Ever feel lost in how to respond when your child gets aggressive during tantrums? You're not alone, and it's definitely a tough spot to be in. This week, we're tackling the challenge of aggressive tantrums and how to navigate them with connection, not punishment. Afra joins me today, struggling when her 6-year-old gets physical with her during tantrums. Together, we'll explore why connection is key, even when it feels counterintuitive, and how to keep everyone safe during those intense moments.

We dive into understanding the root of aggressive tantrums and why they happen, especially when kids say they want to be left alone. We also discuss how our own experiences can shape our reactions and explore healthier ways to respond. I’ll provide strategies for maintaining safety for both you and your child during these episodes. We'll also cover the importance of modeling self-regulation and the long-term benefits it has for our children.

If you're ready to shift your perspective on tantrums and build a stronger connection with your child, this episode offers some compassionate guidance and practical tools. You’re doing great, and there is a better way!

In This Episode

• How to stay present through the tantrum
• Prioritizing safety for everyone
• How to model self-regulation calmly
• Don’t expect immediate apologies
• Why you need to be consistent with your limits

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Are you tired of feeling like you're always lecturing your kids, but it just doesn't seem to make a difference? Do you find yourself caught in a cycle of reasoning and explaining, only to see the same behaviors repeat? I get it, because I’ve been there too. This week, I’m diving into why those well-intentioned lectures often fall flat and how they can even be perceived as punishment by our children. But don't worry, because I’ll also share some effective strategies for guiding our children towards better behavior, fostering genuine connection and self-correction without relying on lectures.

If you're ready to transform your approach to discipline and cultivate a more peaceful and connected relationship with your children, this episode is a must-listen. Trust me, you've got this, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.

In This Episode

• Recognizing why lectures may feel like punishment
• Avoiding shaming your child
• Why we should let kids express themselves fully
• Focus on problem-solving together
• Holding space for your child’s feelings
• See mistakes as opportunities to learn

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Sleep deprivation is real, and when your child won’t sleep without you, it can feel overwhelming. If you're exhausted from middle-of-the-night wake-ups, desperate for just a few hours of uninterrupted rest, and wondering if you’ll ever get your evenings back, today’s episode is for you.

In this heartfelt coaching session, I talk with Polina, a loving mother navigating the difficult challenge of nighttime separation. We explore why young children struggle with independent sleep, how connection impacts bedtime battles, and why setting limits with empathy is the key to long-term success.

If you’ve ever taken your child’s sleep struggles personally or wondered if you’re "doing it wrong," I promise you’re not alone. Together, we discuss a practical plan to help Polina’s daughter feel safe and secure at night while also giving Polina the rest she desperately needs.

You don’t have to choose between connection and sleep. Listen in to discover how to meet your child’s emotional needs while also honoring your own.

In This Episode

• Why kids resist sleeping alone
• How to handle nighttime wake-ups with empathy
• Setting loving limits without creating fear
• Why tantrums can actually improve sleep
• The role of connection in bedtime success
• How to create a supportive nighttime routine

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Are helicopter and bulldozer parenting mistakenly being labeled as gentle parenting by some? Today I uncover the myths around connective parenting and share the truth about what it really means to foster deep connections with our children.

In this episode, I tackle a common misconception about gentle or connective parenting, that it's all about speaking in a soft voice and gently reasoning with your kids. But as you’ll discover, it’s so much more. Connective parenting isn't about permissive attitudes or shielding kids from life's challenges. Rather, it's about equipping them to navigate obstacles with empathy and resilience.

Join me as I unpack what connective parenting really involves: prioritizing relationships, setting firm yet empathetic limits, and allowing the natural consequences of life to teach valuable lessons.

In This Episode

• Misconceptions of gentle and connective parenting
• Using empathy, not lectures or punishments
• Limits and consequences as teaching tools
• Helicopter parenting versus resilience-building
• The power of play and special time

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How can parents navigate the chaos when sibling rivalry turns into a hair-pulling standoff? What if sibling rivalry wasn't just a battle between your kids but an opportunity to deepen your connection with them? In today’s episode, we dive into the dynamics of sibling relationships and discuss how shifting your perspective can bring peace to your parenting journey.

I’m joined by Shannon, a mother of two from Canada, who shares her experience with sibling rivalry. We unravel the complexities of these interactions and explore how our own responses, often shaped by past influences, can either quell or perpetuate conflict. Listen in as we discuss the pivotal role of empathy in navigating these challenging moments and how prioritizing connection over correction can foster a harmonious environment.

