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After not getting the grades he would have liked (and that would have been expected of him), Jerry handed the reins of his life over for other people to set the standards and decide where he should go next. Whilst that meant that there were people who had his best interests at heart at times, and often aligned with his own ambitions, it also exposed him to situation in which he lacked control and authority. 

From drive through pharmacies to coaching leaders, Jerry will share with you the risks involved in not taking ownership of your own life and decisions, being too agreeable and the dangers of getting too comfortable. 

If you’ve ever heard of tough love, you’ll understand that sometimes stepping back from helping someone is the best way to get them to step up. Jerry was on the receiving end of an enabling Mum who was invested in helping him carve out the future she believed he deserved.  It wasn’t until he put himself in an uncomfortable employment situation, forcing him to live alone without a support network in place that things began to change.

Unaccustomed to taking responsibility in life, Jerry found himself in a new pharmacy career, helping drug dealers benefit from drug diversion, working unpaid and even putting his medical licence in jeopardy.

Was Jerry’s desire to avoid conflict so strong or was he making excuses for an apathetic attitude – what do you think?

Has he now got the grit required to step up and be an entrepreneur? 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this one!

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The Many Lives of Trudy Hindmarsh – ExtraOrdinary People

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Trudy Hindmarsh trained as a Samaritan, making her a through and through make a difference person! She went on to become a secondary and primary teacher, making her way to senior leadership team and working as a SENCO.

In her later career she became an award winning performing arts business owner and leader in the field. This enabled her to develop a unique methodology for developing confidence in children, called the Magical Change System which was researched in collaboration with Teeside University.

She trained as an NLP Practitioner with NLP4Kids (www.NLP4Kids.org) and has up-skilled herself in neuroscience and autism to enable her to help an even wider range of people.

You can learn more about Trudy and her Magical Change System by visiting https://magicalchange.co.uk/

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The Success Factor: Ruth Gotian - ExtraOrdinary People

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Ruth is a person who has studied success, written about success and achieved a great deal of success herself. This isn’t a lady who has some fluffy personal-development theories of her own, she is a Doctor who has studied the psychology of those who are the most successful at what they do. 

She discovered that there are 4 key elements that unlock the secret of success. 

Intrinsic motivation: You need to love it. You have to have a fire in your belly and be totally self motivated. You can do a passion audit (https://www.ruthgotian.com/passionaudit) to make sure your passion is where you need it to be. What would you do for free if you could?

Perseverance: Outplay everyone else. Look at challenges differently: How do I overcome it (instead of why is it there?

Reenforce a strong foundation. Do stop when you get successful.

Continuous learning. Remain open to new knowledge. Consume as much as you can from multiple medias and experiences, with many different mentors. Give yourself options in how you consume the things you want to learn or master.

Some key things to help you succeed at whatever you are aiming for:

Know when your most productive time is – are you better in the morning or in the afternoon? 

Be flexible

Give it time

Whenever your ready to give up, give it a little longer

Reward each small achievement

Give yourself a time buffer

Work until its done

Work in sprints – 25 min of focus, 5 min break, then take a longer break after 3 rounds.

Can you simplify and get rid of the fluff?

Keep an open mind to learning

And once again, get a mentor!

Get your copy of the Success Factor here:

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Abandoned & Adopted with Stuart Falconer – ExtraOrdinary People

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Stuart Falconer is an entrepreneur, father, qualified counsellor, fundraiser, charity founder and HR expert. 

As a baby Stuart was given up for adoption and grew up as an only child to a disabled parent. This formed his early attachment style and created an unidentified anxiety which he has recently begun to learn more about. 

Until recently, Stuart was unaware of the impact his childhood has had on his life and relationships. 

In 2015, Stuart’s youngest son, Morgan, died by suicide. This event became a catalyst to Stuart’s fundraising work and alongside other bereaved parents, be set up the OLLIE foundation (one life lost is enough). 

In this podcast you will hear about Stuart’s journey of self discovery – how much he has learned about himself so far and the work he still has to do to find peace within himself. 

https://uksobs.org/ 

https://theolliefoundation.org/

https://morganthomsonhr.co.uk/ 

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My Childhood Abuse with Ashlee Braxton – ExtraOrdinary People

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Ashlee Braxton was born into a family of fame and fortune as the niece of Toni Braxton, singer of hit 1990’s songs such as unbreak my heart. 

