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- #23 – If You Are Jealous of the People Around YouIf you’re not JEALOUS by nature, but want things that other people have…And you don’t?Right or wrong, I just can’t help it…But isn’t it a natural way to feel, sometimes?And if that’s the case, maybe then you could even rid yourself from feeling weird or guilty?More so, I believe we can use our envy for good – to pull you forward instead of my holding you back:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
23 min - #22 – How To Make New FriendsHave you ever felt weird about wanting to make friends, and didn’t know how to go about it, or bring it up in a conversation?Maybe you moved to a new town, or life’s taken a turn…And now you’re on your own, and you want to meet people who get you and like you for who you really are.There is not one thing that could be wrong about that, is there?And yet, it can be so awkward to open up about it, to yourself and with people around you…So why is it easier to talk about death in the family or being cheated on than saying you want to make friends?!It’s the pressure – the expectation that this part of your life (making friends) is supposed to take care of itself.And if it hasn’t, then that must be a failure on your behalf, and if it is your fault, then deal with it.But why is it ok to go look for jobs when you’ve been let go from your company, but not to seek out the very people with whom you can share in the highs and the lows of life, to be there for each other and have fun along the way?!It’s hard when no one hands you the manual on how you can go about it – but I want to see it change!How to make new friends is what we are talking about on the Happy YOU:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
23 min - #21 – If You Feel Bored and UninspiredI don’t want the world to remind me how I’m coming up short.Short on living, short on dreams, short on expectation…Or am I?Maybe this is what boredom really is – afraid of being not enough so why keep trying.But I want to win.Grab life and shake it, just so the good things fall out.And there are no leftovers of what might’ve been.So how do you get out of bed when you’re not enough?Here is one idea that might help:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
13 min - #20 – What To Do With Pushy Unreasonable PeopleIt’s only two weeks, and I get called into the boss’s office. The blinds are shut, but I know they’re there, trying to catch a glimpse of what is really going on this stifling, dark room.I wasn’t the first. There were two or three of us who went into that office determined, only to come out mute, shielding their eyes from the rest of us.And so it was my turn. Let’s see what this is, I thought. What else is there?Kevin sits sprawling in the executive chair. He took over the room and I didn’t the smile flashing across his face.– You’ve been here, what, two weeks?– True, like the rest of us.– So you’ve had a chance to assess the situation.He taps on the table in expectation.– The situation?– This place, where we are, where we are going. Your workmates, and how they are.– Oh yes, I’m learning. A lot.Kevin leans in from across the table.– Joe, I’m going to be frank with you. When I got a bunch of you guys in, I knew there will those who go far and those who will get left behind. Because some of you are better than others. Do you understand?My hands are sweating.– I… I don’t think I do.– Out of the eight, the three must go. The natural selection is going to decide. And you will tell me. Now.What is going on?! Is he serious?– You want me… To tell you who you’ll get rid of? But I’m not in that position. I can’t decide… I just work here!Kevin stood up and leaned forward, towering over me. His voice is– And I thought you were the smart one! I thought you get it!! There is nothing for you to worry about, no one will ever know.– But… You’re the boss!He thunders his fist on the table with a bang.– Enough!! I will make it really simple for you: either you tell me the names right this instant, or it’s going to be you walking out of here without a job.I thought of how hard I worked to get here and how there is nothing out there right now, not for at least a year, until things would start to pick up again. I’d go home empty handed, with nothing to fall back on.And this isn’t even my decision to make, even if I tell him those names, the responsibility is on him, still. And a couple of the guys weren’t really up to scratch anyway…– I’m sorry, but I… I just can’t. I can’t do this. You decide.I walked out of the office and went back to my desk.Funny how the mind works – I couldn’t remember the way things turned out then, but I did stay there for three years. There was no one to cheer me on and no one would ever know. But something has changed for me on that day…I stood up for myself when it was so much easier to give in.But then again, when is it ever easy?When you are face to face with a person who is out to get you, what do you do? Is there a better way to deal with it that doesn’t sap you of energy and leave you true to yourself and your values? Let’s explore this in the this week’s episode of The Happy YOU:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
15 min - #19 – If You Are Frustrated With Lack of ProgressIt’s the rush you get when your dream come alive, and you can see it so clearly, even before it happens.You’ve been waiting for it so long, and you worked hard for it…So of course it’s the big break you’ve been waiting for all time – and no doubt you deserve it!And all the signs are pointing in the right direction so it’s no wonder you’re excited and you’re making plans for how you’re going to enjoy whatever comes next.But the only trouble is, it hasn’t happened…Not yet.So you’re waiting, and waiting, and it’s ok at first – because good things take time – but then, it starts to get to you…You start to question everything, and what you’ve done, and where those signs were really pointing…And it’s so hard to admit that to yourself, isn’t it?Or at least, for me – my biiiig project with a biiiiig pharma has been on my mind for the last six months.We have gone through dozens of meetings, back and forth on the details, a verbal sign off, and…Nothing.I threw everything at it, all I had.This would have helped them, it would have helped me share my book and my message in a big way and, most of all, helped those struggling with cancer.And it was THIS CLOSE!!!So frustrating…Although this isn’t the first time and it won’t be the last.Our life is littered with struggles and obstacles, with moments when it all had been going to plan only to slip away at the last second.But it’s not what happens to you that matters, but how you respond to it.What you do when you’re at your most vulnerable, when you feel nothing, when you fall.What do you do then?!I’ve been obsessing over it, and if you’re in that place right now, this latest episode of the podcast I’m dedicating to you!
