Playing House

They say that all good relationships require compromise but what is healthy compromise in a relationship?

On this episode of Playing House podcast, Dominique and Kolter Bouchard discuss finding common ground, when to stand firm vs when to compromise, and how they aim to avoid resentment in their marriage.

The couple shares their personal experiences with learning to become flexible and finding healthy compromises from starting their careers to deciding to become parents [10:29]. Kolter shares his personal opinion on what creates resentment in his relationship and how he goes about avoiding it. Both Dom and Kolter share new things they’ve loved learning about one another over the years [42:13] and give the audience a glimpse into how they are individually learning to advocate for their multi-racial daughter and provide space for discovery [48:01]

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Mixed-Race Experience: Reflections and Revelations on Multicultural Identity: https://amzn.to/3Vbprli

Black Berry, Sweet Juice: On Being Black and White in Canada: https://amzn.to/3TygRMA

Coach for Parents w/ Mixed Race Kids: https://www.instagram.com/drjennpsych

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Is couple’s therapy a pitstop before divorce? Your mental health directly impacts your relationships; romantic, platonic, and most importantly, with yourself. So how can couple’s navigate prioritizing their individual mental health or receiving a mental illness diagnosis? How do you tell the person that you’re in a relationship with that you’re concerned about their mental health?

On this episode of the Playing House Podcast Dominique and Kolter Bouchard discuss mental health and mental illness, going to couples therapy, and how prioritizing mental health leads to more physical intimacy.

Dominique shares the realities of postpartum depression/postpartum psychosis, Kolter recalls his experience navigating the medical system after receiving multiple mental illness diagnoses, the couple share their favourite ways of sharing an intimate moment when they’re in a bad mood, and share their visions for the future.

**Resources:**

Finding a Black Mental Health Professional (Canada and US): https://blacktherapistlist.com/?fbclid=PAAaYxa9F7KlqmvxqKUPshFMW8A_kglFmUhDGkQEcb2UHag_ZG3LLX1gRNLHo

Connect with a POC Mental Health Professional (Canada): https://www.altheatherapy.com/

Finding a Black Mental health Professional (US): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/african-american

Eating disorder resources for US residents - https://goop.com/ca-en/wellness/health/good-programs-for-eating-disorder-treatment-and-recovery/

Eating disorder resources for Canadians - https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/publications/healthy-living/eating-disorders-teens-information-parents-caregivers.html

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What makes an apology good? Many of us haven’t learned how to apologize in a way that is authentic and heartfelt. Even more of us haven’t learned how to accept an apology that allows us to forgive while still setting healthy boundaries, acknowledging the wrongdoing.

On this episode of Playing House podcast, Dominique and Kolter Bouchard discuss the art of apologizing and forgiving, saying I’m Sorry properly, accepting an apology, and learning how to move past a fight.

Sharing the template for apologies that they’re teaching their toddler, and the importance of accepting apologies you may never receive [11:25]. Learning to apologize unreservedly and drop the defensiveness [11:25]. Recognizing the physical sensations of a disagreement and the most seductive apology possible [33:37]. The hardest situation that the couple has been through together, and can Dominique ever live up to her name? [41:44]

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Love Languages and Compatibility, loving your partner the way that THEY want to be loved, and learning to settle arguments.

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How does a church girl transition into her womanhood and own her sexuality? Exploring the theme of Saving Room For the Holy Ghost (0:08:52), on this episode of the Playing House podcast Dominique and Kolter Bouchard discuss Dom’s (often tumultuous) church upbringing, sexual shame, and approaching womanhood differently now as a mom. Kolter delves into his belief system and the importance of raising their daughter without the same Catholic guilt that he experienced.

The couple turns back the clock, reflecting on some of the sexual misconceptions they believed as kids during the Pillow Talk segment (0:51:31 ). Capping off the podcast episode with a listener Mailbox question (1:00:34), unpacking if a church girl is doomed to the prude life. (Spoiler alert: she’s not.)

Timecodes:

0:00:00 - Just the tip

0:00:49 - Intro & Check-In

0:08:52 - Family Matters: Sex Before Marriage

0:51:31 - Pillow Talk: What were our sexual predictions?

1:00:34 - Mailbox Question

1:06:27 - Kiss Goodnight

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Managing money as a team can be both rewarding and challenging. Do you have a joint bank account or do your baking separately? How do you budget as a couple? What is your financial compatibility. And does being the breadwinner matter?

Kolter and Dominique have real-life stories and practical advice to help you and your partner build a strong financial foundation.

Let us know in the comments: you won the lottery tomorrow, what's the first indulgent, extravagant thing you'd want to do for both of us?

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Timecodes:

0:00:00 - "Money knows me!"

0:00:44 - Intro & Check-In

0:11:40 - Family Matters: Money Matters

0:47:34 - Mailbox Question

0:59:06 - Pillow Talk: What if we won the lottery?

1:02:05 - Kiss Goodnight

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Is equal parenting possible? We host our first guests on the Playing House Podcast; Jeena and Drue Wilder from @HeyThereWilders! We discuss positive parenting tips, navigating your partner’s love language, interracial marriage, and the age-old question - “How do you keep the flame alive in a marriage after all these years?”

We’re so excited to host our first guests on the podcast, and to take the podcast internationally, visiting Drue and Jeena Wilder in beautiful Athens, Georgia! Check out the podcast to hear more about our trip, including the scariest plane ride of our lives (feel free to skip to 0:02:41 if you’d rather not), and our first Waffle House experience.

Keep the conversation going:

Let us know in the comments, below - is true equality in a relationship possible? What does input vs output look like in your relationships?

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Timecodes:

0:00:00 - Don't call it that!

0:00:23 - Intro & Check-In

0:07:15 - Family Matters

0:21:35 - Pillow Talk

1:00:22 - Mailbox Question

1:12:52 - Kiss Goodnight

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Finding a healthy balance in relationships, the podcast is going international, and is there a good kind of clingy?

Also: Kolter gets the results from his cancer scan.

Plus: establishing healthy boundaries in relationships. How can we improve in this area?

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Timecodes:

0:00:00 - Value: men versus women

0:01:00 - Intro & Check-In

0:03:55 - Kolter's scan results

0:08:30 - Family Matters

0:33:25 - Pillow Talk

0:48:15 - Mailbox Question

0:59:05 - Kiss Goodnight

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Kolter & Dominique Bouchard discuss getting a cancer scan, sharing a vision for 2024, and increasing intimacy outside of the bedroom.

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