Picayune Conversations

Picayune Conversations

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Picayune Conversations episodes

  • What Do Counselors Do When They See A Client in Public?

    Lindsay and Calvin discuss the (somewhat) awkward situation of seeing clients in public. For many counselors, this can be a nerve-wracking experience, filled with catastrophic fears of losing their license. This conversation should put some of these fears to rest, and also remind us all of the central importance of mutual respect and an ongoing informed consent process.

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    17 min
  • Am I Determined by my Past, or Pulled by My Future?

    "I had a terrible childhood...am I screwed?" Lots of psychotherapies are quietly deterministic in how they understand the relationship between the past and the present. "X event happened, so therefore I am this way." While of course the past is important in shaping who we are, a telelogical, goal-oriented, future-focused way of understanding human behavior can be more encouraging, empowering, and hopeful.

    If you have any questions about this episode, let us know: https://forms.gle/SBzwCQEbnicNEzW39

    18 min
  • Feelings Are Not Demands

    People (us too!) often act as if "I feel ________, and therefore you/I must _________." We say things like "I yelled because I was angry," or "I am upset when you offer criticism, so you must not criticize me." This is problematic, because it assumes that feelings are demands. Feelings are not demands, they are just feelings!

    This episode will address:

    How do you feel your feelings without letting them control your behavior?

    What is the difference between responsiveness and accommodation in a relationship?

    How do we take responsibility for our actions, rather than blaming those actions on our feelings?

    If you have any questions about this episode, let us know: https://forms.gle/SBzwCQEbnicNEzW39

    18 min
  • Don't Make Things Worse: Klutzes & Serial Killers

    A good rule for mental health is "Don't make things worse!" One way in which we do this is by making uncharitable assumptions of malice about those who hurt us. This conversation explores a (goofy) metaphor that shows us how these assumptions unnecessarily worsen our experience of life, making us more frightened and isolated from others.

    Ask us anything, make suggestions, or just let us know you're listening/watching!

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    17 min
  • Season 2 Preview

    Get excited! Picayune Conversations is back for another season of chats about humankind, business, and culture. This preview will give you a quick look ahead so you know what will be the same, what will be different, and what (specifically) to expect.

    Thanks for listening! Ask us anything, make suggestions, or just let us know you're listening/watching!

    Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

    5 min
  • Your First Thought May Be Reflex, But You Can Choose What Comes Next
    To wrap up Season 1 of Picayune Conversations, Lindsay and Calvin discuss the idea of "first thought, second thought," noting that even though some patterns of thinking may be reflexive/automatic, we do maintain the choice of whether to reorient and give an alternate meaning to a scenario or experience. This powerful realization is applied specifically to self-compassion and self-respect, but can be generalized to other issues as well. The importance of avoiding toxic positivity or self-gaslighting is also discussed. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6
    19 min
  • The Danger of Pet Theories
    It's tempting, especially for intuitive individuals, to avoid making (and maintaining) "pet theories" about others. This discussion explores the importance of humility and hypotheses for those who rely- however reliably- on their intuitions for understanding human behavior. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6
    15 min
  • Make Relationships with People Outside Your Generation
    Can people from different generations be friends? What are the benefits of intergenerational friendship? Calvin & Lindsay share some thoughts (and experiences!) about forging and maintaining relationships beyond the lines of generational subgroups. Specifically, they discuss the importance of giving younger generations the chance to be teachers, and encouraging older generations in awareness of their significance through story-telling. Contact us: https://forms.gle/vj5vpz1gpG6rGsz87
    19 min
  • Theoretical vs. Technical Eclecticism

    Counselors and therapists often describe themselves as "eclectic" in their approach to helping clients. But not all eclecticism is the same! This short conversation explores the difference between borrowing a broad range of tactics/skills/techniques and borrowing from sets of (sometimes) conflicting ideas about how people function and change. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

    14 min
  • Stop Focusing on Client Care
    Calvin and Lindsay discuss their approach to running a private practice, including avoiding the traps of hyper-focus on client care, seeing employees as mere revenue generators, treating 1099 employees like W2 employees, and underpaying folks you work with.Contact us: https://forms.gle/QedHEjtHmgUFwFuQA
    19 min

About Picayune Conversations

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Lindsay Hill and Calvin Armerding- co-founders of Travelers Rest Counseling Associates in Travelers Rest, South Carolina- discuss business, culture, and humankind. Topics include parenting,…