Check out the video version of today’s episode for more on what to do when you want something so bad, but it seems further and further away:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
18 min - #18 – How To Get On Top Of Challenges In Your Daily LifeSo we go to the doctor today with Max, and what he say?You must watch out because it could be…MENINGITIS.Just like that, with a word, you are transported to our time with Michael.The seizure.The rush to the hospital.The face of the paramedic rushing us in through the white doors.The sedation.I could go on…We are so lucky because it was THIS close.But you never forget that choking feeling you had on the inside:The endless torture of waiting.Being completely, utterly helpless.To this doctor, it may be a word.And maybe, he just wants to be sure.Preemptive caution, constant vigilance and all that.I get it, and I hope we can look back on this later as one more scare that has but gone away!But in the meantime, you are left with just one thing…[except waiting]Doing what you can control and putting aside that which you can’t.It sounds so basic, doesn’t it?
But often the basic part are the hardest.
Check out the video version of today’s episode for more on getting on top of challenges in your daily life:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
17 min - #17 – Believing in Yourself When Others Don’tWhen you don’t believe in yourself, believe in what you do. Believe in the work you put in because if your intentions are good, you’ve got the hope on your side. This hope may not seem like much… And you might not even see it as such – until later.When Max was one, we’d be going around the house each night and he’d point up at the ceiling or the lamps saying: “Light! Light!” Then he’d start saying it during the day, but I couldn’t make sense of it – why would he say that? And then I it hit me – he can’t see it, but he knows where the light SHOULD be.And so are we with hope and believing in what we aspire to be – it’s the light that is there for you even when you can’t see it. And so we keep showing up, even when things are falling apart, even when you can’t catch break, and no one cares or will give you their time of day… This is when real breakthroughs happen!
Check out the video version of today’s episode for more:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
11 min - #16 – Ronald Siegel on Mindfulness
Isn’t it weird how everyone talks about mindfulness, but no one seems to know how to put it to work it in everyday life? And how do you even know that you’re actually doing it?
Many times I found myself staring into space in an attempt to find calm and relax, but no matter how hard I tried, my head swelled up with noise and random thoughts… Instead of enlightenment or clarity, I wound up feeling stupid and inadequate.
Is this what mindfulness really is – another fad when every day we struggle with distraction and overwhelm? I tossed mindfulness out to the waste bin until… One fine day I stumbled upon the book by Dr Ronald Siegel and it was mindfulness as I’ve never seen it before – grounded in the challenges of daily life and practical approach to making it work for you and your way of living.
Links
Dr Ron Siegel Website
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
39 min - #15 – What To Do When You Start Doubting Yourself
It’s two minutes before my library talk. Tonight I am sharing the three biggest lessons I got from cancer about tackling uncertainty in everyday life. The people waiting and it’s about to start. I run through the main talking points in my head. But what will they think, I wonder? What if they find it shallow? Or dull, which is even worse?
I sat down on the bench, burying my face in my hands. Should I even bother – and will they get me and my message, or think it’s a waste of time? And who am I – just some guy who had cancer… Why would anyone listen to me?
But then I looked up at the world and saw the trees all around me, majestic in their simplicity. I saw it clearly now – this is not about me, it’s about them. This is not a time for me to prove a point or show off, but to bring people up to their own struggle and to celebrate how far they’ve come on their journeys through life. This is why I’m here, to be there for them.
For such a humbling experience it took away the pressure to perform, to act, and instead, it gave me freedom. Freedom to be myself, to express myself fully and without reserve and to put my audience first. And yet for this insight, I credit my doubts and insecurities who made me question myself, how I see the world and my place in it. Self doubt did the only thing that you can hope for – to grow and move forward on your terms, without looking back!
Check out the video version of today’s episode for more:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
13 min - #14 – How To Bounce Back After CrisisIf you had a magic wand and you could make a wish to turn back time, which would you choose:
- Undo something bad that happened to you
- Follow through on something that you regret not doing or made the wrong decision
It’s a tough choice, but I would choose to undo something that was outside of my control because even if I made plenty of mistakes, I hope I learned something that might help me next time. And there will be a next time – one thing we know for sure is that there will be plenty of obstacles that rise up in our way… This is what resilience is to me – what you do to get back up when you fall.Check out the video version of today’s episode for more:
If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:
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About Power To Be Happy: Journey of Healing, Together
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When you have a difficult story in life, it is so hard to bring it out into the open and “deal with it”… Sometimes you don’t even realise just how much it’s been affecting you in your day to day – or…
so has it been for me. And so I am trying to make sense of it all, and in this podcast, I want to share some of the vital things that I’m learning on this journey towards healing and hope. You are not alone, my friend! I’m here for you, and you – you deserve to be happy, and let’s figure things out TOGETHER!