Have you ever noticed you date the same kind of person over and over again? This might not be your imagination or coincidence. It could be Attachment Theory at work, which says we each have a specific attachment style.

We connect to the people around us. We attach to parents, partners, kids, and friends.

Research has found we typically have an attachment style – we connect with people in the same pattern over and over again.

Our attachment style can be a scary predictor of our relationship success. Our patterns of attachment typically are set in childhood and tend to follow us around wherever we go.

How you learn about relationships drives your thoughts, emotions and decisions, creating what of people you attract in life!

 As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore the subject in more detail as confidence is a huge asset to have when we are dating. My guest today is John Kenny. 

John has worked with thousands of clients for well over a decade, firstly as a counsellor and since 2012 as a Coach. Since 2016 John has focused on relationships as they influence your life in so many ways. It was his unhealthy relationship with himself that led to him to having continuous painful and unhealthy relationships and self-sabotage!

As a counsellor he has learnt a lot about himself, but realised that he hadn’t moved on despite what he knew. He embarked on a new career into coaching once he realised how this can help to make positive changes.

The understanding he has gained on his journey, all the study that went alongside it and personal change has led him to be able to work with clients to understand themselves and others, live with confidence and experience the best relationships possible what you want has become his passion in life.

Most people think that confidence is innate, something you are born with. In fact the opposite is true. Confidence is born out of necessity, life experience and the realisation that without it you will not be heard. In other words it is a quality that we learn to develop over time as we discover how fundamental it is to success in all areas of our lives.

Take a minute to picture some scales with confidence on one side and fear on the other. When we put weight behind fear we act out of fear and we become stressed and rushed. We often end up making poor decisions approached from a position of lack, limitation and being closed off to potential.

When the scales are tipped towards confidence we are in our power, calm, open to choices, potential and learning and become a safe pair of hands that others turn to for leadership.

As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore the subject in more detail as confidence is a huge asset to have when we are dating. My guest today is Ellie Louis.  I connected with Ellie who had recently moved to North Devon. Ellie contacted us, after I was interviewed on Spotlight and said that Pi Society was just what people needed who had just relocated and wanted to build up a local social life whilst being single. We chatted and I found out about her story, which was incredibly inspiring and she told me what she does today which enthused me to ask Ellie to talk today.

Her mission and the purpose of her business is to take people out of their fear and into their confidence. She does this through leadership and public speaking courses that she tailors to the needs of the businesses that she works with.

The measurable results for her clients is in employee well-being, compassionate leadership and highly creative and productive teams no longer held back by communication drag.

Links through the podcast.

Chris Hadfield TED Talk

 Via Institute for personal strengths 

 Link to the exclusive Pi Society Confident Speakers Course

 Ellie is offering an exclusive Confident Speakers course for Pi Society members only at a huge discount from £1000 per person to £399. Full details 

Have you been called too direct, too pushy, too aggressive?

Getting called these things gets old. You work hard and you feel like it is not appreciated. It is time to be respected and loved for who you are. 

Strategic planning is your specialty, but it is failing miserably in the relationship game.

At work, you know how to line things up, how to strategically plan, but in relationships, this doesn’t seem to be working. Isn’t it time to learn a new way of manifesting love?

 Do you feel like something is missing in your life and you don't know what it is or what to do about it?

You are at the top of your game in your professional life, but there still is something missing and you can’t pinpoint it. Are you ready to get the most out of life, both at work and in your relationships?

 Are you living to work instead of working to live?

It’s time to live life to the fullest. Manifest your full potential through a new way of looking at life, listening, and learning. 

My guest today is the most amazing, Mariquita Solis –

Mariquita Solis is a Joyful Relationship Coach who specializes in Feminine Empowerment to transform the lives of her clients. Mariquita spent many years in self sabotaging relationships that were detrimental to her health and self esteem.  Her mantra, “What is wrong with me?” has been replaced with “What is right with me?”  She spent more than 40 years in battle with herself working to silence her inner voice and power.

Going from failed relationship to failed relationship, she wore her battle scars like badges of honor and let them inhibit love in the next relationship.  She fell into patterns of living her life for others and putting her needs last. It was not until she acknowledged the cries of her inner child that her life changed.

Mariquita has always known that helping others is the gift the Universe bestowed on her. Her life is guided by her divine, power center as she lives in alignment with her calling. 

Today, she uses her deep wisdom combined with her training in Feminine Empowerment Transformational Coaching and Greaterness Coaching to transform the lives of her clients.

If you’re in need of some advice please do visit Mariquita Solis’s website where you can find details:

I would like to offer your listeners a Free "Bring Back the Joy Session" to gain clarity on what needs to shift in their life to get the love and relationship that they deserve.

