How do I move on after divorce?

The end of a relationship is always a difficult time. No matter who ended it or when, the future can look bleak and frightening. But life does continue and many thousands of people go on to have happy and fulfilling lives after divorce.

There are many things you'll need to focus on during this difficult time and at times it may feel overwhelming. But as well as that, you need to focus on yourself as an individual, deciding what you need to do to help you let go of the past and look forward to the future

Like most people, you're likely to experience a rollercoaster of emotions. Some days you may feel hopeful and maybe even relieved if your marriage had been difficult for a long time. On other days you may feel sad, angry, confused and anxious.

My guest today is the most amazing, Julia Sacco

Julia helps individuals from a range of backgrounds achieve the results that are best for them and their families. She makes sure that each client feels that they have a person to talk to about any issues that they are facing and to work out a solution together.

Julia qualified as a solicitor at Wendy Hopkins Family Law Practice in Cardiff. She has also worked as a solicitor in Personal injury Litigation and Family Law at the Co-operative Legal Services. She chose to specialise in Family Law because she felt that this was the area of law that she found the most rewarding.

She enjoys talking to clients and developing her relationships with them and hearing their news. She also enjoys learning about different family dynamics and working through what is best for client’s individual circumstances.

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How to sustain healthy sexual relationships

Relationships are an important part of a healthy life. Research has consistently shown that social connections are critical for both mental and physical health. People who have healthy relationships have better health outcomes, are more likely to engage in healthy behaviours, and have a decreased risk of mortality.

Sexuality is the way we experience and express ourselves sexually. It involves feelings, desires, actions, and identity, and can include many different types of physical touch or stimulation. Intimacy is a feeling of closeness and connectedness in a relationship that can occur with or without a physical component.

Ageing brings life transitions that can create opportunities for older adults to redefine what sexuality and intimacy mean to them. Some older adults strive for both a sexual and intimate relationship, some are content with one without the other, and still others may choose to avoid these types of connections.

I would like to introduce my guest today, PJ, a mutual friend recommended I chat with PJ and after a great meeting over a scrummy frapaccino!  PJ runs an organisation called rePHRASE®: Providing Healthy Relationships And Sex Education.  She established this venture following a long-held passion and belief that every young person deserves access to good quality relationships and sex education. Since the age of 14, she has been interested in working in the field of RSE and attained a Psychology degree with the idea of specialising in the area of sexual therapy.

Website: www.rephrasesw.co.uk

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How self care can improve your chances to date

Every cell in our body is innate intelligent with a built-in system that repairs and heals our body. 

The environment we live in, the food we eat and, most of all, our mindset influences how our organism can function in perfect synergy. We look for our answers to our health and well-being externally.  We go on one diet after the other and can not wait until it is all over and we can eat the food we were eating before, pilling on more weight than we started with.

When we have the education of how to best support, this amazing body we live in and we most of all understand ourselves and our relationship to food and eating, we open the possibility to invite healthier choices into our lives. 

 Please welcome today’s guest, Paola. Paola lives in the beautiful town of Budleigh Salterton in Devon, UK. She has over 30 years of medical and psychological experience working as a Physiotherapist, studied energy psychology, the scientific approach to nutrition and trained as a teacher for EFT (Emotional Freedom technique), before she started an extensive training in the Three Principles as a paradigm, which is a pre-existing logic that describes and points to how our moment-to-moment experience of life is created. 

She has been a facilitator for 7 years and brings a wealth of experience to her work with clients. 

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Albert Einstein once said that explaining what we feel towards that special person strictly in terms of the chemistry of love, is to take away all its magic.

But, whether we like it or not, there are actually processes like attraction or obsessive passion where neurochemistry is important.

 It delineates a territory that’s quite fascinating and complex. And it also defines part of who we are. Love, from a romantic or philosophical point of view, is something poets and writers talk about every day. We’d all love to sink ourselves into those literary worlds where they romanticize this kind of feeling.

Carla Crivaro is a certified and trauma-informed Sex, Love & Relationship Coach. She works 1-1 with men and women to uncover unhealthy dating patterns and support them in embodying a new narrative so they can find the partner that lights them up.

