Picayune Conversations

Picayune Conversations

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  • The Problem With Spoiling Kids Isn't (Primarily) Overindulgence

    Many people think spoiling kids is all about giving them too much—but the real issue runs deeper. In this video, we explore how spoiling is less about overindulgence and more about a subtle, discouraging message: a vote of no confidence in a child's abilities. When we step in too much, solve every problem, or shield kids from struggle, we unintentionally send the message that they aren’t capable. Let’s rethink what it really means to ‘spoil’ a child—and how to foster true confidence instead.

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    19 min
  • Thanksgiving Special: Truman & Ruby

    On this special holiday episode, Calvin interviews 9-year-old Truman and 7-year-old Ruby, who share their thoughts on gratitude, what adults get wrong, and how they are growing and improving in life.

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    13 min
  • What Is Addiction?

    In this episode, Calvin & Lindsay discuss ways of understanding and conceptualizing addiction, with the help of friend/colleague Jim Holder. Addiction is discussed in terms of its purpose in helping people to solve problems (however maladaptive the solution may be!).

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    22 min
  • Emotions: The High-Stakes Nature of Shame

    What is the true meaning of shame? What is it's root cause? Why does shame feel so terrible? In this continuation of a series on emotions, Calvin & Lindsay discuss the adaptive value of shame, while also emphasizing basic mistakes that lead to unnecessary shame and maladaptive uses of the emotion.

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    26 min
  • Pearls and Pigs: The Importance of Stewarding the Precious Things Well

    In this episode, Calvin explores a verse from the New Testament that warns against "casting pearls before swine." While not a theological exploration, the need for wise, watchful engagement with other people is a fundamentally necessary part of having positive relationships and avoiding unnecessary disappointment and pain.

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    23 min
  • Emotions: How to Understand, Accept, and Manage Anxiety

    What is the definition of anxiety?

    How do you come out of anxiety?

    What is anxiety good for?

    In this episode, Calvin and Lindsay continue their series on emotions, based primarily on the work of Dr. Paul Rasmussen. This episode focuses on anxiety as the "vigilance emotion," which (though uncomfortable, and potentially problematic) helps human beings to manage many problems of life.

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    23 min
  • Emotions: The Unique Power of Sadness

    How do you explain sadness?

    What is sadness trying to tell you?

    What is the difference between sadness, grief, and depression?

    In this episode, Calvin and Lindsay discuss the emotion of sadness, its purpose, and how powerful it can be in helping people to flourish.

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    23 min
  • What About Gentle Parenting? (feat. Alyson Schafer)

    Calvin and Lindsay interview Alyson Schafer about the virtues and potential missteps of Gentle Parenting, a growing trend among young parents in the United States and Canada. This longer-than-usual episode covers a broad range of topics, including:

    What is the gentle parenting approach?

    What is the argument for gentle parenting?

    What are the downsides of gentle parenting?

    How does "Parenting the Adlerian Way" compare to gentle parenting?

    Alyson Schafer is a counselor, parenting expert, author, and public figure based in Canada. Find more information about Alyson at https://alysonschafer.com/

    Find Alyson's wonderful books here: https://alysonschafer.com/books/

    Want to learn more? Listen to Alyson's podcast "Parenting the Adlerian Way," which was just rated as the #1 Parenting Podcast in Canada!

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    53 min
  • Emotions: What Is Guilt Good For (and Not)?

    What is guilt? What is the true meaning of guilt? What is the root of guilt? Lindsay & Calvin discuss the purpose of the guilt emotion, how it can be helpful, and how it can hurt us.

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    16 min

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Lindsay Hill and Calvin Armerding- co-founders of Travelers Rest Counseling Associates in Travelers Rest, South Carolina- discuss business, culture, and humankind. Topics include parenting,…