Have you been told that because your child is neurodivergent, they need different rules? That connection-based parenting works for neurotypical kids, but your child with autism or ADHD requires charts, rewards, and consequences to manage behavior. Many of us hear this, leaving us to choose between a behavioral or relationship-based approach.

In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Eloise, one of our private clients, whose son has autism and ADHD. She came to us wondering if this work would even apply to her family. She had tried the visual charts and rewards and found they made no difference in her son’s intense anxiety. Eloise shares her incredible story of how she was advised to “just do the connection”. She discovered that play was the key that truly helped her son. It filled his cup, calmed his anxiety about leaving the house, and allowed him to think better.

This conversation is a crucial reminder that our neurodiverse kids don’t need to be managed; they, more than anyone, need to be connected with. If you are parenting a neurodivergent child, this episode is a must-listen. It will fill you with so much hope and reaffirm that your relationship is the most powerful tool you have. I know you’ll find so much hope and validation in Eloise’s story.

In This Episode, We Cover:

👉 Why connection is essential for neurodiverse families

👉 Swapping sticker charts for playful connection

👉 Using play to calm anxiety in autistic children

👉 How a mother’s own neurodivergent diagnosis helped

👉 Parenting when you are also autistic with ADHD

👉 Moving beyond traditional behavioral management

As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.

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Does it ever feel like you’re a referee in your own home? One child is hurt, crying with scratches down their arm, and the other is standing there, looking defiant. In that moment, every instinct tells you to protect the “victim” and correct the “aggressor.” But what if I told you that by rushing in to assign blame, we might unknowingly be making the rivalry worse? It’s a tough pill to swallow, I know. It took me years to see how my attempts to protect my younger daughter, Pia, were actually fueling my older daughter, Esme’s fire and cementing them in their roles.

Today, I’m getting really honest about my own journey with my daughters' sibling relationship. I’ll share how I had to unlearn my instinct to take sides and instead learn to approach their conflicts with neutrality. We’ll talk about why the “aggressor” is often a child who is hurting and not a villain, and how building individual connection outside of the conflict is the real key to long-term peace.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

👉 How to stop making sibling rivalry worse

👉 How to see the hurt, not the villain

👉 How to build connection outside the conflict

👉 Intervening with neutrality, not blame

👉 How your childhood affects their fights

👉 How to move from putting out fires to peace

As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time. I’ll be back soon!

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Do you feel like you’re doing everything “right”? You’ve started implementing special time and focusing on connection, yet it creates more chaos. The kids might have meltdowns when the timer goes off, or sibling squabbles seem endless. You may question whether connected parenting works. You are not alone, and there is a way through it.

In this episode, I have a wonderful chat with Katie, a mother of three girls from the UK. She’s been practicing connective parenting for just a few weeks and is already seeing incredible results, but she came to me with some very common and relatable challenges. We dive deep into the nitty-gritty of making special time work, especially when your children don’t want it to end. We also explore how to navigate the intense emotions of sibling rivalry without taking sides and how our own childhoods, especially if we were told to be “seen and not heard” can make it so hard to tolerate our children’s big, loud feelings. 

This was such a rich and supportive conversation, and Katie’s journey is one I know will resonate with so many of you.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

👉 Navigating the end of "special time"

👉 Handling sibling fights with neutrality

👉 Why special time consistency is key

👉 Letting go of being the "feelings police"

👉 Creating calm and connected mornings

👉 Using play to address tough behaviors

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🎧 As I mentioned, my sweet dad recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.

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Are you sometimes wondering if this whole "connected parenting" thing can really work for your child, especially when you're facing those big emotions or defiant moments? Maybe you've heard people say, "That’s nice, but my kid needs something different." I truly understand where you're coming from, and I’ve been there.

In today's episode, I want to discuss why I’m passionate about connected parenting as a loving approach for all children, regardless of their temperament or challenges. We'll explore how prioritizing our relationship over specific behaviors makes a profound difference. Traditional methods like punishments and reward charts often miss the mark for any child, including those with ODD or ADHD, and can hinder their ability to learn and thrive by affecting brain development. No child benefits from shame or belittlement.

Instead of focusing on control, we'll discuss how connection builds trust, enhances brain function by engaging the prefrontal cortex, and creates a calm, safe environment for our children. It’s not about quick fixes or changing strong-willed children, but about tempering deeper traits and achieving lasting improvements in cooperation and emotional regulation. This approach not only helps kids but also brings peace to us as parents.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

👉 Why connection benefits every single child. 

👉 The truth about rewards and punishments.

👉 Boost your child's brain with connection. 

👉 Support neurodivergent kids through your relationship. 

👉 See challenging behaviors improve with empathy. 

👉 Find more calm for your family. 

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Do you ever find yourself in those familiar power struggles with your child? Maybe it’s the daily screen time battle, that feeling of being rushed, or just their amazing, strong will challenging you at every turn. If you're nodding along, please know you're not alone, and there absolutely is a path to more peace and cooperation in your home.

In this episode, I had a wonderful conversation with Jackie, a mom to a spirited nine-year-old named Sophia. Jackie bravely shared her struggles with Sophia’s “authoritative personality” and the daily challenges of getting cooperation, especially around turning off the TV. We dove deep into how our own upbringing can unconsciously shape our parenting and, most importantly, how focusing on connection can truly transform these everyday friction points into opportunities for growth and a stronger relationship. We talked about practical ways to build that connection, even when life feels incredibly rushed. It’s not about grand gestures, but those small, consistent moments that fill your child's cup and yours too. 

