PIPE DREAM PODCAST

I put out a question to both both men and women of FB last week about what's your beef with the opposite sex and the answers were varying to say the least. 

Luke Spicer, being an advocate of the show and after his divorce and his new relationship with his fiancé has a lot to say on this subject and was triggered by some of the answers that were given.

This was a very great conversation and what we have come up with is MEN have to step up and do better and both men and women need to learn what actual communication is.

Everyone talks about communication but few actually know what that entails....

It entails VULNERABILITY...

It entails HONESTY...

It entails LEAVING YOUR EGO AT THE DOOR AND ACTUALLY LISTENTING.

So this conversation was very stimulating and highly recommend for anyone in a relationship or wants to actually be in a healthy relationship in the future. 

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During a long plant upgrade project in Southern Alberta, after a long 9 months in the same spot, 

I had an altercation with a Superintendent for the company that was taking care of the deficiencies at the tale end of this project.

I absolutely thought this guy was attacking my abilities as a welder and I attacked back.

What I failed to realize is we just had a new baby,

moved into a bigger new house recently,

my welder blew up on this project,

I was drunk almost every night while deciding to stay near the project even though I could have traveled home every night.

In short, I went off on this Superintendent because I was pissed off and out of alignment with myself. 

How many times have you went off on someone when you think they were attacking you but looking back, it had nothing to do with them?

Being like this and taking things out on people just seems like an easy thing to do but this absolutely held me back in a lot of ways.... 

career....

relationships.

Recognizing where you are being triggered in your own life would be your biggest benefit in life.

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BLIND SPOTS....

We all got em.

Working on a lease fabing out some pipe spools to tie in a plastic pipeline, 

the inspector came to check on me around noon. 

When he saw what I had welded to that moment...

He was not impressed and complained to my boss, I found out after getting back out to cell service at the end of the day.

What he did not see was what I had prepped and tacked up sitting behind the truck.

This inspector was pretty much hammered at lunch at the same time this happened and could not be bothered to look around at what was actually going on onsite.

Do you do the same thing in your own life,

Take things at face value looking at it from your own distorted lense?

Do you refuse to look at your BLIND SPOTS?

This is what the guys in my coaching program are looking at on a daily basis with the help of myself and the other brothers in the group.

TOTAL ACCOUNTABILITY CREATES A NEW SET OF PROBLEMS YOU MUST NAVIGATE...

but I would way rather have those problems of GROWTH and not living in denial of what my own blind spots created in my life for other problems that did not serve me when my wife left our marriage.

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Most of we know is how to GRIND.

After coming off of night shift for days off, I noticed right away, my kids did not care that I was tired. 

Their lives do not change if I am tired but only if I allowed it. 

See I just worked 12 nights and picked the kids up at their mom's the next day.

All I wanted to do was sleep but there was no time for that when I only have 2 and half days with the kids before returning to work.

How does one manage that and be present with the kids with all of that going on and want to make great memories for the short time I am with them?

One way I do that is by meditation.

Yeah....I said meditation.

In that space I am able to regulate.

To see things for what they are.

See instead of getting short with the kids or angry because of I am tired, I am able to see what is truly important. 

Being raised in a locker room, I felt I was never able to think this and see life what it was for.

For one, no one showed me how....and 2....no one gave me permission.

My kids get all of me and have me present on days off. 

To learn how that is done and why it is important....

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My synopsis after the completion of a 2 week Pre-Training of my current coaching group embarking on their first Quarter experience in what I call the Apprenticeship Arena.

These men started for various reasons and come from different construction backgrounds. 

Their reasons are personal to them and won't be shared but what I will share is what the common themes were.

When the one of the first clients video mission was posted in a private FB group of vulnerability of WHO HE WAS, I shortly after received a message of NO WAY AM I GOING TO BE ABLE TO DO THAT!!

Needless to say, this client completed the assignment once he realized that watching another man be VULNERABLE, it gave himself permission to be vulnerable. 

Something that he never thought was possible. 

This set the tone for the rest of the Pre-Training which at the end created a massive transformation in the Men which is only going to compound in the next 90 days. 

Seeing men shed their MASKS and being REAL and RAW is what lights me on fire. 

This podcast started when an Inspector friend of mine took his own life. In his honor, I vow to keep going since I get as much out of this as the Men who step into the Arena.

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My current coaching client and my Mentor did a podcast not too long ago about the process and where my client came from.

I thought it was an absolutely amazing interview and figured my listeners would like to hear this. 

Where this client has come from and where he is going is so amazing to watch and hearing his journey from his lens still inspires me to keep pushing him to let go of the old stories he has and to be honest, helps me let go of mine of separation and divorce. 

He was a project manager in Calgary and is now a self employed contractor going through the struggles of being a single dad now with 2 kids while dealing with the 6" of real estate between his ears and learning to take the POWER back that he has given away to this world while learning to THRIVE and not only survive. 

His story has touched me on many levels more than once and it is so inspiring to see him talk about the struggles from being a tradesman to PM while being a dad and husband is something more than 1 of us can relate to.

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Back in 2007 and 2008 it was absolutely so busy.⁣ ⁣ 

The other welder and I decided it was time to WOBBLE for more money, ⁣ ⁣ 

I was physically vibrating when we were discussing our terms...⁣ ⁣ 

actually I was angry.⁣ ⁣ 

I had no idea why but I do now.⁣ ⁣ 

I was angry because I had no idea how to ask for what I wanted in my marriage and others areas of my life so why would asking for more money be the same.⁣ ⁣ 

I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS MY THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS SO ANGER AND ENTITLEMENT WAS THE GO TO.⁣ ⁣ 

So many REGRETS I EARNED living this way but now I have the ability to teach others how to communicate their feelings in a more productive way.⁣ ⁣

This is made evident in the start of my new coaching group going through the 2 week pretraining in the GAUNTLET I am putting an amazing group of men through right now.⁣ ⁣ 

What the biggest takeaway after the first days of the group is when other see they are not alone in the experience of expressing yourself and being VULNERABLE...⁣ ⁣ 

IT GIVES THEM THE PERMISSION TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES AND BE VULNERABLE. ⁣ ⁣ 

OVER TIME, THE MEN LEARN TO ASK FOR WHAT THEY ACTUALLY WANT AND WHY THEY WANT IT.⁣ ⁣ 

You can communicate all day long from a place or anger of love but means nothing if you have no idea why you want that.⁣ ⁣ 

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After recently being fired by Sirius XM, Jason Ellis, tells me how how this is definitely NOT his lowest point. 

From where he came from in Australia to millions of dollars to losing that revenue in a moment, the man knows how to PIVOT and I am personally excited to see this comeback! 

Ellis has his podcast, The Jason Ellis Show, now launched by the time this with airs with sponsors and is already back on track to the way to the top and doing it on his terms. 

Listening to Ellis so many years ago when I first rigged up my first welding truck in 2004 when he started his show on XM soon after I started my own company. His humor and demeanour got me through hours and hours of working away combined with miles and miles driving to and from work.

Such an honor for the LEGEND to connect for this interview and I will be forever grateful. 

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