For more information see:

https://www.carlacrivaro.com/dating-for-success

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How to date the second time around

Losing a spouse or breaking up from a long term relationship is one of the most devastating events someone can experience in their life. It may be overwhelming to think about dating when you're feeling lost, confused, and potentially lonely. You should know that all of those feelings are completely normal. And there's no perfect amount of time to wait before looking for love again. When you're ready, falling in love can add beauty, warmth and joy to your life—but it won't replace the love you'll always carry for your spouse.

When I first chatted to my next guest, I was completely bowled over by her positive energy. Her zest and her incredible inner strength. My guest today is the most amazing, Michelle Hoffman. 

Michelle Hoffmann helps people uplevel their relationships to attract, keep and enjoy the right people in their personal and professional life.

Michelle Hoffmann is a Master Life and Relationship Coach helping people improve their relationship skills to live their lives the way they’ve always desired. Michelle is a two-time international best-selling author on love, personal, and professional relationships. Whether it is the relationship with their inner voice, intimate partner, family, community, career, colleagues or customers, her clients know how to attract, keep and enjoy the right relationships in their lives.

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I’m sure you’ve heard this saying before: communication is the key to any relationship. It sounds cliché but it’s true. I think it’s really easy to tell people that communication is important in a healthy relationship but it’s not as easy to explain how to communicate. And if we’re never taught how to use this key, then we’ll never be able to open the door to healthy communication.

Communication is defined as a lot of things but my favourite definition includes, “the successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings”. I always say I’m a great talker, but I have to also be an equally great listener in order to be a great communicator. Communication is about expressing yourself in a healthy way, listening to your partner when they are doing the same, and really hearing and absorbing what the other person has to say.

Communication is not just about talking about each other’s days and saying what you had to eat for lunch.  It’s about being able to dig deep and get to know this person as well as you can. It’s not always easy to dig deep, especially for those who have never been comfortable talking about their feelings. And it’s not necessary to make every conversation a heart to heart.

 My guest today is the most amazing, Diana Indries.

 Diana is very passionate about helping couples improve their communication by playing a game called Better Topics. Better Topics is a card game for couples that she has invented together with her husband.  They created this game to help couples have deeper conversations and also still have a lot of fun.

To find out more about Better Topics,  please do visit:

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Do you feel fearful thinking has taken over, filled our mind with crazy stories and caused us to completely shut down on a person who hadn’t even done anything wrong!

And this really got me thinking about how we can learn to trust our thoughts and avoid procrastination.

We must be aware and take responsibility for what we are bringing to the relationship. What of our own insecurities or baggage from the past are we projecting on to that person?  If there is a genuine need to speak your truth to your partner about areas where you feel they are not being honest, then do so. But make sure you catch yourself when you are making up imaginary stories in your head about all of the ways you think they are deceiving you!

Trust has been a huge issue for so many people over the years and it can turn people into becoming needy, insecure and sometimes controlling.  

When this feeling of lack of trust arises within us, we very often go straight to our mind to find a story to justify why we feel this way. We think it is because of something someone else is doing. “It is because he lies… Or because I was cheated on in the past… 

But as long as you keep using that as an excuse you will never move beyond this pattern.

And the more you hold an energy within you of fear and worry then the more likely you will be attract experiences that make you feel that way even more! 

My guest today is the most amazing, Catherine Harman.

Catherine struggled with anxiety, depression, disordered eating and suicidal thoughts for most of her adult life. She was insecure, jealous, upset, hurt, offended or resentful much of the time; it was hell…and affected her whole life, not least, her marriage.

She tried everything…counselling, therapy and numbing with alcohol…nothing worked and she knew she had to do something before she lost everything…including her husband.

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What makes a man or woman tick?  These are the types of question, I am constantly asked. 

 What are men like? They aren’t all the same, are they? Well, no, of course not. But there are certain traits you will find more easily in a man than in a woman. A man thinks differently, he plans differently, and he consists of different impulses from a body which triggers distinct processes in the man’s mind. The male brain and the male body have their influences on specific patterns and behaviours. 

Men, are you puzzled with the complicated patterns of a woman’s mind? 

Do you wonder what you did wrong, how they think, or what turns them on? Women have a unique way of thinking. Their brains and hormones are wired differently. Sometimes, men get confused when an unpredicted emotion appears or his partner’s logic deviates from his own. In this book, you will discover more of the secrets and mysteries of what a woman truly wants, and what causes her to behave a certain way. Of course every woman is different and special in her own kind of way, but learning to recognize certain patterns can help you understand her more and aid your relationship in a wonderful way. 