 Mariquita Solis – Joyful Relationship Coach Specializing in Feminine Empowerment

How Mindfulness can help you find a Healthy Love that Lasts

Are you sick of getting stuck in the same old dysfunctional relationship patterns? 

 When you look back over your past relationships do you see patterns? Whether it’s being drawn to bad boys, ending up with narcissists or falling for someone who needs looking after, it’s not unusual for us to end up in the same kind of toxic relationships again and again. So how do you break the pattern?

 Many couples push relationship distresses under the rug without resolution and find much later that they are unable to recover from these festering sorrows. Identifying and exploring these typical relationship damagers might have helped. Had the partners recognized them as they were occurring, they might have had a different perspective and learned some new ways to cope before it was too late. By understanding what their dysfunctional patterns are, couples can strive to overcome them.

My guest today is the most amazing, Lauren Smith

Lauren is a full-time designer and author based in New Jersey. An example of a typical millennial dater, she has spent years researching and growing through bad breakups to blaze a Mindful Dating path for other self-aware daters.

Mindful Online Dating Tips

• Be authentic in your descriptions: Be clear about what you want and don’t want early on, and avoid lying or embellishing.
• Take recent photos, skip the filters. You were born beautiful!
• Don’t message for too long before meeting, otherwise you risk developing an ideal or fantasy image of the person.
• Save yourself time by calling them on the phone (or video chat) at least once before the physical date. This will rule out any obvious incompatibilities as early as possible.
• Be clear about your expectations before and after the date, as far as how far you're willing to drive, any budget limitations, or any sexual boundaries.
• Dating more than one person at a time can prevent you from getting too attached to someone before properly vetting them.
• Be respectful when breaking it off with someone. And definitely don't ghost!

If you would like to find our more about Lauren and how to access her journal, please do visit:  https://mindfuldatingjournal.com/ 

Do you feel like you are stuck?

You feel confident in your career. It’s not always been easy, but you’ve got the creativity, leadership, determination and discipline to make it happen.

When it comes to relationships you still struggle.

Perhaps you’ve been single for way too long. You start and stop relationships that never last that long or feel that good. Or you find yourself repeating the same negative patterns over and over again in the relationship that you are in. 

And you’re tired of occasional, empty sex that leaves you feeling even more empty and alone than before. 

You know you want a true partner. Someone that loves and accepts you for exactly who you are. You feel safe in their arms. And who also challenges you – to be more of yourself. To have adventures. Someone there for the long-run.

Andrea is a certified Sex, Love and Relationships Coach. Before becoming a coach, she worked as an innovator, global award-winning digital strategist and designer in the corporate world. 

Learn what the next right step for you is to get the love you want, connect with Andrea at  https://www.lushcoaching.com/ 

No matter the challenges of your life whether you are dealing with anxiety, poor sleep, stress, weight control, depression or any other problems, your reality is only just one thought away from becoming different.

A lifestyle of health, happiness and fulfilment doesn’t only have to be a dream: you can reclaim your inner harmony and become your most contented, hopeful and de-stressed faster than you think.

Permanent changes works when we work from the inside out approach.

As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore this subject more in a podcast. My guest today is Paula Fenegan, she is a Wellbeing / Nutrition Coach & Reflexologist based in Honiton, East Devon  and she love all things holistic.  She is passionate about natural health solutions. She believes working with the body is the best way to maintain health.  The body has an innate sense of healing and it will  always try to heal itself, given enough time and the right raw ingredients. Health is not only about the food we eat but also our reactions to the different stresses in our everyday lives.

Whether you’re dating, in a relationship or enjoying the single life, lacking body confidence can seriously impact your self-worth, decisions and how you live your life. Love and dating are the areas of your life that can take the biggest hit from having zero body confidence. If Instagram posts of people showing off their rolls and stretch marks aren’t helping you learn to accept your body, there are a few simple hacks that could change your mindset

My guest today is the most amazing, Cathy Houghton –

Cathy Houghton is the founder of Blossom Health Coaching, based in Newton Abbot. 

She is passionate about helping clients find their inner peace and balance around food, eating, their bodies and themselves.  Cathy is a Health & Food Coach, a Disordered Eating & Weight Loss Practitioner.   She supports women, particularly those in mid-life, on improving their relationship with eating, and boosting their wellbeing. 

If you’re in need of some advice please do visit Cathy’s website where you can find details on her flexible coaching packages for wellbeing, disordered eating, weight loss, and the menopause. Cathy offers a free 30 minute conversation to anyone interested in finding out more.  She also has a monthly newsletter giving tips, advice, and special offers, that people can sign up to from her homepage. 

