Permission To Desire: Relationships, Sex, Love, and Liberation

Is there a magic spell that you can say to have a thriving relationship? No, unfortunately not, but there are formulas that you can follow to ensure that you are set up for success.

This episode will help you answer the questions "Is my relationship healthy?" or "Is my partner a good fit for me?" or "Is our relationship on the right track?"

If you want to work on and improve your relationship to make sure you are setup for a lifetime of long-term success, I'm breaking down the 8 parts of a thriving relationship. You probably have a few in your relationship already, but do you have all 8? It's not uncommon to be missing one or two but that's ok, with just a little bit of attention and intention, your relationship can be full of both ease and excitement!

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

In this episode we're covering:

• How to spot when you're using "hints" to try to get what you want or make a change in your relationship
• The (understanable) reasons we use hints
• The hidden cost of hints
• and then, of course, what to do instead!

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

You cannot make your partner change. You can’t make him want to have sex more often. Or make him be more comfortable with non-monogamy. Or talk about his feelings more openly.

That’s a good thing, actually. It means you don’t have to wait for things to change because you do have control over yourself and how you show up in the relationship. 

In this casual conversation of an episode, I share with you what you CAN control and what you can do to make intimacy, honesty, vulnerability, and growth inevitable in your relationship. 

If you feel trapped because you want to fix your relationship but your partner doesn’t even think anything needs fixing… this is the episode for you.

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

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Are you in a long-term relationship and finding yourself longing for more intimacy? You're not alone! In this episode, I dive into the common struggles many couples face when it comes to their sex lives.

I share experiences from working with couples in my relationship coaching practice, shedding light on the challenges they've encountered and how to navigate through them. Whether you're the partner craving more connection or feeling uncertain about your desires, I've got practical advice for both of you.

This episode is for you if you've ever said or thought:

"I want sex more often than my partner does"

"My partner wants to have sex more than I do and I feel bad / weird / anxious / annoyed about it"

"We aren't having sex like we used to"

"I thought 'lesbian bed death' didn't happen to gay men?!"

"All the other gay couples I know are having way more sex than we are" (spoiler alert: they aren't!)

"Our sex life is great... but I'd still like more or something different"

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

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Tired of feeling frustrated with your partner? Craving more sex? An easier time being open? The ability to freely kiss friends and strangers on the dance floor?

If you've been "working on it" for awhile now, that doesn't mean you're stuck, it might mean you haven't tried the RIGHT things... which is a good thing, actually. It means the changes you want to see are yours for the taking, if you know what to talk about, what to try out, what to avoid, and where to put your energy to build a fuller, more exciting, more honest, more alive relationship and exotic.

The challenges you're facing in your open / open-ish / monogam-ish / kinda-sorta-open relationship... they are figure-out-able.

In this episode, I'm going to walk you through how. And then invite you to join me in Relationshift so you can get the support, simple actionable practices, and accountability to get you there faster and with less friction. Let's go!

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Maybe you're looking forward to a hook-up-filled gay getaway or hoping a vacation will finally reignite a stalled sex life.

If you're feeling feral and ready to mingle this summer, let's make sure the thing you're most looking forward to this summer doesn't turn into the thing that frustrates and disappoints you.

To get your open relationship summer ready, in this episode I’m going to share a new framework with you today and it’s called… SUMMER. It's six steps to make sure you make the most of your open relationship this summer AND that you're able to do it with comfort, confidence, and ease. No more waiting and hoping... let's make the fantasy a reality.

If you listened to this episode and you recognized yourself somewhere in it, you are not alone. This is exactly the work I do all day every day and exactly what we’ll tackle together inside Relationshift.

To make sure you're able to start your summer with a bang, if you sign-up by end of May—by May 31—I will make sure that you have your first private coaching call before your first summer trip or Pride weekend, even if that means having it before the group officially starts. Go to thisisbgm.com/group to grab your spot.

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

If you think you might want an open relationship—or to change how you structure your open relationship—you’re probably trying to figure out exactly when and how to talk to your partner about that. 

I get it. That was me 16 years ago. And I was terrified. But if I hadn’t gathered the courage to have that first conversation, none of the past 16 years would be possible. 

In this episode, I’m going to teach you how.

You’ll learn the 4 Ws and an H of asking to opening up: Why, When, Where, How, and What.

Yes, it’s a different order than the usual “5 Ws and an H” — you’ll see why in the episode ;)

If you’re considering opening up or navigating an open (or open-ish) relationship and you want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand your sex life, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life, then I want to invite you to enroll in Relationshift—we start June 15. 

This 9-week program is designed to fast track your desires—getting you talking easier, fighting less, fucking more, and overall having a fuller, more alive, more honest relationship and erotic life. You’ll have support every step of the way so that “someday” can become “today.” 

Registration is now open and spots are limited. Grab yours at thisisbgm.com/group

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

When John first brought up opening their relationship, Keller's response was fear. He didn't feel like enough. He didn't have a framework. And after 8 years together, the whole idea felt like it could unravel everything they'd built.

Four years later, he and John are married and navigating non-monogamy with more confidence and intention than Keller ever thought possible. In this conversation, you'll hear how he moved from insecurity to clarity, what tools he's still using today, and how he went from cautiously open to fully embracing polyamory.

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)

Y'all are thirsty—and I say that with full love and zero judgment.

I've gotten a lot of questions lately about whether it's OK to send sexy pics when you're getting to know someone, and honestly, my default answer is always "you do you, boo." But there's more to it than that, so in this episode I'm diving into the when, why, and how of Snapchat, sexting, and sending nudes—whether you're single, dating, or already coupled up.

In this episode:

• Why "who would buy the cow when the milk is free" is absolute BS—and what your sexuality actually is (and isn't)
• Questions to ask yourself before hitting send
• How to lead with the energy you're actually looking for (whether that's hot sex, a real connection, or both)
• A word of caution if you're in a relationship
• How to bring that off-the-charts erotic charge back with a long-term partner

Resources mentioned:

• Commitment Clarity Checklist (free download): thisisbgm.com/clarity
• Relationshift group coaching program, starting June 15: thisisbgm.com/group

Grab a time for a free next steps call to get a custom plan on what to focus on in your relationship & learn about coaching support options. Apply here.

Relationshift waitlist: https://thisisbgm.com/group/

Connect with Brian on Instagram: @ThisIsBGM (Feel free to DM with any questions you have!)