 My guests today are Matt and Rebeca who formed, Aligned with Love, which is a highly respected relationship transformation service that has been serving clients for many years to reach CLARITY on their relationship situation, and to put in place proven strategies to create a better future – in relationships and in life.

 Matt & Rebecca are relationship experts committed to guiding couples and individuals through their journey to have the loving, passionate relationship of their dreams!

Matt & Rebecca are Certified Coaches, Clinician Hypnotherapists, Master NLP Practitioners, Cognitive Behavioural Therapists, Emotional Freedom Therapists, Psychotherapists and EMDR practitioners. Basically, they’ve got all the tools and do what it takes to get you the result! Inspired action is all you need. It’s actually the only thing that works.

If you would like to know more about Matt and Rebecca, please do visit their website for further details:

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Anxiety and Dating, why are we so anxious around dating?  When we find ourselves in a position in our lives and we are dating again, putting ourselves out there. Why is it a feeling of dread? Why is it not something that we can look forward to? It's not like we haven't done it before (before our marriages or long-term relationship). Dating is natural, otherwise we wouldn't have found ourselves in a long-term relationship.  So why do we get ourselves into such a state, to the point of Anxiety.  What are we telling ourselves about dating and how can we change this?

 If we have suffered bad experiences in our history we can bring these scars into new relationship, but how constructive is this? If our aim is to move forward, how will bringing in old scars achieve a healthy relationship going forward?  We all have wounds from our past, but they don't have to define our future. Its working out how to leave these in our past and work towards a healthy, happy future with someone new. This is possible, we just have to establish how to let go of the past. Release the thoughts that are creating the Anxiety, let go and be happy!

 This affects so many people and therefore I wanted to share with you the wonderful knowledge of Donna Reynolds. Having gone through Divorce herself  and started to re-discover herself. She became that girl again, the girl who wants to help others. 

 Going through the stress of Divorce and experiencing Anxiety and Panic Attacks, she felt she really wanted to help other people who are having a similar experience or are suffering from Anxiety for their own reasons. She lives by the mantra “when we change the way we look at things the things we look at change” by Dr Wayne Dyer.

To find out more about Donna Reynolds, please visit:

https://donnareynolds.co.uk/

How To Embrace Vulnerability As Your Greatest Strength

“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage,” affirms research professor and author Brené Brown in Rising Strong.” Brené Brown is a researcher, author and storyteller who’s spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy.

What do you associate with the term vulnerability?

Perhaps it’s weakness, fear, hurt or betrayal.

These are the deep-seated emotions people experience when they reveal aspects of themselves to others. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness and can be your greatest strength.

Vulnerability is a double-edged sword. Those who protect themselves to avoid getting hurt, fail to appreciate intimacy and close relationships.

Everyone is vulnerable, no matter how much they try to avoid it. We are born vulnerable and stay that way for our entire childhood. Our relationship with vulnerability is something we are acquainted with, yet abandon as we merge into adulthood.

Your association with vulnerability requires a shift in awareness in order to strengthen your emotional well-being.

As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore the subject in more detail as vulnerability is a huge subject when it comes to dating. My guest today is Dr Vikki Barnes. 

Dr Vikki Barnes is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist and international speaker, specialising in Positive Psychology and Happiness. She is the founder of Positive Wellbeing, a business that supports the mental health of individuals and organisations, enabling them to flourish. 

 For over 10 years, Vikki has worked in the NHS and Virgin, in both clinical and strategic roles, offering assessment, therapeutic intervention, consultation and evaluation, and embedding positive psychology into the ethos of organisational structure. She designed and led a national wellbeing programme, training a team of wellbeing ambassadors to ensure long lasting impact, with outstanding results. 

 Vikki’s particular passions include authenticity, wellbeing of people and wellbeing of the planet and she has written a book about these topics entitled Free Happiness!

To find out more about Vikki, please do visit:
Positive Wellbeing (drvikkibarnes.com)

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Free Happiness: The art and science of positivity: Amazon.co.uk: Barnes, Dr Vikki: 9798526546591: Books