Join me to hear all the insights and practical tips shared in my chat with Jackie; it’s a conversation that could truly shift the dynamic in your home.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

👉 The importance of daily child-led, focused play

👉 Screen Time Peace: Engage before ending shows

👉 Our Tech Use: Model healthy electronic habits

👉 How to rethink "No": Try a planned "ditch day." 

👉 Why Connection Boosts Cooperation: Build strong, loving bonds

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Okay, friend, let's discuss the pressure of being the "perfect" parent. If you've felt overwhelmed by a toddler’s grocery store meltdown or a teen defying you, this episode is for you. I've been in the trenches, thinking perfect parenting meant perfectly behaved children and would validate me.  

Today, I’ll share my journey with perfectionism in parenting, revealing how it harmed my relationship with my kids. My desperation for them to "behave" led to threats, bribes, and yelling, making me feel like a failure. The incredible thing I discovered is that our children need connected parents, not perfect ones. In this episode, we'll explore how shifting focus from controlling behavior to nurturing relationships can transform everything. Letting go of perfection opens us to a more peaceful, joyful, and connected way of parenting.

If you're ready to embrace imperfection and strengthen bonds with your children, this episode might just be the breakthrough you've been searching for.

In This Episode, You'll Discover:

👉 Perfection is unattainable, and not your goal

👉 Connection is your true parenting goal

👉 Perfectionism can breed perfectionist kids

👉 "Good enough" parenting is enough

👉 Relationships take precedence over behavior

👉 My journey from control to connection

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Do you find yourself constantly striving for perfection in your parenting? Does the idea of not having all the answers or losing control fill you with anxiety? If you're a high-achieving parent who wants deep connection but finds yourself stuck in a "fix-it" or "control" mindset, this episode is for you.

Today, I have a truly insightful conversation with Kate Kripke, a licensed clinical social worker and perinatal mental health counselor. We dive into the neuroscience behind why many high-achieving women, like us, approach motherhood with a desire for control and achievement, and why that very approach can hinder the deep connection we crave. We discuss how our own need to feel in control stems from a fundamental need for safety.

Kate and I explore the critical difference between control and influence, emphasizing that true positive influence comes from a place of inner steadiness and emotional regulation, not external demands. This episode is a powerful invitation to release the "shoulds" of parenting and lean into grace, presence, and heart-centered connection.

In This Episode

👉 Understanding the brain's role in mothering

👉 How to differentiate control from influence

👉 How to address fear-based parenting

👉 Releasing the need to "fix it"

👉 Embracing the discomfort of not knowing

👉 Prioritizing inner steadiness for connection

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Do you want your child to always feel safe enough to come to you, no matter what mistakes they've made? Are you sometimes unsure how to react when your child disappoints you, without resorting to punishment or judgment?

Today, we're diving deep into the power of being your child's "safe place." Research tells us this is the most crucial thing we can do for our children, especially in adolescence. When children feel safe and connected, their brains are better equipped for good decision-making and impulse control. And guess what! The fastest way to make our children feel unsafe is in a home where they fear us.

I'll share a personal story about my daughter Pia admitting to cheating, and how my calm, empathetic response strengthened our connection, allowing her to take responsibility without shame. We'll explore how to convey unconditional love, even when behavior is challenging, by staying calm, connected, and neutral. It’s about building a foundation where your child knows your love isn't dependent on their behavior or achievements. If you're ready to create a haven of unconditional love and trust in your home, hit play!

In This Episode

👉 How to be your child's safe place

👉 How to prioritize connection over consequences

👉 Validating their feelings without judgment

👉 Building a strong relationship for success

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What if I told you that schools are actually killing your child's creativity? Is socialization really a problem for homeschooled kids? If you're looking for an insightful discussion that addresses these fears and offers a compelling perspective on homeschooling, you're in the right place.

Today, I'm joined by Liz Hanson, a seasoned homeschooler with 24 years of experience in education. We'll explore what homeschooling truly is (and isn't), debunk common myths, and discuss the incredible benefits it can offer. Liz shares her personal journey into homeschooling and offers practical advice for parents considering this path. We'll cover everything from overcoming fear and building confidence to understanding the importance of creativity, socialization, and a well-rounded education.

If you're excited to explore the possibilities of homeschooling and see how it can nurture a lifelong love of learning, this is definitely worth a listen!

In This Episode

👉 Debunking common myths about homeschooling 

👉 Identifying the core elements of successful homeschooling 

👉 Exploring the impact of homeschooling on creativity 

👉 Addressing concerns about socialization 

👉 Providing guidance on getting started with homeschooling 

👉 Offering advice on planning and curriculum

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Are you tired of constant power struggles with your child? Does it feel like every little thing turns into a battle? If you're longing for a more peaceful way to navigate these conflicts and maintain a strong connection with your child, you're in the right place.

Today, I’m tackling the tricky topic of power struggles. First, let me reassure you that they're incredibly common. Children, especially, crave autonomy, which can often lead to clashes as they assert their independence. But here's the good news: power struggles don't have to destroy your relationship. We'll explore how to shift from a place of control and authority to one of empathy and understanding. I'll share a client's story about transforming a laundry battle into a fun, connective experience using play. It's about working with your child instead of against them, fostering cooperation and strengthening your bond.   

If you're ready to turn power struggles into opportunities for connection and create a more harmonious home, hit play!

In This Episode

👉 Understand the root of power struggles

👉 Shift from control to connection

👉 Use play to defuse tension

👉 Reframe expectations for cooperation

👉 Validate your child's need for autonomy

👉 Preserve your relationship through conflict

🎧 Want to learn more check out my episode What To Do When Our Child Says “I Hate You”

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