and more.

All of her experiences thus far have led her to the belief that boundaries are the key to not only saving ourselves, but our relationships.

She's a big fan of amazing people enjoying love, sex, and romance in happy and functional lives (whatever that might look like from human to human), which is why she's thrilled to share her experience and knowledge of boundaries with you! ❤️

Check out Heather's website 

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This is a replay of one of my most popular episodes from back in the day. The secret to ending the conflict with your partner is not a specific communication strategy. Those can be helpful but only with the right emotion behind it; the secret emotion that ends ALL kinds of conflict. If you can tap into it, you are well on your way to resolution and connection with your partner. 

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How do you know if your marriage is save-able vs. reached the point of no return? According to today's guest, as long as there is ANY kind of communication - even bad communication - there is still hope!

And she would know! She divorced her husband... only to remarry him!

This interview with Claire Jorgensen, marriage coach, has SO MANY nuggets of wisdom and tips for pivoting a struggling marriage.

Who is Claire?
Claire Afua Jørgensen, is based in Denmark, married and with two kids. She is an NLP Practitioner and a Christian Marriage Coach. She is currently immersed in the pursuit of a Ph.D. in Neuroscience, Psychology, and Faith. Over the past few years, she has worked with countless couples and individuals, with a special focus on women whose marriages have veered toward the brink of divorce. In her capacity as a coach, she has devoted her energy and expertise to guiding and helping them Save their Marriage.

She offers a variety of services, including one-on-one coaching sessions, group coaching, and transformative retreats, tailored to meet the unique needs of individuals and couples facing difficult challenges in marriage.

Visit Claire's Website

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Interested in private coaching? Book your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Does your emotional state depend on your partner's emotional state? 

If you need them to be ok in order for you to be ok, you are codependent. The most painful part of codependency is the self-abandonment that happens. If you feel a little nudge in your gut that you often stifle and ignore, I want to invite you to hit play and keep an open mind.

You can heal from codependency and even have a healthy relationship! But the first step is awareness and honesty with yourself. 

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Do you ever feel like you and your partner just have the same argument over and over?

Do you feel completely misunderstood? Confused?

Do you sometimes walk away from a conversation wishing you had just kept your mouth shut?

If so, then this episode is for you! Today, I'm giving you the three pre-requisites for effective communication - the formula necessary to grow together and improve your marriage.

Mentioned on this episode:
Ep 68 - Stop Avoiding Your Relationship
Ep 10 - The Price of People Pleasing Your Partner
Ep 34 - Five Steps to Releasing Resentment

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If you've experienced infidelity in your marriage - regardless of whether you're the one who cheated or got cheated on - this episode will speak to you.

Infidelity comes with specific layers of pain that create disconnect, paranoia, resentment, and rage. 

So what do you do if you want to stay in the relationship but cannot move past the pain of the infidelity and it's after effect?

Join me as I interview Dr. Juan Santos, licensed therapist specializing in healing from affairs, as he gives us his stages of healing and many insights about this painful, yet powerful process. 

Who is Dr. Juan Santos?
With over ten years of experience in the field of helping others make mindset and lifestyle, Dr. Juan Santos is listed in the ranks of the top 3 marriage counselors in his local area. He brings new perspectives for mental health and wellness, for helping individuals and couples build empowerment and take charge of their life and relationships. He is a first-generation immigrant, originally born in the Dominican Republic and raised in North Carolina. Dr. Santos utilizes a unique mind and body-approach to teach individuals how to go from surviving to thriving in life. His work on improving your mental health and quality of life has been featured on radio, tv, magazine, and podcast. Dr. Santos has presented on topics ranging from managing anxiety to addressing workplace mental health issues at organizations, higher education spaces, and community agencies.

Dr. Santos is giving Partnership Aligned audience members discounted access to his new course to help couples heal after an affair!

Course Link: https://relationship-workshop.teachable.com/p/healingafterinfidelity
Coupon Code: PartnershipAligned

Visit Dr. Santos' website
Santos Counseling
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Interested in private coaching? Book your free consult and start improving your relationship today!