Her online coaching provides a confidential safe space for women to be heard, learn, grow, and change. 

https://www.blossomhealthcoaching.co.uk/     

[email protected]    

https://www.facebook.com/blossomhealthcoaching 

www.linkedin.com/in/cathy-houghton-blossomhealthcoaching 

Survivors living with or healing from a form of abuse should think about self-care as a vital step in their healing process. Having lived through the trauma of an abusive partner, you probably rarely got to feel cared for or made a priority. You most likely put your own needs on the back burner to take care of the things your abuser demanded of you. You may have been made to feel like doing things you enjoyed was selfish.

 It’s time to change that mindset. As psychotherapist Michael J. Formica said, “The simple fact is that when we do speak our needs … we become more substantial. We define ourselves more clearly and assert our presence. In asserting our presence, we become more present.”

 Healthy relationships include time for yourself and your own interests, but even alone time can be limited by work, school, or other areas in your life. Self-care means using the time that you have to take the best care of yourself possible, whatever that looks like. Have fun and relax in a way that lets you feel free and happy.

 My guest today is Jeannette Brown. Jeanette runs the amazing Community Interest company More Positive Me who works with people who have been impacted by domestic abuse. Their goal is to make sure that anyone impacted by domestic abuse finds the strength and skills within them to lead fulfilled and happy lives.

If you’re in need of some advice and would like to know more about Jeanette’s work, visit morepositiveme.com where you can find out more about their courses. 

Coming Together - Bringing harmony to the masculine and feminine

It’s no secret that men and women are different, but beyond the obvious physical disparities, many of us don’t realise just how much deeper our differences go. Especially when it comes to relationships.

Men and women are wired differently — on a cognitive, emotional, hormonal and cellular level. Even though most men have been on a different path than women all along, for some reason we somehow expect those paths to converge when we enter a romantic relationship. For many of us, we naturally assume that while our counterparts might look different, they should think, feel, behave and act like us.

 It’s a dangerous way of thinking that causes plenty of frustration, resentment, disappointment and even heartache when we try to, well, relate.

 Despite our vast differences, men and women can complement each other in extraordinary ways — as long as we try to understand and embrace these beautiful contradictions, complexities and differences.

 My guest today is the most amazing, Lucy Faith 

 Lucy is a Soulful Coach where she uses her intuition to guide people back home to their true selves. She created Mumazing, a place for Mums to come and be seen, heard, navigate, heal and grow through life’s challenges and stresses. Lucy has helped lots of Mums to feel more empowered and build better relationships with themselves and others. She shows people how they can feel safe/secure to live their truth, be their truth and speak their truth. Lucy has now evolved her work even more from Mumazing into coaching for conscious relationships where she uses her intuition, experience and guidance to help others to have a great relationship with themselves, so they can attract joy, love and happiness into their lives, being who they really want to be and have. Her passion is healing the family wounding and breaking unhealthy patterns to come to a place of unconditional love and stop the pain for the next generations. Lucy has been on her own intimate journey with herself so she doesn’t only know the theory from being fascinated by this topic but she has travelled deep within herself so she can come back to love, heal and create happier healthier relationships in her life with herself and others. She has created and written  poetry from her healing and discoveries which she also wants to share with others to speak the unspoken words of their own hearts…..Lucy has a 12 year old Daughter and has won awards for her work.

Website is lucyfaith.me

Facebook lucyfaith and mumazing 

Instagram lucyfaithsoulful

 Mumazing Circles 

One to One Coaching - soul retrieval work and reclaiming parts of you, you lost to the outside so you can connect with yourself to attract love into your life. 

There is a little three letter word that when uttered, even simply implied, causes many of us to cringe and shudder, let alone talk about sexual performance and sexual desires.

It’s Sex.

Sex is becoming more and more talked about, but is still a taboo subject as it is so personal. Many men and women grow up not understanding their own bodies or what it means to have a healthy sexual relationship. When it comes time to marry and become physically intimate, these men and women are navigating a completely foreign world, leading to copious amount of intimacy problems that left untreated can last for years and even entire marriages.

As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore this subject more in a podcast. My guest today is David Chambers, The Authentic Man, is on a mission to empower men to create the exciting and profoundly connected dating lives, sex lives and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves.

As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David has a deep understanding of tantric practices, the feminine mind and erotic pleasure. He now teaches men to tap into their sexual desires and masculine energy to become potent lovers.

About David Chambers - Dating And Intimacy Coach For Men

Through The Authentic Man, David Chambers is on a mission to empower men to create the exciting and deeply connected dating lives, sex lives, and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves.

As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David guides men to create authentic attraction, build deep emotional connections, embody healthy masculinity, and experience connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and self-leadership.

David is known for leaving men confident, free of overthinking, assertive, emotionally connected, and sexually confident.

In David’s coaching he uses a combination of intense self-mastery, tantric sex, confidence building, mindful practices, and masculinity practices to transform men into the authentic masculine men there have always wanted to be, giving them a non-judgmental, open, and honest space to be free, open up and be truly vulnerable.

The Authentic Man