In This Episode

• Approaching sibling fights with neutrality
• Viewing aggression as a sign of fear
• Connection as a tool for impulse control
• Modeling conflict resolution for partners
• Unpacking personal triggers in parenting

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The secret to boosting your child's self-esteem is not about constant praise but in how you truly see and trust them. In today’s episode, I explore the significant role parents play in fostering healthy self-esteem in children. I reflect on the profound impact a nurturing and affirming approach has on a child’s self-image. By expressing genuine belief in their inherent goodness and autonomy, parents can help children develop confidence and a strong sense of self-worth.

I’ll share five practical affirmations I use with my kids and the importance of recognizing our children’s internal decision-making capabilities. This episode emphasizes how crucial parental trust is in enabling children to navigate life's challenges independently and confidently.

In This Episode

• Affirmations that boost child's self-esteem
• The power of being seen and understood
• Encouraging autonomy in children's decisions
• Importance of trust in parent-child relationships
• Overcoming society's punitive parenting norms

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Is bedtime drama with your toddler an indicator of a deeper connection issue? What if the path to peaceful and restful nights for your child begins with understanding their emotional needs? Today on the Peace and Parenting podcast, I welcome Jamesetta, a devoted mother of three daughters, who shares her ongoing journey with her three-year-old's nighttime struggles.

Jamesetta expresses the challenges she faces with her daughter's bedtime routine, revealing a cycle of sleep resistance and wakefulness in the middle of the night. Together, we explore how connection, empathy, and setting limits may hold the key to smoother bedtime transitions. I offer insights and strategies to help transform these nightly ordeals into opportunities for growth and closeness.

Whether your child is a spirited three-year-old or a reserved seven-year-old, these insights might just be the comfort you need to support a connected parenting approach.

In This Episode

• Understanding separation anxiety challenges
• Importance of connection in bedtime routines
• Strategies for transforming routines into play
• Setting limits to uncover emotions

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Are rewards just another form of punishment in disguise? Ever thought that the key to nurturing genuine cooperation in your child lies beyond the promise of a star chart or a treat? In this episode of Peace and Parenting, I dive deep into the often-overlooked pitfalls of reward systems in parenting and how they can inadvertently erode the parent-child connection.

As a mother who once believed in handing out star stickers for good behavior, I share my journey of discovery and realization. I revisit the time I created an elaborate star chart to encourage my daughter, Esme, to complete tasks and exhibit positive behavior. Initially effective, this approach crumbled as Esme lost interest and I realized it was a form of manipulation rather than authentic motivation.

Join me as I challenge traditional parenting norms that prioritize compliance over connection. 

In This Episode

• The pitfalls of reward-based parenting
• Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation in children
• How rewards can erode parent-child connection
• Benefits of connective parenting over compliance-focused methods

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What happens when kids have the freedom to decide their own hygiene? Today on Peace and Parenting, I'm joined by Ana, a loving mom to two and a strong believer in connective parenting but who is having some trouble getting her children to cooperate. Together, we dive into understanding how connection, rather than control, can be the key to cultivating cooperation and harmony within your household.

Ana opens up about her challenges with a spirited 6-year-old, whose strong will and logical mind can sometimes lead to power struggles. Sound familiar? I share my insights on dealing with everyday parenting hurdles, like bath time resistance and the art of playful persuasion in toothbrushing wars. By leaning into empathy and letting go of rigid controls, we look at how we can teach our kids responsibility through natural consequences, fostering their independence while deepening our bond.

In This Episode

• Connection is as crucial as food and water
• Playful techniques to encourage cooperation
• Embracing natural consequences as teaching tools
• Letting go of control to strengthen bonds
• Importance of modeling desired behaviors

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Do you ever feel like there’s just not enough time for connection? Between work, household tasks, and never-ending to-do lists, it’s easy to let quality time with our kids slip to the bottom of our priorities. But what if I told you that focusing on connection first actually makes everything else run smoother?

Today, I’m exploring a mindset shift that can transform parenting, prioritizing connection over productivity. We live in a world that glorifies busyness, but at what cost? I explore why deep, meaningful relationships with our kids should come first and how that shift leads to more cooperation, smoother days, and stronger bonds. Listen in for five ways to ensure connection is an integral part of your parenting. 

In This Episode

• Why busyness isn’t the same as success
• The power of prioritizing connection first
• How natural consequences teach better than punishments
• Why homework shouldn’t take priority over relationships
• The long-term benefits of focusing on connection

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