However, the circumstances in which she grew up are far from the all-American dream. 

Abandoned by her mother at a young age, Ashlee was excited to gain a step Mom to provide that female role modelling in the home. However, the family home soon became a place of childhood abuse and volatility. As soon as she could escape, she did. 

What followed was a long and lonely journey of discovery. It lead to a sense of strength and purpose that she brings into her daily life and you’re going to share the benefits of that with her by listening to this podcast.

Website: https://www.ashleebraxton.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXaa6BxVmIUiUCoM1AZlAWQ 

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-happy-choice/id1542767080 

IG: @Ashleebraxton

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My Attempted Murder with Jon Mclernon – ExtraOrdinary People

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Jon Mclernon did just wake up one day and decide to be a health coach. He was lead there by a series of significant events that involved attempted murder and addiction. 

In this podcast you’ll not only get fully engaged with John’s story, but you’ll also come to appreciate the aspects of his story that that set him up to shift and how, to this day, he still experiences challenges. 

Coach Jon  is a weight loss coach and emotional eating expert who has lost 100lbs.  From nanotechnology researcher, to Navy marine engineer, to globetrotting nomad, Coach Jon spent most of his life running from his true calling, until one question changed his life.  Now he’s on a mission to help others lose weight for good and leave BS diets in the rearview mirror.

With Freedom Nutrition Coaching he marries the Science of Metabolism with the Psychology of Behavior Change and the Compassion of Human Connection to create life-changing transformations with his clients.

Website: www.freedomnutritioncoach.com

YouTube: https://freedomnutrition.rocks/YouTube 

Crush Your Cravings ebook: https://freedomnutrition.rocks/CrushYourCravings

Wellness Unplugged Podcast: https://freedomnutrition.rocks/WellnessUnplugged

IG: @freedomnutritioncoach

Twitter: @noFNdiets

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/canadianomad/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/freedom-nutrition-coaching/ 

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Change & Resilience

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I’m very excited to tell you about the launch of my brand new series on the People Building Podcast;

‘ExtraOrdinary People’. 

Firstly, let me explain why I want to interview people who have had life-altering circumstances and study their psychology and success with you.

I’m also sharing my understanding of resilience and how it is formed. Some of these ideas might be controversial. You’ll have to let me know but make sure you do it in a feedback sandwich like a real NLP Practitioner!

If you think you’ll be a good fit for an interview then just reach out to [email protected]

Resilience chat starts at 33:10mins

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Secondary Gain

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Links from today’s show:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Primary_and_secondary_gain 

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/7591455_Secondary_gain_as_hidden_motive_for_getting_psychiatric_treatment 

https://www.unk.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-secondary-gains

Secondary gain is often unconscious and the patient is unaware that they are capitalising on the benefits of having a problem. If it is a benefit that the patient is aware of (and deliberately fabricating or creating in order to benefit) this is known as malingering. 

Secondary gain is very difficult (especially for those using NLP) to identify but if you have some strong suspicions here are some strategies to help deal with it. 

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Doing the Right Thing

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Are there any firm rules on how to do the right thing? Does it come down to considering the ecology of a situation and continuing to do right even if it feels wrong?

Perhaps deciding what is right comes from thinking forwards to explore the longer-term ramifications of a decision. But is there always a black and white solution to help you choose the right way forward.

Psychology would show us that the best indicator about how a person might act in the future is to look at their past behaviours. In considering what the right thing is for someone else, we can at least consider other similar scenarios and use those as a guide as to what the consequences may be.

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Stop Taking Things Personally Can be found here: https://youtu.be/zAwgUEXvaZo

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Do you struggle to stop yourself from taking things personally?

Here is the Ted Talk by Frederik Imbo: https://youtu.be/LnJwH_PZXnM

Sometimes it’s difficult to shake off the feeling that it’s about you – even when you logically know it’s not! Today we’re going to explore some strategies to help you when you’ve taken something to heart and need to move on. 

In addition, it’s worth exploring why something has affected you – maybe because at some level you know it is true. But maybe it’s not truly about you and in fact, about the other person. 

In order to maintain your worth you need to have high self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence etc. Developing a thick skin and being able to dust yourself off requires all those important ‘selfs’ to be in good condition 

Watch on Youtube here: https://youtu.be/zAwgUEXvaZo

 

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The 5 Factor Model & Hexaco

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