Pinoy Love Language

By Roanne de Guia-Samuels, LMFT

Roanne is a licensed Psychotherapist mom and an immigrant twice in America. She has frequented 500 Filipino homes and is the author of the book: 5 Pinoy Love Languages. Episodes include a deep dive in... more

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How many episodes does Pinoy Love Language have?

The podcast currently has 56 episodes available.

Pinoy Love Language episodes:

August 12, 2021#10 PLL: TAMPO
Have you experienced mom upset but not quite angry and when you try to speak to her she claims she’s fine. You give her more distance because you think that’s what she needs and her upset feeling becomes lethal….
In this episode, let’s explore-
The PLL of Tampo. What is it?

Why someone uses this PLL and their secret longing

Tips on how to read TAMPO and recommendations on how to respond to it a culturally-responsive manner.

Self-regulation vs co-regulation. How Filipinos in the Philippines and in America differ in their affection-seeking strategies

...and more
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
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14min
August 05, 2021#9 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGES: WHY WE SPEAK IN CODES
Why can’t you just say what you mean? Many times, socio-political, geography and many other variables that influence culture including history of colonization influence cultural norms and behavior.
In this episode, let’s explore-
How/Why history shapes our language

Why the cultural context of how we use language in the Philippines and in America/diaspora differ and matters

How culture and the environment can shape our parenting strategies

Adaptive versus Toxic shaming in parenting

How Filipinos express and seek love uniquely
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
...more
22min
July 27, 2021#8 WALA KANG UTANG NA LOOB!
You might ask when does utang na loob OR debt of gratitude ever gets repaid. Many children of immigrants feel the burden to not just pay but to overpay I debt they are grateful for but never asked for.
In this episode, let’s explore-
The concept of utang versus utang na loob

What is utang na loob and why its a more salient concept in diaspora

The expectation to Re-Pay and how it’s loss in translation

What happens to immigrants when they immigrate leaving their emotional resources behind

What our elders really need and mean regarding the concept of utang na loob
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
...more
28min
June 05, 2021#7 SCARCE COMMODITY: CULTURAL WHISPERERS
What is a tagapamagitan and why are their roles scarce in the diaspora?
In this episode, explore-
The role of cultural mediators in the everyday life of a Filipino

How the breakage in communication between immigrant Filipinos and their offspring can be harmed or bridge by a tagapamagitan

The different roles of a tagapamagitan

Learn ways to demystify Filipino cultural nuances
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
...more
14min
May 29, 2021#7 SCARCE COMMODITY:CULTURAL WHISPERERS
What is a tagapamagitan and why are their roles scarce in the diaspora?
In this episode, explore-
The role of cultural mediators in the everyday life of a Filipino

How the breakage in communication between immigrant Filipinos and their offspring can be harmed or bridge by a tagapamagitan

The different roles of a tagapamagitan

Learn ways to demystify Filipino cultural nuances
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
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15min
May 29, 2021#6 PAKIRAMDAM: THE MOST MISUNDERSTOOD FILIPINO CORE VALUE
Filipinos are known to have “mataas na pakikisalamuha,” which means the depth of relationality with others goes skin deep. Children in the motherland are taught to heighten their cultural sensing of the other beyond words.
Pakiramdam, the sensing of the other beyond words through reading non-verbal cues, sensing and feeling create polarized understanding of each other in America/diaspora. In general, American culture emphasizes direct, linear communication while Filipino culture weighs heavy on the skill of pagtitimbang (weighing things out, gauging all variables before the interaction, during and after it).
In this episode, explore-
Why Pakiramdam is the most complex & misunderstood Filipino Core Value

Why it causes conflict in Filipino homes

Why do we use pakiramdam (an, verb) as a strategy to affection-seek?

How we communicate differently in the motherland vs. in American soil.

What is the Pinoy Love Language called Tampo?
In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Pakiramdam more in depth and the unique ways Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here.
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
...more
20min
May 29, 2021#5 FILIPINO VERSUS AMERICAN WAY OF COMMUNICATION
Despite the fact that most Filipinos are bilingual, our ways of expression from the American language of expression differ in many ways. In this regard, Filipino immigrants and their children may experience cultural gaps and miscommunication in their relationships.
Some of these miscommunication can even result to negative imprints leading to feelings of not being good enough or unloved. To slowly change this trajectory is to inform yourself and find clarification on what is actually being said than simply interpreting what’s said.
In this episode, let’s explore:
Linear versus circular communication

How we teach children in a socio-cultural setting to use language

Low context vs high context and why Filipinos value “sensing the other”

How affection, standards and modes of expression can vary culturally
In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Collective Co-regulation, the unique way Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here.
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR FUTURE PODCAST TOPICS? LEAVE ME A MESSAGE AT [email protected] with the subject line PODCAST IDEA.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The blog post on 3 Differences: American vs Filipino Ways of COmmunication
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
...more
16min
May 29, 2021#4 FILIPINO MONEY MIND-SET BLOCKS
What cultural stories have been keeping your from living an abundant life? From your riches? Money is simply a manifestation of your abundant mind-set but does not end there. What stories have you heard growing up about money? About the rich? Or the poor?
In this episode, explore:
How soap operas can shape your money mind-set

How the concept of Togetherness or walang Iwanan can keep you from manifesting abundance

Sibling rivalry and how it can cost competitiveness from a scarcity lens

More Money More Problems?

The concept of being grateful and how to be truly grateful to those who came before you.
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR FUTURE PODCAST TOPICS? LEAVE ME A MESSAGE AT [email protected] with the subject line PODCAST IDEA.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The blog post on PInoy Money Mind-set Blocks Keeping You from Your Riches
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
...more
25min
May 29, 2021#3 INTERGENERATION TRAUMA OR STRESS
What is intergenerational trauma versus the common stress? This is an introduction to more trauma talks in this podcast. It’s vital that today, you forge a path for yourself and those who will come before you by breaking the cycle of trauma or negative imprints running through your family’s lineage veins.
In this episode, explore:
What is trauma?

The difference between stress/depression versus intergenerational trauma

Some tell-tale signs if your family has trauma unresolved

Psychological primal needs and why its important to meet yours

How to find a good-fit therapist
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR FUTURE PODCAST TOPICS? LEAVE ME A MESSAGE AT [email protected] with the subject line PODCAST IDEA.
CHANGE YOUR STORY through STORY THERAPY.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The blog post on Story Therapy: The Art & Science of Healing
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Books Recommended
The Body Keeps the Score
It Didn’t Start With Me
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Email: [email protected]
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19min
May 29, 2021#2 CULTURE SWITCHING
The sense that Filipino Americans are neither Filipino or American enough can lead to cultural inferiority and thereby influence your sense of self and worth. Where do learn these messages and how do we allow our children to redefine their cultural heritage on their own?
In this episode, explore-
The concept of culture switching and the challenge of navigating it from a Filipino American perspective

How Immigrant parents can influence the feeling of “not being good enough” in their children

How Filipino American children knows enough about the culture as evidenced by their attempts to “not speak up.”

How Filipino immigrants can perceive their children differently, see their attempts to connect through culture switching.
HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.
DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR FUTURE PODCAST TOPICS? LEAVE ME A MESSAGE AT [email protected] with the subject line PODCAST IDEA.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The blog post on Baon: The Struggle of Filipino Amerians to Consume Both
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: [email protected]
...more
13min

FAQs about Pinoy Love Language:

How many episodes does Pinoy Love Language have?

The podcast currently has 56 episodes available.