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Has this ever happened?
You wake up in the morning…
You come back from lunch to work…
And you just have this feeling of I am done!
I have had enough.
In the oilpatch, we call this DRAGGING UP.
You are to the point where you cannot take anymore and just say I am done and quit.
Or another offer comes and you don’t even think and take it to leave the job or contract you currently have.
Living this life day after day, year after year at work, are you able to see how in your personal
Life that when things get HARD…Things get difficult…You just say I am DONE???
The conversation I had today with myself describes just that.
Sit back and relax and listen to TODAY’S TAKE FROM THE TRENCH.
Had a discussion with an plant operator today onsite and the discussion of retirement came up.
In a matter of seconds, we are talking about his divorce and now how he needs to work till he is 80 because of the financial ruin this left him in.
Should have been a good conversation topic when this came up discussing how another operator is retiring in a couple of weeks but I was wrong.
What this conversation taught me is you never know what is happening inside someone's house.
This man was ready to retire 10 years ago, he is now 68, but now is having to deal with the fallout of his divorce.
When his ex left for a guy from high school when he was working a ton of time during a major pipeline expansion, it was not about the overtime at all but the lack of daily deposits for the entire marriage.
This episode hits home on so many levels for me and I feel it will to you too.
Sit back and relax and listen to TODAY'S TALE FROM THE TRENCH.
𝙄 𝙅𝙐𝙎𝙏 𝘿𝙊𝙉'𝙏 𝙒𝘼𝙉𝙏 𝙏𝙊 𝙁'𝙆𝙉 𝘿𝙊 𝙏𝙃𝙄𝙎...
𝘏𝘢𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝙈𝙀𝙉𝙏𝘼𝙇 𝙈𝘼𝙎𝙏𝙐𝙍𝘽𝘼𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘴𝘰 𝘐 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬'𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘥𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘵.
𝘐𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘔𝘌𝘕 𝘖𝘍 𝘐𝘙𝘖𝘕, 𝘧𝘶𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘍𝘙𝟹𝟹𝘋𝘖𝘔 𝘍𝘖𝘙𝘔𝘜𝘓𝘈 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘎𝘙𝘈𝘔, 𝘸𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘭𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦. 𝘈𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘧𝘭𝘰𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘥, 𝘸𝘦 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘭𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘺.
𝘐𝘧 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘺 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬𝘭𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘤𝘬 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬, 𝘐 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘶𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘴𝘢𝘪𝘥 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘰𝘯.
𝘚𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘺 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘰𝘳 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦, 𝟻... 𝟷𝟶... 𝟸𝟶... 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘸... 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘤𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘶𝘯 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺.
𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘨𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘣𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘰𝘧𝘧 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘰𝘰𝘭?
𝘽𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙥𝙪𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙙𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘖𝘕𝘌 𝘛𝘏𝘐𝘕𝘎 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘩𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘩𝘴, 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘧𝘶𝘤𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘵?
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘖𝘕𝘌 𝘛𝘏𝘐𝘕𝘎 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘱𝘶𝘴𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘨𝘦𝘵?
𝘐𝘧 𝘪𝘵'𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝟻𝘮𝘪𝘯 𝘳𝘶𝘯?
𝘎𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘤𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝟻𝘮𝘪𝘯 𝘳𝘶𝘯.
𝘚𝘐𝘛 𝘉𝘈𝘊𝘒 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘙𝘌𝘓𝘈𝘟 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘓𝘐𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘕 𝘛𝘖 𝘛𝘖𝘋𝘈𝘠'𝘚 𝘛𝘈𝘓𝘌 𝘍𝘙𝘖𝘔 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘛𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘏.
𝙇𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙙𝙖𝙮... 𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥...𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙥....
𝘈𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘰𝘧𝘧 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘰𝘯 𝘢 𝘥𝘰𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘳. 𝘈𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘭𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘢 𝘰𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘢 𝘣𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘧 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘭.
𝘕𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘯𝘰 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴...
𝙉𝙊 𝙁𝙐𝘾𝙆𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙄𝘿𝙀𝘼. 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘢𝘪𝘳... 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘰 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢 𝘦𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳!!
𝘐𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘤𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘦 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘶𝘱.
𝘕𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦..
𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬.
𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘢𝘨𝘦.
𝘐 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘺 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴.
𝙃𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙄 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙄 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙧𝙨.
𝙅𝙐𝙎𝙏 𝙏𝙀𝙇𝙇 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙁𝙐𝘾𝙆𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙏𝙍𝙐𝙏𝙃 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝙎𝙀𝙀 𝙃𝙊𝙒 𝙏𝙃𝘼𝙏 𝙒𝙊𝙍𝙆𝙎 𝙊𝙐𝙏 𝙁𝙊𝙍 𝙔𝙊𝙐.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙩𝙝?
𝙎𝙄𝙏 𝘽𝘼𝘾𝙆 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝙍𝙀𝙇𝘼𝙓 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝙇𝙄𝙎𝙏𝙀𝙉 𝙏𝙊 𝙏𝙊𝘿𝘼𝙔'𝙎 𝙏𝘼𝙇𝙀 𝙁𝙍𝙊𝙈 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙏𝙍𝙀𝙉𝘾𝙃
Almost ran over a gopher today.
That little bastard had a choice,
Keep going or look up and see what was coming at him.
Just like ass down heads up at work.
How many times do you look up from the grind to see what is actually going on?
Most of us are really good at making money…
But do you ever look up to see what is truly going on?
Are you overweight?
Do you do anything to fill your cup?
Is your relationship on fire or is it pure shit?
Is your business actually making money or is your head so far buried up your ass that you cannot see what is actually happening?
No judgement…
I’m asking to consider what do you actually see when you look up.
Is everything actually going good or is your foundation ready to crumble?
What is the one thing you can do to make that better, either way you see this?
Sit back and relax and listen to TODAY’S TALE FROM THE TRENCH.
Being a long weekend this past weekend, families were abundant in the town I am in and I was triggered by a family having breakfast one morning at the hotel.
We do not get weekends off like most people.
We do not get vacations like most people either.
I was triggered because I was reminded of all of the vacations we never took.
I was triggered because of all the memories we made when the kids were young.
My ex and I were focused on making money and had the eye on the prize.
It was absolute bullshit and lost out on so much.
The lesson is all of this was, in the past this trigger would have absolutely ruined my day.
Or my week.
The lesson is what do you do to regulate these emotions.
You know?
The thoughts and the feelings behind your ears.
Your family is waiting for you to step the FUCK UP and how are you going to do that?
How are you going to regulate yourself and make the decisions you need to pull you forward and lead your family to the heights you know you should be?
In the MEN OF IRON we use a couple of tools.
The STACK.
The PATRIOT MISSILE GAME.
2 ways for you to to turn around a story in your head and you get to reframe that story to one that suits you.
One the pushes you forward.
This trigger for me had nothing to do with the family. Had nothing to do with balance.
I am curious if you tried one of these tools how a story like this would work out for you.
Reach out to me and let's see if I can point you in the right direction and have you try out these for yourself today.
Sit back and relax and listen to TODAY'S TALE FROM THE TRENCH.
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